So let me start by saying this, I am putting my “people pleaser rock” away this season. I have decided to turn up my alternate ego a little bit, because I feel called to help a society that has become consumed and manipulated by wicked influencers.  Now, when I say “EGO” my intention is not to become this overbearing, pounding of my chest, egotistical, narcissist, or a big-headed witch. But, if you have been listening to my podcasts or following me for any length of time on social media, you know I am about finding clarity and Zen in our own mess. Knowing our mess is created by giving too much attention to the world! So, the only real way to truly find our place of ZEN and get clarity is to eliminate all the toxic shit in our world one person and one community at a time. But sometimes in doing that we also have to stop enabling things to affect us.  And to do that we have to hold the people who affect us accountable by not enabling them. And how do you do that without having an ego? You can’t! So, there is a time for us to turn up our ego and this is just my time!    

So, today I am not sugarcoating or patronize anyone or any group, because we are in a time where we have to not only be speaking up about certain things going on, but we also need to be educating people while holding others accountable for their lethal influence on our society. We can’t keep enabling this “victim mentality” to take over. It is affecting our children and our future generations.

In what world are we creating that being toxic and lacking moral values is the new measure of standards that we hold? Our future generations are being set up to fail and I refuse to sit back and remain quiet. In 2020, since the pandemic our world has experienced a huge shift, and unless we force a new change, we are headed for a major disaster! I’d rather help people clear up their foggy lens during these crazy and mondain times so they can see clearly, and we can move forward with clarity and dignity.

Let’s dive in and begin today with helping people to stop living with the “victim mentality” that this generation is facing. People have become delusional and unreasonable and I’m just kind of tired of sitting back watching it happen. No one wants to take responsibility for their own actions, and they just want to play the blame game while pulling the victim card. Can I be HOT today! If I’m Honest, open, and transparent, “there are certain groups out there pushing their agenda by justifying their immoral behaviors with their influential, overprivileged elites backing them up”. Unfortunately, they make those of us who hold a higher standard for society and make us feel guilty for wanting to live with a foundation that is “morally and ethically honorable”. It is unquestionable at this point, that some of us have been pushed out of the spotlight because of the truths we are speaking.

Listen, I have children that are trying to grow up, learn, and they want to experience this life to its fullest. But unfortunately, we have adults acting like a bunch of immoral juvenile assholes. What are we teaching the next generation? If this kind of behavior hasn’t already destroyed us, and we don’t get a handle on it soon, disaster will strike in the next year or two. I can guarantee you that! This world as we know it will come to an end! And we will be living under a communist government and actually we are at the halfway point right now. They are enabling things to occur to distract you and control you as we speak. They are causing division between us “THE PEOPLE” (Which is the true government and church) and we have become more focused on fighting each other instead of fighting against the powers that are causing the havoc in the first place.

Now I will admit, I talked a lot of smack about those radical bible thumpers who talked about end times and preparing for a zombie apocalypse. But I have news for you, keep enabling LGBTQ Plus to continue to take over our communities, and continue to allow doctors and teachers to continue to poison our kids minds with all their bullshit science, (which btw is only proven to kill and destroy our human race) you’re not only allowing it to spread like the plaque, but you’re also literally helping them delete our entire humanity and morality! Think about that for a second. What is humanity and what is morality? Let’s take a look:

“The difference between morality and humanity is that morality is (uncountable) recognition]] of the distinction between good and evil or between right and wrong; it is respect for and obedience to the rules of right conduct; the mental disposition or characteristic behaving in a manner intended to produce morally good results. While humanity is mankind; human beings as a group.”.  It’s all of us people that came before, that are present today, and that will be tomorrow.

I don’t know if it’s the covid juice you all took, or the politicians, news reporters, all these fake influencers, teachers, preachers, leaders, or who else is feeding you all their bullshit, but whatever and whoever it is, you need to stop eating it up like flies on shit! You’re killing yourselves. It’s sad really, when you sit back and watch from a 30,000ft view. You all look like a bunch of lost souls wandering around on earth aimlessly and recklessly! You’re claiming to be woke, But the truth is, most of you are just coasting through life in a fantasy world living in your own delusional dream land. You just do and say whatever you want without any repercussions or consequences. You have no consideration of how your words or actions affects other people. And most of you are so stoned on gummies, weed, fentanyl, and whatever else they’re conjuring up for you these days, that you can’t even think for yourselves. This has to stop!

If you really want to make an impact in this world, you need to be alone with yourself and look at how your living your own life without pointing the finger at everyone else. You need to ask yourself, “am I living the kind of life my creator will be proud of”? You all crave attention and acknowledgement from people, but what do you really gain from that? You’re still miserable even after someone praises you.

Listen we cannot go on living life anyway we want without reaching a point of consequences for our actions. I refuse to sit back and watch a bunch of clowns pass around dildos in a classroom full of children who haven’t even had a fair chance to experience life to be able to make a choice for themselves. And I am not about to go to the bathroom with some strange man in the stall next to me just because he woke up one day and had this epiphany that he wants to be a woman. He is not a woman. He is indeed a man! You wonder why women don’t respect their body’s, but society as a whole lost all respect for women. This is absolutely out of control! This is a complete abomination, and it goes against everything our constitution is about. The issue is our country has become too diverse and multicultural with too many beliefs, and we need to learn to preexist together without publicly displaying our personal cultural preferences. Look you don’t get to destroy your own country and culture, and then come to America and destroy our entire principles.  

Listen, you’ve all had your fun! But now it’s time to come back to reality! When there was only a few of you who didn’t want bibles in our public schools, we took them out. The masses didn’t fight you or protest by creating a bible month to throw it in your face year after year! But the majority of society doesn’t want drag queens passing around dildos in our classrooms and we don’t want to promote the confusion of pronouns to our children either. And furthermore, we don’t want teachers and doctors confusing our children about their sexuality or putting ideas in their head to change their identity. I don’t know how you were raised, but I raise my children to love themselves and to trust in the things they believe at the core of their being no matter who questions them. This promotion of identity and sexual innuendos is not only sexual harassment at its core, but it is discrimination, and it is in our constitutional God given right to choose against this kind abuse. Because that is what this is! It’s abuse! For those of you who need the definition of sexual harassment it is (behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation. It can also refer to harassment or comments about an individual’s gender.

You are literally publicizing sexual harassment on children and you’re making it okay to do so. You also enable discrimination by telling children they aren’t good enough as they are. Furthermore, isn’t that body imaging? Better yet, the words “Defamation of character” come to mind. Defamation of character is an act that occurs when someone’s reputation (or character) and integrity (or truthfulness) are tarnished or damaged because of malicious intent by another party. You all want to twist some shit around; I will wreck your world with some truth! Now, I thought we weren’t body imaging. Or does that only apply to the lazy people who are overweight and want to further promote an unhealthy lifestyle just so they can victimize themselves and say “we’re body imaging”?! So now we can only discriminate society who wants to speak truth about healthy choices for a life that provides less stress by living with the mental capacity to make choices that benefit our humanity for long term and not for temporary pleasures that are actually killing us? Com ’on!  

I just don’t understand how we as a community are accepting this behavior to continue on! Look what happened to Sam Smith! It wasn’t enough for him to put on tons of weight he had to go bleach his hair and dress like …. well, I don’t know what he is dressed like! But I do know this “speedos on a fat guy isn’t fucking sexy”. And it’s insulting to us when fat men try to act and compare themselves to us women. They dress half naked and their being praised for being overweight and necked, but if we walk out the door with a little cleavage, we’re whores! When does it end?

Somebody, please help me make sense of this! Transsexuals say a woman is not a woman by her organs, yet they are literally taking hormones and having surgical procedures done that create women organs. How the hell does that make sense? Have we become so out of our minds that we’re really buying into this shit? Is this our only option now? To change and reverse our born identity? This is unnatural and if you don’t see that, there is a glitch in your mental capacity to think clearly and rationally. And I know that this goes against some mental therapist telling you that but am sorry this is not normal behavior and you need to realize that you are worthy and good enough only as your born, true, identity. I can say this because I am aware there must have been some serious trauma that had to occur for you to believe that you are not worthy or amazing as the person you were born to be.

Then you know, we have these doctors who think it’s okay to allow a little boy as young as 5 years old to make a choice to become a girl by giving that child puberty blockers? In what reality do we think this is normal or acceptable? That is torture on that child’s life and as he grows up and sees happy women and men in relationship, he will end up putting a gun to his head because he won’t be able to cope with his fake identify because he wasn’t given a fair chance to decide himself as a man. Which was his true born identity in the first place. Why do we allow these lunatics who call themselves doctors to steal that identity away from anyone? I know you can’t really be buying into this ideology without knowing the agenda these upper elites have. Com ’on! Are you all really that stoned out of your minds or are you just stupid?

And NO! I am not a homophobic! I have kissed plenty of girls, I’ve danced and did shows with drag queens, and I have lived a lifestyle in my 20’s that was wild and reckless. Yes! But there is a time and place, and it is not in our schools, medical centers, on TV, or in our restaurants where little eyes and little ears can be influenced and manipulated before they’ve had a chance to live and make their own choices.

Let me add this since I am going on a tangent today! While most of you continue complaining “woe is me” let me remind you, that you play a huge role in all your own traumatic experiences. You live with your victimized mentality unaware of what you’re doing. Allowing this pride month to continue is redundant. We don’t even celebrate Mothers for a month and none of you would exist without a fucking uterus! Excuse my language! Listen, before I get completely out of character, I am not going to sit back and watch this shit happen in my children’s generation. At the end of the day, I believe I went through the walk in this life and made the choices I did, so that I can stand here today and help people see clearly so they don’t completely destroy the life we can all create for our children tomorrow.

Let’s make one thing very clear, crying about what is fair, what’s not fair, and whose fault it is, does not help you or your circumstances! Let me also throw this in because I know some of you will twist my words here and say I am the only one crying right now. “YOUR WRONG! Me bitching right now about what is morally right is not me playing the victim card, it’s getting a handle on what should and should not be accepted in this country and what is morally correct moving forward as a human race”.  I don’t whine about mondain things that only matter to me today! I am speaking up about something that has meaning and depth for millions of people and for years to come. You need to learn to own up to the role that you play in your own life, in your communities, and in this world. I don’t care that you want to play dress up. I don’t care about your sexual preference. I don’t even care that you want to make money doing it. But I afford to waste my life enabling this behavior to be pushed in my family’s face on a daily basis. And as long as we allow it to go on today, it will continue to influence future generations.

I will never apologies for wanting my children and my blood line to grow and evolve from a particular moral code of conduct that includes a realistic view of a MAN AND A WOMEN. One that is rational according to my personal values and virtues which in fact has been formulated by the reality that we have male and female in every living species on this planet. The code for life is in the constitution and in the foundation of God’s Word. This country was founded and run on the words “IN GOD WE TRUST”?

Most people today have no moral values at all! In fact those words have no meaning or relevance in this wicked self-righteous society. We watch what is trending on TikTok or CNN and we go with whatever sounds good in the moment! Or whatever is trending on our favorite celebrity’s page. Look, I get it, we have all had some seriously traumatic experiences these past few years and we will continue to have trauma and drama in our life. There is no doubt about that. I don’t care if you in the best season of your life right now, I can guarantee that this season will come to an end, and you will have a dramatic or traumatic experience in your near future. You cannot escape struggle and you can’t fix your mental mess with crazy antics. We all need to be held accountable for what is happening in our country today, and we all need to own our part! This victimizing and corrupt mentality is not healthy behavior for our next or future generations.

OWN YOUR PART IN YOUR TRUAMA

Okay let’s all calm down for a minute so we can try to look through a lens of solving problems. Listen, I am well aware that the reason most of you are acting out the way you are is because your mommy or daddy didn’t love, nurture you, care for you, or raise you with moral values the way they should have. Or you have been mistreated or abused by someone you’ve either has close relation to or have crossed paths with. We’ve all crossed paths with wicked people. But by acting out of character you’re only deceiving yourselves, and you’re only causing harm to all the people and children that witness your actions.

You know there is a saying, “you don’t remember what people say and you might not even remember what people do, but you always remember how a person makes you feel” So, there comes a time in life when we have to ask ourselves, “how are the people around me making me feel, really? And how do I make the people around me feel?”  When we look at trauma with tunnel vision (looking in-ward), it is easy to point the finger at all the people who were not there for us, or those who mislead us. It’s easy to give up when you have been screwed over so many times. I get it, trust me I get it! It’s easy to blame all the people who influenced us, deceived us, set us back, abused us, manipulated us, or even those people who raised us up with philosophical belief systems that don’t apply to everyone. But the truth is there is a problem with blaming others for our traumatic experiences as we grow into adults. And unless we realize that life is nothing but a ripple effect, we forget that our bad behaviors play a role in how we impact others. That is why it is important that we realize “WE ALL HAVE A ROLE TO PLAY!”

It is easy to blame LGBTQ community, millennials, gen z’s, our parents, our childhood, our corporations and businesses, our government, science, the male practice going on in the medical field, an inflated economy, the legalization of drugs and other substances, the lack of common sense, the inconsistency in metal health care, the tv stations that promote sex, violence, and now Pride Month, the gun laws, the state laws, the laws that are not being enforced, and we can blame all the people and all the things that have caused us stress, anxiety, and suffering. But the truth is, we play a part in all of it! Every time we engage in the drama, and we inflict our anxiety on ourselves we lash out our pain onto others. When we fight for what we believe in or when we strive to change things that don’t also benefit others, we end up hurting more people because we’re not actually fighting to help solve the problems that cause the reaction in the first place. We look through a lens with a “victim mentality” we have tunnel vision, and it comes out as hatred, anger, and you come from a place of malevolence instead of love.  And I am not saying we have to love wickedness! What I am saying is that we must hate it enough to be able to come from a place of love to be able to change it.

So yes, I am aware that what I am saying may hurt some people. But I am not sorry for trying to help you get grounded. You cannot have a human race, without male and female reproductive organs. And we were created to multiply, and you can only do that with male and females being together. This generation of sleeping with everyone and everything and just doing what feels good in the moment of being rebellious due to trauma. It’s not helping you heal its only mentally exhausting you because you’re avoiding reality and truth and you’re trying to change what was already created with purpose. This corrupt and immoral way of living needs to stop because it is not only toxic, but it is causing health issues, mentally and physically, in our communities. It is causing division and prejudice. And it just destroys our entire meaning of life and we are becoming inhumane.

How can you not see that you’re hurting the children with your ideas? If I can admit that I am hurting you by testing your values and your lifestyle, then you need to realize that you are hurting others with those values and lifestyle. So, you think it’s fair to strip a child for a chance to make a life decision that is so huge like gender identity, but you don’t want anyone telling you about your gender identity? You’re an adult and you should know the difference between a man and a woman.  

But instead, you just plant seeds in people’s heads and you close your mind to the possibility that maybe not everyone wants to live in your little fantasy land that you’ve created to cope with your own traumatic life experiences. Being confused or gay is one thing, but role-playing lies and deceit to children who don’t know better is an entirely different world. You’re creating a false reality to justify your own instability and vicious and quite frankly, “merciless ideas”. My sexual preference is straight. Not Waverly, not confused, but honest, conventional, and yes traditional. Does that make me bored? No! Do I like role playing with my partner? Absolutely! But I don’t affect others when I am doing it. It would be nice to live in a world where we accept each other as we are, but we can’t be supporting an agenda that deletes our human race and takes our integrity away while manipulating the truth.

So many people today are eager to be heard & have a voice. They do this to gain a fan base, branding, attention, money, fame, and whatever other reason they have. But unfortunately, because of this sort of popular attention schemes, getting to the bottom of any issue in society as a whole is a lost cause. We can’t keep agreeing with shit just so people will like us! Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you agree with or disagree with. Everyone will have an opinion based on what you do or say. And honestly spreading indecent exposure to children doesn’t solve the problems lingering in today’s society, or in your personal life! But what it does is make our world chaotic. Just look at history. We can get 50 steps forward and it only takes one arrogant person to jump in and derail everything and everyone. In fact, this kind of reckless behavior doesn’t solve anything! It only leads to protests, anger, and low self-esteem, which results in violent acts and causes our country to fall apart one community at a time. Which we are literally living witnessing right now!!!

There are democrats flooding to Florida which is a majority republican state. Why? What’s the point?  Again, problems never get resolved with control, greed, or selfish desires, they only progress. All you people striving for POWER to have control of other people, you will never win because you don’t even have control of yourselves! You have no control! Learn self-control first. What is the point of having power if no one really likes you? You think you’re surrounded by people who like you, but the truth is, you’re doing life completely alone.

Look at your favorite Celebrities, they strive for all their awards and then they have huge celebration parties. Do you know what they do afterwards? They sit back on their expensive sofa, sipping their $25,000 dollar bottle of scotch, and when they are looking around at all the people enjoying the fruits of their labor they realize none of them are actually friends! Not really! They are being used for a taste of the luxurious lifestyle and connections. Most celebrities spend their life looking for real relationships but never really find it because they themselves are playing a role they don’t even like. How many celebrities have we lost in the last 3 years? Think about that for a second and let that soak in.

They had access to everything this world could buy, but they weren’t happy. Eventually this world caught up with them and at the end of the day what mattered most wasn’t even around. Family, community, human connection, to love and feel loved. That is what matters. Not celebrating your fake identity.

Look, I can’t say it enough, the stress that adults have created for themselves and for the children of this generation, is out of control! It’s causing more trauma for everyone by pushing your dysfunctional lifestyles and beliefs on people. Anyone who allows a grown man to share a bathroom with a little girl is not only irrational they are out of their fucking mind. It’s promoting sexual harassment. It’s promoting rape! And honestly, it is spreading across the country because it’s being approved by the government who openly talks about it on social media daily. TikTok, Instagram Reels, YouTube and YouTube shorts, CNN and other platforms are the reality tv platforms that have the biggest influence. It doesn’t matter who creates these platforms, what matters most is how we’re using them!

Please listen to what I am saying today! I know I went on a little tangent, but I am passionate about the children and the wellbeing of this country’s future. These platforms were not necessarily created to do harm, but the people using them corrupt it with their toxic beliefs, their ideologies, and their dogmas! People use it for idiocy and then it becomes a trend. Those of us who speak against these irrational psychopaths have to live in fear of being shut down, arrested, or killed for even having an opinion. Can I just say this, confusing people about their identity, children particularly, is not only defamation of character, but also malevolent. You’re a monster! YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY FREAKING PERSON ON THIS PLANET WHO IS HURTING!!! AND HURT PEOPLE HURT OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE MISSERY LOVES COMPANY!!! BUT YOU WILL DIE ALONE MISERABLE BECAUSE YOU ARE PROMOTING A FALSE REALITY TO A SOCIETY OF HUMANS WHO DO IN FACT KNOW THE TRUTH AT THE VERY CORE OF THEIR BEING!

So, hurting other people with malicious acts of manipulation is not helping yourself or your environment. In fact, you’re making it worse for yourselves. Not only is this victim mentality but it’s NARCASISITC PERSONALITY DISORDER! There is no happiness in an environment that is being controlled out of our natural human disposition. As if our country didn’t have enough to deal with, now we have Government that is trying to shift us into a communist country by welcoming all kinds of ridiculous and irrational behaviors. Do you not see that? The only reason these charades are continuing is because they need you all to stay naive. They need you all to be consumed with yourselves and fighting with each other so they can take the attention off of them and plot their takeover.  I don’t think there is any one person or party capable of running this country at this level. They all have a personal agenda for power and control of the human race. Just like Hitler did. Just like Castro did. Just like all the other lunatics who destroyed the other communist countries.

You’re allowing them to win every time you give in to their ridiculous characters and lies. At the end of the day, NONE of them are coming to save you and none of them are going to produce a program or system that is beneficial for the people as a whole country. They do not have the people or our future in their best interests. We have become a diverse country that just lives in a world where everyone is out for themselves, and we don’t care what it cost our neighbors. So, with everyone at each other’s throat ready to kill one another there is no LOVE FOR OUR COUNTRY OR THE PEOPLE IN IT! We have become a greedy, self-absorbed species, and most people have a lot to complain about, but do nothing to set themselves up for a truly, successfully, blessed life. In fact, hurt people complain so much they don’t even try to strive for something better unless it is at the expense of hurting someone else.

Now let me just say this before any of you attack me, (since this generation is so quick to judge and get defensive with your victim mentality) I am not saying that ALL HURT PEOPLE ARE SELF ABSORBED AND GREEDY! But if you’re listening to this on podcast or reading the blog, and you are most likely experiencing someone who plays the victim, or you realize that you have a victim mentality. Admitting it is the first stage to having some integrity! The only way to solve this issue is for each and every single person to own their own part and face the reflection in the mirror. In every circumstance and every situation, we are faced with, we have a choice. If we can pay attention to the influence that we have in this world, it would be a good start to finding clarity and creating a life where we can all coexist without exposing and disposing of our children. We can help them find and define their true identities in the process. Not the fake, false, imaginary identities that they create in their mind.   

OWNING YOUR PART MEANS FACING YOUR OWN DEMONS BECAUSE INFLUENCE MATTERS

Owning our part means facing and eliminating the things that don’t add value to our life. And when we look at our own life, we must consider the people in this world because we affect them as much as they affect us. And remember, we are humans, and we require human connection. It’s a healthy and good thing when done intentionally. You can’t exist alone in this world and be happy forever. We all have demons and because of this we must take time to reflect and redirect our decision making. Those things in life that upset you, most of the time they come from the people you listen to. The information you allow to get into your head Whether from a song or video or movie, it matters. It plays a part in how you learn to make decisions. Whether it is a family member, a stranger you don’t even know, or a person on your favorite platform on social media, it is imperative that you are mindful of what you do after you hear something. Influence matter. The kind of influence and who is influencing matters because it is where your angels and demons come from. It’s the difference between good and evil and create them. I write these articles to help influence people to chance their own personal life by looking inward, rather than having an outward reflection of what is going on in the rest of the world.

Because I have lived life listening to the outside world and I made many mistakes. I was able to choose ME and reflect on my own thoughts and actions after hitting rock bottom. I have walked away with lessons for life because I faced my rock bottom season. But many don’t, and their rock bottom is their everyday reality. I didn’t just walk away to do that same shit year after year. My beliefs come from that place of love, but unfortunately Love is not popular belief because it conflicts with this new age belief system that promotes do what feels good in the moment and then when shit hits the fan blame everyone else. It’s a “wow is me” “feel bad for me” “I hate my life” “why is this happening to me” “victim” mentality!

HOW WE PARENT MATTERS MOST

Today, there are so many parenting books out there and although some of them give good advice, most of the advice out there is ruled by personal beliefs. Beliefs that were passed on by some biased opinion based off some traumatic past experience from the author’s childhood. And most likely you will hear that person blame someone else or give credit to someone else who was responsible for their messed-up choices. In many cases, people write parenting books because their parents were either really great or really shitty! But never have I read a book on the perfect parenting skills that set all children and generations up for success. Unless we are talking about the bible! The bible has a foundation for parents and life and if we follow it, we can be lead and lead with integrity and veracity.

No matter what generation we come from, we may not have control of the Government or the multiple diversity of people and their belief systems, but we do have control of the influences we allow to rule over our life. We have the power to control the experiences we have, the mindsets, the beliefs, and the lifestyles that we take on.

Defeating our own demons means: We do need to look at the reflection in the mirror so we can get a clear vision of why we think the way we do. Understand why we react to the things that we see and hear. And then we need to have control over the way we act and react to everything and everyone. Can I be completely honest? If you have a lot of drama and trauma in your life, and you feel like life is just not fair, if you struggle to manage your finances, or if you’re always unhappy in all your relationships, and you just feel a sense of frustration, depression, and feel any kind of lack in your life, and if you feel a need to always numb yourself with substances, sex, and other obsessive compulsive activities, you need to reflect on yourself and start making some lifestyle changes TODAY! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start doing something to change yourself. There really is no remedy to a perfect life accept accountability for your actions.

You need to face your demons in life. The things that you’re scared of, the things that you hate, the things that make you sad, and all the people and things that irritate the shit out of you.  Just eliminate them. Do you think this podcast was easy for me to create? Hell no! I’ve been holding all this inside, so I don’t offend people who are close to me. I don’t want to interrupt what other people think is normal. I feel it’s none of my business! But truth is, I was hurting myself being nice to everyone who is actually hurting me. Realizing that enabling others to continue their charades only hurt me, because it causes havoc that involved me. This is my world and I care about the world I live in. I care about the world my offspring live in. I don’t want them to just live a mediocre life of wild and reckless behavior because it doesn’t serve anyone. I care about the people who have influence in this world.

We need to acknowledge within ourselves the things you do to help other people and the things we do that hurt other people! We need to face it head on! But then we must Let go and let God deal with some of the things we have no control over. Because the second we try to take control, we get out of control.

I am constantly letting go of control. I don’t sit in depression because I can’t have my way today. I just choose to control myself an do the things that promote good procedures, good conduct and good behavior on my part. I avoid engagements that self-sabotage me and my story. The voices in my head are not even my own most of the time. They are influenced by the media, my parents’ old belief systems, church, and by the people I meet along this journey through life. Some influences are great, and you should keep those ones! But others are not so good for you! In fact, they are toxic and they hold you back from your true potential and your destiny. I don’t believe anything happens by chance.

However, I do believe people come into our life to either guide us, encourage us, or to direct and redirect us. And let me just add this, if you are not allowing yourself to be teachable, you will never find peace or purpose in life. If you think you know everything and you lash out at everyone who disagrees with you, you’re just being a “know it all asshole” and your being big-headed. The ability to live a life fully blessed and fully happy with yourself depends on your ability to learn, grow, change, and stay focused on seeking for something more or better in this lifetime. But whatever that change, or growth is, it should benefit the next lifetime. This world would be much more beautiful if we could focus our energy on helping others, rather than kicking other people down to build ourselves up. Remember this, just as your past experiences directed your decisions for today, and brought you to this current state of being, your present experiences will direct your decisions for tomorrow and determine your future state of being.

YOUR EXPERIENCES DIRECT YOUR DECISIONS.

Okay so if you’re still here you’ve realized by now that our demons or traumatic experiences don’t actually serve us because they don’t even happen because of us. They come from the people and experiences in our life that influence our decision making. So, it should make sense to you when I say:

 “You could determine your future by

the experiences you choose to have, or not to have.”

By Christina Ditzel

To reflect on your feelings is to have boundaries so you don’t allow shit to influence you that doesn’t serve you. If you could sit alone with yourself for one week and pay close attention to the things that hit your heart positively and negatively, I believe you would discover a new pathway to your life moving forward. Change must happen within you in order for your own life to change the world outside of you. You can’t make a difference if you aren’t being different. Keep blending in and you look no different than the other people in your community. There really is a way to live life without feeling victimized all the time. But you have to own your part first. Every person needs to reflect on themselves. Stop worrying about other people. Stop worrying about what sounds good or feels good. Do the things that don’t feel good to the body today, but that benefit your body tomorrow. Working out doesn’t always feel good but the benefits of working out are long term. Be fair and just and you will find fairness and justice.