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How to Succeed in 2023/7 tips to get you closer to success

CHRISTINA DITZEL Leave a comment

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Do you know how people become successful? They hustle! Well, that is part of it. But the truth is, most successful people absolutely love what they do! And the don’t have just one thing they’re passionate about, but several things. The passion they have, drives them to their success. But how do you choose what we’re passionate about? And furthermore, how do you get good enough to really become successful? Well, you start with a strategy and plan. Here are my personal favorite 7 TOP TIPS for success!

1. Persevere In Love

To persevere in love means to, “press on with a love for the work you do” or “in all you do, love it”. Truth is, we don’t enjoy life when we are doing the things we don’t want to do, and we usually won’t do our best work on the things we dread doing. Similarly, we don’t want to stop doing the things we love to do because we want to do our best at it. So, you must do what you love, and freaking be the best at it! It really is that simple, but not so easy! Whatever you do, love to do it with all your heart, because you never give up on the things, you’re truly passionate about. And no matter what we peruse, nothing in life is easy. As the saying goes, “if it were easy everyone would do it!” Aways remember this, perseverance will always result in a breakthrough. Keep going and continue to push yourself forward, and watch the magic happen! Most people give up when things get too hard, and that is why they never succeed. However, those that embrace the challenges, knowing every adversity makes them stronger ad gets them one step closer to their dream; well, those are the ones that “persevere in love”. There is no greater joy than accomplishing something we feel passionate about and overcoming all the challenges we met along the way. A journey lived without love for something, is not a journey lived at all.

2. Learn To Be Teachable

Number 2 on my list is to “Listen and learn a lot”. Be teachable! If you’re not learning new things and taking in constructive criticism, you’ll most likely never succeed. Or you will really struggle to succeed which will end in consistent failure, which, in most cases, results in giving up. If you can’t listen to new ideas, train yourself to listen long enough to hear what others have to say, and get out of your own way, you won’t succeed. Bottom line! Unfortunately, success is never done alone. You will eventually need help from mentors, inventors, coaches or someone else, Because the truth is, you will provide better services by listening to those who have had success. They can and will teach you how to overcome certain adversity and obstacles you may have in the future. And I an not saying you should go and listen to every voice in your ear. But, If you can’t take honesty from outsiders and learn what is good advice and what is bad advice, you will never succeed. There will always be times when we ALL must listen and learn. To lead others means to be the example of how important it is to listen and learn new things. Leaders must be open minded and willing to learn so others can see what it means to listen and learn! Don’t underestimate the quiet guy in the room. If you can’t listen to your staff, you won’t earn their trust or respect and they will not work as hard as they could have. You will have a business that runs with horrible communication skills, lack of production, and no motivation. Worse, you will always be lacking in development and growth. So, start out with a teachable mentality and continue to be teachable no matter how successful you think you are, If you don’t listen to your clients, customers, or consumers you will lose them, get bad reviews, and will not be building a trustworthy brand. Which brings me to my next tip…

3. Always Stay Humble

Don’t be a cocky asshole! “Sorry, I had to say it!” Let’s face it, humility produces better workers, better clients, and a higher success rate in any business, or relationship. We don’t have to take everyone’s advice, but we should “consider” it with humility. Don’t discount everything and everyone just because its out of your belief system or it takes you out of your comfortable zone. Get over it! Arrogance is “having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities. There is always a different way to do things, and your way is not the only right way! I personally wouldn’t do business with an arrogant person! It’s as simple as that! I am not saying to demean or lower your standards to appease other people. Of course not!!! Be perceptive, receptive and keep an open mind. But we must have some kind of gratitude and be aware of where we’ve been and where we’re heading in life an in our sucess. To be humble means you should be “teachable and willing”. It should come as no surprise that when we have humility, the rest of the things in this list come effortlessly.

4. Learn the Practice of Patience

I know I get it; this one is a difficult one for many of us. If only I had my mother’s patience. I admit that I did and still do occasionally, struggle with having patience. But let me first start by saying that patience is not equal to being taken advantage of. With that said, I used to always say: “I have no patience for incompetence” But who is incompetent really? Again, remember humility? Just because someone’s views are different than mine doesn’t make them incompetent. I’ve seen some people I thought were “freaking idiots” become super successful overnight. Little did I know, they used their “incompetence” and turned it into a trend. Go figure! However, I do try to always hold a value on my time and other people’s time. I don’t want to waste time on things that degrade my value or someone else’s. Time holds major value to me, and I make use of that time in every moment of every day. Listen, time is on your side. I know it doesn’t appear that way, but it’s true. Time is useful and helpful in all seasons of life. Time allows you to live life with more potential for “creating and waiting”. Sometimes, life gives you time to sit in your thoughts and regain clarity. So, take your time when creating anything new or recreating something old. Know that your time of waiting is a journey you won’t want to miss out on, it’s a tine to learn, grow, and in the process practice patience. Enjoy the experiences and be excited about the unexpected events that occur. Be patient in the journey to success. This brings me to my next and favorite tip…

5. Enjoy The journey

You must enjoy the journey in every season of life. The journey can be hard sometimes, YES! But even the hard times are worth it! Did you ever notice the hard times pass just as quickly as the good times do? It’s easy to get overwhelmed because our human nature is in such a hurry to get to the end result of our goal. Unfortunately, that causes us to miss out on some of life’s most important lessons, and we miss gaining the wisdom needed for the next season of life. Struggles make us stronger, not weaker! It is wise to leave breathing room to see the bigger picture. To see everything in the path ahead, because we took time out to enjoy the journey, makes the path easier to walk. Take it ALL in. If I could offer any advice, that I wish I had taken myself, it would be, don’t be in such a hurry to get to the top of the mountain. remember patience. Imagine all the things we could avoid if we paid closer attention to the details of our past. If we actually stopped to breath and recognize our patterns, behaviors, and choices. Well, we could avoid many mistakes that we will inevitably make again. Take it for me, someone who has continued to make the same mistakes, you could end up at the bottom of the same mountain again, and again, and again, if you don’t embrace and enjoy the journey now. If we don’t take the time to learn along our journey through life, and enjoy the lessons in it, we continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Making the journey miserable. Of course, we can’t enjoy the journey when we know we keep doing the same things over, and over again! Right? So, a good tip for success, that I wish I had paid closer attention to, was to just embrace and enjoy the journey!

“Making the same mistakes over and over trying to get a different result is insanity”.

By Albert Einstein

Make new choices that you can learn from. Make decisions that get different results and mostly enjoy the journey. I’ve learned from my own experience, and from being a good listener from those who went before me, that it makes the journey much more exciting when we’re paying attention.

“Embrace the unknown and be excited about the unexpected”

6. Learn To Embrace Competition

Next on my 7 tip tips for success is, “Embracing competition”. No one is going to steal your ideas, and no one is going to beat you to the finish line.  We get so caught up in what other people think, not realizing that there is enough room for everyone to succeed. I don’t see McDonald’s and Burger King shutting down any time soon. They’ve been successful for years! Not to mention, have you noticed all the burger joints out there? Come’ on! There is room for everyone to shine! Look, embracing competition is healthy! We need competition to bring out our “A GAME” every time! Competition is healthy! Competition moves us all forward faster. We ALL strive higher when we have competition. The problems arise when we become fearful of failure or scared, we will miss out on opportunities. So, we bash our competitors or get lost in our own game. There is enough room for everyone to grow and expand. There are no limits here!  Embrace your competition, make it fuel your fire, and don’t get intimidated by others who want to succeed too. In fact, help others succeed and build a team that thrives on integrity together. Remember, “We are better together”. Do you know why all the big brands survive? They bring something a little different to the table and they thrive on competition. Pepsi, coke, all the many fast-food chains. There is a consumer for each brand and there is a consumer for your brand too!!! Don’t be afraid of the competition, thrive because you have competition.

7. Focus on Customer Satisfaction

I know many of you will say “customer satisfaction” is a given! It’s a “no brainer”. Right? But there are still those people who think because they’re the boss they are entitled. And having an “Entitlement attitude” will get you nowhere in the real world! Also, audience and tone matters! If we are not reaching the right audience with the right tone, we fail! Bottom line! Furthermore, if we don’t continue to satisfy our customers, we also fail. How educated are you as an entrepreneur on the “bottom line and top-line growth”? Customer satisfaction should be warranted, as long as it doesn’t conflict with the overall business plans for growth. I know I just got really technical really fast! Sorry! Not sorry! But after some much-needed research on my own business, I had to mention this. I can honestly say that I’ve learned the hard way! Sometimes as a business owner, our business “plans” change! As production and time evolve, the business must shift and develop new modifications to flow with those changes. And if you are not paying attention, the direction of a business could crash overnight. If our “top-line growth” doesn’t measure up with our “bottom-line growth” we fail. In short, the “bottom line” is a company’s net income, and the “top line” is the company’s revenue or gross sales. I suck at numbers so this concept was difficult for me to learn. Without getting too technical I will try to break it down in laymen terms.

We all strive to meet customer satisfaction, because let’s face it, without customers, we have no business. Right?! However, we can’t continue to focus all our attention on satisfying customers if success of our business is struggling to meet the “bottom line goals”. DID YOU HEAR THAT? Let me repeat that “we CANNOT keep satisfying customers if we are struggling to meet our ‘bottom line goals” (the company’s net income). Eventually we will be out of business and with NO customers! Sometimes, business owners are forced to make hard decisions. Increase the top line, (the company’s revenue or gross sales) try to filter down (lower or subtract) and boost the bottom line. That is where we get our profits from. If there is no profit, we can’t survive. It’s common freaking sense and all customers know this! NO NEGOTIATION HERE! We all know a company has to make a profit or they can’t survive. We pay the higher raised prices at restaurants, grocery stores etc. without negotiating.

So, make the “right customers happy” to exceed your goals, and increase the bottom line! If they trust you and your brand, they will pay the prices you charge. If they don’t, well you are probably better off without those who always want a deal. Believe me when I say, they will be more of a headache to you in the future. Or continue to “appease the wrong customers” and never meet the company goals. As a result, you will end up hating what you once loved. Don’t feel bad about making better business decisions! It is your business after all! If your customers had your job, they would do the same thing. Trust me!!! You know this! And look I am all for giving back!” I am all for FREEBEES!!!” After you exceed your goals give a little back to those that deserve your generosity. Take care of the ones who took care of you and supported your business. But, if you’re struggling to stay afloat in your business, you must come up with new strategies and troubleshoot a new plan.

We will always have people who are dissatisfied with some things we do or say. Successful people don’t allow others to make business decisions that will make life miserable for them. “A few pennies to one’s pocket could mean a huge loss for the bottom line”. Prepare to build the business you want to have tomorrow as if you have that success already today. I am sharing this because I have done this and had to fail a lot to learn. I hope I can help just person avoid making some of these mistakes I’ve made on my journey. Believe me when I say if you don’t feel worthy of your services, you will provide less than adequate service. And how can you feel worthy if you are not being compensated for your time, energy and effort? So really, we’re doing our customers a disservice by not satisfying our bottom line and reaching our own goals. Remember, you must satisfy yourself by meeting and exceeding your business goals before you can offer anyone else satisfaction. Or otherwise, what’s the dam point of having your own business?

Conclusion

These are my favorite 7 Top Tips for Success that I’ve learned along my journey. I wish someone would have told me, or maybe they did, and I was too stubborn to listen. Are there any tips you have for success? Share some of the things you’ve learned on your journey or things you are struggling with. By sharing, learning and growing together we can all succeed! I wish I knew some of this when I started out, because learning later in the game is much more difficult to manage. Get a handle on that now! The sooner the better! Don’t forget, continue to learn, and make mistakes. Doing a little research will help avoid some of those mistakes ahead of time. They are there for growth in the journey of success. Always stay Humble and have patience. Enjoy the Journey, never fear the Competition, and allow all things to manifest! Don’t be afraid to “up your A-game”! Offer bigger, better services but be sure to “cover your bottom’! If you know what I mean?

IS MLM WORTH IT?

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So many people are getting more and more interested in MLM business opportunities. I for one have participated in a few and have compared different companies based on my experience, and my friends and family’s experience. First thing I would like to address before I get in too deep into this article is that, “any and every business is going to have it’s ups and downs based on your belief system”. Some things will resonate with you and some things may not. I have my beliefs and you have yours. All self employment is difficult and takes a lot of hard work and continued research and education. I am not here to change your mindset, but only to share with you my experience with MLM businesses based on my personal experience.

Many people think that when they start an MLM business they will “Get rich quick” and that is just not the case. When people go into an MLM with this kind of mentality, they never make it far! When we realize running an MLM involves more work than we anticipated, we end up disappointed, discouraged, and quit too fast to even experience the full benefits of having a business. Look as much as you may think the products are going to sell themselves, good marketing is still needed. If you have a mindset where you think your going to have an overnight success story, I am here to tell you’re miss-leading yourself. Entering into any business that you have to run yourself, is going to be hard work. Well, if you want to make any money. Truth is, it is going involve A LOT of HARD WORK! Yes, you will have to speak to people! Yes, you will have to purchase the products, try them, and experience them for yourself! Yes, you will have to learn something about the company, the products, their ethics, culture, and history. And yes, you will have to have some product knowledge! With that said, here are 5 tips to success with an MLM business

5 Tips to Succeed with an MLM business

  1. Choose a great upline
  2. Choose a company that has products you use daily and that you actually enjoy using
  3. Trust the products and the company you join
  4.  Love the journey of learning
  5.  And love interacting with people

Do these 5 simple things and you will succeed in more ways than just your cash flow!

Understanding the Politics of MLM

Understanding the politics of any business is essential to your success and that is no different with MLM opportunities. I know many people will disagree with me in this article and that is okay by me. All I ask is that everyone just please remember to keep comments respectful, encouraging, and please, do feel free to share any helpful information you may have concerning MLM opportunities. I am intrigued by MLM companies, specifically those that sell essential oils or anything ORGANIC for health and wellness and skincare. See, essential oils and living an organic lifestyle has changed my life mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. And I love sharing new products and my experience with others. However, what I am not a fan of, is when MLM companies are not giving valuable information to their consultants that can actually help our environment, community or overall health and wellness. Many MLM companies are deceiving people with false pretenses. In fact, there are some MLM company’s that tell people it is okay to ingest certain products or to use their products without diluting them when in fact these products could do more harm to certain individuals.

I get it! MLM businesses are meant to upsell and get others to buy into their program to keep the chain going. However, I don’t agree with a strategy when the “politics” or the principles of that company are flawed by deceiving people with unpredictable, unhealthy, and dishonest methods to succeed. First, I don’t care what your MLM representative tells you, you should never be selling anyone on the idea of applying or swallowing products without fully researching and understanding the product itself, and for your body and health condition! Furthermore, if you don’t know the person who you’re offering remedies to, you should not be offering advice as if you’re a medical professional. For example, many doterra and Living young representatives teach dangerous practices of applying essential oils to the skin without dilution. They also offer tablets so people can make their own essential oil pill for ingestion. PLEASE DON’T DO THIS!

I have a cleaning company where I use essential oils. I diffuse them into the air for aroma and for their healing properties. All my cleaning products are also made with essential oils in them. Everything I use is “plant based and organic”, however, I do not take this lightly. I always ask my customers if they have allergies to the aromas that I am using. I also ask if they are on any medications, have health concerns, or if they have kids or animals. I ask lots of questions and get to know my client before I take them on a journey into my aromatherapy cleaning experience. And do you know why? Because I know that these essential oils can do major damage if I do not take the proper precautions and use them sparingly. If someone has a reaction I want to know ahead of time because I never want to be the cause of getting someone sick. Or even worse, die because I misinformed them of the potential hazards of essential oils mixed with certain medications.   

FACTS ABOUT MLM & Their products

I can tell you from experience that the rules for using the products are essential to your success! You must know them and like them. For this article, I will be talking about the essential oils as an example, because that is what I used. I have used essential oils for my cleaning business for over 5 years now, and let me just say, “too much of a good thing, is a bad thing”! I have gotten really nauseous and felt ill when exposed to too many essential oils in one workday. Honestly, I don’t think any essential oil MLM Company should be advising people to ingest essential oils ever! I definitely think it’s important to know how much you can handle before applying it to your skin. Did you know what you put on your skin soaks into your bloodstream within 6 seconds? do-Terra and Living Young representatives are huge in offering advice on healing illnesses by ingesting tablets with a full glass of water. Many people think they are safe and that the water is diluting the essential oil. But the truth is, IT’S NOT! When have you ever known water and oil to mix? NEVER! Water and oil do not mix! Do you know what that means? That when ingested, the oils are not emulsified and they go straight to your mouth, down your throat, to your esophagus, and then to your stomach, all undiluted!

The treasure that is nature can be extraordinary and yes, beneficial to our health and wellness, when used properly. But we must know our own body and be mindful when something is wrong. This includes following some safety precautions. We must remember, these are plants that have been used as medicines for centuries. They have antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, anti-microbial, and their aroma can sooth and alter your mind, mood, and emotions. Still, we must be aware of how we use them. Essential oils can be used for anything and everything under the sun but if not used with caution, they can be deadly. Yes, I said deadly. Also, not all essential oils are created equally, bottom line. Different companies extract essential oils differently, some say pure, some say organic, and some say fragrance. There is a difference between these oils. And FYI “natural” is not equal to “organic”!

Choosing the Right MLM

First, let me just say, I was not very educated on essential oils when I first started using the products for my Cleaning Company. I mean, “I wasn’t using the products on my skin, and I was not ingesting it, so I was fine! Right? WRONG! I didn’t realize I could actually have an adverse reaction to essential oils, until I began to feel weak, fatigued, and even dizzy after using certain products on my skin and then cleaning with essential oils. After experiences some symptoms when using certain products and oils, I started to do some serious research. After realizing that I started to feel really ill in the homes requesting Lavender for each cleaning. And I mean really ill! Headache, nausea, dizziness, and even felt faint at times. However, when I got home, I would shower and eat dinner with my kids. After some time passed I would feel better. What was the cause? Why did I feel so sick every time I cleaned the particular clients? Was it something in their home? A perfume I was allergic to? I had to get to the bottom of it. So I began to look at all the common denominators of those clients and their homes. YUP! Lavender! Who’d ever thought? Lavender is a favorite to so many!!

.Needless to say, I can no longer use Lavender without an uplifting aroma such as orange, and I must wear a mask and gloves when using any of these essential oils. Another very important part I want to bring up here is that, I didn’t wear gloves all the time and I didn’t realize it, but I was spraying product, wiping things down, and all those essential oils were soaking through my hands and into my blood stream. Even though I highly dilute my products with “water”, and they are made with “carrier oils and a base”, I was still getting sick! Now, I make a point to use massive precaution to protect not just my customers, but myself as well. Truth is, I learned all of this being a part of a great MLM company I was a part of for 3 years.

See, I became a consultant for an amazing company that taught me the value of business ethics that care about the people, the animals, and the planet. I was a consultant for an MLM and I joined this company for many reasons. After attending a conference I was hooked to the products and the friendships I built while there. I’ve met amazing connections from all over the world. What I loved about the company was their proof of ethics in improving the company by consistently refining their products, their continued certification,s and quality control, educating their consultants, and they are always cultivating new ways to inspire, support, and develop teams that want to improve the world we live in. And to me, there is no better journey in life than the one that improves human development and growth through the mind, body, and spirit. Honestly, this company does that and much more! What I didn’t like, was that I would find products I loved and I would use them and then share them, and they would go off the market! Constantly changing products, is really frustrating. I get it! We are always looking to improve our products and services. But com’on! when is enough, enough?

Conclusion

So, to conclude this article, I would like to say that from my personal experience with MLM businesses, they are equal to owning your own business. It is not a scam, but you will have to work your tail off to generate clientele and sales! It’s not for everyone and very few make it to the top! I certainly didn’t! Just know this, you will have to put effort into any business if you want to work for yourself or work from home. This is why it is important that you find something you enjoy. If you like it, then it won’t be considered work. If you are completely passionate about it, well, you will be driven to share it! It is not going to easy, and it will take hard work to build, regardless! I mean with the internet being the main marketing tool today, you will need to build a platform for yourself! You will want to choose a company that has products that you enjoy using so you’re not scared to share it and you won’t delay actually doing the things that will generate business. Like those days spent cold calling and days where you will have to have parties and host events. MLM’s are meant to be fun, cash flow opportunities, and if you are not having fun or you don’t like the products, you will set yourself up for failure. trust me! And you must not follow what everyone else is doing, you must sell and be creative in ways you are comfortable. Bottom line! Because if you are not comfortable, it will show and you will come across as fake and not genuine. You must build a team that is trustworthy, and one that performs. Laziness is not part of MLM business opportunities. In fact, there is no room for lazy in any “self-employment” journey.  It’s about hard work, learning new things, building new relationships, sharing, growing together, and embracing change in every season. So, go-a-head, embrace the season and give it try! Love what you do and do what you love! And remember…

“The Person who Gets the Furthest is the one

Who is Willing to Do and Dare”

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How to Live a Happier More Successful Life

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“There is no Thing that can make you happy

and

There is no Person that can make you complete”

Christina Ditzel

Mindfulness and Clarity is essential to success and happiness. The issue is not the circumstance you’re in, but the self-awareness you have daily, and the mindset you have, about your circumstances. We as humans struggle to really understand what happiness even is, because we are unaware of our spiritual self. We think happiness is gaining more success and we think success is gaining more material things. Like finding better relationships, a better job, a nicer house, cars, etc. But the truth is, people, places, or things will never make you happy. If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I say this often! “You can’t find happiness in people, places or things”! If you keep your focus on things in the “physical world”, you will always be seeking for physical satisfaction. I don’t mean to disappoint my readers, but there is no happiness in such entities. True happiness comes from within, and success is a mindset full of clarity! Noting is achievable without the believe system that is can be done! We need to ponder on our awareness in order to bring joy to our heart and soul. If you believe something to the very core of your soul, then you will do what it takes to achieve that goal! Truth is, you just have to go get it!

 Since we were young, we’ve been told, “go to school, get good grades, go to college, get married and then have kids and grand-kids”. Well, is that it? Is that our whole purpose in life?  I can’t believe that is the reason for this life! Some want to travel the world, others want more money, a better car, a bigger house, the best job, the smartest kids, etc. I can’t believe that is it! I just can’t believe that we work and toil until we face death! To me that is life without purpose. It is a spirit that lives in the flesh, walking dead on earth. That is not who I am!

In today’s world, media has taken over, and always has something new to catch our attention! So, it is inevitable that we chase for the next best “thing”, rather than a joyful and happy “self”, or inner happiness. We always seek outward pleasures to make us happy. Until we realize they don’t! Eventually, it leaves us in a depressed state and always on the hunt, not knowing what success or happiness even means. But what if we became more aware of what we allow media to feed into us? What if we became more aware of our self as a spirit walking this world to experience it? But what if we decided to “Instead of allowing the world to experience us, we walked knowing it was an experience for us”? What if we took what we learned and utilized it to help others find their own way and helping them to stop following in the foot steps of everyone else who came before us? That is why I write these articles on clarity! Because I’ve learned the power of clarity and I just want to offer a sort of, guide, so everyone who comes here can learn, grow, and share their own way. And maybe together we can live happier, healthier, more successful lives together in a community that knows we’re are “better together”!

I have become so focused on “getting more” and “being more”, and I realized living like that, we lose the true desire of our own hearts. and we never take the time to see the light that shines the path to true happiness and true sucess. In some cases, we can get so greedy that we live our lives dimming everyone’s light afraid they might dim ours. Or we live as if we need to be better than the next person, graduate at the top of our class, and compete with everyone for the top positions and end up alone, without any options. we end up living in fight or flight mode in every area of our life and that is never a good place to be. Why are we in constant competition with one another, instead of being in unity with others? Has it become a new belief system, that division will bring us happiness?

We have been programmed to think this way since the day our ancestors were born. We’ve been raised to be competitive with everything we think, say, and do Since Covid and 2020 politicians have divided us. Even the church and the bible divide us. We compete with our friends, family, and acquaintances, rather than rejoicing and loving them. How can that kind of living ever feel good? How can living in competition with the people and things we are supposed to love, ever really feel good? Well, it doesn’t! And if we continue with this trend, we will never find true happiness in our lives. We must stop living not feeling good enough and trying to be better than everyone else. But how do we do that?

How do we get clarity for a happy and successful life?

First, tangibles are not the answer! So, just get that out of your head so you can stop searching for the “next best thing” now. There is no THING that will make you happy! And there is no person that will make you complete. Second, this journey we are on is short lived, so we must make the most of it and enjoy it while it lasts. If you’re one of the lucky ones, by the end of your road, you will be so happy within, and aware of the core nature of your spirit, that you will not think about this material world as a place to “Gain a life”, but you will begin to experience this world as a beautiful soul that is here “Exploring this life”. You must first focus on yourself, your passions, and the thing that starts a fire in your soul! What are you passionate about?

We should strive to live a life that “gives and receives love” and the only way to do that is to live in a sense if feeling love and lived. A life that offers pure joy in just being your true essence. We should never try to strive for everyone else’s dreams or hate others for their success, but we should strive for a mind and spirit of our own dreams! Living in this beautiful place, and being able to explore wherever, and whatever we desire, should be exciting! We should never feel limited or lack in any area of life. That is not the point of this journey. I really believe that! When you realize material things won’t ever make you happy, and you accept that you are not promised tomorrow, you begin to live life like it is your last day, every day. And you appreciate all the things, good and bad that come your way. Because good or bad, you are moving forward through more experiences of this life.

When you live life happy within, you’re able to do the things you love without stress. You get to spend time with the people who make you the happiest, without drama. When you allow yourself to enjoy life, you want to help those you pass along the way. You want everyone to enjoy their journey because you are enjoying the journey.  You live in worry because you don’t allow yourself to get to know your inner being and purpose here, and you don’t enjoy the journey your on. Instead you follow the worlds advice and ideas and you stay in a mental state that says “your different and you don’t belong”. But the truth is, you are different and that is why you do belong!!! Embrace yourself with out the fear of what others think about you. The things that make you different are the things that make you special! When your spirit shines its light, you will sour like an eagle in the sky, and those that that have a spirit to look up and see you with acceptance. And those are the ones you will call your tribe. Those are the ones you need to zoom in on.

 If you really feel like your world is upside down, start over! Start with getting peace in your own heart. That means thinking of “ALL things as good”. You can’t have happiness if your mind is in a frantic state all the time. Recognize the things that come into your life to help move you forward. You might not like it all the time but if it is going to move you forward, just take the leap and do it! If you ever want to find true happiness, you must get clarity of your current situation, and see life through a totally different lens.

I can offer you my book, “Hot mess to totally blessed”, I talk a lot about getting “clarity” by cleaning out your physical world, and your psychological world. I can give you exercise after exercise, and advice after advice, but at the end of the day if you don’t do anything, my book won’t help. In fact nothing and no one can help you. Listen, I lost my relationships, my kids, my car, my job, and everything in my physical world. I had to start my life over at 38 years old with NOTHING. Trust me it sucked. But I did it! I made a decision to do something and I did it! And so can you! You are worth it! In my book I have exercises that can help you gain clarity in your situation, and each chapter gradually goes deeper for your self-growth. Some of the things I talk about are:

  1. Clearing out some of the junk that is cluttering your focus
  2. Eliminate people and places that are holding you back.
  3. How to reduce stress levels
  4. Slowing down your physical world
  5. Being a better parent
  6. Embracing and facing our mess head on
  7. Dating yourself
  8. And so much more!

Listen, the actions you take TODAY, determine your circumstances for tomorrow. To love yourself enough to live a happier lifestyle means “getting rid of anything toxic in life” and getting the knowledge, wisdom and guidance you need to move you forward into your abundant life. I call this “Living Organically”. Organic is not just expensive food, trust me! It is a life without anything toxic, bad or harmful. Yes, the food you eat is important for your body which you need energy and stimulate the brain with mindfulness. So, the food you eat matters. Yes! But it is also the job and environments you are surrounded with, the relationships you encounter, the information you allow into your brain, and so much more.

So, I wrote the book to help others find their own abundance and I can only suggest the book but if you don’t do the things in it to transform your life, nothing will change in your life. I can also ask that you stay engaged with me and this new community that I am building, but at the end of the day, you need to be the one to take the action. I don’t want to leave you empty handed today, so I will leave you a simple project below to get you started with the actions you can take right now to find YOUR HAPPY AND ABUNDANT LIFE tomorrow.

In the meantime, don’t worry about other people, don’t worry about the places you have to go or don’t want to go to, and don’t worry about the things you don’t have. Know deep down to your core that “YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED” right now. YOU are everything you need. Listen, if you don’t get right in your head and in your own spirit, you won’t be giving yourself a fighting chance at a happy and abundant life. You must know what happiness is “TO YOU” and not what it means to everyone else. In order to receive happiness for yourself, you have to acknowledge it for yourself, or the worry, stress, addictions, and struggles will never go away. If you don’t DO YOU, you will always feel and be in lack. Please get this! You are important and you matter. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.

Here is the project:

If you get anything out of this article, I hope you get clarity of YOUR “1%”. Because that is the only portion you need to be focused on. Zoom out, see the entire world that surrounds you right now, from a 30k foot view. But remember to zoom back in and focus only on the 1% that holds value to YOU! The rest doesn’t matter because it belongs to someone else’s 1%.  Join a community that will journey through life with you (not against you) and explore your true essence and self-worth. Ask yourself these questions now.

Shine your light!

Much love Author Christina Ditzel xo

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Why Accountability is NOT Equal to Intimidation!

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“Don’t allow others to tear your soul down”

Author Christina Ditzel

Accountability is not the same as intimidation! There have been many times when I felt so “on fire” for my life and for my purpose, to only end up having someone shut me right back down to a place of fear and doubt! This is the worst feeling ever! And it feels even worse when they justify their intimidating tactics, for “holding me accountable”! Umm, Excuse me!? NO! First, holding someone accountable, is holding them responsible when they slip up, or fail to deliver on something they said they were going to do. Accountability is holding each other responsible for the actions we need to take to benefit ourselves and our life or change our messy circumstances. Accountability should always be done with love, and compassion in our heart to support, and encourage someone to get back on track. Accountability does NOT give permission to break people down! Holding someone accountable does NOT mean intimidating them by using “scare tactics”! Accountability should help keep someone on a healthy path that “they’ve chosen” for themselves. A road that will better their circumstances and keep them moving forward into purpose. Did you hear what I said? I said, “their purpose”! Not your purpose, and not the rest of worlds purpose. But their individual drive and determination that keeps them persevering!

We have no right to interrupt another person’s life, unless they are harming themselves or harming others with their actions. And even then, “accountability” must be done with a gentleness and love. Not Intimidation! If someone is moving forward into their purpose, and they seem happy, on fire for transformation, and an inspired for an ever-changing world, who are we to disrupt that because we don’t agree with their analogy? That’s not fair! We have no say on how another person thinks, breaths, or lives their life. I know this is hard, I have done this! We want the best for everyone around us and because a certain idea feels right to us, we think everyone should live that same way. Well, we can share our experiences, but we should never intimidate others to get them to see our vision. When speaking to someone we love with intimidation it just doesn’t show them possibility but instead puts fear and doubt in their heart. How is knocking my entire being down, blocking me from experiencing life, and preventing me from learning something new going to helping me feel loved? How is it helping me grow or expand? How is it holding me accountable? And how is it pushing me toward my God given purpose? It’s not! In fact, it does the opposite.

Here is the thing, if we never sat down with the Maker and discussed the details of our personal life, we can’t pretend to know what the Creator’s plans are for someone else’s life. We can however, stay true to ourselves by being mindful or our words and actions, and help others find their way in the process. But what we should not be doing is, intimidating others or allowing others to intimidate us.

We are all individual souls that must find our own way through this life. No, of course we don’t have to do it alone! Genesis says, “it is not good for man to be alone”. So, we already know we were created to be in community with other souls. But it also says to “choose those who are equally yoked”. Throughout proverbs it discusses the importance of having mindfulness and says to “stay away from fools, for you won’t find knowledge on their lips”. I can go all day with bible verses, but I won’t do that. It’s up to you to read those words and interpret them how your sprit guides you. You should read it sometime, it’s a great foundation and guide that you can use through every season of your life. I hold the words in this Book with very high standards for the good of all mankind. We can choose to follow good morals and live in complete abundance, or we can choose to live through the eyes of everyone else, and live in fear, doubt, guilt and shame for all eternity. It really does come down to a CHOICE! Choose abundance or choose lack!

In closing, you never have to live with others intimidations making you doubt your own intuitions. We don’t have to let someone who uses intimidation to kill our dreams. And we never have to live a life that does not feel in alignment to the desires of our heart. You are a GEM in a world full of messes, and we ALL contribute to the chaos. It doesn’t matter how we contribute, but rather how we strive to thrive in the chaos. You will only reach your full potential by embracing the true desires on your own heart. Not the desires of everyone else’s heart! You have to trust your own intuition to find your voice, and you won’t find your voice if you keep speaking someone else’s truth.

“The Devine Will Catch You when you fall

 but

You must be the one to get up”

Author Christina Ditzel

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