How to Embrace Your Journey and Live the Life YOU Want!

August 9, 2019October 5, 2025CHRISTINA DITZEL Leave a comment

No one else can determine the kind of life you want for yourself, because we all experience life differently, and we are all unique in our own way. We each have gifts and talents, and those gifts and talents are used in a way that can only benefit you. So, today I hope this article helps you determine your uniqueness and so you can embrace your gifts!

First, acknowledgment! You must acknowledge all your gifts and all your talents. Good and bad. That’s right, even the ones you picked up along the way. The one’s you discovered in your pain. Acknowledge them so you can learn to Love them. This brings me to my second point…

You must learn to “Love your Uniqueness” and accept that you are different. Know that you are WONDERFULLY and perfectly made as you are right now!!! You are not your family, your friends, coworkers, or colleagues and that is okay. You may not have developed their gifts and talents, but you have your own attributes. You have qualities they don’t. Focus on yourself and learn to love yourself for how unique you truly are.

Third, you must forget the entire belief system that you have been living in. You must become NEW by rebirthing your true essence and embracing your true self. Your INNER BEING! By determining who that is, you can finally live the life you were meant to live! You inner being has ideas, emotions and an identity that is eager to thrive! It’s like, the real you inside is screaming because the life your living is not the life you know deep down to your core is the life your capable of having. There is more inside of you. That eagerness burning inside of you, can’t show up if you are too busy locking it in to everyone else’s philosophies. You must forget the dogma of those around you, and embrace your own principles, and live by those principles only.

When you open your heart to know yourself, you open yourself up to a whole new world. Here’s the thing, when you understand your pain and KNOW these three things, you step into an entirely different journey.

You Know how you got to “where you are”
You Know “why you are” unique
And You Know “who you are” meant to be

When you are aware, you can finally discover a new meaning for life, and make peace with yourself, your family, your friends, and everyone else around you. By discovering a new person inside of “YOU” and loving that person with intention for life, you will be able to accept others for who they can become, and not who they are currently.

You are not your circumstances and you are not limited to the world you see yourself in right now. You can have more! You can create a new life for yourself and for those around you. There is a light inside of you that is burning and yearning to come out! But the only way to really put it on display, is to recognize it for yourself. Reveal it to yourself first, than others will discover it too. Those close to you may not accept the new version of you in the beginning, and that is okay. If you are doing what feels good and right straight down to the very core of “your being”, you are safe to move forward without worry of judgment or discouragement!

You are safe to move forward without hesitation, without fear, without doubt and without the voices in your head telling you it is impossible or you are not qualified! Nothing is impossible for your unique journey, and you are qualified to be your unique self! Here are some steps to move you forward right now…

Write down your options
Ask your inner self (you don’t need permission or confirmation from others)
Get grounded with your own intentions
Eliminate distractions (anything that steers you in the opposite direction)
Exercise and eat something that will provide energy to your body and stimulate your brain
Get clarity and stay strong in your beliefs and keep the faith.

Listen, my faith gets me through every time! I may fall short, life might happen around me, and I may even stumble over a rock from time to time, but if I am connected to a higher source, (God, The Divine, the Universe, etc.) and that source will catch me every time! He will not forsake me, and he will always show me a better way. I know that deep down to my core, even when it is difficult to see for myself. I know sometimes it’s difficult to see over the mountain. But when we trust in the timing even though it is not NOW, better things come when you stop trying to control the universe. I “Believe” that I deserve success, therefore I will succeed. I Believe I will find true love therefore I will not settle for less, I believe I deserve all the things I desire in my heart. And even though I may not know exactly how I will acquire these things, I know I will receive all the blessings and more then I could imagine in my little mind.

You must believe, be grounded and have a strong foundation. And the only way to have all of that, is to determine your unique self and live the life you want, rather than the life everyone else wants. When you are connected to a higher source, you know that source will catch you and guide you no matter what. This gives you the confidence you need to move you forward.

However, you must be constantly be grounded within your own uniqueness. KNOWKING that Divine things are constantly working “for you”, and not against you. Stop thinking things are bad and realize these bad things happen for you in order to put you on YOUR right path. Listen, you can make your choices, but your purpose will always be trying to rise above to move you toward the life you truly desire inside.

In other words, what you are seeing as “bad things happening”, is only viewed like that because you are so busy living a life that everyone else planned for you. You’ve made decisions that brought you to this vary point! No, it is not the life you want! And therefore, nothing is going your way and you see everything happening as “bad” because it is not happening from your true essence, but in fact is happening because you are following someone else’s path. When you realize, everything happens FOR you, and NOT to you, life begins to flow! When you stop listening to the voices around you and embrace your unique self and you trust in instincts, I promise, the things that begin to happen will shape the life you have always wanted, and then some!

If you don’t determine your own gifts and talents now, and if you don’t embrace your uniqueness and weirdness, than you will always be living a life that is not yours and therefore you will always be living in lack and disapointment! You must begin living as if you KNOW everything is moving you forward. Good or Bad, you ARE moving forward!

You can make mistakes! It’s okay. Learn from them and move forward. Don’t sit in your mistakes letting it define you as a loser or failure. Get up, and you will persevere! Don’t be selfish and don’t take the easy route. Understand the process, grow within the Divine, and most important, Allow the Divine to grow IN and AROUND you. BELIEVE you deserve more! You are different and you are unique, but that is what makes you so special! Today is the day you discover greatness within!

So what! Yesterday was a bad day, it’s okay! Today you get to try again. Maybe that thing you wanted didn’t work last time! That’s okay! Today is a new day for new ideas! Today is the day you Embrace your unique spirit! Today is the day you stop listing to the voices in your head that say “you are not good enough”, “you’re not pretty enough”, “you’re not smart enough”, and “you’re not young enough”! Today is the day you say F That! Because you know “You ARE good enough”! “You ARE pretty enough”! “You ARE smart enough”! And yes “you ARE the perfect age today” to determine your unique self and live the life you want! Change comes when you decide to be changed! Change comes when you stop following the rest and you determine your unique self and take the chances today, to live the life you want tomorrow!

“YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DOING WHAT YOU WANT
YOU JUST HAVE TO BE WILLING TO BELIEVE IT
AND THAN TAKE THE ACTIONS THAT PRODUCE IT”
Christina Ditzel

Take this journey with me and with those who love your true essence, and together we will do great things! Great things for us, for our families, and for our communities! If you liked this article please comment and share your journey so you can get connected with like minded people! For more advice in other areas of your life, please join my channel on YouTube, or just grab my book “Hot mess to totally blessed” on Amazon Today. This is how you begin your journey into an abundant life. Choose YOU and Live in abundance knowing it starts with a choice…

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How to Live a Happier More Successful Life

July 28, 2019October 5, 2025CHRISTINA DITZEL Leave a comment

“There is no Thing that can make you happy
and
There is no Person that can make you complete”
Christina Ditzel

Mindfulness and Clarity is essential to success and happiness. The issue is not the circumstance you’re in, but the self-awareness you have daily, and the mindset you have, about your circumstances. We as humans struggle to really understand what happiness even is, because we are unaware of our spiritual self. We think happiness is gaining more success and we think success is gaining more material things. Like finding better relationships, a better job, a nicer house, cars, etc. But the truth is, people, places, or things will never make you happy. If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I say this often! “You can’t find happiness in people, places or things”! If you keep your focus on things in the “physical world”, you will always be seeking for physical satisfaction. I don’t mean to disappoint my readers, but there is no happiness in such entities. True happiness comes from within, and success is a mindset full of clarity! Noting is achievable without the believe system that is can be done! We need to ponder on our awareness in order to bring joy to our heart and soul. If you believe something to the very core of your soul, then you will do what it takes to achieve that goal! Truth is, you just have to go get it!

Since we were young, we’ve been told, “go to school, get good grades, go to college, get married and then have kids and grand-kids”. Well, is that it? Is that our whole purpose in life? I can’t believe that is the reason for this life! Some want to travel the world, others want more money, a better car, a bigger house, the best job, the smartest kids, etc. I can’t believe that is it! I just can’t believe that we work and toil until we face death! To me that is life without purpose. It is a spirit that lives in the flesh, walking dead on earth. That is not who I am!

In today’s world, media has taken over, and always has something new to catch our attention! So, it is inevitable that we chase for the next best “thing”, rather than a joyful and happy “self”, or inner happiness. We always seek outward pleasures to make us happy. Until we realize they don’t! Eventually, it leaves us in a depressed state and always on the hunt, not knowing what success or happiness even means. But what if we became more aware of what we allow media to feed into us? What if we became more aware of our self as a spirit walking this world to experience it? But what if we decided to “Instead of allowing the world to experience us, we walked knowing it was an experience for us”? What if we took what we learned and utilized it to help others find their own way and helping them to stop following in the foot steps of everyone else who came before us? That is why I write these articles on clarity! Because I’ve learned the power of clarity and I just want to offer a sort of, guide, so everyone who comes here can learn, grow, and share their own way. And maybe together we can live happier, healthier, more successful lives together in a community that knows we’re are “better together”!

I have become so focused on “getting more” and “being more”, and I realized living like that, we lose the true desire of our own hearts. and we never take the time to see the light that shines the path to true happiness and true sucess. In some cases, we can get so greedy that we live our lives dimming everyone’s light afraid they might dim ours. Or we live as if we need to be better than the next person, graduate at the top of our class, and compete with everyone for the top positions and end up alone, without any options. we end up living in fight or flight mode in every area of our life and that is never a good place to be. Why are we in constant competition with one another, instead of being in unity with others? Has it become a new belief system, that division will bring us happiness?

We have been programmed to think this way since the day our ancestors were born. We’ve been raised to be competitive with everything we think, say, and do Since Covid and 2020 politicians have divided us. Even the church and the bible divide us. We compete with our friends, family, and acquaintances, rather than rejoicing and loving them. How can that kind of living ever feel good? How can living in competition with the people and things we are supposed to love, ever really feel good? Well, it doesn’t! And if we continue with this trend, we will never find true happiness in our lives. We must stop living not feeling good enough and trying to be better than everyone else. But how do we do that?

How do we get clarity for a happy and successful life?

First, tangibles are not the answer! So, just get that out of your head so you can stop searching for the “next best thing” now. There is no THING that will make you happy! And there is no person that will make you complete. Second, this journey we are on is short lived, so we must make the most of it and enjoy it while it lasts. If you’re one of the lucky ones, by the end of your road, you will be so happy within, and aware of the core nature of your spirit, that you will not think about this material world as a place to “Gain a life”, but you will begin to experience this world as a beautiful soul that is here “Exploring this life”. You must first focus on yourself, your passions, and the thing that starts a fire in your soul! What are you passionate about?

We should strive to live a life that “gives and receives love” and the only way to do that is to live in a sense if feeling love and lived. A life that offers pure joy in just being your true essence. We should never try to strive for everyone else’s dreams or hate others for their success, but we should strive for a mind and spirit of our own dreams! Living in this beautiful place, and being able to explore wherever, and whatever we desire, should be exciting! We should never feel limited or lack in any area of life. That is not the point of this journey. I really believe that! When you realize material things won’t ever make you happy, and you accept that you are not promised tomorrow, you begin to live life like it is your last day, every day. And you appreciate all the things, good and bad that come your way. Because good or bad, you are moving forward through more experiences of this life.

When you live life happy within, you’re able to do the things you love without stress. You get to spend time with the people who make you the happiest, without drama. When you allow yourself to enjoy life, you want to help those you pass along the way. You want everyone to enjoy their journey because you are enjoying the journey. You live in worry because you don’t allow yourself to get to know your inner being and purpose here, and you don’t enjoy the journey your on. Instead you follow the worlds advice and ideas and you stay in a mental state that says “your different and you don’t belong”. But the truth is, you are different and that is why you do belong!!! Embrace yourself with out the fear of what others think about you. The things that make you different are the things that make you special! When your spirit shines its light, you will sour like an eagle in the sky, and those that that have a spirit to look up and see you with acceptance. And those are the ones you will call your tribe. Those are the ones you need to zoom in on.

If you really feel like your world is upside down, start over! Start with getting peace in your own heart. That means thinking of “ALL things as good”. You can’t have happiness if your mind is in a frantic state all the time. Recognize the things that come into your life to help move you forward. You might not like it all the time but if it is going to move you forward, just take the leap and do it! If you ever want to find true happiness, you must get clarity of your current situation, and see life through a totally different lens.

I can offer you my book, “Hot mess to totally blessed”, I talk a lot about getting “clarity” by cleaning out your physical world, and your psychological world. I can give you exercise after exercise, and advice after advice, but at the end of the day if you don’t do anything, my book won’t help. In fact nothing and no one can help you. Listen, I lost my relationships, my kids, my car, my job, and everything in my physical world. I had to start my life over at 38 years old with NOTHING. Trust me it sucked. But I did it! I made a decision to do something and I did it! And so can you! You are worth it! In my book I have exercises that can help you gain clarity in your situation, and each chapter gradually goes deeper for your self-growth. Some of the things I talk about are:

Clearing out some of the junk that is cluttering your focus
Eliminate people and places that are holding you back.
How to reduce stress levels
Slowing down your physical world
Being a better parent
Embracing and facing our mess head on
Dating yourself
And so much more!

Listen, the actions you take TODAY, determine your circumstances for tomorrow. To love yourself enough to live a happier lifestyle means “getting rid of anything toxic in life” and getting the knowledge, wisdom and guidance you need to move you forward into your abundant life. I call this “Living Organically”. Organic is not just expensive food, trust me! It is a life without anything toxic, bad or harmful. Yes, the food you eat is important for your body which you need energy and stimulate the brain with mindfulness. So, the food you eat matters. Yes! But it is also the job and environments you are surrounded with, the relationships you encounter, the information you allow into your brain, and so much more.

So, I wrote the book to help others find their own abundance and I can only suggest the book but if you don’t do the things in it to transform your life, nothing will change in your life. I can also ask that you stay engaged with me and this new community that I am building, but at the end of the day, you need to be the one to take the action. I don’t want to leave you empty handed today, so I will leave you a simple project below to get you started with the actions you can take right now to find YOUR HAPPY AND ABUNDANT LIFE tomorrow.

In the meantime, don’t worry about other people, don’t worry about the places you have to go or don’t want to go to, and don’t worry about the things you don’t have. Know deep down to your core that “YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED” right now. YOU are everything you need. Listen, if you don’t get right in your head and in your own spirit, you won’t be giving yourself a fighting chance at a happy and abundant life. You must know what happiness is “TO YOU” and not what it means to everyone else. In order to receive happiness for yourself, you have to acknowledge it for yourself, or the worry, stress, addictions, and struggles will never go away. If you don’t DO YOU, you will always feel and be in lack. Please get this! You are important and you matter. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.

Here is the project:

If you get anything out of this article, I hope you get clarity of YOUR “1%”. Because that is the only portion you need to be focused on. Zoom out, see the entire world that surrounds you right now, from a 30k foot view. But remember to zoom back in and focus only on the 1% that holds value to YOU! The rest doesn’t matter because it belongs to someone else’s 1%. Join a community that will journey through life with you (not against you) and explore your true essence and self-worth. Ask yourself these questions now.

Shine your light!

Much love Author Christina Ditzel xo

If you need more advice in other areas of your life, please comment below, join my channel on YouTube, or just grab my book “Hot mess to totally blessed” on Amazon Today. This is how you begin your journey into transformation and living an abundant life. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.

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