I just can’t wrap my head around the mentality of the people who call themselves parents. I am reading articles and I see questions all over the internet from certain groups of parents who are clueless! It’s like the kids are the adults! What is going on??? Kids living at home at 20 years old laying in their room watching Netflix? No job? Not going to school? So, what are they doing with themselves? Or better yet, where are you as the “ADULT” (head of household) in the home? Your upset with them and they are driving you crazy! I get that. But you need to ask yourself, “what are you doing to lead them where you want them”?
OKAY! REWIND!!! Let me kick off a question for the parents, “Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if your child/children turned out like you, would you be proud of them?” I can’t wait to read the comments below and see how many of you would answer “YES!”. I feel like we have completely lost touch of all moral values here in America. What is going on? NO DINNER TOGETHER? Excuse me!!?? You sit on your phone, everyone in separate rooms, and you don’t spend family time together? “Wait, what?” You go to restaurants and everyone is on the phone? Do you even know how to have a conversation?
Oh, and get this, some individuals want to blame their parents, but how does that work? Your blaming your parents for your “messed up life”, and now that’s supposed to make it okay for you to mess up your kids life? Huh? Some people blame the color of their skin or nationality, some blame the government and all the new laws, or the economy. It seems, there is always someone to blame for our lack.
Oh wait, I have one for you! How about the adults, who call themselves “parents” who are so quick to go into a school and lash out at teachers or coaches because their kids come home crying about how “coach made me do 15 pushups because I was clowning around!” Excuse me?? I would have made my GIRLS do 50 more push-ups for playing around during an activity! By the way, if I’m paying for an activity for my children, they better NOT be clowning around!! First off, why am paying for a sport if you’re not paying attention? Second, how disrespectful is it when you’re talking, and someone is being disruptive? And we wonder why our kids have no respect for authority! I think it is hilarious! No one wants to take responsibility anymore. Seriously people?!?! Put on your “ADULT PANTS” and start leading by example!
The hard truth is, many demographics have completely lost touch with family morals and that includes the parent’s “role” in the home. There’s just no structure in the home anymore. Well, some of you will agree and some will blast me with hate comments. And that is fine. If you are not willing to see the truth and face the facts, you won’t make the changes necessary for change to happen. For the rest of you, lets get on with it!!
Okay, lets “Zen” out! If you have read any of my other articles you know I am all about finding the calm in the midst of the mess. If your new, here, welcome and please leave a comment below to introduce yourself. So, we can’t Zen, if we don’t solve the issue at its core, and we can’t solve the issue if we don’t face the truth first. So, let’s be “adults” here and face the truth. Then I will give you some tips on how to adult.
BE AN ADULT AND FACE THE FACTS
First, let’s stop playing the blame game and look at ourselves for a moment. I can talk for hours on why blaming others for our actions is never a good solution. But let me just state the obvious reason you should never blame others, because “YOU are to BLAME for all YOUR PROBLEMS” Solve your issues and stop doing the same thing over and over again.
Second, “respect” starts in the home. If it is not taught, it can’t be learned. And no, it is not the teachers responsibility to raise your kids! They teach them reading, writing and arithmetic. As parents we are supposed to teach them respect, love, integrity, and real-life matters like communication and money management, to name a few. Stop expecting everyone else to do your job. Take responsibility TODAY.
Third, we have to practice what we preach. So many people preach to others the things they don’t do themselves. I know this is a hard one. I am guilty of it too. Not saying I am perfect by any means. But, “Catch yourself than Correct yourself”. We have to lead by example. In other words, “be the character you want to see in those around you” and then drop the ones that just don’t get “you”.
I will give more detail in my upcoming video which you can find on YouTube at Zen Lenz Media. So please subscribe and don’t forget to tap the bell to be notified when I post. In the meantime, here are 9 tips to help you embrace your adult self.
TIPS: “How to Adult”
- Take responsibility for your thoughts & actions
- Don’t hang in circles that corrupt your morals
- Do what you say, and say what you mean
- Be the person you want others to be
- Live as the example don’t just lend an example
- Help don’t hurt, and build up don’t break down
- Check yourself before you wreck yourself
- Catch yourself than correct yourself
- Get mindfulness
- Meditate on your thoughts, feelings and actions
“Adulting is a blessing
It’s the time to put all your childhood dreams
Into Action”
by Christina Ditzel
Live Your Dreams……..
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