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HOW TO OVERCOME ADDICTION (Part 2)

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Check out part one if you missed it!

For the rest of you, welcome back to part 2 of “Overcoming addiction”. Hopefully in part one, you learned a little about yourself and realized that mindset is everything. The words we use to label ourselves and others, has a huge impact on how we think, feel, and act daily. We can’t go around calling people addicts just because they drink too much, use drugs, or take advantage of other substance abuse, but the truth is, many of us are addicted to something, we just use different names for it. Until you realize it is just a really “bad habit” like, being on the phone too dam much, serial dating, hyper-sexuality, and anything else that becomes an OBSESSION. Basically, you should have realized that addiction is nothing more than an infatuation when we are preoccupied with an object or activity, that consumes our attention! You just have to change these habits to overcome the addiction to it!  It really is that simple!

OKAY HOW? HOW DO WE CHANGE THESE HABITS?

So, I am going to give everyone 12 steps to overcoming addiction in a minute, but first let me get you on the right mindset. Because the truth is, if you continue on your path with an “addict” mentality, you will stay in the “addiction” or remain a “recovered addict” forever! As long as you stay in the past mentally you’re staying in that addiction physically! So, are you really ready for change? Are you ready to overcome this once and for all? Well, if you really are, you must first get a grip on your mindset! We have to change our thinking! We must think of our “habit” (not addiction) as something we love to do because for a moment it makes us feel a sense of satisfaction, love, passion, or whatever we FEEL we are missing in our everyday, ordinary life. Furthermore, we must realize the fact that we have a sense of lack somewhere, or we are trying to numb ourselves from some reality we don’t want to face. Well, your gonna’ have to “suck it up” and face it! Sorry! Unfortunately, until we face our pain, we will never understand what or where the pain is generating from. We have to figure out what your trying to numb. And while we are in this phase we need to work on US, without the opinions of the people in our life. Like let’s be real here, they have their own demons they have to face.

 Listen, if we can focus our mindset and become more aware of the things “we” think about and be more concerned with our “own life”, we can easily break much of the bad habits (or addictions) we acquire throughout life. The only way to change our life, is to change ourselves. However, by continuing to use the word, “Addiction” and being in “recovery” and listening to the belief systems of other people, you ARE maintaining that state of mind, you keep doing and living the same life, and therefore you will never overcome it! You really have to focus on “you and your unique self” in order to understand where your pain generates and feed your pleasures by building a life that feels good to your inner being. Right now, you must seek the true essence that is YOU! Nothing can change because you’re not changing it! If you continue listening and doing the things the people around you do, you will always feel out of control, and you will live out of control! The same concept applies to the words, obsession, infatuation, compulsive, dependency, and whatever other habit words you use. To overcome it, you have to face it, and realize you’re allowed to just be….

(This is where you figure out who you really are. What you want to “be” when you grow up. What you like and don’t like. Who you like and who you really don’t like. You’re allowed to have an opinion and you are allowed to be yourself.)

TRANSFORMATION AND CLARITY

When people begin to realize their addictions are just compulsive dependency’s that began due to some “lack” in one area of life, or an “escape” to some trauma that happened to them, it becomes so easy to recognize why we began these habits in the first place. In fact, it becomes much easier to focus our mind on self growth, and move forward when we get clarity. Transformation and clarity of who we are suppose to be in life, becomes abundantly clear. We begin to change our thinking and our actions to reflect our purpose driven life! And this is where amazing things begin to happen!

As humans we want to be independent and we don’t want to be treated like a child. And, we definitely don’t want to be undermined by the people who we are around, that have their own challenges! No one is perfect, and everyone has something they are “addicted” to! Don’t undercut yourself no matter what side your standing on! The addicts family and friends have to make changes too! That is, if they want to be a part of your new life. Because truth is, everyone has issues and we can’t expect others to change if we are not willing to change. If you are a friend or family member of an addict, don’t become a dictator! Don’t tell someone they have to change, if you’re not willing to change. (Now I placed a label on the family, “Dictator” and I bet that made you feel uncomfortable)

I never did like the fact that everyone puts all this pressure on the “addict” while everyone else just sits around in their own addictions like eating disorders, sex, social media, mental and physical abuse, and whatever other things people do to compensate for their own stress induced life. It makes me crazy! I dislike labels very much and “addiction” is no exception!

Also, another thing you should acknowledge is, “things were not always okay” in the home of those with “addiction”. The family has to talk about the underlining cause whether you like it or not! If you really want to help EVERYONE, than everyone has to make changes. Stop leaving all the responsibility on the addict! Funny, how they are the one with the problem, yet some people go as far as pushing the blame on them for all their problems and stress. (Giggles), How does that work?

Look, I can give you a foundation with the steps I promised, but you have to be the one that takes the steps to get the results you want. And this is not just for the so called “addict”! As the family member/loved one, you have to participate if you want to be in their new life! So, if you really want to OVERCOME ADDICTION, First, lose the label all together! Call it a bad habit, because we all know “habits can be broken”! Then follow the “12 steps for the addict” or the “12 steps for family and friends of addicts” below…

12 steps for The Addict

  1. Own your part (take responsibility for your thoughts and actions)
  2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself (do something to better yourself)
  3. Stop talking about the past and use your mind to think of ideas that will move you into your future
  4.  Forgive, Appreciate and Have gratitude (Let go & let GOD)
  5. Stop looking for other people (relationships), places, and things to make you happy. (Happiness comes from WITHIN)
  6. Get grounded (body, mind, soul)
  7. Get in your own way so you can get out of your own head, and into a new understanding
  8. Change your Perspectives (use thoughts, words, and actions to reflect those perspectives)
  9. Do what you say and say what you do (DON’T TALK ABOUT IT, BE ABOUT IT)
  10. Wake up with purpose (have a plan when you get out of bed)
  11. Go to sleep with thanks (appreciate the experiences of each day)
  12. Be excited about the journey! (Embrace the unknown, and be excited about the unexpected things that will happen each day)

Hello! Hold on a minute…..Don’t discount yourself if your family member or loved one of an Addict. You have 12 steps too in this transition! If you think people with bad habits need help, then maybe you should learn what habits you need to adjust.

12 steps for family & friends of addicts

  1. Live and be the example of the 12 steps above first before you judge!
  2. Own your part (take responsibility for how YOU affect those around you)
  3. No more Pity Party’s (stop feeling sorry for yourself and for them)
  4. Do something different (Think and talk about something different and you’ll get different results. Your thoughts, words, and actions affect them too)
  5. Be Better not Bitter (Stop expecting them to change, while you stay the same. BE THE CHANGE)
  6. Be happy (stop being miserable with your own life. Find new people, places and things in your own life that are happy and good for you and for them. Be the example of what happy looks like)
  7. Get grounded (Are you grounded? Again, what example are you giving and living out in your own life)
  8. Stepping stone vs. Roadblock (Stop enabling them! Are you a stepping stone moving them forward into NEW LIFE, or are you a road block holding them back into their OLD LIFE?)
  9. Are you Reliable (Can they depend on you to keep your word, or do you break your promises? What are you getting busy with and with whom?)
  10. Reminiscing (Stop talking about the past! Move forward with new thoughts, new feelings, and new actions)
  11. Lose the negative words like Guilt, shame, doubt, & fear (begin with using words like forgiveness, acceptance, grace, and love)
  12. Words hold power and actions are the influence of that power! (Do the words you use reflect the actions you take in your own life)

There are a million different people who I am sure have a million different versions of “The 12 Steps to recovery” and it doesn’t matter what form you take, as long as the steps you take are moving EVERYONE FORWARD into their purpose! We all have a purpose in life, and Addicts, or people with really bad habits are no exception. EVERYONE should be doing something different every day! Every single person should be doing something to move themselves forward in this beautiful thing we call life.

However, if you are around people who are just going through the motions, doing the same thing day in and day out, your no better than an addict yourself. What are you doing that is so special? Habits are just something that is hard to give up. It’s just an obsession or infatuation! It’s doing the same thing over and over again. It’s a pattern or a custom, a fixation or we can just call it a bad habit, or keep calling it an addiction. But we all have something we do continuously that we are obsessed with doing! So, why do we call addiction a disease? It’s just a habit, and habits can be broken! You just have to change the routine and depend on something healthier and better for your life moving forward. Take the steps above and begin to restore your true inner being by improving the way you think and act. And be mindful of those thoughts and actions everyday. It really is that simple. Yes, it’s hard, but its really simple! Just start!

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THE SECRETE TO OVERCOMING ADDICTION FOREVER (Part 1)

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Part 1 | The Mindset

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The Addiction Journey

Let me please first start by saying to those who are actually hear seeking help and concern for a loved one, thank you for taking the time to read this article. It means the world to me that you found my blog and I hope you find value in something here today! Yes, I know I am going to get a lot of slack for this article, but I honestly don’t care anymore! I am not here for those who don’t want to believe in change, I am here for those who NEED to believe change is possible! And not just Change but transformational change! Let me just add that I have “Been there done that” on both sides of the spectrum, so I come from a place of hard love, but TRUTH! Besides you don’t have to read this article, there are others out there that will patronize you with their “medicine, degrees, and book smarts”! That is no me! I am an honest individual who writes based on personal experience and through trial and error of life’s messy influences, I have overcome many obstacles. Some things include, sexual, physical, and mental abuse, homelessness, jail, in and out of shelters, and even went into hiding from my attacker which led to my addiction to drugs and alcohol.

Not everyone will resonate with me or my concept and that’s okay. I am used to people not understanding me. (Giggles) Maybe you understand the process that most addicts go through. Maybe you have a friend, family member, or loved one who is fighting an addiction right now. Or maybe you lost someone to substance abuse due to an addiction. Let me first say I am sorry for you lose. I have lost many and I am certain I will lose many more to the illness. But there is hope for change! My mission is that through my own experience I can share my journey and it will cause a ripple effect of that change. A change on how we look at addition so that we can treat it differently! We need to do better! Either way we look at it, you are reading this because the title caught your attention and if you are wondering if there is a way to actually “OVERCOME ADDICTION FOREVER”? I am here to tell you YES! Yes, we can overcome the label of addiction and we can live normal happy lives. Actually, we can overcome anything and everything, including addictions but we must be willing to look at it through a new lens and do some things different.

I can say this with full confidence because I HAVE DONE IT! So, for those of you who will read this and want to throw your “un-belief” systems, professional scholars, and medicine” at me, go right ahead! Because I have overcome all kinds of abuse, and I will overcome your nasty, opinionated, comments as well! I am not actually here for you anyway! Like I said, I am here for those who NEED to Believe! Not here for those who live in doubt, fear, and are incapable of understanding the power of wisdom and mindfulness!

Real Help for Addicts

I know it’s not easy admitting we need help, or facing our difficult situations, but if you are still here, you have a purpose and there is more for you. Let’s make a difference in your life, your family’s life, and in the life of those who suffer from across the nation. So, to start I want to begin with some obvious facts about addiction that keeps addicts not only stuck in addiction but never really living life they feel is “normal”.

Facts that keep you stuck in Addiction

  1. “Recovery” keeps us in Recovery forever. Call it a “bad habit” instead, and really overcome it. Move on! (Easier said than done, I know)
  2. Mindset is everything. You’re living in the old life. As long as the person you were exists, you’ll never Live as a new person in a new environment, with a new life.
  3. You feel sorry for yourself. (Constantly Blaming others and not facing your issues keeps you in a state of making “excuses and justifying” your addictions)
  4. You keep thinking and saying your life is too hard! (Remember someone else always has it harder and they get through it)
  5. You make excuses! Once you decide to change your life, you have to stop making excuses “why you can’t live life”!
  6. You’re not thankful for your life and the opportunities that you DO have available to you right now. (Fill up with Gratitude)
  7. You keep dwelling on the past and on the shit that pisses you off! Learn something new, love today, Let go of the past and Let GOD guide you to new paths!
  8. You must step forward if you ever want to move ahead. (Do something different than before)
  9. SUCK IT UP! Life is hard sometimes, we all have hard times, learn from it, grow from it, and discover new ways because of it.
  10. You are not mindful of your own thoughts, emotions and actions. Become aware of the body, mind, soul connection.
  11. Stop worrying about everyone else! Focus on YOU!!! And ONLY YOU! 
  12. Learn to Date yourself before you date someone else. (Get to know yourself and learn to love yourself first and foremost)
  13. “Be single not settled” (Know what you want before you settle for what you don’t want)
  14. Don’t make any big decisions. Don’t make big purchases unless it’s to help you learn grow and expand in a healthier environment.
  15. Express the expectations you have for others. (But remember to Do what YOU say, and say what YOU do)
  16. You give up to easily on the things YOU want. Shit is hard, deal with it and push forward but don’t give up so easily!
  17. Stop listening to the belief systems that are contrary to your inner beliefs
  18. Discover your new path that excites you.
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By doing all the above you allow yourself to begin healing. You then become more aware and capable of making better decisions moving forward. When you become your OWN person, your belief system works for you and your purpose in life, Bringing you complete joy, happiness and abundance. Here is the kicker that I have learned about addiction centers. “They say they want to help us ‘recover’, yet the word alone keeps our mental state in “recovery” forever”. And I know many of you don’t want to go to the meetings and be reminded of yur addiction week after week, year after year. If you don’t get right in your head, you will be stuck in a place where people are constantly looking at you like “you’re the problem”! Instead of getting to the actual source to overcome it completely you will be fighting with people who don’t care to know the real you! Don’t get me wrong. I’m not totally “anti-rehab center’. I just have my own system to overcome addiction by eliminating words that distort the mindset. And the process to actually “overcome” addiction is less complex than most people make it. I can tell you this, most addicts don’t want to just live life as a “recovering addict”. The label sucks and it keeps us stuck thinking of our past personality, our past environments and always talking about our past traumas. That is not fixing anything, and it dam sure is not helping anyone overcome addiction, depression, manic behavior or helping them live a happier more fulfilled life. My system is not for everyone, and that is okay!

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I am one person I don’t have the means or time to help everyone. I am not trying to change the entire world. That would be nearly impossible. But I do believe I can change a small piece of the worlds puzzle. The pieces filled with people who feel unique and different and want to belong and not just exist. “Nobody wants to exist in this world without purpose and meaning”. No one wants to just exist feeling stuck living in other people’s beliefs systems. Isn’t that why we are screaming through social media, protesting and causing havoc right now? No one person was created to live life uncomfortable and unknown! And so, not everyone has to like what I say but we should all be open minded to hear what others have to say. If I can resonate and impact one life and that life goes on to help another, then I have not only made my ripple effect into the world to make it a better place, but I also felt loved, in unity with another human. I felt appreciated and special because I helped another, person. I didn’t’ feel neglected because of my trauma but instead I used it to help others overcome or avoid it completely. I didn’t feel alone in my thoughts, ideas, or emotions. because I got vulnerable, and someone said “YES YES! I FEEL THAT! I HEAR THAT! I RESONATE WITH THAT!” And that is what every single individual wants right now. Right? Not just addicts or the mentally ill, but all humans crave empathy, compassion, and acceptance.

For those of us that have always felt special, unique, and different it is important that we learn to accept ourselves before we allow the world to make us feel unworthy because we are different! Because that is where addiction begins. Some of us find it easy to make it day to day with our daily struggles, while others choose to destroy themselves in the struggle. I have lost so many friends, family, and loved ones due to this “addiction” label! And the many other Labels that keep people abandoned and mistreated. Today, I am DONE! I am just done being quiet! And I’m done watching so many loved ones die because they are being labeled! I am done watching this world divide us because of our differences. WE ALL BLEEED RED! It doesn’t have to be this way! We can all be different and live a happy and fulfilled life in the same world! It is a choice! It’s a mindset!!!!

I don’t understand how I Made it through without rehab, and other people didn’t make it a year out of rehab! Yet they went to the professionals! They went to the meetings! They took the medications! And Here I am, and they’re gone! I don’t understand why so many people keep doing the same thing over, and over again, knowing the success rate of addiction is not getting better! As doctor Joe Dispenza says, “This is not the time of just knowing, this is the time to be doing”! There is too much information out there right now, for us to be doing the same damn thing, year after year, trying to get better results! Most rehab centers are lacking! Let’s start doing better! Let’s start listening to the people who know better! The people who have been through it. Let’s stop shutting out other options and start listening to all the different ideas of those who have taken the journey. Stop underestimating the power of the mind and medicating everything! You know chemicals cause reactions so why do we continue to medicate and cause more of an imbalance before we even clean out the system completely of all toxins? And I mean the exterior and interior! Let’s try harder to find a common denominator with addiction so that we can pinpoint the problem before it happens! Let’s take a journey together and learn how to beat addiction and overcame it FOREVER! Let’s work harder to remove all addictions from our life and learn to be mindful of our thoughts, emotions, and actions so that we can avoid and prevent bad habits like this one. We are capable of coming up with a solution so we can avoid “overdoses” from happening in the future.

Are you aware that most addictions begin when life throws something at us that we are unable to manage, cope or deal with? We basically pick up bad habits like drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, and the like, to numb ourselves from our own reality! That’s right! We act out by doing things that numb us mentally, emotionally, and physically from the events that are happening in life. If we can acknowledge that, we can limit the addiction rate by teaching our children to cope with their issues at a younger age. We must start a new cycle by teaching our children awareness.  However, awareness must start with the parents first! The home is where we listen, learn, observe, experience, and build belief systems. When we are not mindful of these things and we just live in a state of “going through the motions”, these things define our character and determine the paths we take in life.

Maybe we should begin this journey with “awareness” for people to be better parents so that the children can learn how to cope with life. Then again it should probably start with the parents, right? As parents are the ones that should be leading their children without the dependency on substance abuse, or any other bad habits that can become addictions. Parents should lead their kids to experience proper skills for how they should properly manage life when struggles come along.  Listen, life is going to happen! That is just LIFE! You can be 100% certain life will come down on you at some point!

But without being faced with bad or difficult times, you wouldn’t even know what good even looks like!  I hate to break it to you, but you must learn how to maintain yourself during the ups and downs of your own journey through life! Life is not going to be unicorns and rainbows all the time! That is fantasy world, and the fact of life is this, sometimes we need to hit rock bottom to know where we want to go! Your personal journey would have no balance without the GOOD AND BAD experiences! If it was all good, you would never have a reason to push forward into newness! Yes, I said “NEWNESS”! Don’t you want to have new experiences, new relationships, new environments, and a new life?

If you never experience anything different you will never experience anything new. How do you think humans learn and grow? We experience life, good and bad, and we become stronger for it! How about we try to find solutions to our struggles with more poise, instead of getting angry, depressed, or frustrated. By acting out we are placing a label on ourselves and as we go through life, and when we do that, we give permission for “the professionals” to call us clinically depressed, bipolar, manic, an addict, etc. And we end up with labels placed on us based on our behavior. Society says, “just give them prescription medications” (drugs). Which keep us unfocused, loopy, and completely unaware mentally, spiritually and physically”. I say, “become aware of your environment, your circumstances, your conditions, and yourself ‘mentally, spiritually, and physically and learn to love all that you are”. Love all the messy parts of yourself and all the blessings you’ve already received, because it makes you who you are!

My past addiction is not even something I think about anymore. Accept when I am trying to feed into someone who is in recovery or currently in their addiction. Today, I can actually go out and have a drink and live a normal life without thinking I am going to have a relapse! I never worry about relapsing and my family is not worried about me overdosing or getting back on drugs when my life gets a little difficult! Adversity is part of life; we are all going through something. Regardless of what “the professionals” teach us, addiction is just a bad habit, and habits can be broken! Like the habit of working too much and not paying attention to your kids. Or using your phone too much and not even being present with the people who you say you love! Or continuously lying to your loved ones because you gambled all your bill money away. So, if anyone tells you that it’s a disease and it can be treated but not cured, they’re lying!!! Your addiction is a bad habit and habit can be broken!

I think alcohol and drug use is the culprit of most illnesses like aids, STDs, HIV, and many other diseases. I don’t believe it has anything to do with race color or ethnicity. Unless we are talking about statistics based on an individual’s beliefs. I am not going to talk about that right now. For that sake of this article, I am sticking to topic, which is addiction. So, what I do believe is that depression, psychological disorders, and trauma cause people to resort to drugs, alcohol, and other substance abuse, and addictions. So, there is a cycle that we ignore in “addiction”, and that is, they are just people with a bad habit caused by some trauma or underlining issue they have not learned to manage or cope with. BOTTOM LINE!!! Why do we treat the use of drugs and alcohol as a disease with more drugs? It makes no sense to me!

One Solution to Overcoming Addiction

Let’s lose the label altogether and treat these people as regular human beings with just a “bad habit”. They are choosing to live a lifestyle that they have become accustomed to for some reason. And as a friend, family member or professional therapists, our only job is to help them overcome this addiction by helping them discover their WHY. That way we can help them learn the HOW to stop! And please, when they want help, they will send signs and ask for help and that is when we should help. But I guarantee most families had a chance to help early on and failed to listen! Because people don’t listen anymore! They’re too busy talking listening to their own voice. Everyone is out for themselves, and everyone is so quick to judge others without looking in the mirror at their own reflection. Many people have become selfish, greedy, power hungry, narcissists who don’t listen to their loved ones. They sit back and judge them when they don’t agree with a specific belief system and yet, they refuse to listen, and I mean really listen! This behavior has gotten so out of control because poeple don’t see the signs of a person crying for “HELP” before they progress into something dangerous or into unhealthy habits! So instead of friends, family, and professionals helping these individuals, we unintentionally make the problem worse. When we pretend everything is fine it only allows more time for our problems to fester and build! Making people feel like their thoughts, feelings, and emotions are abnormal is a dysfunctional way to treat someone to make change. And maybe they are completely dysfunctional. I have had some dysfunctional thoughts myself back in the day. But for that same reason, instead of me seeking help, I chose to save myself and almost died in the process!

The divine will catch you when you fall

but you must be the one to get up!

Christina Ditzel

Continue to Part 2 | “How to overcome addiction”. Where I will go over step-by-step instructions to overcome addiction. I will give you simple steps for the addict, and for family, friends and professionals to discover new ways of helping these individuals. Because at the end of the day, EVERYONE has changes to make. Not just the addict!

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SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE AWAKENING

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The awakening process kinda’ sucks! Or I could say “when you follow your intuition, life gets a little complicated”. What I am talking about is that moment when you know your different! That moment when you feel like a freaking crazy person! Like, everything you say or do people are like “umm?? huh? Standing there scratching their head looking at you like a mental case”! Seriously? Am I being irrational or is everyone else just unconsciously going through the motions of life?” It’s that feeling you get when your “changing” and the people around you just don’t get the “new you” at all? You Know what I am talking about! That feeling that has you believing in more, doing more, and yet it’s too hard to express yourself to those around you. Because every time you do….Well, you already know they will think your the weird one. Or they give you that look that comes across as “You’re insane!”

Do you have this sense of purpose straight down to the very core of your being, but you feel obliged to hide it away, to avoid hurting others? Are you experiencing a deep emotion inside of you that wants to crawl out of your skin, but you know if you said it audibly to the people around you, they would label you as crazy, insane, foolish, stupid or some other word that has “failure or loser” written all over it? Well that sucks! It’s like, “you know they’re going to have a ‘field day’ if you said or did what was really on your mind!” Yet, you still seek their approval. It’s like… “Ugh, wake up people! Life is meant to be lived and we are missing out!” Please don’t allow other people to dim your light!

If you said “Yes” to any of the above statements or questions, I want you to know that “I get you”! I get you, and you’re not alone! I know how it horrible it feels when you’ve found yourself in a place doing what everyone else in your life wants you to do, instead of doing the things that truly make sense to you. It’s like, “why do I always have to stay in the shadows, just to keep everyone else from getting their feelings hurt? Right? Well, you don’t! You are choosing to, but you don’t have to choose to anymore! It’s exhausting trying to keep that last bit of sanity, while people continue to “dumb down” everything in my great BIG world. And for what ? To boost themselves up, in their ordinary lives?Maybe I am just dreaming too big for their small minds! I don’t really know, but what I do know is that other people don’t have the vision that I have growing deep down to my very core, because they are not me! Likewise, those around you do have the same vision that you have deep down to the very core of your being! Bottom line! “They are sleep walking in their conventional existence, instead of waking up with intention!” My hope is those of you who are reading this make a decision today, to spend the rest of your days living in adventure, and with an eagerness for more!

Am I crazy or Are you just sleep walking?

Do you know what the opposite of sleep walking is? That’s right! “AWAKE!” Those of us that have experienced this “crazy awakening” process, have felt this sense of lack throughout most of our life. That lack comes from following everyone else. You know SLEEP WALKING. We have been listening to all the people who are just going through the motions, living in their predictable lifestyles, and belief systems. This is not a life most of us feel excited to “conform” to! As a result, sometimes we can end up outraged, indulging in sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling, or some other appetite to full fill our short lived satisfaction, that burns inside of us! Some of us have abandonment issues from childhood trauma. Or maybe we have been told we will need medications to maintain our mood swings or attitudes. Some of us even try serial dating or consume ourselves in work!

Whatever the case, there is a stigma in this world that if we are not all doing the same thing, or if we are different than the rest, we should be labeled and cast out at a “crazy person”! Well, I am here to encourage you to pursue your purpose. Awakening your dreams and live the life you want today! If you have a “sense” that there is MORE to your life, you think and feel different than those around you, and you see things differently, well, you are probably waking up to your true self, and I would love to see you step into that life!

If you have ever felt like you should be listening to that “still small voice inside of your head” that says, “I am not crazy, I am just ‘self-aware’ and everyone else around me is just stuck in their belief systems and routines”. Well, I am here to tell you YES! Yes, you need to be listening to that still small voice that screaming at you to be YOU! Just do all the things that feel right to you.

Okay, so I get it, being in that place where people don’t get you, really sucks! I know! And I know this because I’ve experienced it for most of my life. I always felt like there was more to this life. Like people never understood the words that came out of my mouth. No one understood that there was so much more to me! And I just always felt like a freaking ‘mental’ person! But,you know what sucked even worse? Every time I did try to step out into that “more” or be different than everyone else, my life came crumbling down on me even harder and my life would spiral out of control!

I serious began to believe I really was crazy! I literally believed it so much, that I let people put labels on me like “bipolar”, “depressed” and many others. Furthermore, I allowed them to put me on medications like Prozac. As if that shit was going to make me feel any better! “Yea lets call her bipolar and put her on drugs”. Yea, because everyone with mental issues can’t get a handle on your thoughts without drugs! LOL, yea we see how far that shit got me! Right? I found a new love for all kinds of pills. Any pill that numbed my reality! That was my life!

Okay, so now that I went off in a tangent, lets get back to “The Awaking vs The Unconscious”. So the ‘Norm’ was the average life everyone else was living! This feeling of ‘going through the motions of life and never really getting to any real destination’. That was it! That was the purpose of being here! The irony of all that makes me, “me”!!! I became who I am today, because of “All my Crazy”! I am who I am today, because I actually “WOKE UP” to this idea that we are not supposed to just reside in this world being average but, we are designed to live fully, experiencing the world in our greatest sense! No matter how out of sorts that may seem to everyone else around us! We each have a purpose and until you wake up to our true essence, we are just going to live a life completely unsatisfied! No one teaches us to embrace our true self, because that would be out of the norm. And that is just “CRAZY”. Well, I totally disagree.

OTHER SIGNS YOUR AWAKENING

  1. Your drawn to nature
  2. You realize the health of your body is important
  3. You begin to dislike negative and unhappy people
  4. Awareness of things that are unseen by others
  5. Desire for community
  6. You become more intuitive to people, places and things around you
  7. Your not rushed and your world moves slower
  8. Your at peace even in difficult times
  9. You have an awareness and connection to nature and all living things
  10. You feel different and frustrated with loved ones belief systems

WAKING UP & EMBRACING MY CRAZY

When we decide to wake up and embrace thy self, we find some pretty amazing things happen! I have encountered so many amazing people, places and things along my journey through this life, that they have literally impacted who I am today! Strangers who have encouraged, supported, and inspired me to expand my horizons! Strangers who hold no significance in my life personally, but have been some of the most crucial impacts to my character today. Animals like snakes, birds, lizards and crickets coming into my path or even annoying me to get my attention. Everyone and everything that happens along this journey has some impact and meaning in my life. And yes each one has motivated me or influences my character and the actions I take moving through my day. Those of you reading this, that follow me on social media and reach out to me and share your life with me, your interaction influences me too! When we are AWAKE, we realize the connection between everyone and everything in life. When we are awake, we see life in amazing colors.

Where I didn’t feel good enough,

I persevered into being more than enough!

Christina Ditzel

Difficulty of Awakening

It’s not always easy, but I’ve learned that I must follow my own intuition and stop asking for everyone’s opinions. I only listen to the people who help me hold more weight in my current belief system. Realize that each season will change and so will your thoughts, ideas, actions and people that influence you. Always, remember that saying that reminds us “some people are in our life for a season, some for a reason, and some for a lifetime”. Constantly tell yourself “I no longer have to conform to the world, but I am free to live and experience the world any way I choose”! Eventually, the weight of fear, doubt, scarcity, and most of all that “label” that says I am “Crazy” or “unrealistic”, will melted away! The universe is always coming to us in to take on the burdens, and declared truth to us that says things like “You are the exception! You’re allowed to be the exception!”

Accept the signs that are given to you through everything and everyone. They are humans that send quotes that say things like, “The person who gets the furthest, is the one who is willing to do and dare”. It’s the song on the radio that says “You will never stop fighting for me”. It’s a lady at the grocery store that watches me and listens to my conversation with my daughters and turns to me to say “your a good mom”! It’s the message I listen to in the morning that says something that inspires me to do something different that day. It is you who follow me and comment on my blogs, videos and social media platforms that keeps me writing. When you are AWAKE, the Divine is everywhere always showing you a way through everything.

“Ask and it will be given to you

Seek and you shall find

knock and the door will open”

Mathew 7:7

Nothing happens by chance

Here’s the thing, we can knock the dam door down, but if we don’t WAKE UP, we won’t see it! Even if it smacks us across the face! People who spoke life into me and helped me have the courage to proclaim the truth for my life, only came when I was open to it. I know now my purpose, but I could not have been “Found” if I stayed unconscious just going through the motions of life. Sleeping in my everyday life was unsatisfying and until I embraced my true self, and I embraced it, I couldn’t see the miracles that were already happening all around me!

So, wake up and be aware of the people that cross your path. Nothing happens by chance! Everything is moving you forward, but you have to be wake up to see it. Stop listening to the unconscious and listen to those little messengers that guide you and try to lead your way. When you are awake you’ll notice throughout our time here on earth, nothing happens by chance and EVERYTHING has a purpose.

So, to conclude this blog, be enough for yourself and embrace your “weird” and ignore the voices of those who live unconscious! Think of this, “The constant assurance that just because I believe in more, I have the right to become MORE” is true in every manner! This allows us to step into our purpose driven life! How uncanny, that book (“Purpose driven life”) is in my living room because it was given to me at the exact moment, in the exact time, I needed it. I believe in Divine events, so Divine events happen all the time. Believe in something big and big things will happen to you too!

I don’t believe anything happens by chance, but I do BELIEVE

Everything that happens is moving us forward into our chance

Christina Ditzel

There are constant reminders that the universe sends to guide us into our purpose. But if you are too busy taking on everyone else’s belief systems and listening to those who want to keep you in a state of unconsciousness (just going through the motions of life), you won’t hear that still small voice guiding your paths. Be Crazy enough to AWAKEN the brilliance that lives inside of you and believe in the brilliance that is YOU!    

(Disclaimer: The following information is merely information and not advice by a professional. If you need mental, emotional, or medical advice, you should always consult a doctor or other appropriate professional. Do not take yourself off of your medications without consulting your physician first, as this could calls serious risks, including death.)

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Finding Perfection in your Imperfections

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Are you feeling less then enough? Does your life suck and stay the same year, after year? Do you know why? Because of one simple common denominator…YOU! You don’t see your perfection in your imperfections! If you don’t get this, I promise you will be here next year looking up the same type of articles looking for solutions to all your problems. I get it, I’ve been right where you are and there are so many seasons that come back around to make me reflect and redefine myself. So, while you read on, please don’t for one second think that I am judging you or being opinionated. I am just very familiar with the cycle of playing the comparison game and zooming in on my imperfections.

We get so caught up in comparing ourselves to others that we never find our own perfection in our imperfections. Actually, you are perfect because of your imperfections! If you don’t listen and start DOING something different today, I guarantee next year you will be sitting in the same place trying to figure out why your life still sucks! If you are not happy with your job, your relationships, your health, your financial situation, your living arrangement, your shitty car, or anything in your life, listen up! Because today, you could change your life forever!

I know you don’t want to hear this, but the real reason your unhappy is simple…YOU! You don’t see anything good in your life, you complain about all the things you don’t have in your life, you don’t think YOU need to change or do anything, and you have literally convinced yourself that everyone else is the problem. Well, I hate to break it to ya’, but the truth is, YOU are the reason you’re not happy, and YOU and your thoughts are the reason you are so miserable! It is time to hold yourself accountable and own up to your part!

Getting in the right Mindset

You have a mindset that says “everyone else is the problem”, so you don’t even see your own flaws long enough to adjust your approach to life. You sit dwelling on all the things wrong in life and never see the good in anything. If you ever want a life that doesn’t suck, you need to do these 3 things…..

  1. You need clarity
  2. You need some new ideas
  3.  And you need to see things through an entirely different lens, starting TODAY!

When we “THINK” everyone else is the problem, or that everyone else has it better or easier than we do, we never look thought a lens that is clear. It is foggy and the reflection in the mirror is covered with ego. We don’t focus our attention on our own thoughts, our own emotions, or our own actions, and that is a real issue.

See what happens is, you focus all your energy on complaining about the people around you and yet, you don’t even realize that you are the one that is unhappy! There is something deep down under the surface that you are not facing, and other people are triggering these emotions in your subconscious mind with their words and actions. How can you sit and gossip or complain about anyone else when you can’t even sit with yourself long enough to determine the things that hurt you and why they hurt you?

Even the people who cut you off on the road, you get so upset at them, and yet, they could be rushing to the hospital because they just got a call that their kid is dying. And all they want to do is go save their kid or at least get to say goodbye. You don’t know what other people are going through and it’s not your job to worry about them. You are only responsible for your own life. You need to worry about yourself first and focus on all the good in your life. You need to dig deep into your life and figure out why you act and react the way you do on a daily basis, Until you start having some real appreciation for your own life, stop blaming other people for your problems. Because only YOU can make or break your life!

You are responsible for your life!

When you wake up in the morning, do you even smile when you realize you get another day? Do you kiss the guy or girl laying next to you? Do you go and say good morning to your kids, do you get up and make yourself and or your family a healthy breakfast? Like, where are your thoughts when you wake up first thing in the morning? And the same for your evening. What do you go to bed thinking about? What do you leave your family thinking about before they go to bed?

“Where your thoughts go your energy flows”

Your mind should be focused on you and your own life. Do those people have some hold on you that you feel the need to allow everyone else to have control over your thoughts, feelings and emotions? Do you mean to tell me that you don’t even appreciate your life enough to “Think on It”? That other people and their life is more important than you, your spouse, your kids, your job and your life? No! I don’t believe that for one minute!  

If all you can do is think about other people and how they have issues, or how they effect you, maybe it’s time to reflect on what’s going on under the surface, don’t you think? Maybe you complain because other people have what you don’t have and that is only because you are not willing to put in the work that they did. So, let me help you see through a new lens. You hate your own life but you don’t want to take the actions necessary to change it? WHY? What is under the surface that is holding you back from creating a better life yourself? Or maybe you don’t give yourself enough credit or enough thought. So, instead you waste your mind thinking about other people and their drama induced lifestyles? Yea, how’s that working for you? Again, you have to take back that energy that you give to everyone else, and give it to yourself. You are worth it!  

And here is another thing, you can’t help other people, if you can’t even help yourself! Listen, you can’t know better if you are not doing better! You don’t get to tell other people how they should live their life or complain about other people brining drama to you, if you’re allowing it! You are not doing anything different. So, when you can’t get right in your own life, you can’t give advice. If we are not being mindful of our own growth and our own mental state, we try to use any tactic to take the attention off of us. And that included, complaining about everything else around us. If you are not breathing, living, proof of the light, you can’t talk about the light! It makes you a dictator. And no one likes a dictator! You can’t lay down rules for someone else, that you don’t follow yourself. It’s just wrong on so many levels. And if you are a parent and you’re doing this, STOP IT NOW! Get right in your own life, then lead your children by “being the example”!

Look, the most inspirational individuals in life are those who express their true essence by admitting their flaws and encourage us to embrace ours. If you can’t own up to your own mistakes, you never learn from them, and you never acknowledge why you do them in the first place. And until you realize “WHY” you do these things, you can’t ever make peace with them, and you won’t ever move past them. If you ever want to experience a life of fulfillment, you need to make peace with yourself, (all your past events, mistakes and actions), accept yourself as you are now and when you fall short, and understand that “you CAN seek perfection in your imperfections”.

There is “perfection” in “im-perfection”

I became who I am TODAY, by accepting all my “imperfections” as things that make me “perfect” in who I want to be TOMORROW. So, I don’t focus on who I was or even who I currently am, but rather who I want to be. Of course, I had to reflect on my past to understand my thoughts and why I act and react the way I do. But once I broke through the surface, I was able to rise above it! Looking through a lens of weakness, gave me strength for an opportunity to make peace with my imperfections. I was able to move past my mess, and continue through life striving for a better version of myself. I am a better mother, a better daughter, and I am a better friend for it. NO I am not perfect by any means, but I strive ALWAYS for a better version of myself. I always want to be “BETTER NOT BITTER”!

Furthermore, because I am aware that my mess no longer “defines me”, I am very mindful that my mess continues to help me “find me”. If I never opened myself up to the possibilities of being an “imperfect person”, I wouldn’t know what my perfect self even looked like. There would be nothing to compare myself to accept other people. By not owning up to our mistakes in our own life, we limit ourself from learning how to become a better version of ourselves. And as a result, we stay stuck in trying to be like everyone else and never find our true essence.

Agin, I am not saying I am perfect! I am not saying to strive for perfection! Trust me, I know I am far from perfect, and we will kill ourselves striving for perfection. We all know there is no such thing as a “perfect person”. So, lose the stigma of perfection, but allow a little grace.

We must be aware that if we are working on all the things we don’t like about ourselves, we are always going to be working towards a better version of “me”! And when we strive for a better version of “me”, we don’t seek acceptance from outsiders, and we don’t need other people’s approval. We just need to be our authentic, happy, self, and as a result, we will attract the same kind of authentic happy people! Because at the end of the day, where your energy flows your energy goes! So, if your energy is happy, peaceful and loving, you will attract happy, peaceful, and loving people. If you are toxic, gossipy, and broken, you will attract toxic, gossipy, and broken people.

So how? How do we live happy about our life? How can we end the drama, stress, anxiety, worry and fear? How can we get our minds to focus on good things and stop being victims of all the messy things? How can we stop focusing our energy on outsiders and embrace our unique self?

6 tips to help you thrive and become your authentic, happy, self.

  1. Write it down. Write down everything you want, and everything you don’t want in your life. (Face the past, the mess, and crap you don’t talk about. Find out why you attracted those things in the first place and recognize them, so you don’t bring them into your future)
  2. Don’t do it alone. Find a mentorship you can trust and good people to walk with you into the next season of life. You must have people who you can go to just to vent, get advice from, and get clarity when you are clouded and can’t make rational decisions.
  3. Do things that help you get grounded. Do you enjoy gardening and nature? Being outdoors can help you stay grounded. (Beach, park, nature, earth, hiking, biking, and anything that keeps you in balance, moving, and focused)
  4. Seek your true essence. Do things that bring joy to yourself, “by yourself”. Do something you love, and something you can do alone (do something without distractions that YOU love and avoid influence from the outside world).
  5. Exercise and eat healthy foods. Your health and mental state are important. Clarity can only come when you are healthy mentally and physically. (Good food stimulates the brain function and helps maintain high energy).
  6. Build a firm foundation. Faith keeps us strong and moving forward with purpose so that we never fall too far behind when life gets difficult or messy.
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These tips may seem simple and silly, but they are helpful. If you want a better life you need to know what “better” means to YOU! By writing it down you will know what you want, and what you don’t want in and out of your life. You can’t determine the things you want or don’t want if you don’t sit and visualize the reality of what it was and what it is now. Just letting your mind wonder off on its own is not healthy, and it is not giving you clear space to identify what areas of your life you need to adjust. When you write it down you are forced to focus your mind and energy on a specific area, and that is when the magic happens. “Allow vision and creativity to manifest”, and a new life and purpose is established.

“You are perfect in your imperfections,

 But you must accept your imperfections,

To see your perfections!”

Christina Ditzel

So, to conclude this article, go through the list above and write it down. You must get a visual of what you want. If you don’t want your life to suck anymore, you must turn to things that don’t suck the life out of you. Instead turn to things that give life to you! Persevere in the things that light you up inside. Think on things that make your heart smile, that get you excited for tomorrow, and that brings a joy to every part of your being. Do things that make you feel happy, fortunate and blessed. Be around people who lift your spirit and elevate your soul. Work harder for the things that you want, and spend less time on the things that are distracting you and holding you back.

May you find the peace and love that lives in your soul, because when you do, your light will shine so bright it will begin to make changes that will make this world a better place to live.

“Have a Desire for life,

So that others may see what it means to have a LIFE”

Christina Ditzel

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How to Live a Happier More Successful Life

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“There is no Thing that can make you happy

and

There is no Person that can make you complete”

Christina Ditzel

Mindfulness and Clarity is essential to success and happiness. The issue is not the circumstance you’re in, but the self-awareness you have daily, and the mindset you have, about your circumstances. We as humans struggle to really understand what happiness even is, because we are unaware of our spiritual self. We think happiness is gaining more success and we think success is gaining more material things. Like finding better relationships, a better job, a nicer house, cars, etc. But the truth is, people, places, or things will never make you happy. If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I say this often! “You can’t find happiness in people, places or things”! If you keep your focus on things in the “physical world”, you will always be seeking for physical satisfaction. I don’t mean to disappoint my readers, but there is no happiness in such entities. True happiness comes from within, and success is a mindset full of clarity! Noting is achievable without the believe system that is can be done! We need to ponder on our awareness in order to bring joy to our heart and soul. If you believe something to the very core of your soul, then you will do what it takes to achieve that goal! Truth is, you just have to go get it!

 Since we were young, we’ve been told, “go to school, get good grades, go to college, get married and then have kids and grand-kids”. Well, is that it? Is that our whole purpose in life?  I can’t believe that is the reason for this life! Some want to travel the world, others want more money, a better car, a bigger house, the best job, the smartest kids, etc. I can’t believe that is it! I just can’t believe that we work and toil until we face death! To me that is life without purpose. It is a spirit that lives in the flesh, walking dead on earth. That is not who I am!

In today’s world, media has taken over, and always has something new to catch our attention! So, it is inevitable that we chase for the next best “thing”, rather than a joyful and happy “self”, or inner happiness. We always seek outward pleasures to make us happy. Until we realize they don’t! Eventually, it leaves us in a depressed state and always on the hunt, not knowing what success or happiness even means. But what if we became more aware of what we allow media to feed into us? What if we became more aware of our self as a spirit walking this world to experience it? But what if we decided to “Instead of allowing the world to experience us, we walked knowing it was an experience for us”? What if we took what we learned and utilized it to help others find their own way and helping them to stop following in the foot steps of everyone else who came before us? That is why I write these articles on clarity! Because I’ve learned the power of clarity and I just want to offer a sort of, guide, so everyone who comes here can learn, grow, and share their own way. And maybe together we can live happier, healthier, more successful lives together in a community that knows we’re are “better together”!

I have become so focused on “getting more” and “being more”, and I realized living like that, we lose the true desire of our own hearts. and we never take the time to see the light that shines the path to true happiness and true sucess. In some cases, we can get so greedy that we live our lives dimming everyone’s light afraid they might dim ours. Or we live as if we need to be better than the next person, graduate at the top of our class, and compete with everyone for the top positions and end up alone, without any options. we end up living in fight or flight mode in every area of our life and that is never a good place to be. Why are we in constant competition with one another, instead of being in unity with others? Has it become a new belief system, that division will bring us happiness?

We have been programmed to think this way since the day our ancestors were born. We’ve been raised to be competitive with everything we think, say, and do Since Covid and 2020 politicians have divided us. Even the church and the bible divide us. We compete with our friends, family, and acquaintances, rather than rejoicing and loving them. How can that kind of living ever feel good? How can living in competition with the people and things we are supposed to love, ever really feel good? Well, it doesn’t! And if we continue with this trend, we will never find true happiness in our lives. We must stop living not feeling good enough and trying to be better than everyone else. But how do we do that?

How do we get clarity for a happy and successful life?

First, tangibles are not the answer! So, just get that out of your head so you can stop searching for the “next best thing” now. There is no THING that will make you happy! And there is no person that will make you complete. Second, this journey we are on is short lived, so we must make the most of it and enjoy it while it lasts. If you’re one of the lucky ones, by the end of your road, you will be so happy within, and aware of the core nature of your spirit, that you will not think about this material world as a place to “Gain a life”, but you will begin to experience this world as a beautiful soul that is here “Exploring this life”. You must first focus on yourself, your passions, and the thing that starts a fire in your soul! What are you passionate about?

We should strive to live a life that “gives and receives love” and the only way to do that is to live in a sense if feeling love and lived. A life that offers pure joy in just being your true essence. We should never try to strive for everyone else’s dreams or hate others for their success, but we should strive for a mind and spirit of our own dreams! Living in this beautiful place, and being able to explore wherever, and whatever we desire, should be exciting! We should never feel limited or lack in any area of life. That is not the point of this journey. I really believe that! When you realize material things won’t ever make you happy, and you accept that you are not promised tomorrow, you begin to live life like it is your last day, every day. And you appreciate all the things, good and bad that come your way. Because good or bad, you are moving forward through more experiences of this life.

When you live life happy within, you’re able to do the things you love without stress. You get to spend time with the people who make you the happiest, without drama. When you allow yourself to enjoy life, you want to help those you pass along the way. You want everyone to enjoy their journey because you are enjoying the journey.  You live in worry because you don’t allow yourself to get to know your inner being and purpose here, and you don’t enjoy the journey your on. Instead you follow the worlds advice and ideas and you stay in a mental state that says “your different and you don’t belong”. But the truth is, you are different and that is why you do belong!!! Embrace yourself with out the fear of what others think about you. The things that make you different are the things that make you special! When your spirit shines its light, you will sour like an eagle in the sky, and those that that have a spirit to look up and see you with acceptance. And those are the ones you will call your tribe. Those are the ones you need to zoom in on.

 If you really feel like your world is upside down, start over! Start with getting peace in your own heart. That means thinking of “ALL things as good”. You can’t have happiness if your mind is in a frantic state all the time. Recognize the things that come into your life to help move you forward. You might not like it all the time but if it is going to move you forward, just take the leap and do it! If you ever want to find true happiness, you must get clarity of your current situation, and see life through a totally different lens.

I can offer you my book, “Hot mess to totally blessed”, I talk a lot about getting “clarity” by cleaning out your physical world, and your psychological world. I can give you exercise after exercise, and advice after advice, but at the end of the day if you don’t do anything, my book won’t help. In fact nothing and no one can help you. Listen, I lost my relationships, my kids, my car, my job, and everything in my physical world. I had to start my life over at 38 years old with NOTHING. Trust me it sucked. But I did it! I made a decision to do something and I did it! And so can you! You are worth it! In my book I have exercises that can help you gain clarity in your situation, and each chapter gradually goes deeper for your self-growth. Some of the things I talk about are:

  1. Clearing out some of the junk that is cluttering your focus
  2. Eliminate people and places that are holding you back.
  3. How to reduce stress levels
  4. Slowing down your physical world
  5. Being a better parent
  6. Embracing and facing our mess head on
  7. Dating yourself
  8. And so much more!

Listen, the actions you take TODAY, determine your circumstances for tomorrow. To love yourself enough to live a happier lifestyle means “getting rid of anything toxic in life” and getting the knowledge, wisdom and guidance you need to move you forward into your abundant life. I call this “Living Organically”. Organic is not just expensive food, trust me! It is a life without anything toxic, bad or harmful. Yes, the food you eat is important for your body which you need energy and stimulate the brain with mindfulness. So, the food you eat matters. Yes! But it is also the job and environments you are surrounded with, the relationships you encounter, the information you allow into your brain, and so much more.

So, I wrote the book to help others find their own abundance and I can only suggest the book but if you don’t do the things in it to transform your life, nothing will change in your life. I can also ask that you stay engaged with me and this new community that I am building, but at the end of the day, you need to be the one to take the action. I don’t want to leave you empty handed today, so I will leave you a simple project below to get you started with the actions you can take right now to find YOUR HAPPY AND ABUNDANT LIFE tomorrow.

In the meantime, don’t worry about other people, don’t worry about the places you have to go or don’t want to go to, and don’t worry about the things you don’t have. Know deep down to your core that “YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED” right now. YOU are everything you need. Listen, if you don’t get right in your head and in your own spirit, you won’t be giving yourself a fighting chance at a happy and abundant life. You must know what happiness is “TO YOU” and not what it means to everyone else. In order to receive happiness for yourself, you have to acknowledge it for yourself, or the worry, stress, addictions, and struggles will never go away. If you don’t DO YOU, you will always feel and be in lack. Please get this! You are important and you matter. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.

Here is the project:

If you get anything out of this article, I hope you get clarity of YOUR “1%”. Because that is the only portion you need to be focused on. Zoom out, see the entire world that surrounds you right now, from a 30k foot view. But remember to zoom back in and focus only on the 1% that holds value to YOU! The rest doesn’t matter because it belongs to someone else’s 1%.  Join a community that will journey through life with you (not against you) and explore your true essence and self-worth. Ask yourself these questions now.

Shine your light!

Much love Author Christina Ditzel xo

If you need more advice in other areas of your life, please comment below, join my channel on YouTube, or just grab my book “Hot mess to totally blessed” on Amazon Today. This is how you begin your journey into transformation and living an abundant life. Living in abundance is a choice, but you must take the actions necessary to get you there.

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