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How To Stay Grounded in America’s Chaos”

CHRISTINA DITZEL 2 Comments

It is abundantly clear that our world and the “human race” have not only lost our way, but we have lost our ability to think and use our minds. Since covid we have become so consumed by media that we would rather become divided by things like politics and belief systems, which actually hold no real relevance when it comes to true connection. I know I am probably sound like I am going against everything I have written in the past but hear me out. Growing up in America as great. In 47 years, I have done so much and have never left this country and I have only been to a handful of states. I have stories to tell my kids and with those stories are lessons in life. I recently discovered that the things that have happened in my life are all relevant to the journey. The life I lived has made me realize, there is so much to be thankful for right now, in this moment. Even siting here on this sofa in this room writing this article. Even though I am not sure how this month’s rent and bills will be paid, I still have a moral concept that knows I have a multitude of opportunities here in America that allows me to explore my options. America was once the greatest place to be. And it still can be. But not without THE PEOPLE UNIFYING. And when I say unify, I don’t mean uniform or the same by dictating our belief systems or lifestyles to mirror one side. I mean united in our differences.

LET’S TALK FACTS

America declared war in 1942 which was known as World War II. However, the most recent war fought on actual American soil was the Civil war which ended in 1865. Now, my question is this, how many of us were even alive during 1865? Obviously! NONE OF US!!! So, the truth is, unless you grew up in a communist’s country or lived or fought in Korea, Veatnam, Afghanistan, or Iraq, (which has been bombing shit in the later 1900’s) You are basically clueless about war and what it actually looks like. In fact, many of us who went to school here in America never learned about these wars unless our parents talked about them and told us stories. The things I remember reading about in school were stories about the British war, Christopher Columbus discovering America, and oh yes, let’s not forget Black history month, where we watched movies that divided the white kids from the black kids and caused riots and gag fights. Ok, so what is my point, right? Like, girl get to the point!!!

Okay, here is my point. NOTHING HAS FUCKING CHANGED SINCE THE BEGINING OF TIME. Governments take over, religious leaders keep us in line, and the only things we have to fight against is ourselves. When in fact we are all victims of this scrutiny. We have all been hurt by our cultural and religious differences at some point. When does it end? WE “THE PEOPLE OF THE WORLD” need to come to together and fight for something that is greater. And that can only happen with CHANGE! No, I am sorry, but I am not talking about AI, technology, and robots taking over because humans have been unreliable with their feelings and greed. HERE’S A FACT CHECK “Who taught us to be greedy? GOVERNMENT, RELIGION and MEDIA! Who is media? Technology! Take these three groups away, and what do we have? Humans, being humans. Eating, drinking, building, creating, and yes THINKING WITH THEIR OWN MINDS. It’s a world without any dictatorship.

THE FREE WORLD VS DICTATORSHIP

A world without dictatorship sounds amazing, but what does that really look like? Okay, now we have to use our common sense here boys and girls! A world with no rules is a very corrupt world. WHY? Simple, “because one bad apple spoils the whole bunch”. It is very unfortunate, but it’s the TRUTH. Children need guidance and adults need rules. Just look at our world today! While Mr. Joe Biden sleeps America as we knew it lost its shit! Literally! We’ve lost land, morals and values. Years of Monuments GONE! Feel free to correct me if my research is wrong, but since 2020 (since Bidens have been in office) we have lost 84 monuments. According to the southern poverty law center, 168 Confederate symbols—including statues, institution names and plaques—were taken down in 2020. And reporters say this all started when George Floyed was murdered by a police officer. So one man’s death killed the entire society in one night. The human race as we know it has ended because it wasn’t about HUMAN RIGHTS anymore. It became about one man’s skin color. Protesting peacefully for “Black lives”, it became all about BLM, defunding the police and encouraging violence. Again, feel free to correct me if you think I am wrong, but you better come back with some facts. Meanwhile, all this happened while our lovely PRESIDENT BIDEN AND VP HARRIS were sleeping and Bidens son was committing crimes!!! This is what happens when we live with a NO RULE GOVERNMENT! Freedom to the core equals corruption taking over. Is this what a free country looks like to you? Is this what the American people want for our “UNITED COUNTRY”? I am sorry I am just confused. Free of what? All moral values and respect? How do we accept celebrating 30 days of LGBTQ++++ Month plus, LGBTQ history month in September. In March we had Transgender week. But these people are free to rip down years of history with people who fought for so these people can live in this country. I’m applaud. the truth is I personally don’t give a shit what you want to say your gender is, the hard truth is there is only 2 genders. But there are multiple cultures and multiple religions and multiples belief systems. And the truth is based on facts! This that are actual and true. Not make believe or fantasy.

TRUTH IS FACT! AND THE FACT IS THIS…

Not everyone is going to like your ideologies. Not everyone is going to see things through you Lense. Not everyone is going to like my ideologies or see through my Lense, and it’s okay. But to stand in America and say you want a free country, but then go and push your ideologies (real or fantasy) onto others is NOT AMERICAN AT ALL!!! The faster we realize the truth we each see comes from the life we’ve lived and continue to live. Freedom was in fact given by GOD (free will) and no one person. Freedom means you have the right to choose whatever the hell you want for YOU AND YOUR LIFE AND ONLY YOUR LIFE. Free will is distorted when people are not happy with their free will/AKA their own decision making. They’ve made their own life, a life of misery, and misery loves company. So, what do we have? Miserable people cause havoc with lies and manipulation to get others to join in on their ideologies. They need justification for their ideologies. And so every time you make excuses for these people you become a group and then you name your group based on your ideas. Like BLM and LGBTQ++ to name a few. So, you see, the real issues that occur in life, happen when these groups realize their ideologies are coming from a false narrative and no matter how many followers they gain, they’re still unhappy and miserable because it is outside of what was meant to be GODS WILL For each and every one of us to choose for ourselves.

IN CONSLUSION

So, the moral of the story is this, our world has been corrupted since the beginning of time. It started with Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden. The story says there were two people in a perfect world, but they still allowed corruption into their lives. We are all born into a world we didn’t choose, into a family we didn’t choose, and yet we are still given a mind that allows us to know we have choices to make. The kicker is that those choices have consequences we have to live with. We can’t spend our lives blaming others. Pointing the finger at our founding fathers or the government or even media. Because we each have a choice. We can choose to turn off the screens. We can choose to speak up or remain silence. Women can take the intuitive to learn how to defend themselves or continue to be victims. But the TRUTH/FACT is we each have the freedom to choose what we stand for and what we won’t stand for. Anyone can tell you not to wake up and go to work but you have a choice.

We are all flawed humans. We should all live in a way that is mindful of our differences. No one person is perfect by themselves, but joined together we can create perfection. A blind man can travel with just a stick, but wouldn’t he be safer in the jungle if he was with a man who could see? And what if a 3rd man joined them that was trained to tame lions and bears? Wouldn’t they be able to travel further? I know some of you may not believe in a God or a Supreme being so maybe you don’t believe that we have a piece a of perfection because perfection created all of us. But just take a beat to look up and look around sometime. All those buildings you see, the Restaurants you eat in, the hotels you stay in, the vacations to beautiful places, the cars you drive; these places and things were not built by one man, but by many men putting their skills and talents together. Do you think they were worried about their sexual preferences or their political stance? NO! They understood one thing. Perfection created us so together we can create perfection. We just have to CHOOSE! Choose to get past our differences and discover our strengths and weaknesses. Without judging each other’s. Knowing there will always be someone else out there to strengthen our weakest areas, is what should give us hope for better results and a better future. Not just for ourselves, but for all of us. Even in a corrupt world, we can create peace- starting within ourselves. When we choose unity over divisions, mindfulness over judgment, and compassion over fear, we become grounded no matter what’s happening around us. The only way forward is not through more noise, but trhough inner strength and collective harmony. Thats how we thrive-even in a broken world.

Note: (This is not a stance on open borders or immigration acceptance. I believe we need closed boarders and people need to be Documented to come into America. The freedom I speak about in this article is for individuals in every nation, in every and any race, religion, and group to realize their personal decisions affects those in the world around them. The Lense we look through is from the influence we’ve had from others. So, knowing that, we should be mindful of how we choose to influence others)

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This Generation of Memorization Lacks Feeling and Emotion

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“Your life consists of using your small little brains to compute and hold information just long enough to pass the tests of society so they can get what they want from you”

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IS THE REFLECTION YOU SEE YOUR OWN OR THE ONE SOCIETY IS PLANTING?

As a little girl I always struggled to learn in school. I loved lectures but hated reading material. I could sit in a classroom for an hour, read the chapters we were told to read, but I never remember what I just read. I felt stupid! I felt like it was so easy for everyone else but for me, I just couldn’t keep up. I went to special Ed Classes and still struggled to learn and keep up. Teachers told my mom that I was smart, but I was lazy. Truth is, I was never a lazy person, but I was always bored! School completely bored me, and I felt it lacked emotion from the people who were being paid to teach me. And unlike today’s generation, if I complained about a teacher, I would be the one reaping consequences. After years of attending tons of college courses, signing up for multiple programs, certifications, and attending way too many teacher parent conferences, I can tell you that it was never me who lacked the ability to learn. It was the fact that people lack emotion and humility for those they are communicating with.  

I hate this generation with all my being, and I pray that God gives me a humble heart to allow for people’s ignorance. I’ve learned too late in life, that the problem was not really me who couldn’t learn; it was how teachers taught and scholarly people were creating curriculum. I realized politics entered our education system from the very beginning and it has never been done for the good of the children or for the good of the people’s future. Our society lacks emotion and meaning behind education and always has! Although there are many articles out there on the internet of when the first school began, I can tell you this, girls were not allowed to attend school in early America. How does that work? Who and when did any one person get the right to decide what girls/women can and cannot learn? I am so sick of this division. We are ALL HUMAN BEINGS, and we should be treated as such. There should never be one person ruling over another, EVER! And Politics and religion should stay out of our education systems! It is not only causing war between families, cultures, and countries, but it is controlling and manipulative behavior. Since everyone’s views and beliefs are different and we can’t seem to get into alignment or agreement on any of those topics, they should not be allowed to dictate our individual future!

As children go to school, they are expected to pass tests to move forward. This logic is flawed! Tests that were created by one specific group of scholarly people who have political opinions and religious beliefs of their own. We get older and go to college as young men and women and we do the same thing. Listening to opinions and voices of everyone else. We assume or believe these people to be smarter and wiser than us because education says, “they are expected to be smart due to passing the test that gives them that printable paper degree”. We trust these people to give us knowledge so we can go on into careers with the knowledge we need to build the life we want. Right? WRONG!!! We all want the “American Dream”! While everyone’s dream is different, memorizing the material, passing the tests and then, and only then will we be allowed to move forward.  

Isn’t this how life has become? We are always chasing dreams and forced to pass someone else’s tests and if we fail their expectations we get held back! This society has become “live walking computers”! They push all the buttons they want, and we respond to whichever trigger they pull! No one has a mind of their own anymore and people are killing themselves because they feel lost, confused, and they don’t really fit in. Not fitting in and blending into everyone else’s bubble and beliefs is the New Age American Dream! One dream I for one don’t really care to invest in! Is the current reflection you see your own, or the one society is planting?

Turn off the noise and listen to the still small voice inside you

You may think you’re so great for being able to memorize test questions that may get you that job or promotion, but you lack something very important, “common freaking sense!”. And that my friend is having good judgment when dealing with others, and practicality to humble yourself in certain situations. This generation of memorization lacks emotions, humility, and kindness for all humans! And for this reason, I think we are headed for destruction if we don’t get a handle on it NOW! It has not only rubbed off on all generations now, but this mentality of memorizing material has moved into politics, our education systems, our medical fields, and even our churches! People don’t feel the need or desire to use their actual mind and physical being to learn from each other or take in new information. No! Instead, they use their small little brains to compute and hold information just long enough to pass the tests of society so they can get what they want from you. Fools do the speech that gets the views and likes, or they just cheat the system and buy them. Fools lead the conference that will get them the promotion and more money, but they leave the meeting and when asked questions they don’t remember what they just said. None of these fools know passion or kindness, and do you know why? Simple, because computers don’t care about people! “IT” only cares about algorithms, procedures, and systems. The noise you people listen to holds you back from your full potential. When you turn off the noise your desire for worldly things will diminish, your priorities will change, and your soul will sing with passion! Listen to that still small voice nudging at your soul.

Get your Passion and Priorities straight

Your memorizing lacks feeling and emotion and you’re only cheating yourselves. The medical field for example has many educated professionals. Nurses and doctors must go through extensive testing to get their high paying positions. I too have attempted the medical field and I can tell you that these students cheat and feel under pressure to pass tests! The passion is lost in school, and because the tests became the priority instead of saving a life, the medical field fails. You’ve lost your passion for people because the tests of life became your priority.

So, how can we get our passion back after we’ve lost our priorities? Here is where common sense comes in, “FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU PRIORITIZE AND WHY”! Figure out what you want in life. And not what google says you want! We all know money, fame, and fortune doesn’t freaking make us happy! Just look at all the millionaires, celebrities, and people from all walks of life killing themselves every day! Love and relationships can’t make you happy long term either! People change as fast as technology, so don’t depend on your current relationship to stay passionate; it won’t last long! Nothing in this world last because it’s constantly changing, and people change with it.

Truth is, while you change with this world, you’re constantly feel like you’re living outside of your own element. Do you ever wonder why that is? Easy, because you are just following everyone else’s priorities instead of chasing your own passions! The chase and eagerness for life is lost outside of you because you stopped connecting to your own truth and your own emotions. You feel lack because you don’t fit into the program’s society is creating for you. You need to create your own program! Chase your passions and your priorities will become straight.

What is your Passion

Passions are not material things of this world; passion is the feeling of emotions you honestly internalize within yourself. It comes from your perceptions of this world. The things you like or dislike, the things that are true to you but maybe not so true to others. The things you want to change and the things you want to bring attention to. It’s giving life to someone who feels death upon themselves and it’s creating something that makes them feel happy or inspired in that darkness. Passion is being connected to God and living in purpose beyond your own understanding. It’s a feeling of beauty but a sense of peace in all you do and all you see. It’s embracing the unknown experiences and being excited about the unexpected. Don’t be predictable! The world is predictable, but you are special. You are being called for something greater. Embrace it! Don’t fear that nudge in your chest because the world doesn’t have the common sense to see you. That nudge you feel in your heart is God calling you. You are being called for more than just a mediocre life that memorizes content, material, and procedures. Don’t be a computer that the world programs, be a human that tests the programs and explores life beyond it. Override your mental capacity by embracing your feelings and emotions. Thrive to care about the people who live in this world, but don’t just exist to force people to become computers who do what you expect.

I write because I don’t want people to feel stuck in life failing the tests of the world. Feeling like a failure is never fun! I know this because I’ve lived there. Following the rules of the people I allowed into my life feeling emotionless and lack. It’s my passion to help others discover themselves through a new lens because my priorities are not focused on gaining the things of this world. I want you to constantly be moving forward, so you can discover new priorities through your passions. By doing so you will show the world that feelings and emotions matter more than just passing the worlds tests. Our world was never created for one person to rule over another. We are not computers and we have been given the gift of FREE WILL! We were created to build a kingdom that looks like heaven on earth filled with people who love each other, not live in war with one another.

“SHE WENT THROUGH PAIN, REJECTION, AND ABUSE THAN SHE LEARN TO LOVE HERSELF & LOVE OTHERS, SO THAT THEY COULD LEARN HOW TO LOVE THEMSELVES AND POUR OUT MORE LOVE CAUSING A RIPPLE EFFECT OF BLESSINGS INTO A BROKEN WORLD”

How to Live a Happier More Successful Life

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“There is no Thing that can make you happy

and

There is no Person that can make you complete”

Christina Ditzel

Mindfulness and Clarity is essential to success and happiness. The issue is not the circumstance you’re in, but the self-awareness you have daily, and the mindset you have, about your circumstances. We as humans struggle to really understand what happiness even is, because we are unaware of our spiritual self. We think happiness is gaining more success and we think success is gaining more material things. Like finding better relationships, a better job, a nicer house, cars, etc. But the truth is, people, places, or things will never make you happy. If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I say this often! “You can’t find happiness in people, places or things”! If you keep your focus on things in the “physical world”, you will always be seeking for physical satisfaction. I don’t mean to disappoint my readers, but there is no happiness in such entities. True happiness comes from within, and success is a mindset full of clarity! Noting is achievable without the believe system that is can be done! We need to ponder on our awareness in order to bring joy to our heart and soul. If you believe something to the very core of your soul, then you will do what it takes to achieve that goal! Truth is, you just have to go get it!

 Since we were young, we’ve been told, “go to school, get good grades, go to college, get married and then have kids and grand-kids”. Well, is that it? Is that our whole purpose in life?  I can’t believe that is the reason for this life! Some want to travel the world, others want more money, a better car, a bigger house, the best job, the smartest kids, etc. I can’t believe that is it! I just can’t believe that we work and toil until we face death! To me that is life without purpose. It is a spirit that lives in the flesh, walking dead on earth. That is not who I am!

In today’s world, media has taken over, and always has something new to catch our attention! So, it is inevitable that we chase for the next best “thing”, rather than a joyful and happy “self”, or inner happiness. We always seek outward pleasures to make us happy. Until we realize they don’t! Eventually, it leaves us in a depressed state and always on the hunt, not knowing what success or happiness even means. But what if we became more aware of what we allow media to feed into us? What if we became more aware of our self as a spirit walking this world to experience it? But what if we decided to “Instead of allowing the world to experience us, we walked knowing it was an experience for us”? What if we took what we learned and utilized it to help others find their own way and helping them to stop following in the foot steps of everyone else who came before us? That is why I write these articles on clarity! Because I’ve learned the power of clarity and I just want to offer a sort of, guide, so everyone who comes here can learn, grow, and share their own way. And maybe together we can live happier, healthier, more successful lives together in a community that knows we’re are “better together”!

I have become so focused on “getting more” and “being more”, and I realized living like that, we lose the true desire of our own hearts. and we never take the time to see the light that shines the path to true happiness and true sucess. In some cases, we can get so greedy that we live our lives dimming everyone’s light afraid they might dim ours. Or we live as if we need to be better than the next person, graduate at the top of our class, and compete with everyone for the top positions and end up alone, without any options. we end up living in fight or flight mode in every area of our life and that is never a good place to be. Why are we in constant competition with one another, instead of being in unity with others? Has it become a new belief system, that division will bring us happiness?

We have been programmed to think this way since the day our ancestors were born. We’ve been raised to be competitive with everything we think, say, and do Since Covid and 2020 politicians have divided us. Even the church and the bible divide us. We compete with our friends, family, and acquaintances, rather than rejoicing and loving them. How can that kind of living ever feel good? How can living in competition with the people and things we are supposed to love, ever really feel good? Well, it doesn’t! And if we continue with this trend, we will never find true happiness in our lives. We must stop living not feeling good enough and trying to be better than everyone else. But how do we do that?

How do we get clarity for a happy and successful life?

First, tangibles are not the answer! So, just get that out of your head so you can stop searching for the “next best thing” now. There is no THING that will make you happy! And there is no person that will make you complete. Second, this journey we are on is short lived, so we must make the most of it and enjoy it while it lasts. If you’re one of the lucky ones, by the end of your road, you will be so happy within, and aware of the core nature of your spirit, that you will not think about this material world as a place to “Gain a life”, but you will begin to experience this world as a beautiful soul that is here “Exploring this life”. You must first focus on yourself, your passions, and the thing that starts a fire in your soul! What are you passionate about?

We should strive to live a life that “gives and receives love” and the only way to do that is to live in a sense if feeling love and lived. A life that offers pure joy in just being your true essence. We should never try to strive for everyone else’s dreams or hate others for their success, but we should strive for a mind and spirit of our own dreams! Living in this beautiful place, and being able to explore wherever, and whatever we desire, should be exciting! We should never feel limited or lack in any area of life. That is not the point of this journey. I really believe that! When you realize material things won’t ever make you happy, and you accept that you are not promised tomorrow, you begin to live life like it is your last day, every day. And you appreciate all the things, good and bad that come your way. Because good or bad, you are moving forward through more experiences of this life.

When you live life happy within, you’re able to do the things you love without stress. You get to spend time with the people who make you the happiest, without drama. When you allow yourself to enjoy life, you want to help those you pass along the way. You want everyone to enjoy their journey because you are enjoying the journey.  You live in worry because you don’t allow yourself to get to know your inner being and purpose here, and you don’t enjoy the journey your on. Instead you follow the worlds advice and ideas and you stay in a mental state that says “your different and you don’t belong”. But the truth is, you are different and that is why you do belong!!! Embrace yourself with out the fear of what others think about you. The things that make you different are the things that make you special! When your spirit shines its light, you will sour like an eagle in the sky, and those that that have a spirit to look up and see you with acceptance. And those are the ones you will call your tribe. Those are the ones you need to zoom in on.

 If you really feel like your world is upside down, start over! Start with getting peace in your own heart. That means thinking of “ALL things as good”. You can’t have happiness if your mind is in a frantic state all the time. Recognize the things that come into your life to help move you forward. You might not like it all the time but if it is going to move you forward, just take the leap and do it! If you ever want to find true happiness, you must get clarity of your current situation, and see life through a totally different lens.

I can offer you my book, “Hot mess to totally blessed”, I talk a lot about getting “clarity” by cleaning out your physical world, and your psychological world. I can give you exercise after exercise, and advice after advice, but at the end of the day if you don’t do anything, my book won’t help. In fact nothing and no one can help you. Listen, I lost my relationships, my kids, my car, my job, and everything in my physical world. I had to start my life over at 38 years old with NOTHING. Trust me it sucked. But I did it! I made a decision to do something and I did it! And so can you! You are worth it! In my book I have exercises that can help you gain clarity in your situation, and each chapter gradually goes deeper for your self-growth. Some of the things I talk about are:

  1. Clearing out some of the junk that is cluttering your focus
  2. Eliminate people and places that are holding you back.
  3. How to reduce stress levels
  4. Slowing down your physical world
  5. Being a better parent
  6. Embracing and facing our mess head on
  7. Dating yourself
  8. And so much more!

Listen, the actions you take TODAY, determine your circumstances for tomorrow. To love yourself enough to live a happier lifestyle means “getting rid of anything toxic in life” and getting the knowledge, wisdom and guidance you need to move you forward into your abundant life. I call this “Living Organically”. Organic is not just expensive food, trust me! It is a life without anything toxic, bad or harmful. Yes, the food you eat is important for your body which you need energy and stimulate the brain with mindfulness. So, the food you eat matters. Yes! But it is also the job and environments you are surrounded with, the relationships you encounter, the information you allow into your brain, and so much more.

So, I wrote the book to help others find their own abundance and I can only suggest the book but if you don’t do the things in it to transform your life, nothing will change in your life. I can also ask that you stay engaged with me and this new community that I am building, but at the end of the day, you need to be the one to take the action. I don’t want to leave you empty handed today, so I will leave you a simple project below to get you started with the actions you can take right now to find YOUR HAPPY AND ABUNDANT LIFE tomorrow.

In the meantime, don’t worry about other people, don’t worry about the places you have to go or don’t want to go to, and don’t worry about the things you don’t have. Know deep down to your core that “YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED” right now. YOU are everything you need. Listen, if you don’t get right in your head and in your own spirit, you won’t be giving yourself a fighting chance at a happy and abundant life. You must know what happiness is “TO YOU” and not what it means to everyone else. In order to receive happiness for yourself, you have to acknowledge it for yourself, or the worry, stress, addictions, and struggles will never go away. If you don’t DO YOU, you will always feel and be in lack. Please get this! You are important and you matter. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.

Here is the project:

If you get anything out of this article, I hope you get clarity of YOUR “1%”. Because that is the only portion you need to be focused on. Zoom out, see the entire world that surrounds you right now, from a 30k foot view. But remember to zoom back in and focus only on the 1% that holds value to YOU! The rest doesn’t matter because it belongs to someone else’s 1%.  Join a community that will journey through life with you (not against you) and explore your true essence and self-worth. Ask yourself these questions now.

Shine your light!

Much love Author Christina Ditzel xo

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HOW TO BE MINDFUL IN THE MESS

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BEING MINDFUL IN THE MESS

Are you being mindful in the mess? Or are you letting your mind and body’s past experiences and trauma guide you through life? So, you already probably know that you have millions of memory programs running inside your head from past experience, to things you were taught, things you learned and unlearned, all the way down to things you said and did. As you read this article, your brain is memorizing and working to remind you of things you already know, from things you’ve heard before, to the very things you didn’t know or never learned. It is all in your memory bank. Even the things you think you forgot, it is still there, sitting in your subconscious mind.

This is why you can smell something or taste food and remember something from your childhood or have a memory of a specific moment in time. Your mind is extremely powerful! So, are you really being mindful? Are you aware of your own thoughts, feelings and actions? Or, are you just running on routine and habits that your memory already has stored? I know I am getting a little deep here with the whole thinking thing, sorry about that. But, in order to be “mindful in the mess” I am about to make you “think of thinking” and it might hurt a little.

Did you know “your Thoughts control your Emotions, and your emotions control your actions”? Think about that for a minute……Your thoughts become emotions and then you act based on your feelings. Am I right? So, what are you thinking about, (finances, work, finding love, wanting more, meeting deadlines, all your needs, all your wants, etc.)? For the majority of your day what are you thinking about? What do you think about the minute you wake up and open your eyes? Do you reach for your phone, then go to the bathroom, then go make a pot of coffee, still checking social media, etc.??? You’re not really thinking of doing these things you are just doing it. You’re doing it out of habit! Am I about on point here so far?

So, right about now you’re “thinking of thinking” which is probably beginning to get frustrating, but that is good. You are literally about to teach your brain that your “mindfulness” is in control instead of your brain being in control of you. Okay, so, when I asked you what you think of when you open your eyes in the morning, what was your thought? …..

That thought determines how you will act moving forward, if you are not mindful of controlling the feeling that emotion gives you. And every thought there after will control how you act and react the rest of your day. Unless, you are “MIND-FULL” of your thoughts. Here is an idea:

Write these questions down and answer them for yourself:

1.     What are you seeing and doing the second you wake up in the morning?

2.     What is the first thing you think of when you wake up?

3.     What are you putting in your body first thing in the morning? (cold wakes up the brain)

4.     What are you physically doing to wake your body up? (exercise, meditating etc.)

5.  How do you feel mentally, physically and emotionally before you leave the house?

6.  Are you prepared to take on your day with a positive outlook?

Self-awareness

If you want the mess to dissipate in your world, you have to be self-aware of what your attracting to your world. The challenge of doing everything from “habit” is that you are not “aware” of your thoughts, feelings and actions. Therefore, you’re not allowing yourself to learn anything new to be able to change the old from happening. Hence, you continue to do the same things over and over, year after year, trying to get different results….”INSANITY” right? 

So, “How” You ask? How do you find mindfulness in the midst of the mess? Well think of this, if you are waking up each morning thinking of the mess at the office, at home, in your relationships or in your life, what emotions are you carrying around with you all day? Are they positive thoughts? Or are they negative and toxic thoughts? Are they filling you with purpose or are they bogging you down with stress, anxiety and worry? Furthermore, if you are carrying all these emotions with you around all day, what attitude are expressing to everyone else?

We often get so caught up in blaming everyone else and everything else for our chaos, that we never look inward. The fact is, you carry yourself around with you everywhere you go and until you become mindful of your own “thoughts, feelings and action” your reality will never change. You will continue to live the same life your living with no feeling of purpose, always chasing the next best thing. So, are you really performing at “your” best? Are you giving yourself the best opportunity’s in life? Are you showing the world the “best version of you”?  Or are you letting the world around you and the people in it dictate your character and lifestyle? Today, I share with you, my list of things that I had to learn to find my true purpose and blessings in life. I hope they help you find the inner you without the mess, so you can be blessed too.

Breaking habits

  1. Stop doing the same things you’ve always done. Embrace change.
  2. Who are the people, places, and things that influence your everyday life and character?
  3. “Be mindful and Get Clarity” of your own environments (personally and professionally).
  4.  Are the people, places and things in your life “stepping stones or a stumbling block”?
  5. Stop thinking, feeling and acting the way other people want or expect you to.
  6. Stop feeling emotions based on fear of change and learn something new.
  7. Most important on my list is to be your unique self and embrace change and express new characteristics.

Be mindful of the thoughts, feelings and emotions you entertain today. In the mess of things sometimes we allow our past thoughts, emotions and actions to take over. Rather, find an awareness today that not only change your perspective, but changes your entire outlook in all areas of your life. You have to “welcome change”. Transformation can only happen with change.

I am all too familiar with the “Hot mess of life”. I know where there is chaos, finding order (“thinking”), is nearly impossible. I also understand that doing what is “different” feels very uncomfortable. But only for a little while. Building your own brand is being different, bringing change and transforming from old to new. So, to break it all down for you ….

How to be mindful in the mess

  1. Ask yourself those five questions above each morning.
  2. Take from my list of breaking habits or make your own list and read them each morning and every night to reflect change.
  3. Change your mindset first thing in the morning and each night before you go to sleep
  4. Be aware of the people, places, and things that influence your thoughts (your thoughts control your emotions and your emotions control your actions)

“be transformed by the renewing of your mind”

Romans 12:2

C Love xo