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How to Create an Amazing Life for Your Children in America’s Chaos

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THE QUESTION IN MY INBOX THAT BROKE MY HEART

My 8-year-old son touched my 5-year-old daughter inappropriately. How should I address this?

See this is when we have to ask ourselves “What did my kid witness or what did my kid feel that they react in this way?” In other words, was your child touched or witness someone being touched?

Can I just say, some of you so called “parents” may think you’re being sneaky hiding under the blankets, but your kids know what is going on. They are not as stupid or naive as you may think. And they hear the noises in the bedroom or bathroom and know what that is too!

We have to be very careful as parents how we act, who we hang around, what we watch, what we say, how we speak, etc. When you are a parent, you can’t just act, speak, dress, and be any way you want. You have to have some standards and morals of your own. Lead by example.

With that said, have you ever talked to your kid about his personal space (aka “private parts”). It’s called the “NO NO ZONE” Unfortunately we have to have these conversations at a younger age. I was asking questions and teaching my girls as young as 3 & 4. When you are having play time, “tickle time” for example, is a perfect opportunity to introduce your child to areas that are “NOT to be tickled!”

Why this generation struggles to teach these concepts blows my mind. Especially with the internet in our faces! If you don’t start teaching your kids young (Like 3–5) they will become adults one day with serious issues. Which is the result of the world you live in right now. In fact, it will be worse because you will have AI teaching and preaching.

These machines learn from human behavior and if humans keep acting with no mindfulness these machines will eventually be controlled by psychopaths who will manipulate the children and the adults. It’s already happening! We live in a crazy world and if you are a parent, you must uphold yourself in a manner that displays qualities of a PARENT. “A very responsible adult that a child can trust, respect, lean on, learn from, and feel loved by”.

To flourish in this life a child needs proper guidance from an adult that has some common sense and wisdom. If they think love is “daddy getting a piece of ass every night”, (hearing that kind of language and seeing that kind of disrespectful behavior) then …well, you do the math! How do you think that kid is going to view love as an adult?

Can I also add, mothers who raise boys need to really be more mindful of how they raise boys into men. What kind of man/men are you creating for this world? Do you see the world we live in today? You have an opportunity to do it differently! To do it better! You have an opportunity to change the way men look at women and treat women in the next generation! Do you have the slightest understanding of the power a parent has?

I see people offer advice to parents to have a “sit downs” with their kids. You need to do more than have one sit down with you child. When you have a child (girl or boy) you need to be present every day until the day that child becomes an adult. And sometimes even then you will have to continue to pour wisdom into your offspring. I am 46 and I still go to my father and mother for wisdom. That’s called parenting! Thats called family! If you don’t have family morals and don’t want to spend your life raising kids, don’t have kids! They didn’t ask to be here! Their long life gives them the experiences I don’t have yet, and so I can learn from them before I make bad decisions. To “learn then live” rather than “live and learn”. as most of society tells us to do.

I could really go on and on, but I’m hoping I drove my point across today in this short article. Teach your sons to be the kind of men you would want for yourself. Teach them to be the kind of father or husband you would want for your daughter. Raise him to be a man with integrity. And raise your daughters to be the mother, wife, sister, friend you wish you had. And men will be good husbands, fathers, and friends too. That is how you avoid sexual harassment or abuse in the future, and how you avoid all the traumatic issues that we face today. Mindfulness and awareness in how you raise your children today, is how you create an amazing future for your children’s children tomorrow!

Fueling the fire inside WOMEN

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“WOMEN BECOMING WARRIORS NOT WORRIES”

I woke up early this morning with this thought that women have this internal desire inside them for change! Many women who want to change personally, professionally, physically, and mentally, won’t like having people in their life that hold them back or take them off focus. Rather, they only want to surround themselves with people who will motivate their vision and help them move them forward. So if you are a women in the world who has a fire inside you to become the best version of yourself, but don’t know where to start, welcome! This is a place where you get the wisdom you need to fuel the fire inside you, so you can shine your light in the world. This morning I woke up with a desire to fight for all women! This is the start of a new era. A world where women are not worriers, but warriors of their communities.

THE FIRE THAT BURNS INSIDE US

The fire inside us women runs deep. It runs so deep that we can end up losing ourselves in the people and things around us if we are not wise. We live most of our youth doubting ourselves and never feeling whole or worthy. We have an eagerness for “more”. But in many cases we don’t know what that “more” is. Many women will reach the end of the road with the demons of all their regrets lingering around their death bed. And I do not want that for you!!!

Society does everything in its power to tell us how we should think, feel, and act. We are taught very young to “be good little girls”. They said things like “sit up”, “mind your manners”, “watch what you say” “watch who you say it to”. Some even went as far to tear us down and use abusive words like “You’re too fat! You’re too skinny” “You’re not smart enough” and “You’re not tall enough” “You’re not strong enough” “You can’t do that your a girl!” or even things like “You’re a girl, you are to be seen and not heard”. All these things people say to women only leaves us in doubt, fear, and living in regret.

In some countries today, women still have no rights at all and are used for the sole purpose of baring a son to carry on the legacy of their family name. Some women are even told what they can and can’t wear. Husbands share their wives with other men and are physically and sexually abused. In the Corporate America women still don’t get paid the same as the men and we are still seen as minority. Even if we have more credentials. Even if we do a better job and have degrees. For centuries women have been told to know our place and to mind our P’s and Q’s.

I could go on and on with the details of all the things women have had to endure over the years, from the different cultures that demean women, to the lack of respect we receive if we attempt to do the same things men do. BUT! I’m not writing this so we can throw a freaking pity party! I’m writing this so we can throw ourselves into warrior mode! So we can gain a little (or A LOT) of wisdom and make a difference in our communities and in the world we live in. No matter where you live!  And later, we will throw a GIRL POWER PARTY!

Look, I’m not saying all the “advice” people try to give out is bad advice. The start of wisdom is actually acceptance of the truths we ignore. Sometimes the truth hurts and we need to hear it so we can see some things about ourselves that we have otherwise ignored, or got comfortable with. In other words, we need to hold ourselves accountable. Seeing the truth is wisdom! By facing the ugly truths about ourselves, we can start taking some actions to fuel that fire that burns inside us. Truth is, when people say things it impacts our character, how we see ourselves, and how we live our life. Getting wisdom means we are aware of the things people are seeing and saying about us, but we don’t allow it to define us.

We’re not weak souls, we are strong, independent, powerful souls! We are born beautiful. We become mothers, sisters, daughters, and granddaughters. And playing those roles means we have the power and the responsibility to lead. We have abilities built in us to become bosses and owners of corporations. IT IS TIME TO FUEL THAT FIRE BABY!!! I mean, we have women running for presidency. The failure only comes when our leadership roles lack one important skill…WISDOM!

A WORD TO THE WISE

“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor.”

Proverbs 3:13-16

Don’t take this word out of context! Hear what this message is actually saying. The “she” they are referring to here is Wisdom. It is saying Wisdom is much more precious than silver, rubies, and gold. Listen, I am with you ladies, I like my bling! I love the sparkle and shine! I like the way I feel when I wear it. I get it! But think about this, “what if you could have all the riches plus honor, and live a long life too? Wouldn’t you want to have this “Wisdom” they’re speak about? I know I do! I don’t just want a little of it either, I want a lot! “I want as much Wisdom a girl can get!”

HOW MUCH WISDOM CAN A GIRL GET?

Well, that depends on a few factors…

  1. How much do you want?
  2. Who is feeding you?
  3. Who’s feeding your mind and what are they feeding it?
  4. Who and what influences your soul?
  5. And, are you willing to do the work?

Our physical bodies hear the noise around us. We see the toxic and the blessings. We smell the stench of evil, and we feel the pain inflicted. How long will it take us to realize we are in control of our own destiny? We are warriors in a world full of people who are afraid of our ability to be brilliant and resilient. It’s easier to keep us down, rather than watch us flourish. They romance us with all the “50 Shades of Grey” mindset to keep us submitting to their ideas, and their beliefs. Living in a physical world where all we want is a voice, and a purpose, it is so difficult for us to wrap our minds around the idea that “we actually do have a choice”. We can choose to succumb to the fantasies that produce illusions, or we can surrender to all the experiences we desire that produce change in our life. All we have to do is take the first step. Owning our part and taking one small action that will move us forward. If you are asking yourself “But what is that action? and Where do I start?”

THIS IS THE START OF A NEW ERA. A SAFE PLACE WHERE WOMEN FIGHT FOR THESELVES AND THE WOMEN AROUND THEM.  WHERE WE GAIN WISDOM, VALUE INTEGRITY AND LIVE IN ABUNDANCE. TAKE A STAND WTH WOMEN FROM ACROSS THE WORLD AND JOIN TODAY AND FUEL THAT FIRE THAT BURNS INSIDE YOU!

SUBSCRIBE TODAY TO BE A PART OF SOMETHING BIGGER! FOR THE POWER TO EMBRACE THE WARRIOR IN YOU!  

WHO AND WHAT ARE YOU CREATING???

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If you are a single mom you might understand what I’m about to say. But I hope every parent gets this….

What kind of adults are you creating? Even though my girls are older, there are so many moments when I sit back and just observe them from a distance. I hear them laughing in the next room together or see them dancing around the house, or just cuddling in bed together. I see how kind and humble they are to their friends. Even those who hurt them. But still, they stand strong and support one another! I can not explain the joy that rushes through me to know they love one another so much and always have each other’s back.

I must say, it was not easy to get these girls to respect each other. I had to give lots of tough love! And I still do! Even though it hurts me to do it. I’d do it all over again just to witness the love they share, just once. If I’m honest, I went through so much shit with their dad, that I missed out on a lot of years. I was NOT PRESENT.! I mean, not really.

PARENTS: If you are busy “getting busy” Its time to reevaluate how you use your time. You don’t get a do-over on bonding with your children. You can’t go back and make them small children, once their adults.

I get it! It’s hard to work a full-time job and raise kids on your own with little to no help. But let’s be honest, that’s just an excuse! People make time for other people and things when it benefits them! Or it’s convenient for them. It takes a very big person, and an even bigger soul to admit when we are falling short.

When I was with their father, I could have done better! I admit that! I could have done A lot better! I was not the best parent back then, but I make it my duty to be the greatest parent today! “The truth is we are all created. So, tell me, who and what are you creating???”