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THERE IS A HERO AND A VILLIAN INSIDE EACH OF US, WHICH ONE ARE YOU?
I heard this saying once and it stuck with me “How can one man define another man’s insanity when each man within himself is insane?” That statement got me thinking, how does one become insane? Contrary to what some religious people may say, a baby is born into this world and is innocent. For those that want to go on a tangent and argue about this, please go read your Christmas story!
We are not sinners because we were born, we become sinners when society introduces a child to sinful nature. When a grown man puts a little girl on his lap and she feels him pressing his hard cock into her, seeds are being planted in her little mind. That child’s body is now experiencing feelings she doesn’t know how to control. When that same child grows into a teenager, and another man does not ask permission to touch her body, but he chooses to take it aggressively and then physically beats her afterwards, seeds are being planted into that young girl. When years go by and she meets another man who leaves her homeless with two children, seeds are being planted in that women. So now I ask you, how many seeds do you think need to be planted before a villain or hero is born?
I turned 46 years old this year. Boy, do they go by in a blink! I’ve learned that life comes in seasons and every season is temporary. Life is not worth stressing over because there will always be good times ahead and more bad times ahead. There will always be things we have control over, and things we don’t have control over. Most of us have powers we don’t know about because we have become obsessed with everyone else’s success stories, believing we will never measure up. Seeing the impossible doesn’t make us believe in ourselves anymore, or any less. It just leaves us confused about our own worth. Many of us become reckless when things don’t work out for us but work out for someone, we think doesn’t deserve it.
A SUPERHERO OR A VILLIAN IS BORN
The world is full of Villain’s and Hero’s. Every day someone makes a choice, and that choice is made with a motive or a purpose. I have said it in previous blogs and videos, that “we each have gifts and talents we just need to practice them”. Unfortunately, most people never reach their full potential because they are trying to be like everyone else. Forgetting about their own talents, trying to morph themselves into someone else. Let me ask you a question, “what if wonder women spent her life trying to be like super girl?” Wonder Women stands for love, peace, and true equality. Although super girl has immense strength, was very successful, talented and was remarkable, super strength was not her main superpower. Wonder Women’s physical strength can’t be matched. Can you imagine if Wonder Women gave up all her strength and wisdom to be like Super Girl? How much time do you think she would spend trying to master heat vision and super breath to freeze people? How many battles do you think she would have lost if she went on thinking she had super hearing and X-ray vision? Wonder Women would have missed out on saving the world if she wasted her time trying to be like Super Girl. And vice versa!
So why do we sit and watch these heroes and villains on TV and yet still we don’t realize that a villain is created when hurt people, hurt other people. And similarly, a hero is created when a good person chooses to embrace their own gifts and talents for the good of others. In the beginning a baby is born. He or she will begin on a journey in life, and that journey will include many different experiences. Life experiences will sculpt a person’s thoughts and ideas. Those thoughts and ideas will be the core of that persons character and the choices they make. So based on your own life experiences, what choices are you making? Are you choosing to become the villain? Or are you a born hero? I believe it is wise for us to sit alone with ourselves at some point in our journey, and ask ourselves this question. Who do I want to be?
YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR CHARACTER, BUT NOT YOUR GIFTS AND TALENTS
We all have an opportunity in this journey of life, and that opportunity is CHOICE! We are all born with special abilities. We are not all the same, but when we join together, we can have very powerful results. The point of this life is not to be robots and try to fit into everyone else’s shoes. In fact, I bet if you had the opportunity to live the life of another, you would decline if you had any detail of their experiences. The choices they’ve had to make would not be your choices. The truth is, you would have to go through every experience that person went through and make their same choices to actually see life through their eyes. And even after that, you still wouldn’t measure up because you were not born with the same life-force, nature, or personality to understand those choices. So, your actions and reactions would be different. You see, you were not born with certain abilities, and while you sit and waste your precious time trying to learn someone else’s skill, you are actually diminishing your own. By choosing NOT to nurture and advance your own skillsets, you are choosing to become a villain. Every time you put yourself in a situation where things don’t turn out in your favor, you lose. And every time you lose at this thing we call life, you become bitter, angry, and obsessed with forcing things to go your way. And again, when that forceful nature doesn’t give you the results you expected, you become enraged with disappointment.
You can choose your character (Villain or Hero), but you don’t get to choose your gifts and talents (these are your superpowers). If more people in this world would embrace who they were born to be, I believe we would have a lot more heroes than villains in this world. I believe we could in fact create a sort of “Heaven on Earth” atmosphere. Embrace your true essence! We can’t continue to be afraid of not being worthy or enough to do big things. It is not enough to feel unworthy when you were born worthy enough! Steward your skills well and watch your abilities grow to be even greater than the ones you try to mimic. When we work harder at being like everyone else, we are only working hard at dimming someone else’s light so we can eventually over shine them. That is Villain mentality! But when we embrace our own Hero inside, we can partner with those we admire and shine brighter in the darkness by working together.
Remember this, there is a hero and villain in each of us. The best stories were the ones where the villain and hero worked together for the greater good of both worlds. We can all have a little villain and a little hero, but the intention (the motive and the purpose) must be for the greater good of ALL in the end!
Why I don’t like the Term “Addicts”
I’d like to start this article by saying: “Stop labeling people who use drugs and alcohol addicts or anyone else for that matter”! It programs their brains to receive and send false information about their character. Millions of people are “addicted” to social media, video games, Netflix, sex, and even work, the list goes on. But we never call those people “addicts”. Furthermore, we don’t say they’re in “Recovery” when they decide to stop or eliminate those things from their life. So, why don’t we treat drugs and alcohol the same way? As bad habits! Recovery keeps them in “Recovering addict” forever.
Here’s the truth, I never called myself an addict and I never went to “Recovery”. And do you know why? Because I knew it was just a bad habit and I could just “DESIDED” I no longer wanted to feel or live the life I was living and stop doing it. truth is if you want to “recover” you have figure out what you’re recovering from! I had to “suck it up” and whatever pain I had to endure, I went through it, and grew from it. Yes! of course It sucked! Yes, my body went through detox. And yes, I almost died! But I didn’t! To the contrary, it made me even stronger. By having to go through the hardcore pain and see what that drug was actually doing to my physical body, by the time it was completely out of my system I was certain of one thing. “I NEVER wanted to go through that again”! I sucked it up for the sake of some clarity in my life because “I” wanted to! BECAUSE “I” DESIDED! If you have a friend, family member or loved one who has these “bad habits” you can’t decide for them. By labeling them you’re already telling them they have a problem. Do you think they don’t know that? Do you really think the problem is the drugs or alcohol they are using? Similarly, if you’re the one looking for change, well, if you’re going to make any change in your life “YOU” have to be the one to decide! Other people can’t decide for you, and they can’t do the hard work for you either.
It is not easy, but if you really want to recover, YOU CAN do it! YOU need to stop playing victim, suck it up and make the changes happen! And do you know why? Because CLARITY GIVES YOU PURPOSE! And unless you are clear minded, you will never know the underlying cause of your “little habit”. Because that is all it is. That substance does not define who you are. “YOU ARE NOT AN ADDICT”! You are the only one with your exact “thoughts, feelings, and actions”. Only you know what you’re truly capable of. Stop needing the affirmation from other people. You are perfectly made and only you know what breaks or makes you to movement. So, if you really do want a different life for yourself…You CAN have it! Go Freaking Get it! FIGHT FOR IT DAMMIT!
So back to my point. First, labels are programmed into our brains. Our brain is like a huge program that saves and stores information and it helps guide our way through life. However, we have a ”mind” that can override any program. All the information we gather can either help us respond in a positive or negative way. Our mind has the power to choose which direction we go. Second, every time we pamper people with “labels” we are not helping them. In fact, we are doing them a “disservice” by enabling them to keep doing the shit they do. Labeling people as “Addicts” allows them to keep making excuses for their BAD, UNHEALTHY HABITS and they continue doing really shitty things because they know they use the “addict label” as an excuse they never make any real changes to quit. Hence, leading them right back where they started.
You may think I’m being a little harsh, but I changed my life by changing my perspective. Basically, I lost the labels people placed on me. But that wasn’t all I did. I disconnected my phone and myself. And that included the people, places, and things I surrounded myself with. Humans don’t need more patronizing, and they definitely don’t need more “labels”. But what we are lacking is LOVE, SUPPORT, & RESPECT.
What people really need, is someone who wont judge them, but still hold them accountable for their OWN LIFE and just be there when they are going through stuff. Speak with love and encouraging words!
Your words can give Life or Death.
proverbs 18:21
Your words have the power to lift someone into life’s purpose or tear them down into harmful lifestyle habits. Choose your words wisely. Stop the labeling! If we must throw labels out there, lets talk about “Weakness”. (The state or condition of lacking strength). The inability or “desire” to do what we want to do and stop doing the things we don’t want to do. Did you see what I did there? I gave you two different words (inability and desire). The inability to do something means you just “cant” do something. But the word desire is something we “feel” we really must do or want to have. By using the word desire I am telling you that “weakness” is not an “addiction”. Contrary to what I said earlier, uou do have a choice. You can CHOOSE to NOT be weak by having the DESIRE to do the things you want to do.
Rather than placing labels around someone’s neck encourage them with positive words that lift them up. Remember, they need to figure out what they are recovering from! Because it is not drugs and alcohol! Trust me on that! And no, I am not telling you to patronize them! But do…. Love them for the person you know they are going to be. Support them even if you can’t see the bigger picture. Be there when they are going through the hardest times in life. And mostly, respect others because you know God made them who they are, and you know they will come out of this mess stronger than they were before. Don’t hear what I am not saying! If you can’t be around this person because their habits or lifestyle is harming you, then walk away. It’s really that simple. At the end of the day, each and every single one of us will have to make a decision. As for the word “addict” Instead of calling it “addiction” or using the term “recovering addicts”, maybe try using the term “bad habit” or a “healthy lifestyle”. Habits and lifestyles can be altered and changed. The term “recovery” leaves people in a state of mind that tells them “They will always be recovering”. But when we stick people in a building with a group of more people who are “recovering addicts” we are just allowing them to continue to talk about the one thing they want to stop doing. And then we give then to patronize the situation even more, we give them a metal or coin that reminds them how many months and years they have been recovering from this substance abuse. IT IS ABSURD!!! News flash! “Recover” means to “return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength”. Why would anyone ever want to leave the person they love, to feel sick, lost, and weak???
To Conclude this article, I’d like to just say:
STOP “ALL” THE LABELING! Let the words that come out of your mouth build people up and stop breaking them down! Make the change today and DECIDE to live your life fully blessed in abundance. And remember “you have to know what you (or your loved one) “are recovering from”.
Your words have Power to Heal the sick
Or Break people down into their illness
Author Christina Ditzel
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