“Your pain can be used for the Greater Good”
I know that sounds sooo cleche, but what if I told you I have used my pain to get closer to my purposeful & abundant life? What if I told you that you could literally change your circumstances (no matter what they are) and you can turn them into cash flow? Oh yeah! I just said cash flow! Are you with me now? Yea that’s what I thought!
The key here is that you can’t hear just “cash flow”. You should never go into something “GREAT” with “Greed” at the center of your reasoning behind your actions. So you got really interested in this article after you heard the words “cash flow” this article is for you. I want to help you lose the greed and come from a place of gratitude, love and humility. You must come at this with a MINDSET of feeling completely satisfied with your current situation and love your circumstances. That’s right, I said “Love your Circumstances”. And do you know why? Because your thoughts control your emotions, and your emotions get so over the top and out of control that it causes you to “act out” from these “feelings and reactions” that create your character. The person you are right now, today is only a result of your experiences.
You have this idea that the world your living in is all you have. This is it! Get up, go to work, to make the money, to pay the bills, eat, sleep, maybe party a little on the weekends, hang with the kids, invite friends over for BBQ’s, etc. etc. And no matter how hard you try to be happy and have fun, it is always short lived. You sit in traffic and someone cuts you off and your entire day is stressful and anxiety driven. You live in stress and anxiety each day and yet you wake up each morning to do the same damn thing over and over, day, after day, after day.
This routine you have found yourself in is what you call “your life”, And the people, places and things you surround yourself with are making up this stage you now call “Your Life”. Basically, you get all your experiences, which make up your thoughts, which then turn into emotions or feelings, which becomes “Your Character” in this world you actually created yourself. If you are still here I am excited to tell you that you have the ability to change your world! All you have to do is change the experiences you’re having right now.
How to Change your Pain into Purpose
Okay, so you know that “feeling” inside that you get when you smell something or hear something and it takes you back in time? You can literally smell, taste, hear or feel something that brings back a memory. Well now think of this, if you can use your senses (hear, smell, touch or taste) to experience an emotion or feeling of the past, how amazing would it be if you could make your senses experience what will become in the future? If I can take you to a place you remember in the past, who is to say I can’t take you on a journey into your future? Uh, it’s “AHmAzIIng”!
You CAN change your pain into purpose. For example, I overcame the pain I was in by changing the way I thought about my pain. I hated that the source of my relationships with men started with wanting to “save them”. It came from an expectation I had in the relationship and I expected that person to deliver. I have this desire to help men overcome some pain, abuse or addiction they have because of a tragedy that happened in my life when I was a young child. The past dictated my future.
Well, I decided that instead of attracting what I didn’t want in my life, I would begin to think of things that I did want in my life. So, I wrote down all the quality’s I didn’t want in my next relationship and all the quality’s I DID want in my next relationship. (You can literally do this for every area of your life. Work, school, health, relationships, success, finances, etc.) I then looked at the list and asked myself a really hard question. “Would that guy I “want” in my life, like the person I am today?” Obviously, my answer was a big fat NO!! But, I accepted that the problem wasn’t in the men I chose, but the problem persisted inside of ME. I was the problem! I was not attracting the kind of relationships I wanted because I wasn’t living a life conducive of that which I desired. Basically, I wan’t playing the right character for the part I wanted.
Look your stage can be filled with the most extraordinary settings, but if you don’t have each character playing the right part, the show won’t be the same. In fact, people will be asking for their tickets back! (Giggles) Why do you think Broadway has so many interviews before they choose the person they want to play the lead role? Why do you think movies are so engaging? The “Character” makes or breaks a scene. You can desire all you want, but if your character doesn’t fit the part you want to play, your movie will suck!!!
So how do you use your pain to reach your purpose? That is for you to decide! What is your pain? How are you thinking of your pain? Are you even thinking of your pain? You have to become the character of the person you want to be. You have to make a decision and take “A NEW ACTION”. You have to do something different in order to get different results. We hear this all the time! Einstein’s quote gets thrown around like a damn football on a field, but no one is actually taking the time to think of underlining meaning of it’s purpose. In other words, if “doing the same thing over and over again is insanity” Could it be that “do something different over and over again is clarity”?
“Doing something different over and over again Producing different results is Clarity”
By Christina Ditzel
So what do you want? You’re not going to get it doing what your doing now. If you have feelings or emotions that cause stress, anger, fear, guilt, or shame you are living in “Survival mode” and you will never receive fulfillment in that place. You need to take the pain you have and think of a way you can heal it. After you heal your own pain, reach back and pull someone else who is experiencing the pain you’ve overcome. Do it from a place of love, compassion, understanding, and humility.
When you do everything from this new place of selflessness, without an understanding of what you already know, but with a willingness to learn something new, you begin to experience a different journey through life. You begin to find yourself around people who you will resonate with, places that inspire you, and things that excite you. You will have a new view of life, you will find a tribe to hold you accountable, and you will grow and learn with every new experience. You will begin to build a world that will offer healing for yourself and for those around you. And you will do it with love, and without prejudice.
The key is that you have to be willing to DO what others won’t. You have to lose the fear, doubt and voices in your head that say “your only one person”, “your not enough”, “you don’t have the resources”, “you don’t have the skills”, “you’re too old”, “you don’t have the experience” or any other thoughts that may cause you to stay in the very moment you are in right now. You have to change your belief system, and you have to trust in it. Live as a new Character in your world that seeks clarity with your own rules. Use the pain to get you there, but always be led in “LOVE”, and you WILL FIND YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE AND LIVE IN ABUNDANCE.
May our paths cross in the near future!!
Author Christina Ditzel
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