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Fueling the fire inside WOMEN
“WOMEN BECOMING WARRIORS NOT WORRIES”
I woke up early this morning with this thought that women have this internal desire inside them for change! Many women who want to change personally, professionally, physically, and mentally, won’t like having people in their life that hold them back or take them off focus. Rather, they only want to surround themselves with people who will motivate their vision and help them move them forward. So if you are a women in the world who has a fire inside you to become the best version of yourself, but don’t know where to start, welcome! This is a place where you get the wisdom you need to fuel the fire inside you, so you can shine your light in the world. This morning I woke up with a desire to fight for all women! This is the start of a new era. A world where women are not worriers, but warriors of their communities.
THE FIRE THAT BURNS INSIDE US
The fire inside us women runs deep. It runs so deep that we can end up losing ourselves in the people and things around us if we are not wise. We live most of our youth doubting ourselves and never feeling whole or worthy. We have an eagerness for “more”. But in many cases we don’t know what that “more” is. Many women will reach the end of the road with the demons of all their regrets lingering around their death bed. And I do not want that for you!!!
Society does everything in its power to tell us how we should think, feel, and act. We are taught very young to “be good little girls”. They said things like “sit up”, “mind your manners”, “watch what you say” “watch who you say it to”. Some even went as far to tear us down and use abusive words like “You’re too fat! You’re too skinny” “You’re not smart enough” and “You’re not tall enough” “You’re not strong enough” “You can’t do that your a girl!” or even things like “You’re a girl, you are to be seen and not heard”. All these things people say to women only leaves us in doubt, fear, and living in regret.
In some countries today, women still have no rights at all and are used for the sole purpose of baring a son to carry on the legacy of their family name. Some women are even told what they can and can’t wear. Husbands share their wives with other men and are physically and sexually abused. In the Corporate America women still don’t get paid the same as the men and we are still seen as minority. Even if we have more credentials. Even if we do a better job and have degrees. For centuries women have been told to know our place and to mind our P’s and Q’s.
I could go on and on with the details of all the things women have had to endure over the years, from the different cultures that demean women, to the lack of respect we receive if we attempt to do the same things men do. BUT! I’m not writing this so we can throw a freaking pity party! I’m writing this so we can throw ourselves into warrior mode! So we can gain a little (or A LOT) of wisdom and make a difference in our communities and in the world we live in. No matter where you live! And later, we will throw a GIRL POWER PARTY!
Look, I’m not saying all the “advice” people try to give out is bad advice. The start of wisdom is actually acceptance of the truths we ignore. Sometimes the truth hurts and we need to hear it so we can see some things about ourselves that we have otherwise ignored, or got comfortable with. In other words, we need to hold ourselves accountable. Seeing the truth is wisdom! By facing the ugly truths about ourselves, we can start taking some actions to fuel that fire that burns inside us. Truth is, when people say things it impacts our character, how we see ourselves, and how we live our life. Getting wisdom means we are aware of the things people are seeing and saying about us, but we don’t allow it to define us.
We’re not weak souls, we are strong, independent, powerful souls! We are born beautiful. We become mothers, sisters, daughters, and granddaughters. And playing those roles means we have the power and the responsibility to lead. We have abilities built in us to become bosses and owners of corporations. IT IS TIME TO FUEL THAT FIRE BABY!!! I mean, we have women running for presidency. The failure only comes when our leadership roles lack one important skill…WISDOM!
A WORD TO THE WISE
“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor.”
Proverbs 3:13-16
Don’t take this word out of context! Hear what this message is actually saying. The “she” they are referring to here is Wisdom. It is saying Wisdom is much more precious than silver, rubies, and gold. Listen, I am with you ladies, I like my bling! I love the sparkle and shine! I like the way I feel when I wear it. I get it! But think about this, “what if you could have all the riches plus honor, and live a long life too? Wouldn’t you want to have this “Wisdom” they’re speak about? I know I do! I don’t just want a little of it either, I want a lot! “I want as much Wisdom a girl can get!”
HOW MUCH WISDOM CAN A GIRL GET?
Well, that depends on a few factors…
- How much do you want?
- Who is feeding you?
- Who’s feeding your mind and what are they feeding it?
- Who and what influences your soul?
- And, are you willing to do the work?
Our physical bodies hear the noise around us. We see the toxic and the blessings. We smell the stench of evil, and we feel the pain inflicted. How long will it take us to realize we are in control of our own destiny? We are warriors in a world full of people who are afraid of our ability to be brilliant and resilient. It’s easier to keep us down, rather than watch us flourish. They romance us with all the “50 Shades of Grey” mindset to keep us submitting to their ideas, and their beliefs. Living in a physical world where all we want is a voice, and a purpose, it is so difficult for us to wrap our minds around the idea that “we actually do have a choice”. We can choose to succumb to the fantasies that produce illusions, or we can surrender to all the experiences we desire that produce change in our life. All we have to do is take the first step. Owning our part and taking one small action that will move us forward. If you are asking yourself “But what is that action? and Where do I start?”
THIS IS THE START OF A NEW ERA. A SAFE PLACE WHERE WOMEN FIGHT FOR THESELVES AND THE WOMEN AROUND THEM. WHERE WE GAIN WISDOM, VALUE INTEGRITY AND LIVE IN ABUNDANCE. TAKE A STAND WTH WOMEN FROM ACROSS THE WORLD AND JOIN TODAY AND FUEL THAT FIRE THAT BURNS INSIDE YOU!
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How to Succeed in 2023/7 tips to get you closer to success
Do you know how people become successful? They hustle! Well, that is part of it. But the truth is, most successful people absolutely love what they do! And the don’t have just one thing they’re passionate about, but several things. The passion they have, drives them to their success. But how do you choose what we’re passionate about? And furthermore, how do you get good enough to really become successful? Well, you start with a strategy and plan. Here are my personal favorite 7 TOP TIPS for success!
1. Persevere In Love
To persevere in love means to, “press on with a love for the work you do” or “in all you do, love it”. Truth is, we don’t enjoy life when we are doing the things we don’t want to do, and we usually won’t do our best work on the things we dread doing. Similarly, we don’t want to stop doing the things we love to do because we want to do our best at it. So, you must do what you love, and freaking be the best at it! It really is that simple, but not so easy! Whatever you do, love to do it with all your heart, because you never give up on the things, you’re truly passionate about. And no matter what we peruse, nothing in life is easy. As the saying goes, “if it were easy everyone would do it!” Aways remember this, perseverance will always result in a breakthrough. Keep going and continue to push yourself forward, and watch the magic happen! Most people give up when things get too hard, and that is why they never succeed. However, those that embrace the challenges, knowing every adversity makes them stronger ad gets them one step closer to their dream; well, those are the ones that “persevere in love”. There is no greater joy than accomplishing something we feel passionate about and overcoming all the challenges we met along the way. A journey lived without love for something, is not a journey lived at all.
2. Learn To Be Teachable
Number 2 on my list is to “Listen and learn a lot”. Be teachable! If you’re not learning new things and taking in constructive criticism, you’ll most likely never succeed. Or you will really struggle to succeed which will end in consistent failure, which, in most cases, results in giving up. If you can’t listen to new ideas, train yourself to listen long enough to hear what others have to say, and get out of your own way, you won’t succeed. Bottom line! Unfortunately, success is never done alone. You will eventually need help from mentors, inventors, coaches or someone else, Because the truth is, you will provide better services by listening to those who have had success. They can and will teach you how to overcome certain adversity and obstacles you may have in the future. And I an not saying you should go and listen to every voice in your ear. But, If you can’t take honesty from outsiders and learn what is good advice and what is bad advice, you will never succeed. There will always be times when we ALL must listen and learn. To lead others means to be the example of how important it is to listen and learn new things. Leaders must be open minded and willing to learn so others can see what it means to listen and learn! Don’t underestimate the quiet guy in the room. If you can’t listen to your staff, you won’t earn their trust or respect and they will not work as hard as they could have. You will have a business that runs with horrible communication skills, lack of production, and no motivation. Worse, you will always be lacking in development and growth. So, start out with a teachable mentality and continue to be teachable no matter how successful you think you are, If you don’t listen to your clients, customers, or consumers you will lose them, get bad reviews, and will not be building a trustworthy brand. Which brings me to my next tip…
3. Always Stay Humble
Don’t be a cocky asshole! “Sorry, I had to say it!” Let’s face it, humility produces better workers, better clients, and a higher success rate in any business, or relationship. We don’t have to take everyone’s advice, but we should “consider” it with humility. Don’t discount everything and everyone just because its out of your belief system or it takes you out of your comfortable zone. Get over it! Arrogance is “having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities. There is always a different way to do things, and your way is not the only right way! I personally wouldn’t do business with an arrogant person! It’s as simple as that! I am not saying to demean or lower your standards to appease other people. Of course not!!! Be perceptive, receptive and keep an open mind. But we must have some kind of gratitude and be aware of where we’ve been and where we’re heading in life an in our sucess. To be humble means you should be “teachable and willing”. It should come as no surprise that when we have humility, the rest of the things in this list come effortlessly.
4. Learn the Practice of Patience
I know I get it; this one is a difficult one for many of us. If only I had my mother’s patience. I admit that I did and still do occasionally, struggle with having patience. But let me first start by saying that patience is not equal to being taken advantage of. With that said, I used to always say: “I have no patience for incompetence” But who is incompetent really? Again, remember humility? Just because someone’s views are different than mine doesn’t make them incompetent. I’ve seen some people I thought were “freaking idiots” become super successful overnight. Little did I know, they used their “incompetence” and turned it into a trend. Go figure! However, I do try to always hold a value on my time and other people’s time. I don’t want to waste time on things that degrade my value or someone else’s. Time holds major value to me, and I make use of that time in every moment of every day. Listen, time is on your side. I know it doesn’t appear that way, but it’s true. Time is useful and helpful in all seasons of life. Time allows you to live life with more potential for “creating and waiting”. Sometimes, life gives you time to sit in your thoughts and regain clarity. So, take your time when creating anything new or recreating something old. Know that your time of waiting is a journey you won’t want to miss out on, it’s a tine to learn, grow, and in the process practice patience. Enjoy the experiences and be excited about the unexpected events that occur. Be patient in the journey to success. This brings me to my next and favorite tip…
5. Enjoy The journey
You must enjoy the journey in every season of life. The journey can be hard sometimes, YES! But even the hard times are worth it! Did you ever notice the hard times pass just as quickly as the good times do? It’s easy to get overwhelmed because our human nature is in such a hurry to get to the end result of our goal. Unfortunately, that causes us to miss out on some of life’s most important lessons, and we miss gaining the wisdom needed for the next season of life. Struggles make us stronger, not weaker! It is wise to leave breathing room to see the bigger picture. To see everything in the path ahead, because we took time out to enjoy the journey, makes the path easier to walk. Take it ALL in. If I could offer any advice, that I wish I had taken myself, it would be, don’t be in such a hurry to get to the top of the mountain. remember patience. Imagine all the things we could avoid if we paid closer attention to the details of our past. If we actually stopped to breath and recognize our patterns, behaviors, and choices. Well, we could avoid many mistakes that we will inevitably make again. Take it for me, someone who has continued to make the same mistakes, you could end up at the bottom of the same mountain again, and again, and again, if you don’t embrace and enjoy the journey now. If we don’t take the time to learn along our journey through life, and enjoy the lessons in it, we continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Making the journey miserable. Of course, we can’t enjoy the journey when we know we keep doing the same things over, and over again! Right? So, a good tip for success, that I wish I had paid closer attention to, was to just embrace and enjoy the journey!
“Making the same mistakes over and over trying to get a different result is insanity”.
By Albert Einstein
Make new choices that you can learn from. Make decisions that get different results and mostly enjoy the journey. I’ve learned from my own experience, and from being a good listener from those who went before me, that it makes the journey much more exciting when we’re paying attention.
“Embrace the unknown and be excited about the unexpected”
6. Learn To Embrace Competition
Next on my 7 tip tips for success is, “Embracing competition”. No one is going to steal your ideas, and no one is going to beat you to the finish line. We get so caught up in what other people think, not realizing that there is enough room for everyone to succeed. I don’t see McDonald’s and Burger King shutting down any time soon. They’ve been successful for years! Not to mention, have you noticed all the burger joints out there? Come’ on! There is room for everyone to shine! Look, embracing competition is healthy! We need competition to bring out our “A GAME” every time! Competition is healthy! Competition moves us all forward faster. We ALL strive higher when we have competition. The problems arise when we become fearful of failure or scared, we will miss out on opportunities. So, we bash our competitors or get lost in our own game. There is enough room for everyone to grow and expand. There are no limits here! Embrace your competition, make it fuel your fire, and don’t get intimidated by others who want to succeed too. In fact, help others succeed and build a team that thrives on integrity together. Remember, “We are better together”. Do you know why all the big brands survive? They bring something a little different to the table and they thrive on competition. Pepsi, coke, all the many fast-food chains. There is a consumer for each brand and there is a consumer for your brand too!!! Don’t be afraid of the competition, thrive because you have competition.
7. Focus on Customer Satisfaction
I know many of you will say “customer satisfaction” is a given! It’s a “no brainer”. Right? But there are still those people who think because they’re the boss they are entitled. And having an “Entitlement attitude” will get you nowhere in the real world! Also, audience and tone matters! If we are not reaching the right audience with the right tone, we fail! Bottom line! Furthermore, if we don’t continue to satisfy our customers, we also fail. How educated are you as an entrepreneur on the “bottom line and top-line growth”? Customer satisfaction should be warranted, as long as it doesn’t conflict with the overall business plans for growth. I know I just got really technical really fast! Sorry! Not sorry! But after some much-needed research on my own business, I had to mention this. I can honestly say that I’ve learned the hard way! Sometimes as a business owner, our business “plans” change! As production and time evolve, the business must shift and develop new modifications to flow with those changes. And if you are not paying attention, the direction of a business could crash overnight. If our “top-line growth” doesn’t measure up with our “bottom-line growth” we fail. In short, the “bottom line” is a company’s net income, and the “top line” is the company’s revenue or gross sales. I suck at numbers so this concept was difficult for me to learn. Without getting too technical I will try to break it down in laymen terms.
We all strive to meet customer satisfaction, because let’s face it, without customers, we have no business. Right?! However, we can’t continue to focus all our attention on satisfying customers if success of our business is struggling to meet the “bottom line goals”. DID YOU HEAR THAT? Let me repeat that “we CANNOT keep satisfying customers if we are struggling to meet our ‘bottom line goals” (the company’s net income). Eventually we will be out of business and with NO customers! Sometimes, business owners are forced to make hard decisions. Increase the top line, (the company’s revenue or gross sales) try to filter down (lower or subtract) and boost the bottom line. That is where we get our profits from. If there is no profit, we can’t survive. It’s common freaking sense and all customers know this! NO NEGOTIATION HERE! We all know a company has to make a profit or they can’t survive. We pay the higher raised prices at restaurants, grocery stores etc. without negotiating.
So, make the “right customers happy” to exceed your goals, and increase the bottom line! If they trust you and your brand, they will pay the prices you charge. If they don’t, well you are probably better off without those who always want a deal. Believe me when I say, they will be more of a headache to you in the future. Or continue to “appease the wrong customers” and never meet the company goals. As a result, you will end up hating what you once loved. Don’t feel bad about making better business decisions! It is your business after all! If your customers had your job, they would do the same thing. Trust me!!! You know this! And look I am all for giving back!” I am all for FREEBEES!!!” After you exceed your goals give a little back to those that deserve your generosity. Take care of the ones who took care of you and supported your business. But, if you’re struggling to stay afloat in your business, you must come up with new strategies and troubleshoot a new plan.
We will always have people who are dissatisfied with some things we do or say. Successful people don’t allow others to make business decisions that will make life miserable for them. “A few pennies to one’s pocket could mean a huge loss for the bottom line”. Prepare to build the business you want to have tomorrow as if you have that success already today. I am sharing this because I have done this and had to fail a lot to learn. I hope I can help just person avoid making some of these mistakes I’ve made on my journey. Believe me when I say if you don’t feel worthy of your services, you will provide less than adequate service. And how can you feel worthy if you are not being compensated for your time, energy and effort? So really, we’re doing our customers a disservice by not satisfying our bottom line and reaching our own goals. Remember, you must satisfy yourself by meeting and exceeding your business goals before you can offer anyone else satisfaction. Or otherwise, what’s the dam point of having your own business?
Conclusion
These are my favorite 7 Top Tips for Success that I’ve learned along my journey. I wish someone would have told me, or maybe they did, and I was too stubborn to listen. Are there any tips you have for success? Share some of the things you’ve learned on your journey or things you are struggling with. By sharing, learning and growing together we can all succeed! I wish I knew some of this when I started out, because learning later in the game is much more difficult to manage. Get a handle on that now! The sooner the better! Don’t forget, continue to learn, and make mistakes. Doing a little research will help avoid some of those mistakes ahead of time. They are there for growth in the journey of success. Always stay Humble and have patience. Enjoy the Journey, never fear the Competition, and allow all things to manifest! Don’t be afraid to “up your A-game”! Offer bigger, better services but be sure to “cover your bottom’! If you know what I mean?
WHY YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED
Motivation is CRAP!
Seriously, motivation is just a bunch of crap! Anyone in the world can slap a sticky note or picture frame with words of motivation on a wall! I mean there are seminars, videos, blogs, and all kinds of free material out there for us to get “motivated”! So, why? Why are we never motivated to do the things we know we should do? Why can’t we get motivated to do the things that we know will change our life? Well, I will tell why….
Because, although the many words that motivate us at those seminars, or on those videos, sound really good in the moment! Unfortunately, it literally only takes about 5 seconds for “our brain” to change “our minds”! The truth is, when we are looking for “motivation”, it’s only because we have found ourselves at a crossroad. And FORTUNATELY, all crossroads drive us to “search for what we would say is ‘motivation’ to get us to a better place”. Right? But, even though that “terrible thing” has now brought us to this place where all we want to do is find some dam “breathing room”! If we don’t “DECIDE” to stop making excuses, we will never be motivated!
Our excuses Smother Our Motivation
In actuality, we haven’t experienced any “REAL” change from motivation, because we are too busy making excuses which smothers our enthusiasm we have. We don’t take the actions we need required to make the change happen, because we just don’t have any real cause. We actually “think” we want change, but we are “pretty happy” in our mess. We are! I know what you’re thinking “This bitch is crazy right now!”, “Does she seriously think I enjoy this situation?” But before you go all postal on me and freak out. Just hear me out! Geez….
It’s unfortunate that we find ourselves in the same scenario’s over and over, but if we don’t get over this idea that “I am just not motivated” or “I just need a little motivation”, well nothing in your life will ever change. “You will never be motivated” until you stop making excuses! You have great ideas and you are super genius, but the hard truth is, “every time you think of ‘amazing things’ you get one negative thought in your head (fear of failure, doubt you’ll make it, etc.) and then when it comes to taking that one small step forward, you punk out!” There I said it!! You come up with all the reasons why you just “can’t” do that ‘thing’. And here you are again, back to “needing motivation”. Well I am here to tell you; your excuses are smothering your motivation!!!
HELLO!! Do you not know that motivation is only there to fire up some spark in your mind and in your heart?! The only way to ignite the flame inside of you, is to pour fuel on it! If you wait for something else to happen before you get motivated” to actually “take the action”, you will always be waiting and never doing. Forget the idea of being “motivated”. That’s over the second you say, ‘after I’ or ‘when I’ or ‘I can’t because’! Until you STOP MAKING EXCUSES and START TAKIGN THE ACITONS you need to take to get the life you want YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED!
This is your life and you only get one shot at it! Make it worth your while! What are you waiting for? There is nothing you “NEED” that you don’t already have! I promise, all your skills, all your knowledge, all the techniques, all the money, all your connections, and all your dreams are right there in front you. All you have to do is reach out and grab one thing! Start somewhere! ANYWHERE! But dam it, START! You have everything you need to succeed! Don’t you dare wait for money to get right, because it will never get right while you sit here doing the same shit you do, day in and day out! You have to GET UP, WASH YOUR DAM FACE, AND BRUSH YOUR STINKY ASS BREATH, AND GO OUT THERE! Go out there without any fear, with no doubt, and without any worry of failure or disappointment, because everything (good and bad) is moving you forward into your purpose! EVERYTHING! There would be no life without good and evil leveling the playing fields. So just embrace your shit and move past it!
BE MOTIVATED AND DO THIS ACTION TODAY
So, how can you get motivated today? Well first! You have to realize that words have no meaning with an action to follow. So, how can you use all the bad and good things in your life to get yourself not just motivated, but moving into action? It actually is simple, but not easy.
For example: I had to start getting up earlier in the morning every single day! That’s right even weekends! I always felt like I didn’t have enough time to do all the things I wanted to get done in a day, so what did I do? I started getting up earlier then everyone else. I woke up at 4am each morning instead 8am or 9am. That gave me 4-5 hours more in my day of productivity and accomplishments. This routine has not only helped me get more done, but I have time to take care of my own personal needs as well. Like taking care of my physical body so I have the energy I need to get through my day. I made time to actually sit down and eat a healthy breakfast, to work-out, and to do a little meditation to get my body, mind and spirit working together. And you know what I got? A lot more clarity and focus during my entire day.
These are just a few things I adjusted in my morning routine that helped me be more productive daily. Furthermore, when I am more focused during the day, I am not stressed. It allows me to have clarity and a sense of “Zen” throughout my entire day because I am not feeling rushed or hurried. It is hard to feel motivated when you feel rushed, or too busy all the time. Not to mention the anxiety level that happens in a high stress, fast paced environment. This is partly how I made the decision to be an entrepreneur in the first place! I can’t handle the high stress in environments that I know could be managed in a much more productive way. Being mindful of the people and things that brought stress into my life, helped me make the decisions I needed to make to avoid the anxiety in my future.
It drove me ‘crazy’ that most businesses have so much drama, gossip, and stress in the workplace! It really shouldn’t be that way. It is so easy to come up with a plan to delegate everyone’s work and build people up for success personally and professionally! While moving the business itself to thrive. “There is enough space in this world for everyone’s light to shine.” Most” businesses fail in customer service because the staff is so stressed from lack of communication and management productivity.
MY FINAL THOUGHTS
So, today, be motivated! BUT TAKE THE DAM ACTIONS! You have the capability to manifest any idea’s you have in your mind and the desires you have in your heart. The problems only persist when you are not taking your path towards those ideas and desires. The Divine wants to help you, but you have to help yourself by taking just one step. It really starts with just a decision! You choose and you do it! That’s it! You don’t let anyone talk you out of it, you don’t have any fear of failure and you never doubt your abilities. When you are “MINDFUL” you can bring your ideas, into actions. If it truly comes from your heart, you will find a way. The key is, you have to want it like you want the air in your lungs.
Seriously, blow all the air out of your lungs and watch how fast you breath for air! And, you don’t just want that air, you actually TAKE IT IN! And you appreciate it because you realize, well for one, “how dizzy you get without it” and for two, “how important it is for your survival”! Your path is important for your life and you must survive to go through your life. Your decisions are important for your life, and the actions you take are extremely important for your life. If you take in the choices, your paths can make you dizzy! You know what I mean? So, make good decisions, and Be motivated, YES! But take the actions to bring that inspiration inside of you to life! NOT MORE EXCUSES!!!!
“STOP TALKING ABOUT IT and BE ABOUT IT”
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How to Live a Happier More Successful Life
“There is no Thing that can make you happy
and
There is no Person that can make you complete”
Christina Ditzel
Mindfulness and Clarity is essential to success and happiness. The issue is not the circumstance you’re in, but the self-awareness you have daily, and the mindset you have, about your circumstances. We as humans struggle to really understand what happiness even is, because we are unaware of our spiritual self. We think happiness is gaining more success and we think success is gaining more material things. Like finding better relationships, a better job, a nicer house, cars, etc. But the truth is, people, places, or things will never make you happy. If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I say this often! “You can’t find happiness in people, places or things”! If you keep your focus on things in the “physical world”, you will always be seeking for physical satisfaction. I don’t mean to disappoint my readers, but there is no happiness in such entities. True happiness comes from within, and success is a mindset full of clarity! Noting is achievable without the believe system that is can be done! We need to ponder on our awareness in order to bring joy to our heart and soul. If you believe something to the very core of your soul, then you will do what it takes to achieve that goal! Truth is, you just have to go get it!
Since we were young, we’ve been told, “go to school, get good grades, go to college, get married and then have kids and grand-kids”. Well, is that it? Is that our whole purpose in life? I can’t believe that is the reason for this life! Some want to travel the world, others want more money, a better car, a bigger house, the best job, the smartest kids, etc. I can’t believe that is it! I just can’t believe that we work and toil until we face death! To me that is life without purpose. It is a spirit that lives in the flesh, walking dead on earth. That is not who I am!
In today’s world, media has taken over, and always has something new to catch our attention! So, it is inevitable that we chase for the next best “thing”, rather than a joyful and happy “self”, or inner happiness. We always seek outward pleasures to make us happy. Until we realize they don’t! Eventually, it leaves us in a depressed state and always on the hunt, not knowing what success or happiness even means. But what if we became more aware of what we allow media to feed into us? What if we became more aware of our self as a spirit walking this world to experience it? But what if we decided to “Instead of allowing the world to experience us, we walked knowing it was an experience for us”? What if we took what we learned and utilized it to help others find their own way and helping them to stop following in the foot steps of everyone else who came before us? That is why I write these articles on clarity! Because I’ve learned the power of clarity and I just want to offer a sort of, guide, so everyone who comes here can learn, grow, and share their own way. And maybe together we can live happier, healthier, more successful lives together in a community that knows we’re are “better together”!
I have become so focused on “getting more” and “being more”, and I realized living like that, we lose the true desire of our own hearts. and we never take the time to see the light that shines the path to true happiness and true sucess. In some cases, we can get so greedy that we live our lives dimming everyone’s light afraid they might dim ours. Or we live as if we need to be better than the next person, graduate at the top of our class, and compete with everyone for the top positions and end up alone, without any options. we end up living in fight or flight mode in every area of our life and that is never a good place to be. Why are we in constant competition with one another, instead of being in unity with others? Has it become a new belief system, that division will bring us happiness?
We have been programmed to think this way since the day our ancestors were born. We’ve been raised to be competitive with everything we think, say, and do Since Covid and 2020 politicians have divided us. Even the church and the bible divide us. We compete with our friends, family, and acquaintances, rather than rejoicing and loving them. How can that kind of living ever feel good? How can living in competition with the people and things we are supposed to love, ever really feel good? Well, it doesn’t! And if we continue with this trend, we will never find true happiness in our lives. We must stop living not feeling good enough and trying to be better than everyone else. But how do we do that?
How do we get clarity for a happy and successful life?
First, tangibles are not the answer! So, just get that out of your head so you can stop searching for the “next best thing” now. There is no THING that will make you happy! And there is no person that will make you complete. Second, this journey we are on is short lived, so we must make the most of it and enjoy it while it lasts. If you’re one of the lucky ones, by the end of your road, you will be so happy within, and aware of the core nature of your spirit, that you will not think about this material world as a place to “Gain a life”, but you will begin to experience this world as a beautiful soul that is here “Exploring this life”. You must first focus on yourself, your passions, and the thing that starts a fire in your soul! What are you passionate about?
We should strive to live a life that “gives and receives love” and the only way to do that is to live in a sense if feeling love and lived. A life that offers pure joy in just being your true essence. We should never try to strive for everyone else’s dreams or hate others for their success, but we should strive for a mind and spirit of our own dreams! Living in this beautiful place, and being able to explore wherever, and whatever we desire, should be exciting! We should never feel limited or lack in any area of life. That is not the point of this journey. I really believe that! When you realize material things won’t ever make you happy, and you accept that you are not promised tomorrow, you begin to live life like it is your last day, every day. And you appreciate all the things, good and bad that come your way. Because good or bad, you are moving forward through more experiences of this life.
When you live life happy within, you’re able to do the things you love without stress. You get to spend time with the people who make you the happiest, without drama. When you allow yourself to enjoy life, you want to help those you pass along the way. You want everyone to enjoy their journey because you are enjoying the journey. You live in worry because you don’t allow yourself to get to know your inner being and purpose here, and you don’t enjoy the journey your on. Instead you follow the worlds advice and ideas and you stay in a mental state that says “your different and you don’t belong”. But the truth is, you are different and that is why you do belong!!! Embrace yourself with out the fear of what others think about you. The things that make you different are the things that make you special! When your spirit shines its light, you will sour like an eagle in the sky, and those that that have a spirit to look up and see you with acceptance. And those are the ones you will call your tribe. Those are the ones you need to zoom in on.
If you really feel like your world is upside down, start over! Start with getting peace in your own heart. That means thinking of “ALL things as good”. You can’t have happiness if your mind is in a frantic state all the time. Recognize the things that come into your life to help move you forward. You might not like it all the time but if it is going to move you forward, just take the leap and do it! If you ever want to find true happiness, you must get clarity of your current situation, and see life through a totally different lens.
I can offer you my book, “Hot mess to totally blessed”, I talk a lot about getting “clarity” by cleaning out your physical world, and your psychological world. I can give you exercise after exercise, and advice after advice, but at the end of the day if you don’t do anything, my book won’t help. In fact nothing and no one can help you. Listen, I lost my relationships, my kids, my car, my job, and everything in my physical world. I had to start my life over at 38 years old with NOTHING. Trust me it sucked. But I did it! I made a decision to do something and I did it! And so can you! You are worth it! In my book I have exercises that can help you gain clarity in your situation, and each chapter gradually goes deeper for your self-growth. Some of the things I talk about are:
- Clearing out some of the junk that is cluttering your focus
- Eliminate people and places that are holding you back.
- How to reduce stress levels
- Slowing down your physical world
- Being a better parent
- Embracing and facing our mess head on
- Dating yourself
- And so much more!
So, I wrote the book to help others find their own abundance and I can only suggest the book but if you don’t do the things in it to transform your life, nothing will change in your life. I can also ask that you stay engaged with me and this new community that I am building, but at the end of the day, you need to be the one to take the action. I don’t want to leave you empty handed today, so I will leave you a simple project below to get you started with the actions you can take right now to find YOUR HAPPY AND ABUNDANT LIFE tomorrow.
In the meantime, don’t worry about other people, don’t worry about the places you have to go or don’t want to go to, and don’t worry about the things you don’t have. Know deep down to your core that “YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED” right now. YOU are everything you need. Listen, if you don’t get right in your head and in your own spirit, you won’t be giving yourself a fighting chance at a happy and abundant life. You must know what happiness is “TO YOU” and not what it means to everyone else. In order to receive happiness for yourself, you have to acknowledge it for yourself, or the worry, stress, addictions, and struggles will never go away. If you don’t DO YOU, you will always feel and be in lack. Please get this! You are important and you matter. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.
Here is the project:
If you get anything out of this article, I hope you get clarity of YOUR “1%”. Because that is the only portion you need to be focused on. Zoom out, see the entire world that surrounds you right now, from a 30k foot view. But remember to zoom back in and focus only on the 1% that holds value to YOU! The rest doesn’t matter because it belongs to someone else’s 1%. Join a community that will journey through life with you (not against you) and explore your true essence and self-worth. Ask yourself these questions now.
Shine your light!
Much love Author Christina Ditzel xo
If you need more advice in other areas of your life, please comment below, join my channel on YouTube, or just grab my book “Hot mess to totally blessed” on Amazon Today. This is how you begin your journey into transformation and living an abundant life. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.
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