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WOLVES IN SHEEPS CLOTHING

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If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you!

Do you know how many of us hear this quote and the words have a different meaning behind it? 🤔. I know some of you are like.” really”? Yes really! Write down in the comments of what this quote means to you and watch how many souls express themselves differently then you.

Or write it down in private and ask a friend to do the same then review your responses. I never felt like I fit in anywhere because my thoughts were different then everyone around me. Sometimes, I see things others dont see. Did you ever hear that saying “my thoughts are not your thoughts”? Well the first time I heard it (like really heard it) was when I was alone with myself reading the Bible. And churches use this quote in their sermons often. And in using these words some churches may tell us we will never understand God and we should NEVER try. Again, I have a very different view on that! One I won’t go into here.

See, words have no meaning accept the meaning we place on them. OR Unless someone places a meaning on them for you! 🤔 Today I want to send you a message from your Epic Muse… “be very careful of the seeds you allow others to plant in your mind and in your soul”.

Life is not easy, we are all challenged differently. And those trying to plant seeds of abundance are like wolves in sheep clothing! 🐑 (pretty, white and pure) but they are anything but pure in their intentions! BEWARE…AND BE AWARE but BE CHALLENGED. Because it’s in the OVERCOMING of our own challenges in life that our abundance can be found! Not in the material things of this world. Well, that is my thought on this Monday morning…But what are YOUR thoughts?

SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE AWAKENING

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The awakening process kinda’ sucks! Or I could say “when you follow your intuition, life gets a little complicated”. What I am talking about is that moment when you know your different! That moment when you feel like a freaking crazy person! Like, everything you say or do people are like “umm?? huh? Standing there scratching their head looking at you like a mental case”! Seriously? Am I being irrational or is everyone else just unconsciously going through the motions of life?” It’s that feeling you get when your “changing” and the people around you just don’t get the “new you” at all? You Know what I am talking about! That feeling that has you believing in more, doing more, and yet it’s too hard to express yourself to those around you. Because every time you do….Well, you already know they will think your the weird one. Or they give you that look that comes across as “You’re insane!”

Do you have this sense of purpose straight down to the very core of your being, but you feel obliged to hide it away, to avoid hurting others? Are you experiencing a deep emotion inside of you that wants to crawl out of your skin, but you know if you said it audibly to the people around you, they would label you as crazy, insane, foolish, stupid or some other word that has “failure or loser” written all over it? Well that sucks! It’s like, “you know they’re going to have a ‘field day’ if you said or did what was really on your mind!” Yet, you still seek their approval. It’s like… “Ugh, wake up people! Life is meant to be lived and we are missing out!” Please don’t allow other people to dim your light!

If you said “Yes” to any of the above statements or questions, I want you to know that “I get you”! I get you, and you’re not alone! I know how it horrible it feels when you’ve found yourself in a place doing what everyone else in your life wants you to do, instead of doing the things that truly make sense to you. It’s like, “why do I always have to stay in the shadows, just to keep everyone else from getting their feelings hurt? Right? Well, you don’t! You are choosing to, but you don’t have to choose to anymore! It’s exhausting trying to keep that last bit of sanity, while people continue to “dumb down” everything in my great BIG world. And for what ? To boost themselves up, in their ordinary lives?Maybe I am just dreaming too big for their small minds! I don’t really know, but what I do know is that other people don’t have the vision that I have growing deep down to my very core, because they are not me! Likewise, those around you do have the same vision that you have deep down to the very core of your being! Bottom line! “They are sleep walking in their conventional existence, instead of waking up with intention!” My hope is those of you who are reading this make a decision today, to spend the rest of your days living in adventure, and with an eagerness for more!

Am I crazy or Are you just sleep walking?

Do you know what the opposite of sleep walking is? That’s right! “AWAKE!” Those of us that have experienced this “crazy awakening” process, have felt this sense of lack throughout most of our life. That lack comes from following everyone else. You know SLEEP WALKING. We have been listening to all the people who are just going through the motions, living in their predictable lifestyles, and belief systems. This is not a life most of us feel excited to “conform” to! As a result, sometimes we can end up outraged, indulging in sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling, or some other appetite to full fill our short lived satisfaction, that burns inside of us! Some of us have abandonment issues from childhood trauma. Or maybe we have been told we will need medications to maintain our mood swings or attitudes. Some of us even try serial dating or consume ourselves in work!

Whatever the case, there is a stigma in this world that if we are not all doing the same thing, or if we are different than the rest, we should be labeled and cast out at a “crazy person”! Well, I am here to encourage you to pursue your purpose. Awakening your dreams and live the life you want today! If you have a “sense” that there is MORE to your life, you think and feel different than those around you, and you see things differently, well, you are probably waking up to your true self, and I would love to see you step into that life!

If you have ever felt like you should be listening to that “still small voice inside of your head” that says, “I am not crazy, I am just ‘self-aware’ and everyone else around me is just stuck in their belief systems and routines”. Well, I am here to tell you YES! Yes, you need to be listening to that still small voice that screaming at you to be YOU! Just do all the things that feel right to you.

Okay, so I get it, being in that place where people don’t get you, really sucks! I know! And I know this because I’ve experienced it for most of my life. I always felt like there was more to this life. Like people never understood the words that came out of my mouth. No one understood that there was so much more to me! And I just always felt like a freaking ‘mental’ person! But,you know what sucked even worse? Every time I did try to step out into that “more” or be different than everyone else, my life came crumbling down on me even harder and my life would spiral out of control!

I serious began to believe I really was crazy! I literally believed it so much, that I let people put labels on me like “bipolar”, “depressed” and many others. Furthermore, I allowed them to put me on medications like Prozac. As if that shit was going to make me feel any better! “Yea lets call her bipolar and put her on drugs”. Yea, because everyone with mental issues can’t get a handle on your thoughts without drugs! LOL, yea we see how far that shit got me! Right? I found a new love for all kinds of pills. Any pill that numbed my reality! That was my life!

Okay, so now that I went off in a tangent, lets get back to “The Awaking vs The Unconscious”. So the ‘Norm’ was the average life everyone else was living! This feeling of ‘going through the motions of life and never really getting to any real destination’. That was it! That was the purpose of being here! The irony of all that makes me, “me”!!! I became who I am today, because of “All my Crazy”! I am who I am today, because I actually “WOKE UP” to this idea that we are not supposed to just reside in this world being average but, we are designed to live fully, experiencing the world in our greatest sense! No matter how out of sorts that may seem to everyone else around us! We each have a purpose and until you wake up to our true essence, we are just going to live a life completely unsatisfied! No one teaches us to embrace our true self, because that would be out of the norm. And that is just “CRAZY”. Well, I totally disagree.

OTHER SIGNS YOUR AWAKENING

  1. Your drawn to nature
  2. You realize the health of your body is important
  3. You begin to dislike negative and unhappy people
  4. Awareness of things that are unseen by others
  5. Desire for community
  6. You become more intuitive to people, places and things around you
  7. Your not rushed and your world moves slower
  8. Your at peace even in difficult times
  9. You have an awareness and connection to nature and all living things
  10. You feel different and frustrated with loved ones belief systems

WAKING UP & EMBRACING MY CRAZY

When we decide to wake up and embrace thy self, we find some pretty amazing things happen! I have encountered so many amazing people, places and things along my journey through this life, that they have literally impacted who I am today! Strangers who have encouraged, supported, and inspired me to expand my horizons! Strangers who hold no significance in my life personally, but have been some of the most crucial impacts to my character today. Animals like snakes, birds, lizards and crickets coming into my path or even annoying me to get my attention. Everyone and everything that happens along this journey has some impact and meaning in my life. And yes each one has motivated me or influences my character and the actions I take moving through my day. Those of you reading this, that follow me on social media and reach out to me and share your life with me, your interaction influences me too! When we are AWAKE, we realize the connection between everyone and everything in life. When we are awake, we see life in amazing colors.

Where I didn’t feel good enough,

I persevered into being more than enough!

Christina Ditzel

Difficulty of Awakening

It’s not always easy, but I’ve learned that I must follow my own intuition and stop asking for everyone’s opinions. I only listen to the people who help me hold more weight in my current belief system. Realize that each season will change and so will your thoughts, ideas, actions and people that influence you. Always, remember that saying that reminds us “some people are in our life for a season, some for a reason, and some for a lifetime”. Constantly tell yourself “I no longer have to conform to the world, but I am free to live and experience the world any way I choose”! Eventually, the weight of fear, doubt, scarcity, and most of all that “label” that says I am “Crazy” or “unrealistic”, will melted away! The universe is always coming to us in to take on the burdens, and declared truth to us that says things like “You are the exception! You’re allowed to be the exception!”

Accept the signs that are given to you through everything and everyone. They are humans that send quotes that say things like, “The person who gets the furthest, is the one who is willing to do and dare”. It’s the song on the radio that says “You will never stop fighting for me”. It’s a lady at the grocery store that watches me and listens to my conversation with my daughters and turns to me to say “your a good mom”! It’s the message I listen to in the morning that says something that inspires me to do something different that day. It is you who follow me and comment on my blogs, videos and social media platforms that keeps me writing. When you are AWAKE, the Divine is everywhere always showing you a way through everything.

“Ask and it will be given to you

Seek and you shall find

knock and the door will open”

Mathew 7:7

Nothing happens by chance

Here’s the thing, we can knock the dam door down, but if we don’t WAKE UP, we won’t see it! Even if it smacks us across the face! People who spoke life into me and helped me have the courage to proclaim the truth for my life, only came when I was open to it. I know now my purpose, but I could not have been “Found” if I stayed unconscious just going through the motions of life. Sleeping in my everyday life was unsatisfying and until I embraced my true self, and I embraced it, I couldn’t see the miracles that were already happening all around me!

So, wake up and be aware of the people that cross your path. Nothing happens by chance! Everything is moving you forward, but you have to be wake up to see it. Stop listening to the unconscious and listen to those little messengers that guide you and try to lead your way. When you are awake you’ll notice throughout our time here on earth, nothing happens by chance and EVERYTHING has a purpose.

So, to conclude this blog, be enough for yourself and embrace your “weird” and ignore the voices of those who live unconscious! Think of this, “The constant assurance that just because I believe in more, I have the right to become MORE” is true in every manner! This allows us to step into our purpose driven life! How uncanny, that book (“Purpose driven life”) is in my living room because it was given to me at the exact moment, in the exact time, I needed it. I believe in Divine events, so Divine events happen all the time. Believe in something big and big things will happen to you too!

I don’t believe anything happens by chance, but I do BELIEVE

Everything that happens is moving us forward into our chance

Christina Ditzel

There are constant reminders that the universe sends to guide us into our purpose. But if you are too busy taking on everyone else’s belief systems and listening to those who want to keep you in a state of unconsciousness (just going through the motions of life), you won’t hear that still small voice guiding your paths. Be Crazy enough to AWAKEN the brilliance that lives inside of you and believe in the brilliance that is YOU!    

(Disclaimer: The following information is merely information and not advice by a professional. If you need mental, emotional, or medical advice, you should always consult a doctor or other appropriate professional. Do not take yourself off of your medications without consulting your physician first, as this could calls serious risks, including death.)

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How to Go from Pain to Purpose

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“Your pain can be used for the Greater Good”

I know that sounds sooo cleche, but what if I told you I have used my pain to get closer to my purposeful & abundant life? What if I told you that you could literally change your circumstances (no matter what they are) and you can turn them into cash flow? Oh yeah! I just said cash flow! Are you with me now? Yea that’s what I thought!

The key here is that you can’t hear just “cash flow”. You should never go into something “GREAT” with “Greed” at the center of your reasoning behind your actions. So you got really interested in this article after you heard the words “cash flow” this article is for you. I want to help you lose the greed and come from a place of gratitude, love and humility. You must come at this with a MINDSET of feeling completely satisfied with your current situation and love your circumstances. That’s right, I said “Love your Circumstances”. And do you know why? Because your thoughts control your emotions, and your emotions get so over the top and out of control that it causes you to “act out” from these “feelings and reactions” that create your character. The person you are right now, today is only a result of your experiences.

You have this idea that the world your living in is all you have. This is it! Get up, go to work, to make the money, to pay the bills, eat, sleep, maybe party a little on the weekends, hang with the kids, invite friends over for BBQ’s, etc. etc. And no matter how hard you try to be happy and have fun, it is always short lived. You sit in traffic and someone cuts you off and your entire day is stressful and anxiety driven. You live in stress and anxiety each day and yet you wake up each morning to do the same damn thing over and over, day, after day, after day.

This routine you have found yourself in is what you call “your life”, And the people, places and things you surround yourself with are making up this stage you now call “Your Life”. Basically, you get all your experiences, which make up your thoughts, which then turn into emotions or feelings, which becomes “Your Character” in this world you actually created yourself. If you are still here I am excited to tell you that you have the ability to change your world! All you have to do is change the experiences you’re having right now.

How to Change your Pain into Purpose

Okay, so you know that “feeling” inside that you get when you smell something or hear something and it takes you back in time? You can literally smell, taste, hear or feel something that brings back a memory. Well now think of this, if you can use your senses (hear, smell, touch or taste) to experience an emotion or feeling of the past, how amazing would it be if you could make your senses experience what will become in the future? If I can take you to a place you remember in the past, who is to say I can’t take you on a journey into your future? Uh, it’s “AHmAzIIng”!

You CAN change your pain into purpose. For example, I overcame the pain I was in by changing the way I thought about my pain. I hated that the source of my relationships with men started with wanting to “save them”. It came from an expectation I had in the relationship and I expected that person to deliver. I have this desire to help men overcome some pain, abuse or addiction they have because of a tragedy that happened in my life when I was a young child. The past dictated my future.

Well, I decided that instead of attracting what I didn’t want in my life, I would begin to think of things that I did want in my life. So, I wrote down all the quality’s I didn’t want in my next relationship and all the quality’s I DID want in my next relationship. (You can literally do this for every area of your life. Work, school, health, relationships, success, finances, etc.) I then looked at the list and asked myself a really hard question. “Would that guy I “want” in my life, like the person I am today?” Obviously, my answer was a big fat NO!! But, I accepted that the problem wasn’t in the men I chose, but the problem persisted inside of ME. I was the problem! I was not attracting the kind of relationships I wanted because I wasn’t living a life conducive of that which I desired. Basically, I wan’t playing the right character for the part I wanted.

Look your stage can be filled with the most extraordinary settings, but if you don’t have each character playing the right part, the show won’t be the same. In fact, people will be asking for their tickets back! (Giggles) Why do you think Broadway has so many interviews before they choose the person they want to play the lead role? Why do you think movies are so engaging? The “Character” makes or breaks a scene. You can desire all you want, but if your character doesn’t fit the part you want to play, your movie will suck!!!

So how do you use your pain to reach your purpose? That is for you to decide! What is your pain? How are you thinking of your pain? Are you even thinking of your pain? You have to become the character of the person you want to be. You have to make a decision and take “A NEW ACTION”. You have to do something different in order to get different results. We hear this all the time! Einstein’s quote gets thrown around like a damn football on a field, but no one is actually taking the time to think of underlining meaning of it’s purpose. In other words, if “doing the same thing over and over again is insanity” Could it be that “do something different over and over again is clarity”?

“Doing something different over and over again Producing different results is Clarity”

By Christina Ditzel

So what do you want? You’re not going to get it doing what your doing now. If you have feelings or emotions that cause stress, anger, fear, guilt, or shame you are living in “Survival mode” and you will never receive fulfillment in that place. You need to take the pain you have and think of a way you can heal it. After you heal your own pain, reach back and pull someone else who is experiencing the pain you’ve overcome. Do it from a place of love, compassion, understanding, and humility.

When you do everything from this new place of selflessness, without an understanding of what you already know, but with a willingness to learn something new, you begin to experience a different journey through life. You begin to find yourself around people who you will resonate with, places that inspire you, and things that excite you. You will have a new view of life, you will find a tribe to hold you accountable, and you will grow and learn with every new experience. You will begin to build a world that will offer healing for yourself and for those around you. And you will do it with love, and without prejudice.

The key is that you have to be willing to DO what others won’t. You have to lose the fear, doubt and voices in your head that say “your only one person”, “your not enough”, “you don’t have the resources”, “you don’t have the skills”, “you’re too old”, “you don’t have the experience” or any other thoughts that may cause you to stay in the very moment you are in right now. You have to change your belief system, and you have to trust in it. Live as a new Character in your world that seeks clarity with your own rules. Use the pain to get you there, but always be led in “LOVE”, and you WILL FIND YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE AND LIVE IN ABUNDANCE.

May our paths cross in the near future!!

Author Christina Ditzel

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Why I don’t like the Term “Addicts”

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I’d like to start this article by saying: “Stop labeling people who use drugs and alcohol addicts or anyone else for that matter”! It programs their brains to receive and send false information about their character. Millions of people are “addicted” to social media, video games, Netflix, sex, and even work, the list goes on. But we never call those people “addicts”. Furthermore, we don’t say they’re in “Recovery” when they decide to stop or eliminate those things from their life. So, why don’t we treat drugs and alcohol the same way? As bad habits! Recovery keeps them in “Recovering addict” forever.

Here’s the truth, I never called myself an addict and I never went to “Recovery”. And do you know why? Because I knew it was just a bad habit and I could just “DESIDED” I no longer wanted to feel or live the life I was living and stop doing it. truth is if you want to “recover” you have figure out what you’re recovering from! I had to “suck it up” and whatever pain I had to endure, I went through it, and grew from it. Yes! of course It sucked! Yes, my body went through detox. And yes, I almost died! But I didn’t! To the contrary, it made me even stronger. By having to go through the hardcore pain and see what that drug was actually doing to my physical body, by the time it was completely out of my system I was certain of one thing. “I NEVER wanted to go through that again”! I sucked it up for the sake of some clarity in my life because “I” wanted to! BECAUSE “I” DESIDED! If you have a friend, family member or loved one who has these “bad habits” you can’t decide for them. By labeling them you’re already telling them they have a problem. Do you think they don’t know that? Do you really think the problem is the drugs or alcohol they are using? Similarly, if you’re the one looking for change, well, if you’re going to make any change in your life “YOU” have to be the one to decide! Other people can’t decide for you, and they can’t do the hard work for you either.

It is not easy, but if you really want to recover, YOU CAN do it! YOU need to stop playing victim, suck it up and make the changes happen! And do you know why? Because CLARITY GIVES YOU PURPOSE! And unless you are clear minded, you will never know the underlying cause of your “little habit”. Because that is all it is. That substance does not define who you are. “YOU ARE NOT AN ADDICT”! You are the only one with your exact “thoughts, feelings, and actions”. Only you know what you’re truly capable of. Stop needing the affirmation from other people. You are perfectly made and only you know what breaks or makes you to movement. So, if you really do want a different life for yourself…You CAN have it! Go Freaking Get it! FIGHT FOR IT DAMMIT!

So back to my point. First, labels are programmed into our brains. Our brain is like a huge program that saves and stores information and it helps guide our way through life. However, we have a ”mind” that can override any program. All the information we gather can either help us respond in a positive or negative way. Our mind has the power to choose which direction we go. Second, every time we pamper people with “labels” we are not helping them. In fact, we are doing them a “disservice” by enabling them to keep doing the shit they do. Labeling people as “Addicts” allows them to keep making excuses for their BAD, UNHEALTHY HABITS and they continue doing really shitty things because they know they use the “addict label” as an excuse they never make any real changes to quit. Hence, leading them right back where they started.

You may think I’m being a little harsh, but I changed my life by changing my perspective. Basically, I lost the labels people placed on me. But that wasn’t all I did. I disconnected my phone and myself. And that included the people, places, and things I surrounded myself with. Humans don’t need more patronizing, and they definitely don’t need more “labels”. But what we are lacking is LOVE, SUPPORT, & RESPECT.

What people really need, is someone who wont judge them, but still hold them accountable for their OWN LIFE and just be there when they are going through stuff. Speak with love and encouraging words!

Your words can give Life or Death.

proverbs 18:21

Your words have the power to lift someone into life’s purpose or tear them down into harmful lifestyle habits. Choose your words wisely. Stop the labeling! If we must throw labels out there, lets talk about “Weakness”. (The state or condition of lacking strength). The inability or “desire” to do what we want to do and stop doing the things we don’t want to do. Did you see what I did there? I gave you two different words (inability and desire). The inability to do something means you just “cant” do something. But the word desire is something we “feel” we really must do or want to have. By using the word desire I am telling you that “weakness” is not an “addiction”. Contrary to what I said earlier, uou do have a choice. You can CHOOSE to NOT be weak by having the DESIRE to do the things you want to do.

Rather than placing labels around someone’s neck encourage them with positive words that lift them up. Remember, they need to figure out what they are recovering from! Because it is not drugs and alcohol! Trust me on that! And no, I am not telling you to patronize them! But do…. Love them for the person you know they are going to be. Support them even if you can’t see the bigger picture. Be there when they are going through the hardest times in life. And mostly, respect others because you know God made them who they are, and you know they will come out of this mess stronger than they were before. Don’t hear what I am not saying! If you can’t be around this person because their habits or lifestyle is harming you, then walk away. It’s really that simple. At the end of the day, each and every single one of us will have to make a decision. As for the word “addict” Instead of calling it “addiction” or using the term “recovering addicts”, maybe try using the term “bad habit” or a “healthy lifestyle”. Habits and lifestyles can be altered and changed. The term “recovery” leaves people in a state of mind that tells them “They will always be recovering”. But when we stick people in a building with a group of more people who are “recovering addicts” we are just allowing them to continue to talk about the one thing they want to stop doing. And then we give then to patronize the situation even more, we give them a metal or coin that reminds them how many months and years they have been recovering from this substance abuse. IT IS ABSURD!!! News flash! “Recover” means to “return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength”. Why would anyone ever want to leave the person they love, to feel sick, lost, and weak???

To Conclude this article, I’d like to just say:

STOP “ALL” THE LABELING! Let the words that come out of your mouth build people up and stop breaking them down! Make the change today and DECIDE to live your life fully blessed in abundance. And remember “you have to know what you (or your loved one) “are recovering from”.

Your words have Power to Heal the sick

Or Break people down into their illness

Author Christina Ditzel

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HOW TO BE MINDFUL IN THE MESS

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BEING MINDFUL IN THE MESS

Are you being mindful in the mess? Or are you letting your mind and body’s past experiences and trauma guide you through life? So, you already probably know that you have millions of memory programs running inside your head from past experience, to things you were taught, things you learned and unlearned, all the way down to things you said and did. As you read this article, your brain is memorizing and working to remind you of things you already know, from things you’ve heard before, to the very things you didn’t know or never learned. It is all in your memory bank. Even the things you think you forgot, it is still there, sitting in your subconscious mind.

This is why you can smell something or taste food and remember something from your childhood or have a memory of a specific moment in time. Your mind is extremely powerful! So, are you really being mindful? Are you aware of your own thoughts, feelings and actions? Or, are you just running on routine and habits that your memory already has stored? I know I am getting a little deep here with the whole thinking thing, sorry about that. But, in order to be “mindful in the mess” I am about to make you “think of thinking” and it might hurt a little.

Did you know “your Thoughts control your Emotions, and your emotions control your actions”? Think about that for a minute……Your thoughts become emotions and then you act based on your feelings. Am I right? So, what are you thinking about, (finances, work, finding love, wanting more, meeting deadlines, all your needs, all your wants, etc.)? For the majority of your day what are you thinking about? What do you think about the minute you wake up and open your eyes? Do you reach for your phone, then go to the bathroom, then go make a pot of coffee, still checking social media, etc.??? You’re not really thinking of doing these things you are just doing it. You’re doing it out of habit! Am I about on point here so far?

So, right about now you’re “thinking of thinking” which is probably beginning to get frustrating, but that is good. You are literally about to teach your brain that your “mindfulness” is in control instead of your brain being in control of you. Okay, so, when I asked you what you think of when you open your eyes in the morning, what was your thought? …..

That thought determines how you will act moving forward, if you are not mindful of controlling the feeling that emotion gives you. And every thought there after will control how you act and react the rest of your day. Unless, you are “MIND-FULL” of your thoughts. Here is an idea:

Write these questions down and answer them for yourself:

1.     What are you seeing and doing the second you wake up in the morning?

2.     What is the first thing you think of when you wake up?

3.     What are you putting in your body first thing in the morning? (cold wakes up the brain)

4.     What are you physically doing to wake your body up? (exercise, meditating etc.)

5.  How do you feel mentally, physically and emotionally before you leave the house?

6.  Are you prepared to take on your day with a positive outlook?

Self-awareness

If you want the mess to dissipate in your world, you have to be self-aware of what your attracting to your world. The challenge of doing everything from “habit” is that you are not “aware” of your thoughts, feelings and actions. Therefore, you’re not allowing yourself to learn anything new to be able to change the old from happening. Hence, you continue to do the same things over and over, year after year, trying to get different results….”INSANITY” right? 

So, “How” You ask? How do you find mindfulness in the midst of the mess? Well think of this, if you are waking up each morning thinking of the mess at the office, at home, in your relationships or in your life, what emotions are you carrying around with you all day? Are they positive thoughts? Or are they negative and toxic thoughts? Are they filling you with purpose or are they bogging you down with stress, anxiety and worry? Furthermore, if you are carrying all these emotions with you around all day, what attitude are expressing to everyone else?

We often get so caught up in blaming everyone else and everything else for our chaos, that we never look inward. The fact is, you carry yourself around with you everywhere you go and until you become mindful of your own “thoughts, feelings and action” your reality will never change. You will continue to live the same life your living with no feeling of purpose, always chasing the next best thing. So, are you really performing at “your” best? Are you giving yourself the best opportunity’s in life? Are you showing the world the “best version of you”?  Or are you letting the world around you and the people in it dictate your character and lifestyle? Today, I share with you, my list of things that I had to learn to find my true purpose and blessings in life. I hope they help you find the inner you without the mess, so you can be blessed too.

Breaking habits

  1. Stop doing the same things you’ve always done. Embrace change.
  2. Who are the people, places, and things that influence your everyday life and character?
  3. “Be mindful and Get Clarity” of your own environments (personally and professionally).
  4.  Are the people, places and things in your life “stepping stones or a stumbling block”?
  5. Stop thinking, feeling and acting the way other people want or expect you to.
  6. Stop feeling emotions based on fear of change and learn something new.
  7. Most important on my list is to be your unique self and embrace change and express new characteristics.

Be mindful of the thoughts, feelings and emotions you entertain today. In the mess of things sometimes we allow our past thoughts, emotions and actions to take over. Rather, find an awareness today that not only change your perspective, but changes your entire outlook in all areas of your life. You have to “welcome change”. Transformation can only happen with change.

I am all too familiar with the “Hot mess of life”. I know where there is chaos, finding order (“thinking”), is nearly impossible. I also understand that doing what is “different” feels very uncomfortable. But only for a little while. Building your own brand is being different, bringing change and transforming from old to new. So, to break it all down for you ….

How to be mindful in the mess

  1. Ask yourself those five questions above each morning.
  2. Take from my list of breaking habits or make your own list and read them each morning and every night to reflect change.
  3. Change your mindset first thing in the morning and each night before you go to sleep
  4. Be aware of the people, places, and things that influence your thoughts (your thoughts control your emotions and your emotions control your actions)

“be transformed by the renewing of your mind”

Romans 12:2

C Love xo