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WHAT DOES FEAR OF THE LORD ACTUALLY MEAN?

CHRISTINA DITZEL Leave a comment

“When the people He created start planting good seeds, a harvest of fresh fruit will grow. But those that produce bad seeds, will harvest weeds that will overflow and never produce any fruit.”

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Well, can I start by saying Fear of the Lord sure doesn’t mean the Wrath of God is going to come upon you for being human. But it does mean you may want to be mindful of the seeds you’re planting in your life, and in others. I am so tired of “Churchy people” giving false messages and speaking Jesus’s name at the center of fear! God should be at the center of all you do, YES! But God is LOVE! NOT FEAR. Let me make that very clear!

Now, to add to that statement, let me just say, YES, there is a certain way God wants us to live our life. But some people make this so mystical that the average person never feels worthy to take the journey. In fact, salvation is the reason Jesus came to earth. So that, you, me, and EVERYONE may have an opportunity for salvation in this life. Let me give you the definition of salvation since so called “Jesus followers” will try to manipulate this…

“Let those who have ears, Hear.”

WHAT IS SALVATION?

  • Definition #1 Preservation or deliverance from harm, ruin, or loss.
  • Definition #2 A source or means of being saved from harm, ruin, or loss.

This is where freaking church people really manipulate you.  “Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.

Their words are not encouraging, nor do they offer any long-term salvation. They keep you stuck in your mess, and you never actually move forward. The bible has a lot to say about our tongues being a sharp knife. You should read it sometime. Your tongue gives life or death to people and their situations. So, whatever comes out of your mouth better come from a fruitful and fulfilling place because you just might be destroying Gods plan for His creation.

Contrary to some beliefs, most of these so-called prophesying Jesus followers, are hostile, ignorant, and lack common sense, and enthusiasm for this life. WHICH GOD CREATED! So let me add this statement, harm, ruin, and loss look very different to each of us. (BASED ON THE BODY AND LIFE HE GAVE US) Everyone’s circumstances are different, and we were not created the same. There are no two people the same in this world. Not even twins are the same. But that is an entirely new topic we can save for another day.  

Salvation is being delivered (saved, freed, unchained) from a life that is unfulfilling and stressful. When you are saved, you are introduced to a life with possibilities. Eventually, once you begin walking freely, you become unchained from the world’s expectations for your life. Did you hear what I said? “The worlds expectations for your life”. When you have been unchained from everyone else’s expectations, you will begin to choose the paths less traveled, and those paths offer abundance.

However, abundance also means something different to each of us. Jesus tells us that he sent an advocate to help us make better decisions. That advocate is the holy spirit. The Holy Spirit is our guided intuition.  Here me when I say, your intuition holds the key to achieving the desires of your heart and your ego will try to distract you. The path you choose leads you to a life of abundance or a life of complete misery. The only way you discover the true desires of your heart, and live in abundance, is when we choose to release all the negative and bad stuff going on in this world and focus on the good things God has prepared for you.

I can prove it! Jesus gave Wisdom in a verse to help you live an abundant life. It goes something like this, “I came to this World, so that you may have life and live it more Abundantly.” Another verse says, “The thief comes only to steal, slaughter, and destroy.” Here is a simple question, what is destroying you? Or better yet, what brings joy to your heart? What does living more abundantly mean to you? The Lord also said, “Set your mind on things that are above, not on things that are on earth”. Meaning, set your mind on things that are heavenly (divine, delightful, lovely, etc.) This comes naturally once you DECIDE to listen to wisdom and develop the 9 fruits of the spirit.  

Oh, what are the 9 fruits of the spirit, you ask?

Well, It’s “LOVE JOY PEACE PATIENCE KINDNESS GOODNESS GENTLENESS FAITHFULNESS AND SELF-CONTROL”

So how can we experience a life lived in abundance? Easy, by not bringing attention to the worldly things that destroy your personal spirit, but rather living a life that represents these 9 qualities in your spirit. How do we do that? Again, easy! By using the advocate. You will know it is coming from the Holy Spirit when your thoughts, desires and actions represent love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and when you maintain self-control through it all. You produce good fruit by encouraging the broken hearted and keeping your heart on things above. It really is simple, it’s just not that easy to choose the narrow path. Or the path less traveled.

YOUR EGO KEEPS YOUR HEART CHAINED TO BITTERNESS

Proverbs 14:10 says “Each heart knows its own bitterness and no one else can share its joy.” Meaning, no one in this world can share the things that bring Joy to your heart, if your own ego keeps your heart chained to bitterness. It shows in your words and actions. What comes out of your heart pours out of your mouth and onto others. Stop being bitter, angry, hatful people. Stop regarding everything in this world as bad and negative. Stop reminding people of the bad shit going on! I am pretty sure we are all aware evil exists. God created this world, good and evil, and it all has purpose. People with bad attitudes make it ugly! People who have wisdom make it a time to grow and learn in the storms. Being curious and full of wonder is the only way to experience abundance.

There will always be bad things happening in this world, and every world beyond our little galaxy, because people have the free will to make choices. Can I also say you are not the only one struggling! Every soul experience difficult times. There will always be a season for learning, a season for growing, a season for laughter, a season for mourning, and a season to celebrate. There is a season for everything under the sun. If you don’t believe me, check out Ecclesiastes chapter 3. Do you think God makes mistakes? When the people He created start planting good seeds, a harvest of fresh fruit will grow. But those that produce bad seeds, will harvest weeds that will overflow and never produce any fruit. So, salvation is setting your thoughts on everything and anything that is GOOD…. To start over means to renew your mind so you can harvest good fruit. 

Remember this…

What’s good for YOU is NOT good for the crew. I will get to the part where I tell you what fearing God really means,

but I must first tell you this…

AFTER SALVATION

So, after you decide to choose the path of salvation/recovery, (becoming new, changing your ways, etc.) you will have to make some new choices and decisions based on what “salvation” looks like to YOU (not to your neighbor, not your sister, not your brother, not your friends, not social media influencers, or anyone else, just YOU). What area of life do you need change? (Relational, financial, health, mental, is there an addiction you need to overcome? etc.) This is different for everyone no matter what religious people or churchy people say! Life comes in seasons and seasons change. And even though we walk this world together, we experience it differently because of the lens we look through.

A true follower of Christ knows they must shadow the footsteps that Jesus left behind. Did you ever see your shadow do something you didn’t do? Living by his teaching, guides a path that is pure and easy. He says his burden will be light. I promise you; life is light once you realize everything happens for you and not to you.

TOO MUCH INFORMATION CLOUDS OUR JUDGEMENT

Unfortunately, our paths get clouded by all the information given out today and it becomes clouded by all the opinions of other people. It’s not just our parents and teachers who influence our beliefs and ideology. No, it’s this entire world of people with different cultures and beliefs. Some of them with no filter and no moral values or respect toward others or their circumstances. Some people live with big egos and have the audacity to call it the holy spirit guiding them. So many people representing Jesus by screaming radical beliefs behind fear. This only creates more weeds in the wilderness, not fruit from the true vine.  

Can I just say to those who are in a season of darkness right now, the holy spirit is not arrogant, selfish, fearful, or boastful. The chaos in this world is not created to harm you but to strengthen you. Jesus didn’t come here to get famous. He became famous because his teachings made people feel safe and helped people overcome their fears. His teachings were healing, they were encouraging, and they sent people off with a new outlook on their personal circumstances, and their future. It gave them hope in the midst of their storm, so they could keep going with faith that everything was going to be okay. He never shoved scripture, laws, or rules, down people’s throat. He shared good news about the kingdom of heaven and said, “whoever has ears let them hear”.

Salvation does not give permission for anyone to be a bully! So many people get saved and forget where they met Jesus. I apologize for their arrogance and ignorance.

Salvation is just making the choice to change the steps you take from the time you wake up in the morning, to the time you go to sleep at night. It’s not looking back on the people you hang with, the places you’ve been or the things you’ve done. Yes, those people and places impact you and they can have a positive or negative affect on your life. It means you must constantly forget all the harmful people, places and things in your life and leave them in the past where they belong. Let go and Let God! To have a renewing of the mind you must find new people, new places, and new things that bring nothing but joy to your heart and encourage the soul. Protecting your heart is the most important part of the journey. This has nothing to do with anyone else! This has nothing to do with what they think is true or not true!  Your walk in this life is between you and God and that is it!!! Stop worrying what other people will think! Salvation is releasing the past and stepping into a new you! All those people with opinions, have no place in your future. The next step is where you discover Fear of the Lord. You will have to let go of all human beliefs so you can adapt to Gods plan. Which is the only way to abundance.  

WHAT IS FEAR OF THE LORD

Proverbs 15:33 tells us “Fear of the Lord teaches Wisdom” It continues by saying “Humility precedes Honor.”

The bible is constantly telling us to get wisdom. This verse tells us that when we are afraid of the Lord, we learn wisdom. We are not scared of his wrath! We fear the consequences of our bad decision making because we know there will be consequences. We will always face consequences when we go back to our old ways or do something outside of what we know was right. It’s kind of common sense! You get these signs and wonders for your own life when you read the “Word” properly.

I personally Believe fearing the Lord means, we keep searching Him out in our own life. We get deep into the word and when we read it, we hear instructions on how we are supposed to walk in our own life. Please hear me when I say, we are not supposed to read the word so we can point the finger at everyone who lives outside our belief system. The word was not created for other people, it was created for you and your personal growth.  

We should strive to become more like Jesus, so we can be less like our selves. Our “earthly being” is tainted by temptations and desires, and we need to learn self-control to overcome our urges and impulsive behaviors.  Fear of the Lord means you know better, you strive to do better, and you become a better version of yourself every day. Again, not so you can point the finger at other people and have a big ego, but so you can grow in Christ.

You make the choice to forgive those who treat you badly, but you also protect yourself by not enabling them to continue to hurt you, but instead dismiss them from your life. Yes, there is a scripture on letting your enemy smack you across the face 7 times 7 times. I know! I have wrestled with this verse for years! Ugh, we really must discern (distinguish) between the people who are giving us constructive criticism (giving a healthy assessment and positive view on life), and those who are just wicked (giving an unhealthy perception and negative views of life). He doesn’t want you to burden yourself with people who benefit themselves at the cost of losing your own joy in spirit. That is evil and not good, and you need to eliminate all toxic people from your life.

Keep in mind, the places you hang around govern your thoughts. The things you think of will determine your actions. Be very careful and surround yourself in environments that keep your mind clean, genuine, authentic, and in absolute enthusiasm to learn. Be wise in your decision making. Where your flesh wonders your mind goes. So, keep your mind safe by walking in places that bring clarity and wonder.

THIS IS FEARING THE LORD

Fearing the Lord means making difficult decisions today because you know it will benefit your life tomorrow. You fear the Lord by making difficult decisions for his good and perfect will for your life and His Kingdom. Choosing Gods path is sometimes very difficult, but the burden is light because in the end, you will have peace, and your heart will be filled with joy. There will be no more pain and suffering. When you follow His teachings, you discover His Will for your life. Your faith becomes stronger in the storms of life because you’ve witnessed the miracles before. You are confident in knowing Him so you trust Him no matter what path you’re on.

To fear him is to love him so much that you want to do good by him. You make wiser choices because you want to please him by the way you live your life. It’s like a child who wants to make his/her parents proud. God doesn’t want you around certain people because they don’t bring you joy. He doesn’t want you going to certain places or doing certain things because it is more harmful than good for your life. “For the Lord knows the plans he has for you. To prosper you not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11). Maybe you are being asked to eliminate some people from your life this season. Maybe some people have some heart work to do on themselves before you can be around them again. Maybe you’re not strong enough in self-control to go to certain places. Maybe He has a better place for you to work or a better partner in life. Whatever it is God is asking you to do this season, listen to the still small voice inside you and do the thing. Even if you don’t see any results right away, God has a purpose and a season for everything under the sun. Allow the holy spirit to guide you. Remember, the Lord will give and take away for the good of his people.

He won’t just take your troubles away, heal you from illnesses, or change conditions and circumstances. He will take away things that are not serving you and give you the life He knows you are worthy of! The life he created you for. But you have to be willing to do the hard things. It’s easy to do the hard things when you fear him enough to trust that he knows what he is doing. Get wisdom, have self-control, and know that everything was created for his good and faithful servant. “The Lord works out everything to its proper end— even the wicked for a day of disaster.” (Proverbs 16) So, choose to humble yourself this year by being honest about your bad decision making in the past. Own your part! But then choose to have a renewing of the mind and make better choices moving forward.

Let go of your old ways and put on confidence in your new ways…

“When the people He created start planting good seeds, a harvest of fresh fruit will grow.
But those that produce bad seeds, will harvest weeds that will overflow and never produce any fruit.”

How to Gain Clarity in your Losses

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Leveling up your playing field

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First, let me start by say that leveling up your playing field means “You get to live the life you want without other people controlling any part of your belief system, your decisions, or your lifestyle. That means, we need to gain total control of our mind, our actions, our health and our finances so we can live our life with a clear vision of the life we want. Being an entrepreneur and business owner, I thought I had all that covered. Boy was I wrong!!! Let me first share with you a little back story of how I lost total control of my business, my finances and most importantly, myself worth, and then I will share how I gained clarity in all my losses

So, what brought me to this place where I feel lack and frustration was when I had a client who caught covid and did not give me the common courtesy to give me a choice!! Now don’t hear what I am not saying. I am not blaming this customer for my being here today, because we all know when we point one finger at someone else, we have three fingers pointed back at ourselves. So first we must always acknowledge that by allowing others to have control, we are enabling them. I wanted to be clear on that. So, moving on…

This particular client confirmed their appointment with me and had me arrive at their home on our usually 9:30-10am bi-weekly appointment. They confirmed and I showed up! I allowed them to have control of the situation because I depend on that income. I “needed” them. I could have just as easily walked out the door and told her to call me when she is feeling better. Let me state clearly, that when people know you “need them”, you put yourself in a very vulnerable place. Okay so continuing….

By deciding to stay and provide services for this client, it just so happens, that it caused me to further lose other work in the process. How you ask? Well, for one, I had to cancel other work as to avoid getting other clients sick. And then second, me and my daughters did end up getting sick. So that was two weeks of work gone!
Okay, so its flu season, right? So, what, I got a sore throat and had to take the day or a few days off. No big deal, right? I know your already probably thinking, “What is the point of this story? And what does it have to do with finding clarity?” But just stay with me for a moment! I get it your thinking “It’s not really a big deal” Where I reply, “Until it is a bigger deal then I thought all along!” Let me first just say that no matter what you’re going through right now, your feelings and your emotions play a huge role in your actions. And the trauma you experience will continue to add roadblocks in your actions and in your journey through life.

“Our circumstances equal our playing field, and our playing field equals our opportunity to Level up our life”!


If life has taught me anything it’s that I am not in control of other people, their thoughts or their actions. Therefore, I have no control of my (past, current or present) situation if I give control away. Funny thing is, for the last few years, I thought I was living by this quote “You can’t control other people, but you can control how you react towards other people.”

I literally teach this concept in my book, podcasts and through blogs, and here I am, stuck laying in my bed, feeling completely contradicting of everything I represent! Truth is, to me “not reacting to other people means, “Don’t’ overreact when people treat you like shit!” or “Don’t allow others to upset you when they are assholes.” And as I still believe this concept to be true, there is still an underlying issue that I didn’t even realize until I took action and signed up for Lisa Bilyeu RADCON course. She really helped me see what radical confidence really means! She lead me in a whole new direction. She took me from being unclear about my goals and my purpose in life to finding my purpose in life. She took me from being scared, doubtful, embraced, and even self shaming, to being able to take massive actions, and be “The hero of my own life”. See without the right people directing you and feeding into your soul, you can’t lose the blocks that keep you from reaching your full protentional.

By allowing my client to have control is just one example of me not having control in my life. At this point now, I am still searching right? So, digging into Lisa’s course, I then get a call from Natasha Graziano’s assistant. I’m going to be honest here and go out on a limb, I had no clue who Natasha was. I looked her up and saw she was super famous, successful and looked extremely happy and abundant! I went on a research binge to find out all that I could on this Natasha Graziano. And realized I actually just saw her a few weeks prior on an episode at Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu. I was in my awe moment because I just realized all the synchronicities that were appearing in my life. I just began to feel blessed. Even more then I already felt, if that was possible!

I spoke to an amazing women Named Maria from Natasha Graziano’s team and she convinced me to sign up for their Authority Accelerator course. If I’m going to be completely honest with myself, and with you, I was feeling a little overwhelmed and was tired of people trying to sell me on courses. However, I remembered all the things I heard in Lisa Bilyeu’s course, and I knew I had to lose the doubt and fear that was creeping in. Lisa calls this “The bitch in my head”. I literally had to tell her to “shut the hell up because I was, I was in control of my actions. I am now a ‘WOMEN OF IMPACT’ and I was taking control of my own destiny”!

I was allowing the excuses to overwhelm me. The excuse that “I still haven’t completely finished my RADCON course that I just paid for” and “I just needed a job”, thoughts like; “I am not in season, and I have limited funds coming in now” kept freaking me out and causing my stress levels to raise. They kept coming at me “not to mention, I just got a new car and have a higher car payment” the bitch in my head would not stop there…. “How are you going to pay for the roof over daughters heads?”

Then I paused for a moment when I realized my “Zen” was gone! SRA SRA SRA Telling myself (Chistina, Stop in your tracks, Realign your thoughts, and Assess your focus) In that very moment I made a decision. See, when I told a new friend about the situation with my client who totally disrespected me, he just reminded me that, I allowed another person to control me by not removing myself completely from the situation! They controlled my health, my business, my schedule, and my finances. And all because I allowed them to do so! See, I thought by ignoring the situation, that meant I was being the bigger person. But I was in fact, enabling people to continue to devalue me, shoot me and my character down, and preventing myself from making radical moves into my purpose driven life. I had no clarity because the Lenz I was looking through, was not my own.

Gain Clarity in Your Losses!

Like many people who have lost their businesses from this pandemic, it’s become exhausting to even hear the word “COVID”! It’s going on three years at this time, and I’m just drained! This pandemic is sucking the life out of us! The politics and inflation are killing us! And the struggle and stress are physically killing us every single day! So, what now? 2022 is here and halfway throght the year already! It’s time to move on! It is time to see life through a new Lenz! A ZEN LENZ! It is time find clarity so you can life blessed in your mess, love the journey, and feel abundant in all areas of life! but how? How do we get clarity of the mind and becone grounded and understand how we find our true purpose? Well, I will tell you. “By taking RADICAL ACTIONS THAT OFFER RADICAL RESULTS!”

See, the day maria contacted me to join the authority accelerator course, I am not going to lie. everything in my being said “Say thank you for the opportunity and hang the dam phone up!!” But that day I did something different! I told myself “Com ‘on Christina make a new choice!!! Stop talking about it an be about” I told myself all the things I’ve been saying in these blogs, and in my book. And I didn’t know what was about to happen, but I did know one thing was for sure, I knew I did not want to be a hypocrite or live life contrary to my beliefs. Let me just say CLARITY IS POWER! And this just became my new motivator to pursue multiple sources of income that no government, no pandemic, and not one single person can control. And do you know why? Because its only in my mind, its in my thoughts, its in my words and its in my actions. And no one in this world, not even the negative bitch in my head, can play the role of Ms. Christina Ditzel.

See as I was saying in the beginning of this article, sometimes, we must level up our playing field, so we can have clarity to know how to gain total control of our life! If we are not learning, planning, strategizing, and consistently making choices that benefit our own life, we are not living our life at all! Take Control of your life so others can’t control you!!

I am always learning new ways to overcome adversity and get clarity. But it wasn’t until I took drastic steps to do things that scared me, and helped me, to find my way out of all the fog. My hope is that by sharing my experiences, you can avoid making some (or all) of the mistakes I made along the way. Don’t waste any more time doing the things that hold no value in your life and add no meaning to your future. So, the next time you find yourself in a situation where someone else is controlling any part of your life, look inward first. You have to reflect that negative situation back onto yourself first. Unfortunately, this is the only way to begin to find the clarity needed to rise above it. Ugh, realizing this was so empowering and gave me such an “aah’ ha’! ” Moment of relief, that I became excited for life in a childlike way.

Embrace the unknown with Confidence

Yes, I was uncomfortable to step out into the unknown, but I am beaming with excitement for the unexpected things that are going to happen! Look, we always have a choice. It may not be the easiest or maybe it’s not the most practical alternative, but we always have an opportunity to choose other options that benefit us! Which is why you need to “embrace the unknown with confidence”! Now this does not mean, we should continue to make bad choices and it doesn’t mean we should stop making choices at all! Not making any choices good or bad just keeps up in limbo. It keeps us stuck and prevents us from moving forward. Wasting time, we can never get back! I’m taking about acknowledging that you struggle to make decisions that will benefit you, more than they benefit others. I have done this for years in my businesses, in my family, in my relationships, and I find that it becomes a habit! But the thing about a habit, is that it can be learned, and it can be unlearned just as well!

Embracing the unknown with confidence, means, you get to enter new experiences that you know to need and want for yourself. It means you are making a decision to do something for yourself, that will benefit you now, which will benefit others later. I talk a little deeper on this in my article “Life’s Ripple effect Revealed”. Or you can check out my article on “Why do I stay” to find out more about my story, the abuse I have overcome and how i got to this abundant place in my life that offeres so opportuny and experiences.

I just want to leave you with one last thought. What if you decided today to Stop allowing others to control you? What if you had enough confidence to make some really difficult choices that would benefit your life tomorrow? What if you knew what actions you could take to get you one step closer to the life you truly desire? If you knew you could take just one small action toward your desires and see an immediate result, would you follow up that decision with Radical Confidence? Because I know the fear of stepping out into the unknown! I did it! And here I am still doing it with full confidence! I am on this amazing journey full of opportunities. If you need proof, I got you! I decided to document my journey through and to success and purpose. To get tips, resources, and information on cleansing, clarity, security and abundance reach out to your EPIC MUSE here.

WHO AND WHAT ARE YOU CREATING???

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If you are a single mom you might understand what I’m about to say. But I hope every parent gets this….

What kind of adults are you creating? Even though my girls are older, there are so many moments when I sit back and just observe them from a distance. I hear them laughing in the next room together or see them dancing around the house, or just cuddling in bed together. I see how kind and humble they are to their friends. Even those who hurt them. But still, they stand strong and support one another! I can not explain the joy that rushes through me to know they love one another so much and always have each other’s back.

I must say, it was not easy to get these girls to respect each other. I had to give lots of tough love! And I still do! Even though it hurts me to do it. I’d do it all over again just to witness the love they share, just once. If I’m honest, I went through so much shit with their dad, that I missed out on a lot of years. I was NOT PRESENT.! I mean, not really.

PARENTS: If you are busy “getting busy” Its time to reevaluate how you use your time. You don’t get a do-over on bonding with your children. You can’t go back and make them small children, once their adults.

I get it! It’s hard to work a full-time job and raise kids on your own with little to no help. But let’s be honest, that’s just an excuse! People make time for other people and things when it benefits them! Or it’s convenient for them. It takes a very big person, and an even bigger soul to admit when we are falling short.

When I was with their father, I could have done better! I admit that! I could have done A lot better! I was not the best parent back then, but I make it my duty to be the greatest parent today! “The truth is we are all created. So, tell me, who and what are you creating???”

How to Go from Pain to Purpose

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“Your pain can be used for the Greater Good”

I know that sounds sooo cleche, but what if I told you I have used my pain to get closer to my purposeful & abundant life? What if I told you that you could literally change your circumstances (no matter what they are) and you can turn them into cash flow? Oh yeah! I just said cash flow! Are you with me now? Yea that’s what I thought!

The key here is that you can’t hear just “cash flow”. You should never go into something “GREAT” with “Greed” at the center of your reasoning behind your actions. So you got really interested in this article after you heard the words “cash flow” this article is for you. I want to help you lose the greed and come from a place of gratitude, love and humility. You must come at this with a MINDSET of feeling completely satisfied with your current situation and love your circumstances. That’s right, I said “Love your Circumstances”. And do you know why? Because your thoughts control your emotions, and your emotions get so over the top and out of control that it causes you to “act out” from these “feelings and reactions” that create your character. The person you are right now, today is only a result of your experiences.

You have this idea that the world your living in is all you have. This is it! Get up, go to work, to make the money, to pay the bills, eat, sleep, maybe party a little on the weekends, hang with the kids, invite friends over for BBQ’s, etc. etc. And no matter how hard you try to be happy and have fun, it is always short lived. You sit in traffic and someone cuts you off and your entire day is stressful and anxiety driven. You live in stress and anxiety each day and yet you wake up each morning to do the same damn thing over and over, day, after day, after day.

This routine you have found yourself in is what you call “your life”, And the people, places and things you surround yourself with are making up this stage you now call “Your Life”. Basically, you get all your experiences, which make up your thoughts, which then turn into emotions or feelings, which becomes “Your Character” in this world you actually created yourself. If you are still here I am excited to tell you that you have the ability to change your world! All you have to do is change the experiences you’re having right now.

How to Change your Pain into Purpose

Okay, so you know that “feeling” inside that you get when you smell something or hear something and it takes you back in time? You can literally smell, taste, hear or feel something that brings back a memory. Well now think of this, if you can use your senses (hear, smell, touch or taste) to experience an emotion or feeling of the past, how amazing would it be if you could make your senses experience what will become in the future? If I can take you to a place you remember in the past, who is to say I can’t take you on a journey into your future? Uh, it’s “AHmAzIIng”!

You CAN change your pain into purpose. For example, I overcame the pain I was in by changing the way I thought about my pain. I hated that the source of my relationships with men started with wanting to “save them”. It came from an expectation I had in the relationship and I expected that person to deliver. I have this desire to help men overcome some pain, abuse or addiction they have because of a tragedy that happened in my life when I was a young child. The past dictated my future.

Well, I decided that instead of attracting what I didn’t want in my life, I would begin to think of things that I did want in my life. So, I wrote down all the quality’s I didn’t want in my next relationship and all the quality’s I DID want in my next relationship. (You can literally do this for every area of your life. Work, school, health, relationships, success, finances, etc.) I then looked at the list and asked myself a really hard question. “Would that guy I “want” in my life, like the person I am today?” Obviously, my answer was a big fat NO!! But, I accepted that the problem wasn’t in the men I chose, but the problem persisted inside of ME. I was the problem! I was not attracting the kind of relationships I wanted because I wasn’t living a life conducive of that which I desired. Basically, I wan’t playing the right character for the part I wanted.

Look your stage can be filled with the most extraordinary settings, but if you don’t have each character playing the right part, the show won’t be the same. In fact, people will be asking for their tickets back! (Giggles) Why do you think Broadway has so many interviews before they choose the person they want to play the lead role? Why do you think movies are so engaging? The “Character” makes or breaks a scene. You can desire all you want, but if your character doesn’t fit the part you want to play, your movie will suck!!!

So how do you use your pain to reach your purpose? That is for you to decide! What is your pain? How are you thinking of your pain? Are you even thinking of your pain? You have to become the character of the person you want to be. You have to make a decision and take “A NEW ACTION”. You have to do something different in order to get different results. We hear this all the time! Einstein’s quote gets thrown around like a damn football on a field, but no one is actually taking the time to think of underlining meaning of it’s purpose. In other words, if “doing the same thing over and over again is insanity” Could it be that “do something different over and over again is clarity”?

“Doing something different over and over again Producing different results is Clarity”

By Christina Ditzel

So what do you want? You’re not going to get it doing what your doing now. If you have feelings or emotions that cause stress, anger, fear, guilt, or shame you are living in “Survival mode” and you will never receive fulfillment in that place. You need to take the pain you have and think of a way you can heal it. After you heal your own pain, reach back and pull someone else who is experiencing the pain you’ve overcome. Do it from a place of love, compassion, understanding, and humility.

When you do everything from this new place of selflessness, without an understanding of what you already know, but with a willingness to learn something new, you begin to experience a different journey through life. You begin to find yourself around people who you will resonate with, places that inspire you, and things that excite you. You will have a new view of life, you will find a tribe to hold you accountable, and you will grow and learn with every new experience. You will begin to build a world that will offer healing for yourself and for those around you. And you will do it with love, and without prejudice.

The key is that you have to be willing to DO what others won’t. You have to lose the fear, doubt and voices in your head that say “your only one person”, “your not enough”, “you don’t have the resources”, “you don’t have the skills”, “you’re too old”, “you don’t have the experience” or any other thoughts that may cause you to stay in the very moment you are in right now. You have to change your belief system, and you have to trust in it. Live as a new Character in your world that seeks clarity with your own rules. Use the pain to get you there, but always be led in “LOVE”, and you WILL FIND YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE AND LIVE IN ABUNDANCE.

May our paths cross in the near future!!

Author Christina Ditzel

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