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CHASING WISDOM

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LIFE REPRESENTS DIFFERENT WHEN YOU CHASE WISDOM

For centuries religion and politics has kept us divided and at war with one another. So why than, do we continue to follow the fools who lead us to destruction year after year, and century after century? When will mankind seek wisdom for themselves so we can all live together in peace? Life! It is so difficult and has some real challenging moments. And yes, life also has many mountains to climb, but it doesn’t have to be so complicated. There will always be another fire to put out, another illness to overcome, another loss of a loved one, and another storm to clean up after, but we don’t have to burden our hearts with the heavy burden of things we can’t explain or change.

Life is complicated because people complicate it. We complicate our own life, and we complicate each other! Every time we lack wisdom and understanding, we do things that complicate our own life and the people in it. We have so much judgment and way too many opinions. Why are humans so desperate for attention and so rude when life doesn’t meet their expectations? We speak about things we know nothing about, and we have high expectations with little or no sense of purpose. When did we become so impatient? We need to take time to observe and learn in each season of life.

Let me start by saying this, all that chasing your doing, is meaningless!  Chasing “Money, fame, and power will NEVER buy you happiness, love, or intelligence!” You may experience these things temporarily but nothing in this world brings permanent joy. But for the sake of this blog let’s say it did! What then? If you had all the money, all the fame, and all the power in the world and you were happy, in love and you had achieved all the knowledge you could ever gain in the world, what would be left for your life tomorrow?

And who is to say what makes you happy and content today, is going to be enough to keep the person you fell in love with, happy tomorrow? Or furthermore, who’s to say the people who follow you (making you famous and rich) are going to agree with you in the next season of their life? They may end up committing suicide because the things you say or do are not in alignment with how they feel or believe internally. As a result, you end up making them feel unhappy, unloved, and lacking wisdom. What then? How can we have personal gain that doesn’t align with the ones we love? Truth is, when you lose one thing it leaves you wanting something more! What is it you are really chasing in this world? And when will enough be enough?

ENOUGH IS NEVER ENOUGH

It seems like people are never satisfied. Life has gotten so complicated, and people are living foolishly. They have no sense of time, no self-control, and they lack eagerness for wisdom! Oh, for those that think their smart, umm, I say this as gently as possible, “smart is not equal to wise my friend”! To live and walk-through life with a “just passing through” attitude, you lose time and miss so many important things that are right there for you to see, feel, touch, learn, and experience. When we go through life with no regard for the way we are living it, (with our words, our actions, how we treat others, our expectations, our choices, etc.) it’s such a sadness. We wreck ourselves and don’t even realize it as we run full force into danger zones, year after year.

What if, you could see life through a lens of “enough”! Enough will only be enough when you chase something that has true meaning to you. And nothing in life has any meaning if the world around you can change the perspective on it. Life only has meaning when it comes with wisdom. But how do we find meaning in life and get wisdom? It didn’t take me very long to realize wisdom was just truth in “Gods Words to me”. In All my mess, behind all my tears, and at the edge of a breakdown, screaming and yelling at God, (who was always with me through all my crap), I had to trust “I was never alone” and then I had to trust in His timing. I had to realize that in my time of waiting for him, I had to sit and be silent. That doesn’t mean I am not doing anything. I am always observing and learning while I wait.

When I decided to just sit quiet and get alone with myself, my own thoughts, my own anger, and all my pain and confusion; I found strength in His Words and in the promises, I heard in those words. In truth, I realized there is goodness in every light and every dark road I have traveled down. Every mountain I had to climb, every fire I had to put out, and every loss in life, there was Wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to understand life through Gods perspective. The reason I trust the Bible is because it is filled with different authors who encourage us throughout our walk-in life. Solomon is one who inspires us to get wisdom!

Those who get wisdom love life; It’s better to get wisdom than gold. Those who get wisdom find life and receive favor from God…”

Those are just a few versus. But he encourages us to chase knowledge and not this life. If we chase life, we will always be fighting our own battles without understanding. Which leads us to make decisions based on our own understanding and we continue making the same bad choices year after year. If we keep our mind open and listen to the words, we become disciplined and discover an understanding in every season. To become wide means you don’t hate discipline and hold yourself accountable to do the things that are difficult. This my friend is priceless and leads you to freedom!

If we go through life never having enough, let us chase Wisdom! We can never have enough wisdom and you are never too smart, or too old to get more understanding. Wisdom means we gain something at the beginning, in the middle, and at the end of every season of life. And if your wise enough to clear off your lens, you will discover wisdom every second of every hour, and every day of your life. Life won’t just be filled with seasons of tragedy; it will be filled with experiences that bring insight! You will always take something with you and that something can never be lost, stolen, or taken away. Because it comes in a package that is irreplaceable. Inside your mind, body, and soul.

Whatever people, power, and material things bring you pleasure in this moment, I promise that pleasure won’t last long. So, get wisdom and you will live a long, happy journey you can be excited to explore. Don’t waste time chasing fools in this life who don’t know you or what you’re capable of! Understanding is for the Wise, not the simple minded! Don’t follow people who limit their own worth by chasing a life today, which holds no value tomorrow.

HAPPINESS DEPENDS ON YOUR PERSPECTIVE AND RESILIENCE

What is your perspective, and do you have the resilience to handle adversity in the next year? Did you know your soul gets weaker every time you look through someone else’s lens? Especially if it’s foggy, uncomfortable, and doesn’t speak to you! Your stability is in your perspective, sometimes you just have-to trust in your own discernment and believe that everything in life is moving you forward. When we get lazy because we don’t see instant results, we’ve failed before, or our perspective gets tainted by unexpected tragedy’s, we live curiously and foolishly through the lens of others. We lose so much time and knowledge when we depend on other people’s perspective instead of Gods Word. Some of you may believe this, others may not, but my belief is that God created us each unique with a different perspective, and He did that on purpose!

When you embrace the thing that makes you different, you will discover wisdom behind your own perspective! You just need to shut off all the noise!

Weakness comes when we’ve failed too many times, and we no longer trust in our own skills and talents. I get it, we need immediate results in all we do, or we think we are unworthy. Some of us on spiritual journeys think we are not loved by God because of our mistakes. Others believe He is just not listening. Some of us may not even believe in a higher power, at all! While others believe in many Gods. Sometimes, we do things in life based on our own understand, which comes from other people and their opinions about us. Sometimes we deceive ourselves by adopting other people’s beliefs which inevitably make our situations worse. But what if we decided to chase wisdom above all things in this world? What if we started listening, and keeping track of the disciplines that life offers to give us wisdom?

What if life is happening exactly the way it was supposed to, because you still need wisdom to handle the things that are waiting for you on the other side? How many times have you said, “Thank God I went with my gut and didn’t go there? How many times did you take someone’s advice and realize it was a bad idea? But still, we try to do things without thinking or listening to the influences and voices around us. We push time and rush things because we are so impatient! When we sit still and quiet the noise, life will give us wisdom. By teaching us something new in every minute of every moment, we discover happiness in all of it. But if we don’t take the time to get Wisdom, we never increase our resilience in this world. So, hold on a little longer and chase wisdom in this moment!

HOLD ON A LITTLE LONGER

What if you held on a little longer? What if the difference between your happiness and failures is somewhere in between your perspective and your ability to sit still this season?  How many times have you overcome what others thought you couldn’t? How many times have you surprised yourself? How many times were you happy you embraced your intuition and made a new discovery in the unknown? If you know that you have experienced a time in life where you had a breakthrough before, who is has any say in what you are or are not capable of in this next season? You don’t know what you’re capable of, so don’t let others assume they know what your capable of! Don’t make decisions this year based on the seeds other people planted in you. If in doubt, I promise all your answers are somewhere in-between Wisdom and your uniqueness. What if this season you didn’t give up and instead, decided to get quiet and chase wisdom?

Okay, what I am about to say to you may be even more difficult to understand but stick with me for a moment! Try to hear my words! I promise at some point in my life, I have been where you are! Searching for answers, seeking for something more, and stumbling through life season after season. What if this season you did something different? What if you sat quiet with yourself and did something unordinary? What I am about to tell you is something that I have done before, then turned away from, and then came back to. And I can tell you this “my life has gotten easier when I came back”! I can’t tell you if this is going to feel natural for you, or how this will change your life, because I don’t know you personally. But what I can promise you is this, “you will discover a wisdom like no other person around you, and your life will change drastically and miraculously”!

Take a moment, any moment, in the morning or in the evening, when you can hide away in a room by yourself. Take that moment to look through some of the words in the Book of Proverbs. I know! I know! Churchy religious people preaching about their God! First, let’s make something clear. I am not churchy or religious. And second, I have attempted life so many ways and I can tell you that every area of my life has never been clearer then when I get instructions from the WORD! You want the key to a happy life? Get Wisdom! Seek for Wisdom! Crave Wisdom! I promise there is a God (I call it God, you call it whatever you want), who created you and He hears all your thoughts, emotions, and concerns about your life. He won’t just hear your thoughts and concerns; He will show you the answers to all your questions. They are right there in the words of the many authors who contributed to the Bible.

 I get it! So many churchy people think God speaks audibly and they mystify everything! It’s kind of annoying! But I am NOT here to dictate what you should and should not believe, I am here as a friend and a witness. And I am here as a witness to say “the bible is not a mistake”. It is full of men and women like us who stumbled through life with struggles, illnesses, pain, loss, and trauma. It’s fill with wisdom and information from people who walked side by side with a man who had enough faith to give up all the pleasures in his own life, to just be present with people who were different then him. He walked his life being a living example for us so that we could have a ‘Heaven like experience’ here on earth. This man never took advice from people, but rather gave Knowledge to the people! I have experienced a different kind of God then most. It’s personal!

I believe we were all created differently on purpose. I also believe we were created to interpret things differently, but not dispute all our differences. We were created to seek wisdom in our journey and get understanding for the things we can’t comprehend. To get Wisdom and understanding, we must allow “God”. Who always moves in silence and teaches me to do the same.

So, before you allow another distraction in your life, Hold on a little longer. Give yourself time to build strength, wisdom, and knowledge this season. Move silently forward so in the next season of life, your burdens will be light. If we want to experience a life filled with blessings and happiness, our perspective on life must be transformed. We need resilience to hold on in the unknown moments of life that offer blessings. When things get confusing, sit silently in the Word and you will see all the blessings in the wilderness. You will discover wisdom in all your experiences.

CONCLUSION

Sitting still sometimes means doing what you know brings joy to your heart but could also add value to others. What do you love doing that could result in helping someone else? Sometimes it means you need to let go and let God! There are just some things we can’t control. Do the things you can and stop doing things that distract you and burden you. To break chains means, we must stop forcing ourselves to hustle, grind, work, and chase things today that hold no real meaning tomorrow. Stop keeping busy on things that offer no value to your soul. And whatever you do, even if you do something you don’t really like, do it as if you’re doing it for God. You will find the joy in it, and your burden will become lighter, because you’re paying attention. Your survival and life depend on how well you handle adversity. You can’t handle adversity if you’re not paying attention to yourself. Your life is filled with experiences that offer you an opportunity to gain strength and wisdom! So go out and chase wisdom!

How to Gain Clarity in your Losses

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Leveling up your playing field

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First, let me start by say that leveling up your playing field means “You get to live the life you want without other people controlling any part of your belief system, your decisions, or your lifestyle. That means, we need to gain total control of our mind, our actions, our health and our finances so we can live our life with a clear vision of the life we want. Being an entrepreneur and business owner, I thought I had all that covered. Boy was I wrong!!! Let me first share with you a little back story of how I lost total control of my business, my finances and most importantly, myself worth, and then I will share how I gained clarity in all my losses

So, what brought me to this place where I feel lack and frustration was when I had a client who caught covid and did not give me the common courtesy to give me a choice!! Now don’t hear what I am not saying. I am not blaming this customer for my being here today, because we all know when we point one finger at someone else, we have three fingers pointed back at ourselves. So first we must always acknowledge that by allowing others to have control, we are enabling them. I wanted to be clear on that. So, moving on…

This particular client confirmed their appointment with me and had me arrive at their home on our usually 9:30-10am bi-weekly appointment. They confirmed and I showed up! I allowed them to have control of the situation because I depend on that income. I “needed” them. I could have just as easily walked out the door and told her to call me when she is feeling better. Let me state clearly, that when people know you “need them”, you put yourself in a very vulnerable place. Okay so continuing….

By deciding to stay and provide services for this client, it just so happens, that it caused me to further lose other work in the process. How you ask? Well, for one, I had to cancel other work as to avoid getting other clients sick. And then second, me and my daughters did end up getting sick. So that was two weeks of work gone!
Okay, so its flu season, right? So, what, I got a sore throat and had to take the day or a few days off. No big deal, right? I know your already probably thinking, “What is the point of this story? And what does it have to do with finding clarity?” But just stay with me for a moment! I get it your thinking “It’s not really a big deal” Where I reply, “Until it is a bigger deal then I thought all along!” Let me first just say that no matter what you’re going through right now, your feelings and your emotions play a huge role in your actions. And the trauma you experience will continue to add roadblocks in your actions and in your journey through life.

“Our circumstances equal our playing field, and our playing field equals our opportunity to Level up our life”!


If life has taught me anything it’s that I am not in control of other people, their thoughts or their actions. Therefore, I have no control of my (past, current or present) situation if I give control away. Funny thing is, for the last few years, I thought I was living by this quote “You can’t control other people, but you can control how you react towards other people.”

I literally teach this concept in my book, podcasts and through blogs, and here I am, stuck laying in my bed, feeling completely contradicting of everything I represent! Truth is, to me “not reacting to other people means, “Don’t’ overreact when people treat you like shit!” or “Don’t allow others to upset you when they are assholes.” And as I still believe this concept to be true, there is still an underlying issue that I didn’t even realize until I took action and signed up for Lisa Bilyeu RADCON course. She really helped me see what radical confidence really means! She lead me in a whole new direction. She took me from being unclear about my goals and my purpose in life to finding my purpose in life. She took me from being scared, doubtful, embraced, and even self shaming, to being able to take massive actions, and be “The hero of my own life”. See without the right people directing you and feeding into your soul, you can’t lose the blocks that keep you from reaching your full protentional.

By allowing my client to have control is just one example of me not having control in my life. At this point now, I am still searching right? So, digging into Lisa’s course, I then get a call from Natasha Graziano’s assistant. I’m going to be honest here and go out on a limb, I had no clue who Natasha was. I looked her up and saw she was super famous, successful and looked extremely happy and abundant! I went on a research binge to find out all that I could on this Natasha Graziano. And realized I actually just saw her a few weeks prior on an episode at Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu. I was in my awe moment because I just realized all the synchronicities that were appearing in my life. I just began to feel blessed. Even more then I already felt, if that was possible!

I spoke to an amazing women Named Maria from Natasha Graziano’s team and she convinced me to sign up for their Authority Accelerator course. If I’m going to be completely honest with myself, and with you, I was feeling a little overwhelmed and was tired of people trying to sell me on courses. However, I remembered all the things I heard in Lisa Bilyeu’s course, and I knew I had to lose the doubt and fear that was creeping in. Lisa calls this “The bitch in my head”. I literally had to tell her to “shut the hell up because I was, I was in control of my actions. I am now a ‘WOMEN OF IMPACT’ and I was taking control of my own destiny”!

I was allowing the excuses to overwhelm me. The excuse that “I still haven’t completely finished my RADCON course that I just paid for” and “I just needed a job”, thoughts like; “I am not in season, and I have limited funds coming in now” kept freaking me out and causing my stress levels to raise. They kept coming at me “not to mention, I just got a new car and have a higher car payment” the bitch in my head would not stop there…. “How are you going to pay for the roof over daughters heads?”

Then I paused for a moment when I realized my “Zen” was gone! SRA SRA SRA Telling myself (Chistina, Stop in your tracks, Realign your thoughts, and Assess your focus) In that very moment I made a decision. See, when I told a new friend about the situation with my client who totally disrespected me, he just reminded me that, I allowed another person to control me by not removing myself completely from the situation! They controlled my health, my business, my schedule, and my finances. And all because I allowed them to do so! See, I thought by ignoring the situation, that meant I was being the bigger person. But I was in fact, enabling people to continue to devalue me, shoot me and my character down, and preventing myself from making radical moves into my purpose driven life. I had no clarity because the Lenz I was looking through, was not my own.

Gain Clarity in Your Losses!

Like many people who have lost their businesses from this pandemic, it’s become exhausting to even hear the word “COVID”! It’s going on three years at this time, and I’m just drained! This pandemic is sucking the life out of us! The politics and inflation are killing us! And the struggle and stress are physically killing us every single day! So, what now? 2022 is here and halfway throght the year already! It’s time to move on! It is time to see life through a new Lenz! A ZEN LENZ! It is time find clarity so you can life blessed in your mess, love the journey, and feel abundant in all areas of life! but how? How do we get clarity of the mind and becone grounded and understand how we find our true purpose? Well, I will tell you. “By taking RADICAL ACTIONS THAT OFFER RADICAL RESULTS!”

See, the day maria contacted me to join the authority accelerator course, I am not going to lie. everything in my being said “Say thank you for the opportunity and hang the dam phone up!!” But that day I did something different! I told myself “Com ‘on Christina make a new choice!!! Stop talking about it an be about” I told myself all the things I’ve been saying in these blogs, and in my book. And I didn’t know what was about to happen, but I did know one thing was for sure, I knew I did not want to be a hypocrite or live life contrary to my beliefs. Let me just say CLARITY IS POWER! And this just became my new motivator to pursue multiple sources of income that no government, no pandemic, and not one single person can control. And do you know why? Because its only in my mind, its in my thoughts, its in my words and its in my actions. And no one in this world, not even the negative bitch in my head, can play the role of Ms. Christina Ditzel.

See as I was saying in the beginning of this article, sometimes, we must level up our playing field, so we can have clarity to know how to gain total control of our life! If we are not learning, planning, strategizing, and consistently making choices that benefit our own life, we are not living our life at all! Take Control of your life so others can’t control you!!

I am always learning new ways to overcome adversity and get clarity. But it wasn’t until I took drastic steps to do things that scared me, and helped me, to find my way out of all the fog. My hope is that by sharing my experiences, you can avoid making some (or all) of the mistakes I made along the way. Don’t waste any more time doing the things that hold no value in your life and add no meaning to your future. So, the next time you find yourself in a situation where someone else is controlling any part of your life, look inward first. You have to reflect that negative situation back onto yourself first. Unfortunately, this is the only way to begin to find the clarity needed to rise above it. Ugh, realizing this was so empowering and gave me such an “aah’ ha’! ” Moment of relief, that I became excited for life in a childlike way.

Embrace the unknown with Confidence

Yes, I was uncomfortable to step out into the unknown, but I am beaming with excitement for the unexpected things that are going to happen! Look, we always have a choice. It may not be the easiest or maybe it’s not the most practical alternative, but we always have an opportunity to choose other options that benefit us! Which is why you need to “embrace the unknown with confidence”! Now this does not mean, we should continue to make bad choices and it doesn’t mean we should stop making choices at all! Not making any choices good or bad just keeps up in limbo. It keeps us stuck and prevents us from moving forward. Wasting time, we can never get back! I’m taking about acknowledging that you struggle to make decisions that will benefit you, more than they benefit others. I have done this for years in my businesses, in my family, in my relationships, and I find that it becomes a habit! But the thing about a habit, is that it can be learned, and it can be unlearned just as well!

Embracing the unknown with confidence, means, you get to enter new experiences that you know to need and want for yourself. It means you are making a decision to do something for yourself, that will benefit you now, which will benefit others later. I talk a little deeper on this in my article “Life’s Ripple effect Revealed”. Or you can check out my article on “Why do I stay” to find out more about my story, the abuse I have overcome and how i got to this abundant place in my life that offeres so opportuny and experiences.

I just want to leave you with one last thought. What if you decided today to Stop allowing others to control you? What if you had enough confidence to make some really difficult choices that would benefit your life tomorrow? What if you knew what actions you could take to get you one step closer to the life you truly desire? If you knew you could take just one small action toward your desires and see an immediate result, would you follow up that decision with Radical Confidence? Because I know the fear of stepping out into the unknown! I did it! And here I am still doing it with full confidence! I am on this amazing journey full of opportunities. If you need proof, I got you! I decided to document my journey through and to success and purpose. To get tips, resources, and information on cleansing, clarity, security and abundance reach out to your EPIC MUSE here.