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How to Gain Clarity in your Losses

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Leveling up your playing field

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First, let me start by say that leveling up your playing field means “You get to live the life you want without other people controlling any part of your belief system, your decisions, or your lifestyle. That means, we need to gain total control of our mind, our actions, our health and our finances so we can live our life with a clear vision of the life we want. Being an entrepreneur and business owner, I thought I had all that covered. Boy was I wrong!!! Let me first share with you a little back story of how I lost total control of my business, my finances and most importantly, myself worth, and then I will share how I gained clarity in all my losses

So, what brought me to this place where I feel lack and frustration was when I had a client who caught covid and did not give me the common courtesy to give me a choice!! Now don’t hear what I am not saying. I am not blaming this customer for my being here today, because we all know when we point one finger at someone else, we have three fingers pointed back at ourselves. So first we must always acknowledge that by allowing others to have control, we are enabling them. I wanted to be clear on that. So, moving on…

This particular client confirmed their appointment with me and had me arrive at their home on our usually 9:30-10am bi-weekly appointment. They confirmed and I showed up! I allowed them to have control of the situation because I depend on that income. I “needed” them. I could have just as easily walked out the door and told her to call me when she is feeling better. Let me state clearly, that when people know you “need them”, you put yourself in a very vulnerable place. Okay so continuing….

By deciding to stay and provide services for this client, it just so happens, that it caused me to further lose other work in the process. How you ask? Well, for one, I had to cancel other work as to avoid getting other clients sick. And then second, me and my daughters did end up getting sick. So that was two weeks of work gone!
Okay, so its flu season, right? So, what, I got a sore throat and had to take the day or a few days off. No big deal, right? I know your already probably thinking, “What is the point of this story? And what does it have to do with finding clarity?” But just stay with me for a moment! I get it your thinking “It’s not really a big deal” Where I reply, “Until it is a bigger deal then I thought all along!” Let me first just say that no matter what you’re going through right now, your feelings and your emotions play a huge role in your actions. And the trauma you experience will continue to add roadblocks in your actions and in your journey through life.

“Our circumstances equal our playing field, and our playing field equals our opportunity to Level up our life”!


If life has taught me anything it’s that I am not in control of other people, their thoughts or their actions. Therefore, I have no control of my (past, current or present) situation if I give control away. Funny thing is, for the last few years, I thought I was living by this quote “You can’t control other people, but you can control how you react towards other people.”

I literally teach this concept in my book, podcasts and through blogs, and here I am, stuck laying in my bed, feeling completely contradicting of everything I represent! Truth is, to me “not reacting to other people means, “Don’t’ overreact when people treat you like shit!” or “Don’t allow others to upset you when they are assholes.” And as I still believe this concept to be true, there is still an underlying issue that I didn’t even realize until I took action and signed up for Lisa Bilyeu RADCON course. She really helped me see what radical confidence really means! She lead me in a whole new direction. She took me from being unclear about my goals and my purpose in life to finding my purpose in life. She took me from being scared, doubtful, embraced, and even self shaming, to being able to take massive actions, and be “The hero of my own life”. See without the right people directing you and feeding into your soul, you can’t lose the blocks that keep you from reaching your full protentional.

By allowing my client to have control is just one example of me not having control in my life. At this point now, I am still searching right? So, digging into Lisa’s course, I then get a call from Natasha Graziano’s assistant. I’m going to be honest here and go out on a limb, I had no clue who Natasha was. I looked her up and saw she was super famous, successful and looked extremely happy and abundant! I went on a research binge to find out all that I could on this Natasha Graziano. And realized I actually just saw her a few weeks prior on an episode at Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu. I was in my awe moment because I just realized all the synchronicities that were appearing in my life. I just began to feel blessed. Even more then I already felt, if that was possible!

I spoke to an amazing women Named Maria from Natasha Graziano’s team and she convinced me to sign up for their Authority Accelerator course. If I’m going to be completely honest with myself, and with you, I was feeling a little overwhelmed and was tired of people trying to sell me on courses. However, I remembered all the things I heard in Lisa Bilyeu’s course, and I knew I had to lose the doubt and fear that was creeping in. Lisa calls this “The bitch in my head”. I literally had to tell her to “shut the hell up because I was, I was in control of my actions. I am now a ‘WOMEN OF IMPACT’ and I was taking control of my own destiny”!

I was allowing the excuses to overwhelm me. The excuse that “I still haven’t completely finished my RADCON course that I just paid for” and “I just needed a job”, thoughts like; “I am not in season, and I have limited funds coming in now” kept freaking me out and causing my stress levels to raise. They kept coming at me “not to mention, I just got a new car and have a higher car payment” the bitch in my head would not stop there…. “How are you going to pay for the roof over daughters heads?”

Then I paused for a moment when I realized my “Zen” was gone! SRA SRA SRA Telling myself (Chistina, Stop in your tracks, Realign your thoughts, and Assess your focus) In that very moment I made a decision. See, when I told a new friend about the situation with my client who totally disrespected me, he just reminded me that, I allowed another person to control me by not removing myself completely from the situation! They controlled my health, my business, my schedule, and my finances. And all because I allowed them to do so! See, I thought by ignoring the situation, that meant I was being the bigger person. But I was in fact, enabling people to continue to devalue me, shoot me and my character down, and preventing myself from making radical moves into my purpose driven life. I had no clarity because the Lenz I was looking through, was not my own.

Gain Clarity in Your Losses!

Like many people who have lost their businesses from this pandemic, it’s become exhausting to even hear the word “COVID”! It’s going on three years at this time, and I’m just drained! This pandemic is sucking the life out of us! The politics and inflation are killing us! And the struggle and stress are physically killing us every single day! So, what now? 2022 is here and halfway throght the year already! It’s time to move on! It is time to see life through a new Lenz! A ZEN LENZ! It is time find clarity so you can life blessed in your mess, love the journey, and feel abundant in all areas of life! but how? How do we get clarity of the mind and becone grounded and understand how we find our true purpose? Well, I will tell you. “By taking RADICAL ACTIONS THAT OFFER RADICAL RESULTS!”

See, the day maria contacted me to join the authority accelerator course, I am not going to lie. everything in my being said “Say thank you for the opportunity and hang the dam phone up!!” But that day I did something different! I told myself “Com ‘on Christina make a new choice!!! Stop talking about it an be about” I told myself all the things I’ve been saying in these blogs, and in my book. And I didn’t know what was about to happen, but I did know one thing was for sure, I knew I did not want to be a hypocrite or live life contrary to my beliefs. Let me just say CLARITY IS POWER! And this just became my new motivator to pursue multiple sources of income that no government, no pandemic, and not one single person can control. And do you know why? Because its only in my mind, its in my thoughts, its in my words and its in my actions. And no one in this world, not even the negative bitch in my head, can play the role of Ms. Christina Ditzel.

See as I was saying in the beginning of this article, sometimes, we must level up our playing field, so we can have clarity to know how to gain total control of our life! If we are not learning, planning, strategizing, and consistently making choices that benefit our own life, we are not living our life at all! Take Control of your life so others can’t control you!!

I am always learning new ways to overcome adversity and get clarity. But it wasn’t until I took drastic steps to do things that scared me, and helped me, to find my way out of all the fog. My hope is that by sharing my experiences, you can avoid making some (or all) of the mistakes I made along the way. Don’t waste any more time doing the things that hold no value in your life and add no meaning to your future. So, the next time you find yourself in a situation where someone else is controlling any part of your life, look inward first. You have to reflect that negative situation back onto yourself first. Unfortunately, this is the only way to begin to find the clarity needed to rise above it. Ugh, realizing this was so empowering and gave me such an “aah’ ha’! ” Moment of relief, that I became excited for life in a childlike way.

Embrace the unknown with Confidence

Yes, I was uncomfortable to step out into the unknown, but I am beaming with excitement for the unexpected things that are going to happen! Look, we always have a choice. It may not be the easiest or maybe it’s not the most practical alternative, but we always have an opportunity to choose other options that benefit us! Which is why you need to “embrace the unknown with confidence”! Now this does not mean, we should continue to make bad choices and it doesn’t mean we should stop making choices at all! Not making any choices good or bad just keeps up in limbo. It keeps us stuck and prevents us from moving forward. Wasting time, we can never get back! I’m taking about acknowledging that you struggle to make decisions that will benefit you, more than they benefit others. I have done this for years in my businesses, in my family, in my relationships, and I find that it becomes a habit! But the thing about a habit, is that it can be learned, and it can be unlearned just as well!

Embracing the unknown with confidence, means, you get to enter new experiences that you know to need and want for yourself. It means you are making a decision to do something for yourself, that will benefit you now, which will benefit others later. I talk a little deeper on this in my article “Life’s Ripple effect Revealed”. Or you can check out my article on “Why do I stay” to find out more about my story, the abuse I have overcome and how i got to this abundant place in my life that offeres so opportuny and experiences.

I just want to leave you with one last thought. What if you decided today to Stop allowing others to control you? What if you had enough confidence to make some really difficult choices that would benefit your life tomorrow? What if you knew what actions you could take to get you one step closer to the life you truly desire? If you knew you could take just one small action toward your desires and see an immediate result, would you follow up that decision with Radical Confidence? Because I know the fear of stepping out into the unknown! I did it! And here I am still doing it with full confidence! I am on this amazing journey full of opportunities. If you need proof, I got you! I decided to document my journey through and to success and purpose. To get tips, resources, and information on cleansing, clarity, security and abundance reach out to your EPIC MUSE here.

Fueling the fire inside WOMEN

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“WOMEN BECOMING WARRIORS NOT WORRIES”

I woke up early this morning with this thought that women have this internal desire inside them for change! Many women who want to change personally, professionally, physically, and mentally, won’t like having people in their life that hold them back or take them off focus. Rather, they only want to surround themselves with people who will motivate their vision and help them move them forward. So if you are a women in the world who has a fire inside you to become the best version of yourself, but don’t know where to start, welcome! This is a place where you get the wisdom you need to fuel the fire inside you, so you can shine your light in the world. This morning I woke up with a desire to fight for all women! This is the start of a new era. A world where women are not worriers, but warriors of their communities.

THE FIRE THAT BURNS INSIDE US

The fire inside us women runs deep. It runs so deep that we can end up losing ourselves in the people and things around us if we are not wise. We live most of our youth doubting ourselves and never feeling whole or worthy. We have an eagerness for “more”. But in many cases we don’t know what that “more” is. Many women will reach the end of the road with the demons of all their regrets lingering around their death bed. And I do not want that for you!!!

Society does everything in its power to tell us how we should think, feel, and act. We are taught very young to “be good little girls”. They said things like “sit up”, “mind your manners”, “watch what you say” “watch who you say it to”. Some even went as far to tear us down and use abusive words like “You’re too fat! You’re too skinny” “You’re not smart enough” and “You’re not tall enough” “You’re not strong enough” “You can’t do that your a girl!” or even things like “You’re a girl, you are to be seen and not heard”. All these things people say to women only leaves us in doubt, fear, and living in regret.

In some countries today, women still have no rights at all and are used for the sole purpose of baring a son to carry on the legacy of their family name. Some women are even told what they can and can’t wear. Husbands share their wives with other men and are physically and sexually abused. In the Corporate America women still don’t get paid the same as the men and we are still seen as minority. Even if we have more credentials. Even if we do a better job and have degrees. For centuries women have been told to know our place and to mind our P’s and Q’s.

I could go on and on with the details of all the things women have had to endure over the years, from the different cultures that demean women, to the lack of respect we receive if we attempt to do the same things men do. BUT! I’m not writing this so we can throw a freaking pity party! I’m writing this so we can throw ourselves into warrior mode! So we can gain a little (or A LOT) of wisdom and make a difference in our communities and in the world we live in. No matter where you live!  And later, we will throw a GIRL POWER PARTY!

Look, I’m not saying all the “advice” people try to give out is bad advice. The start of wisdom is actually acceptance of the truths we ignore. Sometimes the truth hurts and we need to hear it so we can see some things about ourselves that we have otherwise ignored, or got comfortable with. In other words, we need to hold ourselves accountable. Seeing the truth is wisdom! By facing the ugly truths about ourselves, we can start taking some actions to fuel that fire that burns inside us. Truth is, when people say things it impacts our character, how we see ourselves, and how we live our life. Getting wisdom means we are aware of the things people are seeing and saying about us, but we don’t allow it to define us.

We’re not weak souls, we are strong, independent, powerful souls! We are born beautiful. We become mothers, sisters, daughters, and granddaughters. And playing those roles means we have the power and the responsibility to lead. We have abilities built in us to become bosses and owners of corporations. IT IS TIME TO FUEL THAT FIRE BABY!!! I mean, we have women running for presidency. The failure only comes when our leadership roles lack one important skill…WISDOM!

A WORD TO THE WISE

“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor.”

Proverbs 3:13-16

Don’t take this word out of context! Hear what this message is actually saying. The “she” they are referring to here is Wisdom. It is saying Wisdom is much more precious than silver, rubies, and gold. Listen, I am with you ladies, I like my bling! I love the sparkle and shine! I like the way I feel when I wear it. I get it! But think about this, “what if you could have all the riches plus honor, and live a long life too? Wouldn’t you want to have this “Wisdom” they’re speak about? I know I do! I don’t just want a little of it either, I want a lot! “I want as much Wisdom a girl can get!”

HOW MUCH WISDOM CAN A GIRL GET?

Well, that depends on a few factors…

  1. How much do you want?
  2. Who is feeding you?
  3. Who’s feeding your mind and what are they feeding it?
  4. Who and what influences your soul?
  5. And, are you willing to do the work?

Our physical bodies hear the noise around us. We see the toxic and the blessings. We smell the stench of evil, and we feel the pain inflicted. How long will it take us to realize we are in control of our own destiny? We are warriors in a world full of people who are afraid of our ability to be brilliant and resilient. It’s easier to keep us down, rather than watch us flourish. They romance us with all the “50 Shades of Grey” mindset to keep us submitting to their ideas, and their beliefs. Living in a physical world where all we want is a voice, and a purpose, it is so difficult for us to wrap our minds around the idea that “we actually do have a choice”. We can choose to succumb to the fantasies that produce illusions, or we can surrender to all the experiences we desire that produce change in our life. All we have to do is take the first step. Owning our part and taking one small action that will move us forward. If you are asking yourself “But what is that action? and Where do I start?”

THIS IS THE START OF A NEW ERA. A SAFE PLACE WHERE WOMEN FIGHT FOR THESELVES AND THE WOMEN AROUND THEM.  WHERE WE GAIN WISDOM, VALUE INTEGRITY AND LIVE IN ABUNDANCE. TAKE A STAND WTH WOMEN FROM ACROSS THE WORLD AND JOIN TODAY AND FUEL THAT FIRE THAT BURNS INSIDE YOU!

SUBSCRIBE TODAY TO BE A PART OF SOMETHING BIGGER! FOR THE POWER TO EMBRACE THE WARRIOR IN YOU!  

WHY YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED

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Motivation is CRAP!

Seriously, motivation is just a bunch of crap! Anyone in the world can slap a sticky note or picture frame with words of motivation on a wall! I mean there are seminars, videos, blogs, and all kinds of free material out there for us to get “motivated”! So, why? Why are we never motivated to do the things we know we should do? Why can’t we get motivated to do the things that we know will change our life? Well, I will tell why….

Because, although the many words that motivate us at those seminars, or on those videos, sound really good in the moment! Unfortunately, it literally only takes about 5 seconds for “our brain” to change “our minds”! The truth is, when we are looking for “motivation”, it’s only because we have found ourselves at a crossroad. And FORTUNATELY, all crossroads drive us to “search for what we would say is ‘motivation’ to get us to a better place”. Right? But, even though that “terrible thing” has now brought us to this place where all we want to do is find some dam “breathing room”! If we don’t “DECIDE” to stop making excuses, we will never be motivated!

Our excuses Smother Our Motivation

In actuality, we haven’t experienced any “REAL” change from motivation, because we are too busy making excuses which smothers our enthusiasm we have.  We don’t take the actions we need required to make the change happen, because we just don’t have any real cause. We actually “think” we want change, but we are “pretty happy” in our mess. We are! I know what you’re thinking “This bitch is crazy right now!”, “Does she seriously think I enjoy this situation?” But before you go all postal on me and freak out. Just hear me out! Geez….

It’s unfortunate that we find ourselves in the same scenario’s over and over, but if we don’t get over this idea that “I am just not motivated” or “I just need a little motivation”, well nothing in your life will ever change. “You will never be motivated” until you stop making excuses! You have great ideas and you are super genius, but the hard truth is, “every time you think of ‘amazing things’ you get one negative thought in your head (fear of failure, doubt you’ll make it, etc.) and then when it comes to taking that one small step forward, you punk out!” There I said it!! You come up with all the reasons why you just “can’t” do that ‘thing’. And here you are again, back to “needing motivation”. Well I am here to tell you; your excuses are smothering your motivation!!! 

HELLO!! Do you not know that motivation is only there to fire up some spark in your mind and in your heart?! The only way to ignite the flame inside of you, is to pour fuel on it! If you wait for something else to happen before you get motivated” to actually “take the action”, you will always be waiting and never doing. Forget the idea of being “motivated”. That’s over the second you say, ‘after I’ or ‘when I’ or ‘I can’t because’! Until you STOP MAKING EXCUSES and START TAKIGN THE ACITONS you need to take to get the life you want YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED!

This is your life and you only get one shot at it! Make it worth your while! What are you waiting for? There is nothing you “NEED” that you don’t already have! I promise, all your skills, all your knowledge, all the techniques, all the money, all your connections, and all your dreams are right there in front you. All you have to do is reach out and grab one thing! Start somewhere! ANYWHERE! But dam it, START! You have everything you need to succeed! Don’t you dare wait for money to get right, because it will never get right while you sit here doing the same shit you do, day in and day out! You have to GET UP, WASH YOUR DAM FACE, AND BRUSH YOUR STINKY ASS BREATH, AND GO OUT THERE! Go out there without any fear, with no doubt, and without any worry of failure or disappointment, because everything (good and bad) is moving you forward into your purpose! EVERYTHING! There would be no life without good and evil leveling the playing fields. So just embrace your shit and move past it!

BE MOTIVATED AND DO THIS ACTION TODAY

So, how can you get motivated today? Well first! You have to realize that words have no meaning with an action to follow. So, how can you use all the bad and good things in your life to get yourself not just motivated, but moving into action? It actually is simple, but not easy.

For example: I had to start getting up earlier in the morning every single day! That’s right even weekends! I always felt like I didn’t have enough time to do all the things I wanted to get done in a day, so what did I do? I started getting up earlier then everyone else. I woke up at 4am each morning instead 8am or 9am. That gave me 4-5 hours more in my day of productivity and accomplishments. This routine has not only helped me get more done, but I have time to take care of my own personal needs as well. Like taking care of my physical body so I have the energy I need to get through my day. I made time to actually sit down and eat a healthy breakfast, to work-out, and to do a little meditation to get my body, mind and spirit working together. And you know what I got?  A lot more clarity and focus during my entire day.

These are just a few things I adjusted in my morning routine that helped me be more productive daily. Furthermore, when I am more focused during the day, I am not stressed. It allows me to have clarity and a sense of “Zen” throughout my entire day because I am not feeling rushed or hurried. It is hard to feel motivated when you feel rushed, or too busy all the time. Not to mention the anxiety level that happens in a high stress, fast paced environment. This is partly how I made the decision to be an entrepreneur in the first place! I can’t handle the high stress in environments that I know could be managed in a much more productive way. Being mindful of the people and things that brought stress into my life, helped me make the decisions I needed to make to avoid the anxiety in my future.

It drove me ‘crazy’ that most businesses have so much drama, gossip, and stress in the workplace! It really shouldn’t be that way. It is so easy to come up with a plan to delegate everyone’s work and build people up for success personally and professionally! While moving the business itself to thrive.  “There is enough space in this world for everyone’s light to shine.” Most” businesses fail in customer service because the staff is so stressed from lack of communication and management productivity.

MY FINAL THOUGHTS

So, today, be motivated! BUT TAKE THE DAM ACTIONS! You have the capability to manifest any idea’s you have in your mind and the desires you have in your heart. The problems only persist when you are not taking your path towards those ideas and desires. The Divine wants to help you, but you have to help yourself by taking just one step. It really starts with just a decision! You choose and you do it! That’s it! You don’t let anyone talk you out of it, you don’t have any fear of failure and you never doubt your abilities. When you are “MINDFUL” you can bring your ideas, into actions. If it truly comes from your heart, you will find a way. The key is, you have to want it like you want the air in your lungs.

Seriously, blow all the air out of your lungs and watch how fast you breath for air! And, you don’t just want that air, you actually TAKE IT IN! And you appreciate it because you realize, well for one, “how dizzy you get without it” and for two, “how important it is for your survival”! Your path is important for your life and you must survive to go through your life. Your decisions are important for your life, and the actions you take are extremely important for your life. If you take in the choices, your paths can make you dizzy! You know what I mean? So, make good decisions, and Be motivated, YES! But take the actions to bring that inspiration inside of you to life! NOT MORE EXCUSES!!!!

“STOP TALKING ABOUT IT and BE ABOUT IT”

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How to Embrace Your Journey and Live the Life YOU Want!

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No one else can determine the kind of life you want for yourself, because we all experience life differently, and we are all unique in our own way. We each have gifts and talents, and those gifts and talents are used in a way that can only benefit you. So, today I hope this article helps you determine your uniqueness and so you can embrace your gifts!

First, acknowledgment! You must acknowledge all your gifts and all your talents. Good and bad. That’s right, even the ones you picked up along the way. The one’s you discovered in your pain. Acknowledge them so you can learn to Love them. This brings me to my second point…

You must learn to “Love your Uniqueness” and accept that you are different. Know that you are WONDERFULLY and perfectly made as you are right now!!! You are not your family, your friends, coworkers, or colleagues and that is okay. You may not have developed their gifts and talents, but you have your own attributes. You have qualities they don’t. Focus on yourself and learn to love yourself for how unique you truly are.

Third, you must forget the entire belief system that you have been living in. You must become NEW by rebirthing your true essence and embracing your true self. Your INNER BEING! By determining who that is, you can finally live the life you were meant to live! You inner being has ideas, emotions and an identity that is eager to thrive! It’s like, the real you inside is screaming because the life your living is not the life you know deep down to your core is the life your capable of having. There is more inside of you. That eagerness burning inside of you, can’t show up if you are too busy locking it in to everyone else’s philosophies. You must forget the dogma of those around you, and embrace your own principles, and live by those principles only.

When you open your heart to know yourself, you open yourself up to a whole new world. Here’s the thing, when you understand your pain and KNOW these three things, you step into an entirely different journey.  

  1. You Know how you got to “where you are”
  2. You Know “why you are” unique
  3. And You Know “who you are” meant to be

 When you are aware, you can finally discover a new meaning for life, and make peace with yourself, your family, your friends, and everyone else around you. By discovering a new person inside of “YOU” and loving that person with intention for life, you will be able to accept others for who they can become, and not who they are currently.

 You are not your circumstances and you are not limited to the world you see yourself in right now. You can have more! You can create a new life for yourself and for those around you. There is a light inside of you that is burning and yearning to come out! But the only way to really put it on display, is to recognize it for yourself. Reveal it to yourself first, than others will discover it too. Those close to you may not accept the new version of you in the beginning, and that is okay. If you are doing what feels good and right straight down to the very core of “your being”, you are safe to move forward without worry of judgment or discouragement!

You are safe to move forward without hesitation, without fear, without doubt and without the voices in your head telling you it is impossible or you are not qualified! Nothing is impossible for your unique journey, and you are qualified to be your unique self! Here are some steps to move you forward right now…

  1. Write down your options
  2. Ask your inner self (you don’t need permission or confirmation from others)
  3. Get grounded with your own intentions
  4. Eliminate distractions (anything that steers you in the opposite direction)
  5. Exercise and eat something that will provide energy to your body and stimulate your brain
  6. Get clarity and stay strong in your beliefs and keep the faith.

Listen, my faith gets me through every time! I may fall short, life might happen around me, and I may even stumble over a rock from time to time, but if I am connected to a higher source, (God, The Divine, the Universe, etc.) and that source will catch me every time! He will not forsake me, and he will always show me a better way. I know that deep down to my core, even when it is difficult to see for myself. I know sometimes it’s difficult to see over the mountain. But when we trust in the timing even though it is not NOW, better things come when you stop trying to control the universe. I “Believe” that I deserve success, therefore I will succeed. I Believe I will find true love therefore I will not settle for less, I believe I deserve all the things I desire in my heart. And even though I may not know exactly how I will acquire these things, I know I will receive all the blessings and more then I could imagine in my little mind.

You must believe, be grounded and have a strong foundation. And the only way to have all of that, is to determine your unique self and live the life you want, rather than the life everyone else wants.  When you are connected to a higher source, you know that source will catch you and guide you no matter what. This gives you the confidence you need to move you forward.

However, you must be constantly be grounded within your own uniqueness. KNOWKING that Divine things are constantly working “for you”, and not against you. Stop thinking things are bad and realize these bad things happen for you in order to put you on YOUR right path. Listen, you can make your choices, but your purpose will always be trying to rise above to move you toward the life you truly desire inside.

In other words, what you are seeing as “bad things happening”, is only viewed like that because you are so busy living a life that everyone else planned for you. You’ve made decisions that brought you to this vary point! No, it is not the life you want! And therefore, nothing is going your way and you see everything happening as “bad” because it is not happening from your true essence, but in fact is happening because you are following someone else’s path. When you realize, everything happens FOR you, and NOT to you, life begins to flow! When you stop listening to the voices around you and embrace your unique self and you trust in instincts, I promise, the things that begin to happen will shape the life you have always wanted, and then some!  

If you don’t determine your own gifts and talents now, and if you don’t embrace your uniqueness and weirdness, than you will always be living a life that is not yours and therefore you will always be living in lack and disapointment! You must begin living as if you KNOW everything is moving you forward. Good or Bad, you ARE moving forward!

You can make mistakes! It’s okay. Learn from them and move forward. Don’t sit in your mistakes letting it define you as a loser or failure. Get up, and you will persevere! Don’t be selfish and don’t take the easy route. Understand the process, grow within the Divine, and most important, Allow the Divine to grow IN and AROUND you. BELIEVE you deserve more! You are different and you are unique, but that is what makes you so special! Today is the day you discover greatness within!

So what! Yesterday was a bad day, it’s okay! Today you get to try again. Maybe that thing you wanted didn’t work last time! That’s okay! Today is a new day for new ideas! Today is the day you Embrace your unique spirit! Today is the day you stop listing to the voices in your head that say “you are not good enough”, “you’re not pretty enough”, “you’re not smart enough”, and “you’re not young enough”! Today is the day you say F That! Because you know “You ARE good enough”! “You ARE pretty enough”! “You ARE smart enough”! And yes “you ARE the perfect age today” to determine your unique self and live the life you want! Change comes when you decide to be changed! Change comes when you stop following the rest and you determine your unique self and take the chances today, to live the life you want tomorrow!

“YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DOING WHAT YOU WANT

YOU JUST HAVE TO BE WILLING TO BELIEVE IT

 AND THAN TAKE THE ACTIONS THAT PRODUCE IT” 

Christina Ditzel

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HOW TO OVERCOME ADDICTION (Part 2)

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For the rest of you, welcome back to part 2 of “Overcoming addiction”. Hopefully in part one, you learned a little about yourself and realized that mindset is everything. The words we use to label ourselves and others, has a huge impact on how we think, feel, and act daily. We can’t go around calling people addicts just because they drink too much, use drugs, or take advantage of other substance abuse, but the truth is, many of us are addicted to something, we just use different names for it. Until you realize it is just a really “bad habit” like, being on the phone too dam much, serial dating, hyper-sexuality, and anything else that becomes an OBSESSION. Basically, you should have realized that addiction is nothing more than an infatuation when we are preoccupied with an object or activity, that consumes our attention! You just have to change these habits to overcome the addiction to it!  It really is that simple!

OKAY HOW? HOW DO WE CHANGE THESE HABITS?

So, I am going to give everyone 12 steps to overcoming addiction in a minute, but first let me get you on the right mindset. Because the truth is, if you continue on your path with an “addict” mentality, you will stay in the “addiction” or remain a “recovered addict” forever! As long as you stay in the past mentally you’re staying in that addiction physically! So, are you really ready for change? Are you ready to overcome this once and for all? Well, if you really are, you must first get a grip on your mindset! We have to change our thinking! We must think of our “habit” (not addiction) as something we love to do because for a moment it makes us feel a sense of satisfaction, love, passion, or whatever we FEEL we are missing in our everyday, ordinary life. Furthermore, we must realize the fact that we have a sense of lack somewhere, or we are trying to numb ourselves from some reality we don’t want to face. Well, your gonna’ have to “suck it up” and face it! Sorry! Unfortunately, until we face our pain, we will never understand what or where the pain is generating from. We have to figure out what your trying to numb. And while we are in this phase we need to work on US, without the opinions of the people in our life. Like let’s be real here, they have their own demons they have to face.

 Listen, if we can focus our mindset and become more aware of the things “we” think about and be more concerned with our “own life”, we can easily break much of the bad habits (or addictions) we acquire throughout life. The only way to change our life, is to change ourselves. However, by continuing to use the word, “Addiction” and being in “recovery” and listening to the belief systems of other people, you ARE maintaining that state of mind, you keep doing and living the same life, and therefore you will never overcome it! You really have to focus on “you and your unique self” in order to understand where your pain generates and feed your pleasures by building a life that feels good to your inner being. Right now, you must seek the true essence that is YOU! Nothing can change because you’re not changing it! If you continue listening and doing the things the people around you do, you will always feel out of control, and you will live out of control! The same concept applies to the words, obsession, infatuation, compulsive, dependency, and whatever other habit words you use. To overcome it, you have to face it, and realize you’re allowed to just be….

(This is where you figure out who you really are. What you want to “be” when you grow up. What you like and don’t like. Who you like and who you really don’t like. You’re allowed to have an opinion and you are allowed to be yourself.)

TRANSFORMATION AND CLARITY

When people begin to realize their addictions are just compulsive dependency’s that began due to some “lack” in one area of life, or an “escape” to some trauma that happened to them, it becomes so easy to recognize why we began these habits in the first place. In fact, it becomes much easier to focus our mind on self growth, and move forward when we get clarity. Transformation and clarity of who we are suppose to be in life, becomes abundantly clear. We begin to change our thinking and our actions to reflect our purpose driven life! And this is where amazing things begin to happen!

As humans we want to be independent and we don’t want to be treated like a child. And, we definitely don’t want to be undermined by the people who we are around, that have their own challenges! No one is perfect, and everyone has something they are “addicted” to! Don’t undercut yourself no matter what side your standing on! The addicts family and friends have to make changes too! That is, if they want to be a part of your new life. Because truth is, everyone has issues and we can’t expect others to change if we are not willing to change. If you are a friend or family member of an addict, don’t become a dictator! Don’t tell someone they have to change, if you’re not willing to change. (Now I placed a label on the family, “Dictator” and I bet that made you feel uncomfortable)

I never did like the fact that everyone puts all this pressure on the “addict” while everyone else just sits around in their own addictions like eating disorders, sex, social media, mental and physical abuse, and whatever other things people do to compensate for their own stress induced life. It makes me crazy! I dislike labels very much and “addiction” is no exception!

Also, another thing you should acknowledge is, “things were not always okay” in the home of those with “addiction”. The family has to talk about the underlining cause whether you like it or not! If you really want to help EVERYONE, than everyone has to make changes. Stop leaving all the responsibility on the addict! Funny, how they are the one with the problem, yet some people go as far as pushing the blame on them for all their problems and stress. (Giggles), How does that work?

Look, I can give you a foundation with the steps I promised, but you have to be the one that takes the steps to get the results you want. And this is not just for the so called “addict”! As the family member/loved one, you have to participate if you want to be in their new life! So, if you really want to OVERCOME ADDICTION, First, lose the label all together! Call it a bad habit, because we all know “habits can be broken”! Then follow the “12 steps for the addict” or the “12 steps for family and friends of addicts” below…

12 steps for The Addict

  1. Own your part (take responsibility for your thoughts and actions)
  2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself (do something to better yourself)
  3. Stop talking about the past and use your mind to think of ideas that will move you into your future
  4.  Forgive, Appreciate and Have gratitude (Let go & let GOD)
  5. Stop looking for other people (relationships), places, and things to make you happy. (Happiness comes from WITHIN)
  6. Get grounded (body, mind, soul)
  7. Get in your own way so you can get out of your own head, and into a new understanding
  8. Change your Perspectives (use thoughts, words, and actions to reflect those perspectives)
  9. Do what you say and say what you do (DON’T TALK ABOUT IT, BE ABOUT IT)
  10. Wake up with purpose (have a plan when you get out of bed)
  11. Go to sleep with thanks (appreciate the experiences of each day)
  12. Be excited about the journey! (Embrace the unknown, and be excited about the unexpected things that will happen each day)

Hello! Hold on a minute…..Don’t discount yourself if your family member or loved one of an Addict. You have 12 steps too in this transition! If you think people with bad habits need help, then maybe you should learn what habits you need to adjust.

12 steps for family & friends of addicts

  1. Live and be the example of the 12 steps above first before you judge!
  2. Own your part (take responsibility for how YOU affect those around you)
  3. No more Pity Party’s (stop feeling sorry for yourself and for them)
  4. Do something different (Think and talk about something different and you’ll get different results. Your thoughts, words, and actions affect them too)
  5. Be Better not Bitter (Stop expecting them to change, while you stay the same. BE THE CHANGE)
  6. Be happy (stop being miserable with your own life. Find new people, places and things in your own life that are happy and good for you and for them. Be the example of what happy looks like)
  7. Get grounded (Are you grounded? Again, what example are you giving and living out in your own life)
  8. Stepping stone vs. Roadblock (Stop enabling them! Are you a stepping stone moving them forward into NEW LIFE, or are you a road block holding them back into their OLD LIFE?)
  9. Are you Reliable (Can they depend on you to keep your word, or do you break your promises? What are you getting busy with and with whom?)
  10. Reminiscing (Stop talking about the past! Move forward with new thoughts, new feelings, and new actions)
  11. Lose the negative words like Guilt, shame, doubt, & fear (begin with using words like forgiveness, acceptance, grace, and love)
  12. Words hold power and actions are the influence of that power! (Do the words you use reflect the actions you take in your own life)

There are a million different people who I am sure have a million different versions of “The 12 Steps to recovery” and it doesn’t matter what form you take, as long as the steps you take are moving EVERYONE FORWARD into their purpose! We all have a purpose in life, and Addicts, or people with really bad habits are no exception. EVERYONE should be doing something different every day! Every single person should be doing something to move themselves forward in this beautiful thing we call life.

However, if you are around people who are just going through the motions, doing the same thing day in and day out, your no better than an addict yourself. What are you doing that is so special? Habits are just something that is hard to give up. It’s just an obsession or infatuation! It’s doing the same thing over and over again. It’s a pattern or a custom, a fixation or we can just call it a bad habit, or keep calling it an addiction. But we all have something we do continuously that we are obsessed with doing! So, why do we call addiction a disease? It’s just a habit, and habits can be broken! You just have to change the routine and depend on something healthier and better for your life moving forward. Take the steps above and begin to restore your true inner being by improving the way you think and act. And be mindful of those thoughts and actions everyday. It really is that simple. Yes, it’s hard, but its really simple! Just start!

If you desire more guidance in other areas of your life, please comment below, ask a question, speak your heart and help another. You can also join me across social media or just grab my book “Hot mess to totally blessed” on Amazon Today. This just may be the help you’ve been looking for. Begin your journey into an abundant life by making better choices and taking action today!! Living in abundance is a choice…

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