It is abundantly clear that our world and the “human race” have not only lost our way, but we have lost our ability to think and use our minds. Since covid we have become so consumed by media that we would rather become divided by things like politics and belief systems, which actually hold no real relevance when it comes to true connection. I know I am probably sound like I am going against everything I have written in the past but hear me out. Growing up in America as great. In 47 years, I have done so much and have never left this country and I have only been to a handful of states. I have stories to tell my kids and with those stories are lessons in life. I recently discovered that the things that have happened in my life are all relevant to the journey. The life I lived has made me realize, there is so much to be thankful for right now, in this moment. Even siting here on this sofa in this room writing this article. Even though I am not sure how this month’s rent and bills will be paid, I still have a moral concept that knows I have a multitude of opportunities here in America that allows me to explore my options. America was once the greatest place to be. And it still can be. But not without THE PEOPLE UNIFYING. And when I say unify, I don’t mean uniform or the same by dictating our belief systems or lifestyles to mirror one side. I mean united in our differences.
LET’S TALK FACTS
America declared war in 1942 which was known as World War II. However, the most recent war fought on actual American soil was the Civil war which ended in 1865. Now, my question is this, how many of us were even alive during 1865? Obviously! NONE OF US!!! So, the truth is, unless you grew up in a communist’s country or lived or fought in Korea, Veatnam, Afghanistan, or Iraq, (which has been bombing shit in the later 1900’s) You are basically clueless about war and what it actually looks like. In fact, many of us who went to school here in America never learned about these wars unless our parents talked about them and told us stories. The things I remember reading about in school were stories about the British war, Christopher Columbus discovering America, and oh yes, let’s not forget Black history month, where we watched movies that divided the white kids from the black kids and caused riots and gag fights. Ok, so what is my point, right? Like, girl get to the point!!!
Okay, here is my point. NOTHING HAS FUCKING CHANGED SINCE THE BEGINING OF TIME. Governments take over, religious leaders keep us in line, and the only things we have to fight against is ourselves. When in fact we are all victims of this scrutiny. We have all been hurt by our cultural and religious differences at some point. When does it end? WE “THE PEOPLE OF THE WORLD” need to come to together and fight for something that is greater. And that can only happen with CHANGE! No, I am sorry, but I am not talking about AI, technology, and robots taking over because humans have been unreliable with their feelings and greed. HERE’S A FACT CHECK “Who taught us to be greedy? GOVERNMENT, RELIGION and MEDIA! Who is media? Technology! Take these three groups away, and what do we have? Humans, being humans. Eating, drinking, building, creating, and yes THINKING WITH THEIR OWN MINDS. It’s a world without any dictatorship.
THE FREE WORLD VS DICTATORSHIP
A world without dictatorship sounds amazing, but what does that really look like? Okay, now we have to use our common sense here boys and girls! A world with no rules is a very corrupt world. WHY? Simple, “because one bad apple spoils the whole bunch”. It is very unfortunate, but it’s the TRUTH. Children need guidance and adults need rules. Just look at our world today! While Mr. Joe Biden sleeps America as we knew it lost its shit! Literally! We’ve lost land, morals and values. Years of Monuments GONE! Feel free to correct me if my research is wrong, but since 2020 (since Bidens have been in office) we have lost 84 monuments. According to the southern poverty law center, 168 Confederate symbols—including statues, institution names and plaques—were taken down in 2020. And reporters say this all started when George Floyed was murdered by a police officer. So one man’s death killed the entire society in one night. The human race as we know it has ended because it wasn’t about HUMAN RIGHTS anymore. It became about one man’s skin color. Protesting peacefully for “Black lives”, it became all about BLM, defunding the police and encouraging violence. Again, feel free to correct me if you think I am wrong, but you better come back with some facts. Meanwhile, all this happened while our lovely PRESIDENT BIDEN AND VP HARRIS were sleeping and Bidens son was committing crimes!!! This is what happens when we live with a NO RULE GOVERNMENT! Freedom to the core equals corruption taking over. Is this what a free country looks like to you? Is this what the American people want for our “UNITED COUNTRY”? I am sorry I am just confused. Free of what? All moral values and respect? How do we accept celebrating 30 days of LGBTQ++++ Month plus, LGBTQ history month in September. In March we had Transgender week. But these people are free to rip down years of history with people who fought for so these people can live in this country. I’m applaud. the truth is I personally don’t give a shit what you want to say your gender is, the hard truth is there is only 2 genders. But there are multiple cultures and multiple religions and multiples belief systems. And the truth is based on facts! This that are actual and true. Not make believe or fantasy.
TRUTH IS FACT! AND THE FACT IS THIS…
Not everyone is going to like your ideologies. Not everyone is going to see things through you Lense. Not everyone is going to like my ideologies or see through my Lense, and it’s okay. But to stand in America and say you want a free country, but then go and push your ideologies (real or fantasy) onto others is NOT AMERICAN AT ALL!!! The faster we realize the truth we each see comes from the life we’ve lived and continue to live. Freedom was in fact given by GOD (free will) and no one person. Freedom means you have the right to choose whatever the hell you want for YOU AND YOUR LIFE AND ONLY YOUR LIFE. Free will is distorted when people are not happy with their free will/AKA their own decision making. They’ve made their own life, a life of misery, and misery loves company. So, what do we have? Miserable people cause havoc with lies and manipulation to get others to join in on their ideologies. They need justification for their ideologies. And so every time you make excuses for these people you become a group and then you name your group based on your ideas. Like BLM and LGBTQ++ to name a few. So, you see, the real issues that occur in life, happen when these groups realize their ideologies are coming from a false narrative and no matter how many followers they gain, they’re still unhappy and miserable because it is outside of what was meant to be GODS WILL For each and every one of us to choose for ourselves.
IN CONSLUSION
So, the moral of the story is this, our world has been corrupted since the beginning of time. It started with Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden. The story says there were two people in a perfect world, but they still allowed corruption into their lives. We are all born into a world we didn’t choose, into a family we didn’t choose, and yet we are still given a mind that allows us to know we have choices to make. The kicker is that those choices have consequences we have to live with. We can’t spend our lives blaming others. Pointing the finger at our founding fathers or the government or even media. Because we each have a choice. We can choose to turn off the screens. We can choose to speak up or remain silence. Women can take the intuitive to learn how to defend themselves or continue to be victims. But the TRUTH/FACT is we each have the freedom to choose what we stand for and what we won’t stand for. Anyone can tell you not to wake up and go to work but you have a choice.
We are all flawed humans. We should all live in a way that is mindful of our differences. No one person is perfect by themselves, but joined together we can create perfection. A blind man can travel with just a stick, but wouldn’t he be safer in the jungle if he was with a man who could see? And what if a 3rd man joined them that was trained to tame lions and bears? Wouldn’t they be able to travel further? I know some of you may not believe in a God or a Supreme being so maybe you don’t believe that we have a piece a of perfection because perfection created all of us. But just take a beat to look up and look around sometime. All those buildings you see, the Restaurants you eat in, the hotels you stay in, the vacations to beautiful places, the cars you drive; these places and things were not built by one man, but by many men putting their skills and talents together. Do you think they were worried about their sexual preferences or their political stance? NO! They understood one thing. Perfection created us so together we can create perfection. We just have to CHOOSE! Choose to get past our differences and discover our strengths and weaknesses. Without judging each other’s. Knowing there will always be someone else out there to strengthen our weakest areas, is what should give us hope for better results and a better future. Not just for ourselves, but for all of us. Even in a corrupt world, we can create peace- starting within ourselves. When we choose unity over divisions, mindfulness over judgment, and compassion over fear, we become grounded no matter what’s happening around us. The only way forward is not through more noise, but trhough inner strength and collective harmony. Thats how we thrive-even in a broken world.
Note: (This is not a stance on open borders or immigration acceptance. I believe we need closed boarders and people need to be Documented to come into America. The freedom I speak about in this article is for individuals in every nation, in every and any race, religion, and group to realize their personal decisions affects those in the world around them. The Lense we look through is from the influence we’ve had from others. So, knowing that, we should be mindful of how we choose to influence others)
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In my last post I talked a bit about the importance of hygiene, so I won’t ramble about this much today, but I do think hygiene is so important to our health & wellness. It’s also especially important for our confidence in our sex life. I can’t tell you how many articles I have read about celebrities who don’t bathe. It is kind of grouse when you think about it. Could you imagine having to be on set with these smelly humans during a sex scene? Imagine a porn star not showering for a week. And now imagine how many partners they had in that week of roles they had to play in. Like, when we watch movies, we think it is so romantic and let’s be honest, some of the sex scenes on the tv are very graphic and intriguing. But think about this for a second. Imagine being the one to play a role with another person who hasn’t showered in a week. Would you want to get up close and personal with them? You couldn’t pay me enough money to costar in a scene with such people! I’m sorry…not sorry!
Now before I get into the actual steps you need to take to embrace your true inner goddess, let me offer you some suggestions for hygiene, healing, and just organic remedies that will make you look, smell, and feel amazing! This Greek Organic Skincare kit is amazing. Just look at the reviews yourself. It’s a must have! I have been really devoted to essential oils and eating an organic diet because I have seen the benefits of using what is natural. “God made, not manmade! If you know what I mean!” I have soft, scar free skin because I use things that work for me. And not necessarily the most expensive products either. Like I absolutely love Palmers and my daughters, and I use all their products. It’s very affordable and I can get it anywhere I go! After having two daughters and having gained and lost weight several times over the years, I can honestly say, I have no stretch marks. Diet does matter too. I drink lots of water and no soda or sugary drinks. But wine and yogi’s herbal teas are my weakness! Yes, occasional I’ll even have a scotch with honey! Such a great night cap!
But overall, I pay attention to the things I put IN AND ON my body. Remember ladies, your body is your temple. I don’t know where you live, but here in Florida, it’s steaming hot most, if not all of the time. You can’t afford to go a day without a shower. You can literally shower and walk outside and I swear you smell like a wet dog 10 minutes later. The air here is so thick, wet, and humid! It’s disgusting. But I have lived in other places, and summers are just hot. Basically, if you don’t shower daily, you don’t smell good and if you neglect your hygiene what else will you neglect? I am just saying! I will tell you this, I have been to work cleaning all day and my daughters will always try to come and give me a hug and a kiss and tell me how good I smell. So, I must be doing something right!
EMBRACING YOUR INNER GODDESS
Listen, if you want to really embrace your inner Goddess, you need to feel good about yourself, and part of feeling good about yourself, is smelling good! I could not imagine being a celebrity who spends thousands of dollars on perfumes or other products just to use them on a dirty smelly, sweaty body. So, you’re trying to cover up your odor, so you smell good, but you won’t shower first? What’s the point? What is the big deal? Just get into the shower. I can tell you this spraying some cologne on yourself, doesn’t’ work! Your stench is overbearing the perfume. And when you don’t bathe after sexual activities, you’re only creating a unhealthy hygiene regimen for yourself and most likely causing bacteria infections to build up!
Okay, let’s get off the hygiene kick I’m over it and you get the point! Let’s get down to real work and discover your inner goddess! Shall we? Some women really don’t even like sex. I mean it’s great in the beginning but then he stops pursuing you, and it gets boring. Or he gets clinging, and you push him away. Then he ignores you and you start questioning his motives! Like “Are you cheating on me?” or “Why don’t give me any attention anymore?” Like, my only question is this lady’s, “Why, are you looking for men who don’t match you or your values?” In fact, do you even know what you want in your relationships? I mean, have we forgotten that we need to have some sort of similarities in our foundation for life’s basic values! Why would you continue to force yourself to appear as this sex goddess when you don’t even like sex that much! And you get bord with sex and men easily? You need to figure out why you’re so attentive in the beginning stages of dating, and why you get so uninterested and all of a sudden your relationships get repetitive. Did you ever think, maybe, you’re giving off the wrong vibes and sending the wrong messages to all the right people and giving them permission to destroy your confidence?
Maybe just maybe, you’re sending all the right messages to all the wrong people in your dating life! And do you know why? Most likely, it’s because you never take the time to be alone long enough to know what you even want in a relationship. You have become so uninspired by your own desires because your desires became their desires. Your relationships are repetitive and mondain because you settle for what you think they want and you’re most likely a people pleaser. And this is common for women today. We want people to like us! We think the competition is higher because of all the thirst traps online and end up settling for fear of being alone! We NEED to feel accepted. But listen ladies, if I have learned anything in my 46 years of being on this earth, its this:
“You’ll never please everyone because people are fucking miserable! And most people don’t even know what they want so how can you please them? My happiness means more to me than yours!” Do you know why my happiness means more to me than anyone else’s? No, it’s not just because I am being an asshole and trying to take control of my life, although that is part of it. Because I think it is important that we have “self-control” (Control of thy self). But the truth is, I have stopped caring how people think and feel about me, because…
#1 It’s exhausting trying to please everyone!
And #2 if I am happy in all my decisions, and in all areas of my own life; I am a better mother to my children, a better friend to my true friends, a better daughter, a better sister, a better coworking, a better employee, and a much better person in this world.
Do you get my point? Every area of our life in every single season would be so much better off if we would just listen to ourselves and not worry about anyone else. I am serious about this. We MUST discern who we allow to feed into us. Even our kids, family members, and friends.
Listen, to get in alignment with your inner goddess, you have to stop doing things because you think it’s going to attract attention from others. You’re just attracting all the wrong attention and that is why you hate your own character! You do things you hate, your sex drive suffers, and your relationships fail. Did you ever notice after 3 or 6 months of like feeling really good about life and feeling like you’re smooth sailing through season after season, then all of sudden BAM! Things go to shit! And your like “What the fuck just happened?
Well, you have to ask yourself, “how did I get here?” Like, you really have to sit with that thought for a good few minute even an hour or a day! Don’t let that thought slide past you! Sit with that thought long enough to figure out how you got to where you are in each season, so you never find yourself in that position again! I know when you’re going through it, time seems so significant, but honestly, time doesn’t matter as much as reflection and clarity.
We call the first few months of a relationship the honeymoon stages and this the time frame In which we say it supposed to be exciting, right? But if you can’t live a happy life and have good communication by standing your OWN ground in the beginning, in the middle and in the end, you will never find true happiness in your heart. Stop trying to change your character to fit into other people’s bubble and stop thinking about time as if it has some significance. Because at the end of the day, if you’re not working on you and making good decisions for yourself, those same people you invested time into, will leave you standing on the end of a building and push you off with no regret, no remorse, and no concern for how you landed. injured, or barely alive you have to pick yourself back up off that floor and get your life back on track! And the time you spend picking yourself up would have had no real significance if you’re not making better decisions and learning and growing as you move forward. Think of all the time you wasted up to this point! Now imagine all those times you wanted to do something but didn’t because you gave control to someone else. I think it’s funny how people don’t think of time until they’re in a crunch where they have to grind or make a drastic move all of sudden. The bottom line here is, you can’t allow people to push you over the edge and you have to stand on your own two feet. Because most people don’t really care about you unless it benefits them in some way.
And if that is true, do you want a life spent benefiting others or yourself?
BEING SELFISH IS HEALTHY
I know what your thinking! “Christina, is it really okay to be selfish? Do you really want to tell people this? And my answer is YES! This is where we talk about being a little selfish for the people who don’t know how to say no and like to “people please” all the time! You’re constantly hurting yourself for the benefit of others and it’s unhealthy! To embrace your inner Goddess, sometimes you have to be a little selfish! So, the first way to embrace your inner Goddess, is to stop being scared of people who won’t even stick around, and don’t belong in your future in the first place! And the only way to do that is to put yourself above others! FYI the bible talks about this too!
“Love thyself first then thy neighbor!”
If you ever want to spend 10, 20 30+ years in a solid happy relationship, that expresses blissful intoxication year-round, and you want to be treated like the Goddess you are, you need to reevaluate how you evaluate yourself and others. Did you hear what I said? You need to reevaluate how you evaluate yourself and others!
And then you can assess how you date! If you don’t know how to handle adversity in your own life and you get into a relationship, that also doesn’t know how to handle adversity, (because at this point your settling with the wrong people due to your irrational decision making and you don’t know how to choose relationships that are healthy) that relationship won’t be able to stand on a firm foundation. The ground which is your values or lack of is a mushy, wishy-washy foundation! And so, the house you think is a home collapses and you get sucked under all the time. Your problems are so big that you and your partner end up going to bed mad, no intimacy at all, and then there is a serious lack of communication and respect in that relationship. Not to mention sometimes there are kids involved. And now your wishy-washy foundation becomes this toxic environment for your children and now the little people suffer. Which is why we have now found ourselves in a generation with a bunch of people who are having identity crises!
It never ends. I’d reconsider how you do relationships! But to know how you form relationships that will benefit you rather then hurt you and your future, you must embrace your inner Goddess before the person!
Let’s make one thing very clear for those listeners who have anxiety, depression, or a wishy-washy ideology. Life gets hard! That is inevitable! Life will happen! That’s reality! If you are over 25 yrs. old suck it up and get your shit together man! This generation is so depressing! Every season can’t be unicorns and rainbows. If you are ever going to enjoy your relationships and have healthy intimate relationships with your partner, you must know what pleases you!
YES! What excites you? What drives you crazy? What gets you in the mood? And ladies we need to get very clear on all the things that completely turn us off! That’s right, I said it! Why do you allow your partner to touch you or do things you’re not into? Just because you think by pleasing him, he will stay with you. I hate to be the one to break it to ya’, but if you’re not connected with your partner physically, emotionally, spiritually, and verbally your relationship will always be lacking and will be uncomfortable for you. This is why I say it is so important to know what you really do like and don’t like and the only way to know that is to explore your own body. Stop making relationships and sex weird and stop trying to fit into what you think others want from you. If you really want to embrace your inner Goddess, you have to get clear on what that means. What does a Goddess mean to you. How does she smell, how does she look, how does she walk, dress, and carry herself? What do people think of her and what is she doing to give off those vibes? You need to be clear about the kind of person you want to be, but also know the kind of person you are today. If there is no growth between the person you are today and the person you’re going to be tomorrow, the problem isn’t people, it is you!
I remember going to my OBGYN and I went in concerned about a possible prolapse. And my doctor did the exam and he said I was fine. He knows I am very self-aware of my body, but he also knows I am a visual learner. So, he had the nurse grab the mirror and told me to hold it up! He began to show me my beautiful little flower I had feared to look at after my 2nd daughter was born. Now, mind you, inside I am dying! A few days prior, I heard of women doing this as an exercise to embrace their body, their beauty, their sexuality, and all that good jazz! But I had never done this. And if I am honest It made me very uncomfortable.
I am literally laying with feet in stirrups, legs spread out, and my male doctor talking to me while sitting crotch view! Who by the way knows my vagina better than I do and now he is going to make me look as he explains to me the medical & cosmetic procedures that could take place if I chose. If I am hot (honest, open, and transparent), at this point I have not looked at my vagina like this since my second child. I will tell you this, I looked right after my first kid, and I never looked again. And when my partner would go down on me, I was a little self-conscious. Advice for you young girls, don’t ever look at your vajayjay until you’ve had time to heal! LOL! And, keep in mind, there are simple procedures to make your lady parts look like that beautiful flower it once was if and when you decide to do that.
Listen, the point here is not the aesthetic of my vagina! The point is, I didn’t realize how insecure I was about it until I was actually put in a potion to talk about. I promise you will never find true love or true happiness in having a real genuine relationship, until you embrace all the things you think are flaws about yourself, and you talk about it. Because when you face the things, you don’t like about yourself, you’re able to change them. And this allows you to give yourself grace and the peace of mind you need to embrace all of you as you are. How do you expect your partner to know your body, mind, and soul; when don’t you know your own body, mind, and soul? Furthermore, how do you expect them to love all of you when you don’t love all of you? Men, and women, are not mind readers and we have to stop expecting others to read our body language when we are sending out mixed messages!
And can I just add to those of you who use thirst traps to get attention, your thirst traps don’t fool anyone! We all know you’re looking for attention. We know your insecure! But ask yourself this one question; “is that the attention you truly want?” Stop placing expectations on people you get involved with to solve your personal issues! Know your pleasures and understand your pains! Because when you are not even aware of these things yourself, you can’t articulate yourself clearly to others. And so the person they think they are falling in love with isn’t even in there.
LET’S GIVE THEM SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT
Let’s talk about how we express ourselves for a second. How do you express yourself? I think it’s fair to say that most men love it when we talk to them and tell them what drives us crazy in the bedroom. Some men like dirty talk and others just want to really know what they can do to drive you wild. This boosts their confidence and their egos, and we should want to give that to them as their partner. Listen, you tell a man where you like to be touch, and you better believe he will find every opportunity to ignite that flame in your candle every night! You need to grab his hand and tell him how to touch you! Tell him how to lick, kiss, and caress your body! Show him the road map to your pleasure and he will find a way to do that over and over and again and again. I promise! If you give a man the confidence, he will support you and be loyal in every manner.
Listen, real man will come back for more just because he likes the way you challenge him and when he sees the results of that challenge, he becomes satisfied. Men enjoy challenges! It is self-satisfying for them. It’s in their nature. So, if you keep it interesting by testing the limits, he will stay interested and most likely won’t go anywhere else. Now there are the exceptions of those narcissistic A ‘holes who are just who they are. But this is why you need to know exactly what you want so you don’t settle, and you’ll see the red flags of a narcissistic or an abusive, jealous, controlling psychopath. The hardest part is not reading those red flags and not getting familiar with the signs. The hardest part isn’t even “recognizing them”! The hardest part is NOT disregarding the red flags when we see them.
Okay women, so let’s get into the real reason you came here today!
How do you embrace your inner Goddess
Besides the fact that you must be self-aware, and you have to take care of your mental health and physical well-being, you have to date yourself. Now I get it, sometimes this is hard because when you are walking in your confidence and sitting there trying to be alone, there is always that one guy who has the courage to approach you. It’s like, “dude do you see me on my laptop right now?” I get it! It sucks. This past weekend I just experienced this exact moment. I was laying poolside, quietly working on the material for this podcast when this guy approached me. He sits down next to me and starts this long conversation. But ladies, as hard as it is, sometimes it’s better to say “look I am really working on something, and I don’t really have time to talk” rather than engaging in conversation. Because the second you engage, you’re locked in and they never leave you alone. Remember this lady’s, “People pleasing, is not a quality of a Goddess!”
When we think of a goddess we think of power, assertiveness, self-control, elegance, and grace. We might also think humility but yet still contained and confident. So, here are some qualities that I think if we could inherit, we could discover not only our inner Goddess, but we can find the person who stands in front of you as a reflection of everything you want, everything you are, and everything you know you can become.
#1 BOUNDARIES! To become more powerful, you have to be assertive, and to be assertive you have to have boundaries in place. To build boundaries is hard I know it’s like, where do you even start? Okay, let me help you! Let’s start with some questions.
What do you do that you hate? We all do things we hate. For me, I struggled for a long time to tell people no! So, I know this now, but I also know that when I am sober minded it’s easier for me to be forward and stand my ground than it is when I have had a few drinks. So, my boundaries may include avoiding drinks around certain people in certain places so that I can stand confidently and firm. The key is to stand within your boundaries without derailing yourself by going outside those boundaries. This is why it is better to build boundaries for yourself based on your personal flaws and things you know you do or say or how you act in certain situations. To know your character is to NOT enable people to force you into doing something, or having conversations about things you don’t really want to have.
Having boundaries means having standards for yourself and holding true to those standards no matter who’s feelings get hurt. You know what boundaries are? “Boundaries are the limits you will or will not cross at any given moment”! What is your limit? What is the one thing or several things, you do that you don’t want to do anymore? Maybe it’s giving into a certain family member. Or maybe its letting people at work take advantage of you. Do you find yourself always picking up the slack for others? Stop doing this! First of all, it’s not fair to you or your soul to sell yourself out. And second, you’re not doing them a service by not holding them accountable for their actions. Having boundaries means getting clear on the things you will and absolutely will not accept in your life anymore!
So what are the things you will not accept anymore? And what are the things you won’t do anymore? Don’t be disappointed when you mess up. Just get a handle on it and do better next time. Recognizing what you’re doing is the first step. Consistency is the step that makes it feasible to build boundaries that get you in alignment with your soul, body, mind, spirit. And when you tune into that, forget it, you’re deadly! But this means you have to hold people accountable while also holding yourself accountable.
And this brings me to #2 Accountability!
This is a hard one I know! Holding people accountable and holding yourself accountable sucks. It’s not the easiest thing in the world to do. And people don’t like to admit when they are the ones that have to change and they definitely don’t like reflection. Especially when that reflection stands between who we want to be and who we really are! It’s so much easier to keep pointing the figure at everyone else, but the truth is, we make our choices. And we always have a choice! We might not like the choices we have in front of us, but we always have a choice, and we are always faced with new decisions where we can make new choices!
Holding ourselves accountable means choosing to make decisions that are hard today, but so much better for us tomorrow. We know in our heart, mind, and soul when we make choices if it’s the right choice, or the absolute wrong one. Here is how you know how to make good choices.
You choose to do what is difficult but provides a better version of YOU in the long run. It might be a decision that feels wrong today. Maybe people will be hurt. But if it gives YOU PEACE: Than you know it is the right choice. Listen to me! Being a little selfish is required in life. And being selfish means doing things that might hold others accountable for their own actions. Selfish also means standing your ground on your boundaries, not straying from them, and holding firm to your decisions without fear, guilt, or shame getting in the way.
Now let me also say this, when you begin taking control of your own life, it is going to bring up some fear, some guilt, and even some shame. DON’T WORRY ABOUT IT! If you are making a decision and know it gives you a little more peace in your life today, but benefits you in the long run, you need hold firm to that choice! So many times, in life we make choices for ourselves because we think it’s better for everyone else. But we end up suffering because we sacrifice so much for other people without considering how it affects us. And when we do this, we don’t realize it but we are actually hurting those people we are trying to serve because were putting ourselves in a predicament where we’re never happy. And while happy people are healthy people, unhappy people create unhealthy environments. And so, when you’re making hard decisions you have to remember to save yourself first, because you take yourself with you in and out of those environments with those people that you are affecting.
This is why the airplane theory is so important! “YOU MUST put the oxygen mask on yourself before you can put it on your child or loved ones”! Because you’re suffocating yourself and when you die, you kill all those people who you carried. All those people relying on you will end up lost without you if you don’t start holding them accountable for their own life! You have to hold yourself accountable for your life. Each and every one of us is responsible for 1 person and to know who that person is, all you have to do it look in the mirror!
So, you can’t go carrying people around when you can’t even stand up and walk by yourself! And you don’t need people who continue to put weight on your shoulders. You will never discover your inner Goddess if you continue to lack accountability. Accountability for yourself and for others! So, stand tall, head up, shoulders back, and walk in full confidence in yourself and in all your decision making without regret or scarcity.
The one thing I have noticed is that we have to feel a sense of self because that is where true happiness and joy come from. What is self and how do you get the sense of self? It’s your personality, it’s your character. How do banter in your mind back and forth with your own ego and your natural nature? It’s your behavior alone and around people. It’s accepting the person you see in the mirror and knowing what you see may not be what others see, so you decide to become that reflection so they can see what you see. The sense of self is embracing your true self, without the worry of others but with an understanding of others and how they perceive the world around them. It’s discernment and compassion but also assertiveness and disposition that is consistent with your nature.
EMBRACING THE SELF MEANS EMBRACING DESIRES
How can you enjoy sex if you’re not engaging with your partner and communicating that he doesn’t touch you or speak to you the way you need and want to be touched and spoken to? Embracing yourself means embracing your desires so that the people you’re around know how you engage with you. For example, if you know how you receive love and respect, you can express that verbally or physically. Sexually, if you know what feels good, you can show him the road maps that will guide him and eventually lead to your climax.
When we are in a relationship with someone, we enjoy knowing what makes them tick, and what doesn’t. No one likes the guessing game when it comes to intimacy or emotions! It’s not fun! Did you ever wonder why he wasn’t getting hard during sex? What happens? You end up insecure and your mind begins to race, and the moment of romance and intimacy is gone instantly! Maybe your lack of communication would be a good place to start here! Ladies don’t put pressure on your men! That’s not cool and it doesn’t help them get in the mood! Guide them gently! Be assertive in that you want intimacy but don’t be aggressive and angry when he messes up. Show him how NOT TO MESS UP before you get intimate, rather than pointing it out when in the middle of it. How you express yourself matters. So, how do you express yourself? This brings me to my last point!
WHO DO YOU SAY YOU ARE?
Last but not least the way to embrace your inner Goddess is #3 it’s to believe you are who you say you are and hold true to that!
What you say about yourself matters! I can’t say this enough, but the words we use matter. The words we hear come out of other people’s mouth and into our ears, matter! YOU MATTER! Again, you have to be a little selfish in this world! Because if you don’t boost the ego inside yourself, someone else’s ego will always take advantage of your innocence. And then you will end up being pissed because people keep mistaken your kindness for stupidity! Don’t be gullible and people won’t treat you like you’re naïve.
Listen, so many Christian people won’t agree with this analogy, and that is fine. But the truth is we are all on a different journey and my journey is not yours. But we have to realize if we want people to accept us, we can’t act, walk, talk, or move through this life the way everyone eels does or the way they expect us to. Because that is just duplicating what they think is real and this discounts our value. But I believe no one person has,, nor should they ever have, control of another person. From your sex life to your personal life, and from your family life to your professional life, I don’t think anyone should make decision for you in these areas. I believe everyone has an inner goddess inside them that wants to crawl out. All we have to do is be aware of what parts of us we want to keep around and which ones we want to lose! Realize that it’s unhealthy for our mental health to just sell ourselves out!
So, if you want to embrace your inner Goddess you must learn what that means and looks like to you. Be A LITTLE SELFISH! Build some real boundaries for yourself! Make them realistic and stand by them no matter what! Hold yourself accountable and the powerful, assertive, self-controlled, elegant, and graceful being I know lives inside you. And remember, always think humility but still remain contained and confident.
Until next week, embrace your inner Goddess and be blessed!
So let me start by saying this, I am putting my “people pleaser rock” away this season. I have decided to turn up my alternate ego a little bit, because I feel called to help a society that has become consumed and manipulated by wicked influencers. Now, when I say “EGO” my intention is not to become this overbearing, pounding of my chest, egotistical, narcissist, or a big-headed witch. But, if you have been listening to my podcasts or following me for any length of time on social media, you know I am about finding clarity and Zen in our own mess. Knowing our mess is created by giving too much attention to the world! So, the only real way to truly find our place of ZEN and get clarity is to eliminate all the toxic shit in our world one person and one community at a time. But sometimes in doing that we also have to stop enabling things to affect us. And to do that we have to hold the people who affect us accountable by not enabling them. And how do you do that without having an ego? You can’t! So, there is a time for us to turn up our ego and this is just my time!
So, today I am not sugarcoating or patronize anyone or any group, because we are in a time where we have to not only be speaking up about certain things going on, but we also need to be educating people while holding others accountable for their lethal influence on our society. We can’t keep enabling this “victim mentality” to take over. It is affecting our children and our future generations.
In what world are we creating that being toxic and lacking moral values is the new measure of standards that we hold? Our future generations are being set up to fail and I refuse to sit back and remain quiet. In 2020, since the pandemic our world has experienced a huge shift, and unless we force a new change, we are headed for a major disaster! I’d rather help people clear up their foggy lens during these crazy and mondain times so they can see clearly, and we can move forward with clarity and dignity.
Let’s dive in and begin today with helping people to stop living with the “victim mentality” that this generation is facing. People have become delusional and unreasonable and I’m just kind of tired of sitting back watching it happen. No one wants to take responsibility for their own actions, and they just want to play the blame game while pulling the victim card. Can I be HOT today! If I’m Honest, open, and transparent, “there are certain groups out there pushing their agenda by justifying their immoral behaviors with their influential, overprivileged elites backing them up”. Unfortunately, they make those of us who hold a higher standard for society and make us feel guilty for wanting to live with a foundation that is “morally and ethically honorable”. It is unquestionable at this point, that some of us have been pushed out of the spotlight because of the truths we are speaking.
Listen, I have children that are trying to grow up, learn, and they want to experience this life to its fullest. But unfortunately, we have adults acting like a bunch of immoral juvenile assholes. What are we teaching the next generation? If this kind of behavior hasn’t already destroyed us, and we don’t get a handle on it soon, disaster will strike in the next year or two. I can guarantee you that! This world as we know it will come to an end! And we will be living under a communist government and actually we are at the halfway point right now. They are enabling things to occur to distract you and control you as we speak. They are causing division between us “THE PEOPLE” (Which is the true government and church) and we have become more focused on fighting each other instead of fighting against the powers that are causing the havoc in the first place.
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Now I will admit, I talked a lot of smack about those radical bible thumpers who talked about end times and preparing for a zombie apocalypse. But I have news for you, keep enabling LGBTQ Plus to continue to take over our communities, and continue to allow doctors and teachers to continue to poison our kids minds with all their bullshit science, (which btw is only proven to kill and destroy our human race) you’re not only allowing it to spread like the plaque, but you’re also literally helping them delete our entire humanity and morality! Think about that for a second. What is humanity and what is morality? Let’s take a look:
“The difference between morality and humanity is that morality is (uncountable) recognition]] of the distinction between good and evil or between right and wrong; it is respect for and obedience to the rules of right conduct; the mental disposition or characteristic behaving in a manner intended to produce morally good results. While humanity is mankind; human beings as a group.”. It’s all of us people that came before, that are present today, and that will be tomorrow.
I don’t know if it’s the covid juice you all took, or the politicians, news reporters, all these fake influencers, teachers, preachers, leaders, or who else is feeding you all their bullshit, but whatever and whoever it is, you need to stop eating it up like flies on shit! You’re killing yourselves. It’s sad really, when you sit back and watch from a 30,000ft view. You all look like a bunch of lost souls wandering around on earth aimlessly and recklessly! You’re claiming to be woke, But the truth is, most of you are just coasting through life in a fantasy world living in your own delusional dream land. You just do and say whatever you want without any repercussions or consequences. You have no consideration of how your words or actions affects other people. And most of you are so stoned on gummies, weed, fentanyl, and whatever else they’re conjuring up for you these days, that you can’t even think for yourselves. This has to stop!
If you really want to make an impact in this world, you need to be alone with yourself and look at how your living your own life without pointing the finger at everyone else. You need to ask yourself, “am I living the kind of life my creator will be proud of”? You all crave attention and acknowledgement from people, but what do you really gain from that? You’re still miserable even after someone praises you.
Listen we cannot go on living life anyway we want without reaching a point of consequences for our actions. I refuse to sit back and watch a bunch of clowns pass around dildos in a classroom full of children who haven’t even had a fair chance to experience life to be able to make a choice for themselves. And I am not about to go to the bathroom with some strange man in the stall next to me just because he woke up one day and had this epiphany that he wants to be a woman. He is not a woman. He is indeed a man! You wonder why women don’t respect their body’s, but society as a whole lost all respect for women. This is absolutely out of control! This is a complete abomination, and it goes against everything our constitution is about. The issue is our country has become too diverse and multicultural with too many beliefs, and we need to learn to preexist together without publicly displaying our personal cultural preferences. Look you don’t get to destroy your own country and culture, and then come to America and destroy our entire principles.
Listen, you’ve all had your fun! But now it’s time to come back to reality! When there was only a few of you who didn’t want bibles in our public schools, we took them out. The masses didn’t fight you or protest by creating a bible month to throw it in your face year after year! But the majority of society doesn’t want drag queens passing around dildos in our classrooms and we don’t want to promote the confusion of pronouns to our children either. And furthermore, we don’t want teachers and doctors confusing our children about their sexuality or putting ideas in their head to change their identity. I don’t know how you were raised, but I raise my children to love themselves and to trust in the things they believe at the core of their being no matter who questions them. This promotion of identity and sexual innuendos is not only sexual harassment at its core, but it is discrimination, and it is in our constitutional God given right to choose against this kind abuse. Because that is what this is! It’s abuse! For those of you who need the definition of sexual harassment it is (behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation. It can also refer to harassment or comments about an individual’s gender.
You are literally publicizing sexual harassment on children and you’re making it okay to do so. You also enable discrimination by telling children they aren’t good enough as they are. Furthermore, isn’t that body imaging? Better yet, the words “Defamation of character” come to mind. Defamation of character is an act that occurs when someone’s reputation (or character) and integrity (or truthfulness) are tarnished or damaged because of malicious intent by another party. You all want to twist some shit around; I will wreck your world with some truth! Now, I thought we weren’t body imaging. Or does that only apply to the lazy people who are overweight and want to further promote an unhealthy lifestyle just so they can victimize themselves and say “we’re body imaging”?! So now we can only discriminate society who wants to speak truth about healthy choices for a life that provides less stress by living with the mental capacity to make choices that benefit our humanity for long term and not for temporary pleasures that are actually killing us? Com ’on!
I just don’t understand how we as a community are accepting this behavior to continue on! Look what happened to Sam Smith! It wasn’t enough for him to put on tons of weight he had to go bleach his hair and dress like …. well, I don’t know what he is dressed like! But I do know this “speedos on a fat guy isn’t fucking sexy”. And it’s insulting to us when fat men try to act and compare themselves to us women. They dress half naked and their being praised for being overweight and necked, but if we walk out the door with a little cleavage, we’re whores! When does it end?
Somebody, please help me make sense of this! Transsexuals say a woman is not a woman by her organs, yet they are literally taking hormones and having surgical procedures done that create women organs. How the hell does that make sense? Have we become so out of our minds that we’re really buying into this shit? Is this our only option now? To change and reverse our born identity? This is unnatural and if you don’t see that, there is a glitch in your mental capacity to think clearly and rationally. And I know that this goes against some mental therapist telling you that but am sorry this is not normal behavior and you need to realize that you are worthy and good enough only as your born, true, identity. I can say this because I am aware there must have been some serious trauma that had to occur for you to believe that you are not worthy or amazing as the person you were born to be.
Then you know, we have these doctors who think it’s okay to allow a little boy as young as 5 years old to make a choice to become a girl by giving that child puberty blockers? In what reality do we think this is normal or acceptable? That is torture on that child’s life and as he grows up and sees happy women and men in relationship, he will end up putting a gun to his head because he won’t be able to cope with his fake identify because he wasn’t given a fair chance to decide himself as a man. Which was his true born identity in the first place. Why do we allow these lunatics who call themselves doctors to steal that identity away from anyone? I know you can’t really be buying into this ideology without knowing the agenda these upper elites have. Com ’on! Are you all really that stoned out of your minds or are you just stupid?
And NO! I am not a homophobic! I have kissed plenty of girls, I’ve danced and did shows with drag queens, and I have lived a lifestyle in my 20’s that was wild and reckless. Yes! But there is a time and place, and it is not in our schools, medical centers, on TV, or in our restaurants where little eyes and little ears can be influenced and manipulated before they’ve had a chance to live and make their own choices.
Let me add this since I am going on a tangent today! While most of you continue complaining “woe is me” let me remind you, that you play a huge role in all your own traumatic experiences. You live with your victimized mentality unaware of what you’re doing. Allowing this pride month to continue is redundant. We don’t even celebrate Mothers for a month and none of you would exist without a fucking uterus! Excuse my language! Listen, before I get completely out of character, I am not going to sit back and watch this shit happen in my children’s generation. At the end of the day, I believe I went through the walk in this life and made the choices I did, so that I can stand here today and help people see clearly so they don’t completely destroy the life we can all create for our children tomorrow.
Let’s make one thing very clear, crying about what is fair, what’s not fair, and whose fault it is, does not help you or your circumstances! Let me also throw this in because I know some of you will twist my words here and say I am the only one crying right now. “YOUR WRONG! Me bitching right now about what is morally right is not me playing the victim card, it’s getting a handle on what should and should not be accepted in this country and what is morally correct moving forward as a human race”. I don’t whine about mondain things that only matter to me today! I am speaking up about something that has meaning and depth for millions of people and for years to come. You need to learn to own up to the role that you play in your own life, in your communities, and in this world. I don’t care that you want to play dress up. I don’t care about your sexual preference. I don’t even care that you want to make money doing it. But I afford to waste my life enabling this behavior to be pushed in my family’s face on a daily basis. And as long as we allow it to go on today, it will continue to influence future generations.
I will never apologies for wanting my children and my blood line to grow and evolve from a particular moral code of conduct that includes a realistic view of a MAN AND A WOMEN. One that is rational according to my personal values and virtues which in fact has been formulated by the reality that we have male and female in every living species on this planet. The code for life is in the constitution and in the foundation of God’s Word. This country was founded and run on the words “IN GOD WE TRUST”?
Most people today have no moral values at all! In fact those words have no meaning or relevance in this wicked self-righteous society. We watch what is trending on TikTok or CNN and we go with whatever sounds good in the moment! Or whatever is trending on our favorite celebrity’s page. Look, I get it, we have all had some seriously traumatic experiences these past few years and we will continue to have trauma and drama in our life. There is no doubt about that. I don’t care if you in the best season of your life right now, I can guarantee that this season will come to an end, and you will have a dramatic or traumatic experience in your near future. You cannot escape struggle and you can’t fix your mental mess with crazy antics. We all need to be held accountable for what is happening in our country today, and we all need to own our part! This victimizing and corrupt mentality is not healthy behavior for our next or future generations.
OWN YOUR PART IN YOUR TRUAMA
Okay let’s all calm down for a minute so we can try to look through a lens of solving problems. Listen, I am well aware that the reason most of you are acting out the way you are is because your mommy or daddy didn’t love, nurture you, care for you, or raise you with moral values the way they should have. Or you have been mistreated or abused by someone you’ve either has close relation to or have crossed paths with. We’ve all crossed paths with wicked people. But by acting out of character you’re only deceiving yourselves, and you’re only causing harm to all the people and children that witness your actions.
You know there is a saying, “you don’t remember what people say and you might not even remember what people do, but you always remember how a person makes you feel” So, there comes a time in life when we have to ask ourselves, “how are the people around me making me feel, really? And how do I make the people around me feel?” When we look at trauma with tunnel vision (looking in-ward), it is easy to point the finger at all the people who were not there for us, or those who mislead us. It’s easy to give up when you have been screwed over so many times. I get it, trust me I get it! It’s easy to blame all the people who influenced us, deceived us, set us back, abused us, manipulated us, or even those people who raised us up with philosophical belief systems that don’t apply to everyone. But the truth is there is a problem with blaming others for our traumatic experiences as we grow into adults. And unless we realize that life is nothing but a ripple effect, we forget that our bad behaviors play a role in how we impact others. That is why it is important that we realize “WE ALL HAVE A ROLE TO PLAY!”
It is easy to blame LGBTQ community, millennials, gen z’s, our parents, our childhood, our corporations and businesses, our government, science, the male practice going on in the medical field, an inflated economy, the legalization of drugs and other substances, the lack of common sense, the inconsistency in metal health care, the tv stations that promote sex, violence, and now Pride Month, the gun laws, the state laws, the laws that are not being enforced, and we can blame all the people and all the things that have caused us stress, anxiety, and suffering. But the truth is, we play a part in all of it! Every time we engage in the drama, and we inflict our anxiety on ourselves we lash out our pain onto others. When we fight for what we believe in or when we strive to change things that don’t also benefit others, we end up hurting more people because we’re not actually fighting to help solve the problems that cause the reaction in the first place. We look through a lens with a “victim mentality” we have tunnel vision, and it comes out as hatred, anger, and you come from a place of malevolence instead of love. And I am not saying we have to love wickedness! What I am saying is that we must hate it enough to be able to come from a place of love to be able to change it.
So yes, I am aware that what I am saying may hurt some people. But I am not sorry for trying to help you get grounded. You cannot have a human race, without male and female reproductive organs. And we were created to multiply, and you can only do that with male and females being together. This generation of sleeping with everyone and everything and just doing what feels good in the moment of being rebellious due to trauma. It’s not helping you heal its only mentally exhausting you because you’re avoiding reality and truth and you’re trying to change what was already created with purpose. This corrupt and immoral way of living needs to stop because it is not only toxic, but it is causing health issues, mentally and physically, in our communities. It is causing division and prejudice. And it just destroys our entire meaning of life and we are becoming inhumane.
How can you not see that you’re hurting the children with your ideas? If I can admit that I am hurting you by testing your values and your lifestyle, then you need to realize that you are hurting others with those values and lifestyle. So, you think it’s fair to strip a child for a chance to make a life decision that is so huge like gender identity, but you don’t want anyone telling you about your gender identity? You’re an adult and you should know the difference between a man and a woman.
But instead, you just plant seeds in people’s heads and you close your mind to the possibility that maybe not everyone wants to live in your little fantasy land that you’ve created to cope with your own traumatic life experiences. Being confused or gay is one thing, but role-playing lies and deceit to children who don’t know better is an entirely different world. You’re creating a false reality to justify your own instability and vicious and quite frankly, “merciless ideas”. My sexual preference is straight. Not Waverly, not confused, but honest, conventional, and yes traditional. Does that make me bored? No! Do I like role playing with my partner? Absolutely! But I don’t affect others when I am doing it. It would be nice to live in a world where we accept each other as we are, but we can’t be supporting an agenda that deletes our human race and takes our integrity away while manipulating the truth.
So many people today are eager to be heard & have a voice. They do this to gain a fan base, branding, attention, money, fame, and whatever other reason they have. But unfortunately, because of this sort of popular attention schemes, getting to the bottom of any issue in society as a whole is a lost cause. We can’t keep agreeing with shit just so people will like us! Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you agree with or disagree with. Everyone will have an opinion based on what you do or say. And honestly spreading indecent exposure to children doesn’t solve the problems lingering in today’s society, or in your personal life! But what it does is make our world chaotic. Just look at history. We can get 50 steps forward and it only takes one arrogant person to jump in and derail everything and everyone. In fact, this kind of reckless behavior doesn’t solve anything! It only leads to protests, anger, and low self-esteem, which results in violent acts and causes our country to fall apart one community at a time. Which we are literally living witnessing right now!!!
There are democrats flooding to Florida which is a majority republican state. Why? What’s the point? Again, problems never get resolved with control, greed, or selfish desires, they only progress. All you people striving for POWER to have control of other people, you will never win because you don’t even have control of yourselves! You have no control! Learn self-control first. What is the point of having power if no one really likes you? You think you’re surrounded by people who like you, but the truth is, you’re doing life completely alone.
Look at your favorite Celebrities, they strive for all their awards and then they have huge celebration parties. Do you know what they do afterwards? They sit back on their expensive sofa, sipping their $25,000 dollar bottle of scotch, and when they are looking around at all the people enjoying the fruits of their labor they realize none of them are actually friends! Not really! They are being used for a taste of the luxurious lifestyle and connections. Most celebrities spend their life looking for real relationships but never really find it because they themselves are playing a role they don’t even like. How many celebrities have we lost in the last 3 years? Think about that for a second and let that soak in.
They had access to everything this world could buy, but they weren’t happy. Eventually this world caught up with them and at the end of the day what mattered most wasn’t even around. Family, community, human connection, to love and feel loved. That is what matters. Not celebrating your fake identity.
Look, I can’t say it enough, the stress that adults have created for themselves and for the children of this generation, is out of control! It’s causing more trauma for everyone by pushing your dysfunctional lifestyles and beliefs on people. Anyone who allows a grown man to share a bathroom with a little girl is not only irrational they are out of their fucking mind. It’s promoting sexual harassment. It’s promoting rape! And honestly, it is spreading across the country because it’s being approved by the government who openly talks about it on social media daily. TikTok, Instagram Reels, YouTube and YouTube shorts, CNN and other platforms are the reality tv platforms that have the biggest influence. It doesn’t matter who creates these platforms, what matters most is how we’re using them!
Please listen to what I am saying today! I know I went on a little tangent, but I am passionate about the children and the wellbeing of this country’s future. These platforms were not necessarily created to do harm, but the people using them corrupt it with their toxic beliefs, their ideologies, and their dogmas! People use it for idiocy and then it becomes a trend. Those of us who speak against these irrational psychopaths have to live in fear of being shut down, arrested, or killed for even having an opinion. Can I just say this, confusing people about their identity, children particularly, is not only defamation of character, but also malevolent. You’re a monster! YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY FREAKING PERSON ON THIS PLANET WHO IS HURTING!!! AND HURT PEOPLE HURT OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE MISSERY LOVES COMPANY!!! BUT YOU WILL DIE ALONE MISERABLE BECAUSE YOU ARE PROMOTING A FALSE REALITY TO A SOCIETY OF HUMANS WHO DO IN FACT KNOW THE TRUTH AT THE VERY CORE OF THEIR BEING!
So, hurting other people with malicious acts of manipulation is not helping yourself or your environment. In fact, you’re making it worse for yourselves. Not only is this victim mentality but it’s NARCASISITC PERSONALITY DISORDER! There is no happiness in an environment that is being controlled out of our natural human disposition. As if our country didn’t have enough to deal with, now we have Government that is trying to shift us into a communist country by welcoming all kinds of ridiculous and irrational behaviors. Do you not see that? The only reason these charades are continuing is because they need you all to stay naive. They need you all to be consumed with yourselves and fighting with each other so they can take the attention off of them and plot their takeover. I don’t think there is any one person or party capable of running this country at this level. They all have a personal agenda for power and control of the human race. Just like Hitler did. Just like Castro did. Just like all the other lunatics who destroyed the other communist countries.
You’re allowing them to win every time you give in to their ridiculous characters and lies. At the end of the day, NONE of them are coming to save you and none of them are going to produce a program or system that is beneficial for the people as a whole country. They do not have the people or our future in their best interests. We have become a diverse country that just lives in a world where everyone is out for themselves, and we don’t care what it cost our neighbors. So, with everyone at each other’s throat ready to kill one another there is no LOVE FOR OUR COUNTRY OR THE PEOPLE IN IT! We have become a greedy, self-absorbed species, and most people have a lot to complain about, but do nothing to set themselves up for a truly, successfully, blessed life. In fact, hurt people complain so much they don’t even try to strive for something better unless it is at the expense of hurting someone else.
Now let me just say this before any of you attack me, (since this generation is so quick to judge and get defensive with your victim mentality) I am not saying that ALL HURT PEOPLE ARE SELF ABSORBED AND GREEDY! But if you’re listening to this on podcast or reading the blog, and you are most likely experiencing someone who plays the victim, or you realize that you have a victim mentality. Admitting it is the first stage to having some integrity! The only way to solve this issue is for each and every single person to own their own part and face the reflection in the mirror. In every circumstance and every situation, we are faced with, we have a choice. If we can pay attention to the influence that we have in this world, it would be a good start to finding clarity and creating a life where we can all coexist without exposing and disposing of our children. We can help them find and define their true identities in the process. Not the fake, false, imaginary identities that they create in their mind.
OWNING YOUR PART MEANS FACING YOUR OWN DEMONS BECAUSE INFLUENCE MATTERS
Owning our part means facing and eliminating the things that don’t add value to our life. And when we look at our own life, we must consider the people in this world because we affect them as much as they affect us. And remember, we are humans, and we require human connection. It’s a healthy and good thing when done intentionally. You can’t exist alone in this world and be happy forever. We all have demons and because of this we must take time to reflect and redirect our decision making. Those things in life that upset you, most of the time they come from the people you listen to. The information you allow to get into your head Whether from a song or video or movie, it matters. It plays a part in how you learn to make decisions. Whether it is a family member, a stranger you don’t even know, or a person on your favorite platform on social media, it is imperative that you are mindful of what you do after you hear something. Influence matter. The kind of influence and who is influencing matters because it is where your angels and demons come from. It’s the difference between good and evil and create them. I write these articles to help influence people to chance their own personal life by looking inward, rather than having an outward reflection of what is going on in the rest of the world.
Because I have lived life listening to the outside world and I made many mistakes. I was able to choose ME and reflect on my own thoughts and actions after hitting rock bottom. I have walked away with lessons for life because I faced my rock bottom season. But many don’t, and their rock bottom is their everyday reality. I didn’t just walk away to do that same shit year after year. My beliefs come from that place of love, but unfortunately Love is not popular belief because it conflicts with this new age belief system that promotes do what feels good in the moment and then when shit hits the fan blame everyone else. It’s a “wow is me” “feel bad for me” “I hate my life” “why is this happening to me” “victim” mentality!
HOW WE PARENT MATTERS MOST
Today, there are so many parenting books out there and although some of them give good advice, most of the advice out there is ruled by personal beliefs. Beliefs that were passed on by some biased opinion based off some traumatic past experience from the author’s childhood. And most likely you will hear that person blame someone else or give credit to someone else who was responsible for their messed-up choices. In many cases, people write parenting books because their parents were either really great or really shitty! But never have I read a book on the perfect parenting skills that set all children and generations up for success. Unless we are talking about the bible! The bible has a foundation for parents and life and if we follow it, we can be lead and lead with integrity and veracity.
No matter what generation we come from, we may not have control of the Government or the multiple diversity of people and their belief systems, but we do have control of the influences we allow to rule over our life. We have the power to control the experiences we have, the mindsets, the beliefs, and the lifestyles that we take on.
Defeating our own demons means: We do need to look at the reflection in the mirror so we can get a clear vision of why we think the way we do. Understand why we react to the things that we see and hear. And then we need to have control over the way we act and react to everything and everyone. Can I be completely honest? If you have a lot of drama and trauma in your life, and you feel like life is just not fair, if you struggle to manage your finances, or if you’re always unhappy in all your relationships, and you just feel a sense of frustration, depression, and feel any kind of lack in your life, and if you feel a need to always numb yourself with substances, sex, and other obsessive compulsive activities, you need to reflect on yourself and start making some lifestyle changes TODAY! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start doing something to change yourself. There really is no remedy to a perfect life accept accountability for your actions.
You need to face your demons in life. The things that you’re scared of, the things that you hate, the things that make you sad, and all the people and things that irritate the shit out of you. Just eliminate them. Do you think this podcast was easy for me to create? Hell no! I’ve been holding all this inside, so I don’t offend people who are close to me. I don’t want to interrupt what other people think is normal. I feel it’s none of my business! But truth is, I was hurting myself being nice to everyone who is actually hurting me. Realizing that enabling others to continue their charades only hurt me, because it causes havoc that involved me. This is my world and I care about the world I live in. I care about the world my offspring live in. I don’t want them to just live a mediocre life of wild and reckless behavior because it doesn’t serve anyone. I care about the people who have influence in this world.
We need to acknowledge within ourselves the things you do to help other people and the things we do that hurt other people! We need to face it head on! But then we must Let go and let God deal with some of the things we have no control over. Because the second we try to take control, we get out of control.
I am constantly letting go of control. I don’t sit in depression because I can’t have my way today. I just choose to control myself an do the things that promote good procedures, good conduct and good behavior on my part. I avoid engagements that self-sabotage me and my story. The voices in my head are not even my own most of the time. They are influenced by the media, my parents’ old belief systems, church, and by the people I meet along this journey through life. Some influences are great, and you should keep those ones! But others are not so good for you! In fact, they are toxic and they hold you back from your true potential and your destiny. I don’t believe anything happens by chance.
However, I do believe people come into our life to either guide us, encourage us, or to direct and redirect us. And let me just add this, if you are not allowing yourself to be teachable, you will never find peace or purpose in life. If you think you know everything and you lash out at everyone who disagrees with you, you’re just being a “know it all asshole” and your being big-headed. The ability to live a life fully blessed and fully happy with yourself depends on your ability to learn, grow, change, and stay focused on seeking for something more or better in this lifetime. But whatever that change, or growth is, it should benefit the next lifetime. This world would be much more beautiful if we could focus our energy on helping others, rather than kicking other people down to build ourselves up. Remember this, just as your past experiences directed your decisions for today, and brought you to this current state of being, your present experiences will direct your decisions for tomorrow and determine your future state of being.
YOUR EXPERIENCES DIRECT YOUR DECISIONS.
Okay so if you’re still here you’ve realized by now that our demons or traumatic experiences don’t actually serve us because they don’t even happen because of us. They come from the people and experiences in our life that influence our decision making. So, it should make sense to you when I say:
“You could determine your future by
the experiences you choose to have, or not to have.”
By Christina Ditzel
To reflect on your feelings is to have boundaries so you don’t allow shit to influence you that doesn’t serve you. If you could sit alone with yourself for one week and pay close attention to the things that hit your heart positively and negatively, I believe you would discover a new pathway to your life moving forward. Change must happen within you in order for your own life to change the world outside of you. You can’t make a difference if you aren’t being different. Keep blending in and you look no different than the other people in your community. There really is a way to live life without feeling victimized all the time. But you have to own your part first. Every person needs to reflect on themselves. Stop worrying about other people. Stop worrying about what sounds good or feels good. Do the things that don’t feel good to the body today, but that benefit your body tomorrow. Working out doesn’t always feel good but the benefits of working out are long term. Be fair and just and you will find fairness and justice.
Yes, you can recover from heroin! I know this because I did it and I did it without any other medications or rehab centers. I don’t know how long you have been down this rabbit hole, but I can tell you it is possible to dig yourself out! Recovery is always possible no matter what your addiction is. You just have to be willing to do the work that comes with overcoming the addiction. And you can’t pick up other habits in the process! When you quite something you quite with intention. Let me ask you this, “What is waiting on the other side of your recovery”? Think about that for a minute. You better make plans that are enticing enough to keep you from “Feenin”. Because if you do have something amazing to look forward to, you’ll fight harder. Please here me when I say, “I don’t mean a girl or guy” I don’t mean that great job you’ll have waiting for you, or any tangible or material things. All those things are temporary pleasures and if or when they fail, you will have reasons to go back to your spiral of addicted behavior. Think of achieving something for yourself when you recover. Be realistic! Think of things that won’t fail or leave you craving that “fix”. Quitting intentionally means doing this for yourself not for anyone or anything else. Changing your behavior patterns means that you don’t set yourself up for failure later. It means you don’t attach yourself to people or things that could potentially cause you harm later and cause you to relapse.
WHAT DOESN’T WORK FOR ADDICTS
I am so tired of the advice that is out there trying to help people “recover”. And here we see people who are in recovery forever! First, can I just say, “there is no one size fits all”! We don’t all heal the same. Remember that! So, what worked for me, may not work for you or your family member. You may hate my advice and it may seem completely out of the ordinary, but as someone who has overcome many different addictions, (sex, drugs, money, men, drinking, etc.) I can offer advice that worked for me. I love my own advice because I know it can work for those who have tried other programs without any success. I haven’t seen much success any other way. I honestly believe if rehab centers would change their ideas about addiction and recovery, they would have more success.
So, with all that said, let’s make one thing clear, you CAN NOT AND WILL NOT recover from anything if you keep freaking talking about it!!!! STOP CALLING YOURSELF AN ADDICT! STOP SAYING YOU’RE A “RECOVERED DRUG ADDICT or ALCOHOLIC” LOSE THE DAM LABELS! They called me an addict and an alcoholic, they called me bipolar, they said I was depressed, and put me on medications, and they were wrong! In fact, I have a full bar in my house and I have total control of myself. But if I want a dam glass of wine with my dinner, you better believe I am going to have a glass of wine with my dinner! I have never been happier, I stress less than the average human, and I am sitting here drinking a nice hot cup of tea by choice! Did you hear what I said? BY CHOICE! You have to learn how to make better choices! And to do that you must also know why you make the choices you do. I have learned to have control of my habits because I have lost the labels other people put on me. Why you do certain things has a lot to do with other people and the influence they have on you. I am not going to say it again, LOSE THE LABELS and lose the people who place labels on you.
Why don’t you just call your addiction, bad behavior patterns? Because that is all they are,” BAD HABITS”. Bad behavior patterns are learned behaviors. And we pick up behaviors due to circumstances in our life, people influencing us, trauma, and many other reasons. But if we can learn a behavior we can unlearn them too. Dah! Wouldn’t it be easier to quit a bad habit, vs staying in “recovery” and collecting your little coins month after month, year after year? “Yea let’s collect a jar of coins to remind me every freaking day how fucked up I am!!! That sounds like a grand-ol’ ldea!” That is ridiculous!! IT’S STUPID!
Is this why we go through those horrible withdraws? Just to struggle to stay sober, to go through depression, and to continue to be stressed about not being high? Why do we have to go through that for the rest of our life just because we picked up a bad habit that we can actually overcome with the right training. No instead we sit around and feel sorry for ourselves with counselors who are like “Oh let’s talk about your feelings today”. WHAT FEELINGS? I have been walking around numb for years you ass hole!!! I think I’d rather NOT!
WHAT ARE YOU REPLACING YOUR ADDICITON WITH?
Like let’s be real here, think about this for a second. Like “what kind of life are you replacing for your addiction”? Is it going to be worth it? Is it going to be amazing? Will you have something to look forward to when you wake up each morning and go to sleep at night? Because if you don’t decide to replace your old habits with a new life, the only life you will have waiting for you is the rollercoaster ride of being codependent, bipolar, and the constant struggle of trying to force yourself not to have a craving!!! Let me tell you this, the first week of withdraws from Heroin freaking sucks, and that is not even the worst part! So, you better have a dam good reason to jump on that recovery train if you ever want to get yourself on the other side of that!
Let’s not even talk about the depression from having to cope with life sober! HAHA That’s fun! You will have to learn how to cope with life differently. Learn to love yourself before you love others. Find new friends. Lose some people in your life. Replace bad habits by discovering new HOBBIES. Like, you have to learn to really love yourself and know what you want in and out of your life. You better get very clear, make a plan, and write it down, because your body will try to change your mind several times before this journey is over. Let me add one positive here before you jump off this blog scared to even try. One thing you can look forward to is a sober mind. There is nothing compared to being present with the people you love on a sober level. The mentality of people you meet and the conversations you have are incomparable. The connections you embrace will better than any high from extasy, special K, and heroin put together (and yes I have done all three and more in one night). I am just saying!!!! I won’t even mention how amazing sober sex is because you’re not there yet, but dam! Life lived sober, is so much clearer, and clarity is power my friend.
THE RIGHT AND WRONG WAY TO RECOVER
Okay so doing it on my own was probably stupid on my part! I almost died in my apartment alone. But thank God I had a few good people who looked out for me and when they didn’t hear from me for a day or two, they came looking for me. I didn’t want a rehab center, because I knew they would medicate me. I saw too many friends in rehab and watched them relapse repeatedly or die of an overdoses. That to me, was like torture! Let me tell some of you who are unaware (program directors, counselors, family members, friends, etc.), when you relapse, you are worse off than where you were before, because the high you feel after you get the drug out of your system, is amazing. Not to mention the antidepressant pills the rehab center gives its patients, mix very well with heroin and other substances.
Point being, I wanted nothing to do with that! So rehab was “out” for me! There was no way I was paying someone to put me in a casket. However, you do need a support group that won’t leave you but will push you harder than you push yourself. Again, rehab centers won’t support you when you are out of the program. Trust me I witnessed this myself. But I won’t throw out names on my blog. God will deal with those individuals. Let me be clear when I say the support group you choose must be willing to break into your apartment to make sure your alive! They must be distracting you with activities and things that are fun, educational, and stimulate your mind, body, and soul. You don’t need those friends or family members who only want to be around you, when they need something from you, or when they feel you’re doing something wrong! Don’t hang around people who want to make themselves feel better at the expense of hurting you! You can’t be around people who are a constant reminder of why you got high in the first place. “To numb out the noise!” Stop talking about shit that depresses you, makes you angry, or stresses you out! And don’t be around people who drag you down! I’m tired of saying this! LOSE THE DRAMA OR LOSE YOUR LIFE!!!! It’s really that simple!
Also, Lose the ego and the winning! Put your big boy/girl pants on and suck it up, because it’s not going to be easy! I’m sick of people in recovery winning! You got yourself into this mess, now you need to get yourself out of it. If you’re truly interested in recovering, you will do whatever it takes without the pity party!
Yes! Tough love!!! That is what helped me! Sugar coating is the new trend in this society and it’s exhausting! Sugar coating doesn’t help people recover; it just pushes them off the deep end! I’ve lost too many people to “sugar coat recovery”! If you ever want to recover from Heroin (or any addiction), you have to become the hero of your own story! No one is coming to save you. You probably shit on too many people when you got high, and they don’t trust you now. Unfortunately, that’s on you! Own it and move on. Addicts are liars and that is what they tell you in rehab centers. So basically, they are telling you they don’t trust you. So, they will always question your motives. keep that in mind! You must change your own motives and forget what other people say about you and your motives. Because trust me when I say, “everyone has an opinion! And people will have a lot to say about you behind your back”.
Remember this, every Hero has a traumatic event occur before they had the power and energy to beat the villain. Think of Heroin as your Villain! It may be destroying you now; it may steal all your energy, it may be your kryptonite and consume you, but you have the power inside you to go up against this and win the battle of dependance! Don’t have expectations for people to support you when you’re too weak to support yourself, and don’t ever give up on yourself when you feel unstable. You only have yourself to encourage or to blame for your thoughts and actions. Choose to encourage yourself to keep going and continue to build a life you can look forward to. Stay strong in your mind and force your body to follow. That is the only way to overcome any addiction.
I wish you the best of luck, feel free to message me if you have any questions, or just go to christinaditzel.blog for more reading material or podcast. Follow me on YouTube and watch for new and upcoming videos on Cleaning, Clarity, Girl Talk and Vlogs.
Much love and prayers to all who have suffered and died from addiction. May we beat this together and overcome the bad habits that consume us!
