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Dating After Divorce

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Ugh, the dreadful, emotional, roller coaster ride that comes with dating! After spending years with someone you feel, “didn’t understand you at all”! Here you are again looking for that electricity you have been missing out on all these years. And let’s face it, the dating scene after a bad breakup is exhausting, exciting, intimidating, and quite frankly, it is freaking horrifying! Like, we do NOT want to make the same mistake again! Right? So, how can we jump back into the dating scene with full confidence we are going to find that quality person we so desperately desire? And furthermore, how do we avoid all the drama we don’t want? Well, I am about to tell you! Now, before I tell you the “how to” in finding that superior person that is going to value you and know your worth, let me help you see things through a different kind of lens first….

So, here is where I get a little honest with you, hold you accountable, and tell you things you really don’t want to hear! Are you ready? You must realize one particularly important thing before we move into the fun stuff. All those ‘unpleasant’ relationships you found yourself in, well, “YOU PICKED THEM”! Oh yea! I went there! You must realize that you had a part to play in all your messy relationships and all the mistakes that went with them. You must stop blaming the other person for all those reasons you were unhappy and face the fact that you picked her/him! Here is the thing, if you do not value yourself enough to recognize the red flags and acknowledge them before you commit, well the only person to blame for your unhappiness…. Is you! You were the one who agreed to settle in that relationship and accept all those red flags that were so obviously present beforehand. Ask yourself this question, “How much do I value my own worth and my own virtues?” Well if you answered “considerably”, well thats great. You’re a step ahead of most. Now, if you just honestly answered “I have no clue”! Well, maybe before you start dating you should work on spending some time finding value in yourself. Seriously, who will want to spend time alone with you if you don’t like spending time alone with you? Your next “person” will not value you any more than you value yourself. So, “how much do you really value yourself?”

After spending the last 5 ½ years with myself, I have learned to eliminate all of the things I just do not like about myself (i.e., all the unconstructive, destructive things I think, say, and do). And I have learned to focus more on all the things I absolutely love about myself (i.e., all the productive, kind, and beneficial things I think, say, and do). Obviously, we must avoid the former qualities that are harmful and toxic for future relationships. But how? Well, for starters, recognizing the behaviors, ahead of time, that come with those toxic people, is paramount to your success in your next relationship. With that said, I think it is crucial for every person who is getting out of a long-term relationship to spend time focused on their individual relationship goals. That’s right! “Relationship Goals”. It is common for people to adapt to lifestyles, characteristics, hobbies, and/or habits, that go against all their virtues. People adjust to lifestyles they would otherwise not live had they not met there ex. People make adjustments when their in relationships and often develop certain characteristics, or personally traits that develops over time. I sincerely believe that if you do not want negative, toxic people in your life you must eliminate them before you get into another relationship. If you want to experience a fresh start in your next relationship and you want to be healthy and happy, you cannot bring your negative toxic past with you into your future. After all, how can you really be positive when you have the damage of your past relationship still lingering in your head and heart? Lose that mentality now!!! It’s a total mindset shift! I promise if you don’t do this, you will certainly be miserable in your next relationship.

Next, you must cast away all the fears and insecurities that come with reconnecting with new people. Look I know its scary to get back out there. After so much time has past and you are so used to being comfortable with one person and one lifestyle. But you have a choice here. Remain in the old way of dating and find the same thing again (‘insanity’), or find a new way and take a chance to find someone amazing! Remain mindful during your dates. Do not make the mistake of misreading the person because of your own insecurities. Recognize the red flags! Acknowledge that you are entering a toxic situation before you invest too much time. Don’t catch feelings before you find the things that hold value to you. When you recognize the red flags ahead of time, you avoid a lot of headaches later. This is a huge piece of advice that will benefit you in every relationship! Professionally, personally, and romantically.  

When you find the courage to be mindful and recognize the signs, and you become confident in asking all the right questions, without fear of judgment, you will develop a deeper understanding of your date. You will find yourself eliminating what you don’t want and finding all the qualities you do want in a relationship. AND….This is where all the fun starts!

Okay, you do have to watch how you ask questions, and there is a system to this. I go a little more into detail on this in Chapter 6 of my book “Hot Mess to Totally Blessed” which you can get here.

Have Fun!

Look, dating is supposed to be fun! You are going to have good and bad dates. Lets be real! There are some really shady single people out there, and there are some really super amazing single people out there. If you want amazing, you have to be amazing. If you pay attention and your mindful of your own expectations, I believe you will succeed in finding a healthy, happy, amazing, and successful relationship. Dating is a time to sit with someone, get to know them, and interview them, as a way to learn as much information as you can. If you are anything like me, time is precious! So you don’t want to invest too much time talking about things that hold no value in your life or in your future. Meaningless conversations get us no where! I know you have heard this about a trillion times, but try to stay clear of those who spend too much time talking about their past relationships. It’s toxic and it is not moving either of you forward. When you are dating new people, you should both be ready to start new! That means losing all things past. Why are you looking back there anyway? Its over! Get over it and move on! I do not like wasting time and therefore I gather as much information as I can, as fast as I can. The early stages of getting to know one another should help you get a feel for their character, their values, and their intentions. What are their dating goals? What are your dating goals? Get this out there quick and be as specific as possible! if you don’t have dating goals, you better get some honey! Because your going to be headed for disaster if you don’t!

Also, make your date feel comfortable. I don’t care if its a good or bad date, both party’s must feel comfortable. Again, this is suppose to be fun. Your not making a commitment. That’s why its call “dating”! Dah! So, tell a little about yourself and ask a little about them. The flow of conversation should always be moving you both forward, wanting to learn more about each other, and most important learning something new about yourself. Obviously, there is a system to this and this doesn’t always come easy for everyone. Especially if you’re an introvert. You really have to be self-aware. You cannot just send a text when they’re sitting next to you. And you can’t write down a bunch of questions on a sheet a paper and say, “hey can you answer these questions?” Like Seriously? Let’s be real!

I know things have changed in the “millennial days”, but somethings must remain. “Connection between two people”. I mean that is the goal here right? Your date is not going to fill out a survey for you! So get over it and embrace the world of physical, mental, and emotional connections. I hate to break it to you, but if you want to meet someone real, you eventually have to let your guard down and meet them face to face! People who are genuinely looking to start a new relationship, are not wasting too much time texting. They are talking on the phone and they are having real connections.

Now go off, meet new people, get yourself out there and find your person! You have a baseline of what you want in a relationship and you have the ability to weed out all the relationships that will hold no value in your life what-so-ever! If your looking for more ways to self awareness or dating advice you can grab my book today for only $14.99 here.

For now, have fun! Be confident and date with purpose! Dating after divorce can feel daunting in the beginning, but after a little practice, you will become more and more comfortable and confident. Confident in yourself and confident in your choices of dates! Always be yourself, know what you want, and remember, its not whats at the top of the mountain its the journey that takes you there.

How to Succeed in 2023/7 tips to get you closer to success

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Do you know how people become successful? They hustle! Well, that is part of it. But the truth is, most successful people absolutely love what they do! And the don’t have just one thing they’re passionate about, but several things. The passion they have, drives them to their success. But how do you choose what we’re passionate about? And furthermore, how do you get good enough to really become successful? Well, you start with a strategy and plan. Here are my personal favorite 7 TOP TIPS for success!

1. Persevere In Love

To persevere in love means to, “press on with a love for the work you do” or “in all you do, love it”. Truth is, we don’t enjoy life when we are doing the things we don’t want to do, and we usually won’t do our best work on the things we dread doing. Similarly, we don’t want to stop doing the things we love to do because we want to do our best at it. So, you must do what you love, and freaking be the best at it! It really is that simple, but not so easy! Whatever you do, love to do it with all your heart, because you never give up on the things, you’re truly passionate about. And no matter what we peruse, nothing in life is easy. As the saying goes, “if it were easy everyone would do it!” Aways remember this, perseverance will always result in a breakthrough. Keep going and continue to push yourself forward, and watch the magic happen! Most people give up when things get too hard, and that is why they never succeed. However, those that embrace the challenges, knowing every adversity makes them stronger ad gets them one step closer to their dream; well, those are the ones that “persevere in love”. There is no greater joy than accomplishing something we feel passionate about and overcoming all the challenges we met along the way. A journey lived without love for something, is not a journey lived at all.

2. Learn To Be Teachable

Number 2 on my list is to “Listen and learn a lot”. Be teachable! If you’re not learning new things and taking in constructive criticism, you’ll most likely never succeed. Or you will really struggle to succeed which will end in consistent failure, which, in most cases, results in giving up. If you can’t listen to new ideas, train yourself to listen long enough to hear what others have to say, and get out of your own way, you won’t succeed. Bottom line! Unfortunately, success is never done alone. You will eventually need help from mentors, inventors, coaches or someone else, Because the truth is, you will provide better services by listening to those who have had success. They can and will teach you how to overcome certain adversity and obstacles you may have in the future. And I an not saying you should go and listen to every voice in your ear. But, If you can’t take honesty from outsiders and learn what is good advice and what is bad advice, you will never succeed. There will always be times when we ALL must listen and learn. To lead others means to be the example of how important it is to listen and learn new things. Leaders must be open minded and willing to learn so others can see what it means to listen and learn! Don’t underestimate the quiet guy in the room. If you can’t listen to your staff, you won’t earn their trust or respect and they will not work as hard as they could have. You will have a business that runs with horrible communication skills, lack of production, and no motivation. Worse, you will always be lacking in development and growth. So, start out with a teachable mentality and continue to be teachable no matter how successful you think you are, If you don’t listen to your clients, customers, or consumers you will lose them, get bad reviews, and will not be building a trustworthy brand. Which brings me to my next tip…

3. Always Stay Humble

Don’t be a cocky asshole! “Sorry, I had to say it!” Let’s face it, humility produces better workers, better clients, and a higher success rate in any business, or relationship. We don’t have to take everyone’s advice, but we should “consider” it with humility. Don’t discount everything and everyone just because its out of your belief system or it takes you out of your comfortable zone. Get over it! Arrogance is “having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities. There is always a different way to do things, and your way is not the only right way! I personally wouldn’t do business with an arrogant person! It’s as simple as that! I am not saying to demean or lower your standards to appease other people. Of course not!!! Be perceptive, receptive and keep an open mind. But we must have some kind of gratitude and be aware of where we’ve been and where we’re heading in life an in our sucess. To be humble means you should be “teachable and willing”. It should come as no surprise that when we have humility, the rest of the things in this list come effortlessly.

4. Learn the Practice of Patience

I know I get it; this one is a difficult one for many of us. If only I had my mother’s patience. I admit that I did and still do occasionally, struggle with having patience. But let me first start by saying that patience is not equal to being taken advantage of. With that said, I used to always say: “I have no patience for incompetence” But who is incompetent really? Again, remember humility? Just because someone’s views are different than mine doesn’t make them incompetent. I’ve seen some people I thought were “freaking idiots” become super successful overnight. Little did I know, they used their “incompetence” and turned it into a trend. Go figure! However, I do try to always hold a value on my time and other people’s time. I don’t want to waste time on things that degrade my value or someone else’s. Time holds major value to me, and I make use of that time in every moment of every day. Listen, time is on your side. I know it doesn’t appear that way, but it’s true. Time is useful and helpful in all seasons of life. Time allows you to live life with more potential for “creating and waiting”. Sometimes, life gives you time to sit in your thoughts and regain clarity. So, take your time when creating anything new or recreating something old. Know that your time of waiting is a journey you won’t want to miss out on, it’s a tine to learn, grow, and in the process practice patience. Enjoy the experiences and be excited about the unexpected events that occur. Be patient in the journey to success. This brings me to my next and favorite tip…

5. Enjoy The journey

You must enjoy the journey in every season of life. The journey can be hard sometimes, YES! But even the hard times are worth it! Did you ever notice the hard times pass just as quickly as the good times do? It’s easy to get overwhelmed because our human nature is in such a hurry to get to the end result of our goal. Unfortunately, that causes us to miss out on some of life’s most important lessons, and we miss gaining the wisdom needed for the next season of life. Struggles make us stronger, not weaker! It is wise to leave breathing room to see the bigger picture. To see everything in the path ahead, because we took time out to enjoy the journey, makes the path easier to walk. Take it ALL in. If I could offer any advice, that I wish I had taken myself, it would be, don’t be in such a hurry to get to the top of the mountain. remember patience. Imagine all the things we could avoid if we paid closer attention to the details of our past. If we actually stopped to breath and recognize our patterns, behaviors, and choices. Well, we could avoid many mistakes that we will inevitably make again. Take it for me, someone who has continued to make the same mistakes, you could end up at the bottom of the same mountain again, and again, and again, if you don’t embrace and enjoy the journey now. If we don’t take the time to learn along our journey through life, and enjoy the lessons in it, we continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Making the journey miserable. Of course, we can’t enjoy the journey when we know we keep doing the same things over, and over again! Right? So, a good tip for success, that I wish I had paid closer attention to, was to just embrace and enjoy the journey!

“Making the same mistakes over and over trying to get a different result is insanity”.

By Albert Einstein

Make new choices that you can learn from. Make decisions that get different results and mostly enjoy the journey. I’ve learned from my own experience, and from being a good listener from those who went before me, that it makes the journey much more exciting when we’re paying attention.

“Embrace the unknown and be excited about the unexpected”

6. Learn To Embrace Competition

Next on my 7 tip tips for success is, “Embracing competition”. No one is going to steal your ideas, and no one is going to beat you to the finish line.  We get so caught up in what other people think, not realizing that there is enough room for everyone to succeed. I don’t see McDonald’s and Burger King shutting down any time soon. They’ve been successful for years! Not to mention, have you noticed all the burger joints out there? Come’ on! There is room for everyone to shine! Look, embracing competition is healthy! We need competition to bring out our “A GAME” every time! Competition is healthy! Competition moves us all forward faster. We ALL strive higher when we have competition. The problems arise when we become fearful of failure or scared, we will miss out on opportunities. So, we bash our competitors or get lost in our own game. There is enough room for everyone to grow and expand. There are no limits here!  Embrace your competition, make it fuel your fire, and don’t get intimidated by others who want to succeed too. In fact, help others succeed and build a team that thrives on integrity together. Remember, “We are better together”. Do you know why all the big brands survive? They bring something a little different to the table and they thrive on competition. Pepsi, coke, all the many fast-food chains. There is a consumer for each brand and there is a consumer for your brand too!!! Don’t be afraid of the competition, thrive because you have competition.

7. Focus on Customer Satisfaction

I know many of you will say “customer satisfaction” is a given! It’s a “no brainer”. Right? But there are still those people who think because they’re the boss they are entitled. And having an “Entitlement attitude” will get you nowhere in the real world! Also, audience and tone matters! If we are not reaching the right audience with the right tone, we fail! Bottom line! Furthermore, if we don’t continue to satisfy our customers, we also fail. How educated are you as an entrepreneur on the “bottom line and top-line growth”? Customer satisfaction should be warranted, as long as it doesn’t conflict with the overall business plans for growth. I know I just got really technical really fast! Sorry! Not sorry! But after some much-needed research on my own business, I had to mention this. I can honestly say that I’ve learned the hard way! Sometimes as a business owner, our business “plans” change! As production and time evolve, the business must shift and develop new modifications to flow with those changes. And if you are not paying attention, the direction of a business could crash overnight. If our “top-line growth” doesn’t measure up with our “bottom-line growth” we fail. In short, the “bottom line” is a company’s net income, and the “top line” is the company’s revenue or gross sales. I suck at numbers so this concept was difficult for me to learn. Without getting too technical I will try to break it down in laymen terms.

We all strive to meet customer satisfaction, because let’s face it, without customers, we have no business. Right?! However, we can’t continue to focus all our attention on satisfying customers if success of our business is struggling to meet the “bottom line goals”. DID YOU HEAR THAT? Let me repeat that “we CANNOT keep satisfying customers if we are struggling to meet our ‘bottom line goals” (the company’s net income). Eventually we will be out of business and with NO customers! Sometimes, business owners are forced to make hard decisions. Increase the top line, (the company’s revenue or gross sales) try to filter down (lower or subtract) and boost the bottom line. That is where we get our profits from. If there is no profit, we can’t survive. It’s common freaking sense and all customers know this! NO NEGOTIATION HERE! We all know a company has to make a profit or they can’t survive. We pay the higher raised prices at restaurants, grocery stores etc. without negotiating.

So, make the “right customers happy” to exceed your goals, and increase the bottom line! If they trust you and your brand, they will pay the prices you charge. If they don’t, well you are probably better off without those who always want a deal. Believe me when I say, they will be more of a headache to you in the future. Or continue to “appease the wrong customers” and never meet the company goals. As a result, you will end up hating what you once loved. Don’t feel bad about making better business decisions! It is your business after all! If your customers had your job, they would do the same thing. Trust me!!! You know this! And look I am all for giving back!” I am all for FREEBEES!!!” After you exceed your goals give a little back to those that deserve your generosity. Take care of the ones who took care of you and supported your business. But, if you’re struggling to stay afloat in your business, you must come up with new strategies and troubleshoot a new plan.

We will always have people who are dissatisfied with some things we do or say. Successful people don’t allow others to make business decisions that will make life miserable for them. “A few pennies to one’s pocket could mean a huge loss for the bottom line”. Prepare to build the business you want to have tomorrow as if you have that success already today. I am sharing this because I have done this and had to fail a lot to learn. I hope I can help just person avoid making some of these mistakes I’ve made on my journey. Believe me when I say if you don’t feel worthy of your services, you will provide less than adequate service. And how can you feel worthy if you are not being compensated for your time, energy and effort? So really, we’re doing our customers a disservice by not satisfying our bottom line and reaching our own goals. Remember, you must satisfy yourself by meeting and exceeding your business goals before you can offer anyone else satisfaction. Or otherwise, what’s the dam point of having your own business?

Conclusion

These are my favorite 7 Top Tips for Success that I’ve learned along my journey. I wish someone would have told me, or maybe they did, and I was too stubborn to listen. Are there any tips you have for success? Share some of the things you’ve learned on your journey or things you are struggling with. By sharing, learning and growing together we can all succeed! I wish I knew some of this when I started out, because learning later in the game is much more difficult to manage. Get a handle on that now! The sooner the better! Don’t forget, continue to learn, and make mistakes. Doing a little research will help avoid some of those mistakes ahead of time. They are there for growth in the journey of success. Always stay Humble and have patience. Enjoy the Journey, never fear the Competition, and allow all things to manifest! Don’t be afraid to “up your A-game”! Offer bigger, better services but be sure to “cover your bottom’! If you know what I mean?

IS MLM WORTH IT?

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So many people are getting more and more interested in MLM business opportunities. I for one have participated in a few and have compared different companies based on my experience, and my friends and family’s experience. First thing I would like to address before I get in too deep into this article is that, “any and every business is going to have it’s ups and downs based on your belief system”. Some things will resonate with you and some things may not. I have my beliefs and you have yours. All self employment is difficult and takes a lot of hard work and continued research and education. I am not here to change your mindset, but only to share with you my experience with MLM businesses based on my personal experience.

Many people think that when they start an MLM business they will “Get rich quick” and that is just not the case. When people go into an MLM with this kind of mentality, they never make it far! When we realize running an MLM involves more work than we anticipated, we end up disappointed, discouraged, and quit too fast to even experience the full benefits of having a business. Look as much as you may think the products are going to sell themselves, good marketing is still needed. If you have a mindset where you think your going to have an overnight success story, I am here to tell you’re miss-leading yourself. Entering into any business that you have to run yourself, is going to be hard work. Well, if you want to make any money. Truth is, it is going involve A LOT of HARD WORK! Yes, you will have to speak to people! Yes, you will have to purchase the products, try them, and experience them for yourself! Yes, you will have to learn something about the company, the products, their ethics, culture, and history. And yes, you will have to have some product knowledge! With that said, here are 5 tips to success with an MLM business

5 Tips to Succeed with an MLM business

  1. Choose a great upline
  2. Choose a company that has products you use daily and that you actually enjoy using
  3. Trust the products and the company you join
  4.  Love the journey of learning
  5.  And love interacting with people

Do these 5 simple things and you will succeed in more ways than just your cash flow!

Understanding the Politics of MLM

Understanding the politics of any business is essential to your success and that is no different with MLM opportunities. I know many people will disagree with me in this article and that is okay by me. All I ask is that everyone just please remember to keep comments respectful, encouraging, and please, do feel free to share any helpful information you may have concerning MLM opportunities. I am intrigued by MLM companies, specifically those that sell essential oils or anything ORGANIC for health and wellness and skincare. See, essential oils and living an organic lifestyle has changed my life mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. And I love sharing new products and my experience with others. However, what I am not a fan of, is when MLM companies are not giving valuable information to their consultants that can actually help our environment, community or overall health and wellness. Many MLM companies are deceiving people with false pretenses. In fact, there are some MLM company’s that tell people it is okay to ingest certain products or to use their products without diluting them when in fact these products could do more harm to certain individuals.

I get it! MLM businesses are meant to upsell and get others to buy into their program to keep the chain going. However, I don’t agree with a strategy when the “politics” or the principles of that company are flawed by deceiving people with unpredictable, unhealthy, and dishonest methods to succeed. First, I don’t care what your MLM representative tells you, you should never be selling anyone on the idea of applying or swallowing products without fully researching and understanding the product itself, and for your body and health condition! Furthermore, if you don’t know the person who you’re offering remedies to, you should not be offering advice as if you’re a medical professional. For example, many doterra and Living young representatives teach dangerous practices of applying essential oils to the skin without dilution. They also offer tablets so people can make their own essential oil pill for ingestion. PLEASE DON’T DO THIS!

I have a cleaning company where I use essential oils. I diffuse them into the air for aroma and for their healing properties. All my cleaning products are also made with essential oils in them. Everything I use is “plant based and organic”, however, I do not take this lightly. I always ask my customers if they have allergies to the aromas that I am using. I also ask if they are on any medications, have health concerns, or if they have kids or animals. I ask lots of questions and get to know my client before I take them on a journey into my aromatherapy cleaning experience. And do you know why? Because I know that these essential oils can do major damage if I do not take the proper precautions and use them sparingly. If someone has a reaction I want to know ahead of time because I never want to be the cause of getting someone sick. Or even worse, die because I misinformed them of the potential hazards of essential oils mixed with certain medications.   

FACTS ABOUT MLM & Their products

I can tell you from experience that the rules for using the products are essential to your success! You must know them and like them. For this article, I will be talking about the essential oils as an example, because that is what I used. I have used essential oils for my cleaning business for over 5 years now, and let me just say, “too much of a good thing, is a bad thing”! I have gotten really nauseous and felt ill when exposed to too many essential oils in one workday. Honestly, I don’t think any essential oil MLM Company should be advising people to ingest essential oils ever! I definitely think it’s important to know how much you can handle before applying it to your skin. Did you know what you put on your skin soaks into your bloodstream within 6 seconds? do-Terra and Living Young representatives are huge in offering advice on healing illnesses by ingesting tablets with a full glass of water. Many people think they are safe and that the water is diluting the essential oil. But the truth is, IT’S NOT! When have you ever known water and oil to mix? NEVER! Water and oil do not mix! Do you know what that means? That when ingested, the oils are not emulsified and they go straight to your mouth, down your throat, to your esophagus, and then to your stomach, all undiluted!

The treasure that is nature can be extraordinary and yes, beneficial to our health and wellness, when used properly. But we must know our own body and be mindful when something is wrong. This includes following some safety precautions. We must remember, these are plants that have been used as medicines for centuries. They have antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, anti-microbial, and their aroma can sooth and alter your mind, mood, and emotions. Still, we must be aware of how we use them. Essential oils can be used for anything and everything under the sun but if not used with caution, they can be deadly. Yes, I said deadly. Also, not all essential oils are created equally, bottom line. Different companies extract essential oils differently, some say pure, some say organic, and some say fragrance. There is a difference between these oils. And FYI “natural” is not equal to “organic”!

Choosing the Right MLM

First, let me just say, I was not very educated on essential oils when I first started using the products for my Cleaning Company. I mean, “I wasn’t using the products on my skin, and I was not ingesting it, so I was fine! Right? WRONG! I didn’t realize I could actually have an adverse reaction to essential oils, until I began to feel weak, fatigued, and even dizzy after using certain products on my skin and then cleaning with essential oils. After experiences some symptoms when using certain products and oils, I started to do some serious research. After realizing that I started to feel really ill in the homes requesting Lavender for each cleaning. And I mean really ill! Headache, nausea, dizziness, and even felt faint at times. However, when I got home, I would shower and eat dinner with my kids. After some time passed I would feel better. What was the cause? Why did I feel so sick every time I cleaned the particular clients? Was it something in their home? A perfume I was allergic to? I had to get to the bottom of it. So I began to look at all the common denominators of those clients and their homes. YUP! Lavender! Who’d ever thought? Lavender is a favorite to so many!!

.Needless to say, I can no longer use Lavender without an uplifting aroma such as orange, and I must wear a mask and gloves when using any of these essential oils. Another very important part I want to bring up here is that, I didn’t wear gloves all the time and I didn’t realize it, but I was spraying product, wiping things down, and all those essential oils were soaking through my hands and into my blood stream. Even though I highly dilute my products with “water”, and they are made with “carrier oils and a base”, I was still getting sick! Now, I make a point to use massive precaution to protect not just my customers, but myself as well. Truth is, I learned all of this being a part of a great MLM company I was a part of for 3 years.

See, I became a consultant for an amazing company that taught me the value of business ethics that care about the people, the animals, and the planet. I was a consultant for an MLM and I joined this company for many reasons. After attending a conference I was hooked to the products and the friendships I built while there. I’ve met amazing connections from all over the world. What I loved about the company was their proof of ethics in improving the company by consistently refining their products, their continued certification,s and quality control, educating their consultants, and they are always cultivating new ways to inspire, support, and develop teams that want to improve the world we live in. And to me, there is no better journey in life than the one that improves human development and growth through the mind, body, and spirit. Honestly, this company does that and much more! What I didn’t like, was that I would find products I loved and I would use them and then share them, and they would go off the market! Constantly changing products, is really frustrating. I get it! We are always looking to improve our products and services. But com’on! when is enough, enough?

Conclusion

So, to conclude this article, I would like to say that from my personal experience with MLM businesses, they are equal to owning your own business. It is not a scam, but you will have to work your tail off to generate clientele and sales! It’s not for everyone and very few make it to the top! I certainly didn’t! Just know this, you will have to put effort into any business if you want to work for yourself or work from home. This is why it is important that you find something you enjoy. If you like it, then it won’t be considered work. If you are completely passionate about it, well, you will be driven to share it! It is not going to easy, and it will take hard work to build, regardless! I mean with the internet being the main marketing tool today, you will need to build a platform for yourself! You will want to choose a company that has products that you enjoy using so you’re not scared to share it and you won’t delay actually doing the things that will generate business. Like those days spent cold calling and days where you will have to have parties and host events. MLM’s are meant to be fun, cash flow opportunities, and if you are not having fun or you don’t like the products, you will set yourself up for failure. trust me! And you must not follow what everyone else is doing, you must sell and be creative in ways you are comfortable. Bottom line! Because if you are not comfortable, it will show and you will come across as fake and not genuine. You must build a team that is trustworthy, and one that performs. Laziness is not part of MLM business opportunities. In fact, there is no room for lazy in any “self-employment” journey.  It’s about hard work, learning new things, building new relationships, sharing, growing together, and embracing change in every season. So, go-a-head, embrace the season and give it try! Love what you do and do what you love! And remember…

“The Person who Gets the Furthest is the one

Who is Willing to Do and Dare”

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WHY YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED

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Motivation is CRAP!

Seriously, motivation is just a bunch of crap! Anyone in the world can slap a sticky note or picture frame with words of motivation on a wall! I mean there are seminars, videos, blogs, and all kinds of free material out there for us to get “motivated”! So, why? Why are we never motivated to do the things we know we should do? Why can’t we get motivated to do the things that we know will change our life? Well, I will tell why….

Because, although the many words that motivate us at those seminars, or on those videos, sound really good in the moment! Unfortunately, it literally only takes about 5 seconds for “our brain” to change “our minds”! The truth is, when we are looking for “motivation”, it’s only because we have found ourselves at a crossroad. And FORTUNATELY, all crossroads drive us to “search for what we would say is ‘motivation’ to get us to a better place”. Right? But, even though that “terrible thing” has now brought us to this place where all we want to do is find some dam “breathing room”! If we don’t “DECIDE” to stop making excuses, we will never be motivated!

Our excuses Smother Our Motivation

In actuality, we haven’t experienced any “REAL” change from motivation, because we are too busy making excuses which smothers our enthusiasm we have.  We don’t take the actions we need required to make the change happen, because we just don’t have any real cause. We actually “think” we want change, but we are “pretty happy” in our mess. We are! I know what you’re thinking “This bitch is crazy right now!”, “Does she seriously think I enjoy this situation?” But before you go all postal on me and freak out. Just hear me out! Geez….

It’s unfortunate that we find ourselves in the same scenario’s over and over, but if we don’t get over this idea that “I am just not motivated” or “I just need a little motivation”, well nothing in your life will ever change. “You will never be motivated” until you stop making excuses! You have great ideas and you are super genius, but the hard truth is, “every time you think of ‘amazing things’ you get one negative thought in your head (fear of failure, doubt you’ll make it, etc.) and then when it comes to taking that one small step forward, you punk out!” There I said it!! You come up with all the reasons why you just “can’t” do that ‘thing’. And here you are again, back to “needing motivation”. Well I am here to tell you; your excuses are smothering your motivation!!! 

HELLO!! Do you not know that motivation is only there to fire up some spark in your mind and in your heart?! The only way to ignite the flame inside of you, is to pour fuel on it! If you wait for something else to happen before you get motivated” to actually “take the action”, you will always be waiting and never doing. Forget the idea of being “motivated”. That’s over the second you say, ‘after I’ or ‘when I’ or ‘I can’t because’! Until you STOP MAKING EXCUSES and START TAKIGN THE ACITONS you need to take to get the life you want YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED!

This is your life and you only get one shot at it! Make it worth your while! What are you waiting for? There is nothing you “NEED” that you don’t already have! I promise, all your skills, all your knowledge, all the techniques, all the money, all your connections, and all your dreams are right there in front you. All you have to do is reach out and grab one thing! Start somewhere! ANYWHERE! But dam it, START! You have everything you need to succeed! Don’t you dare wait for money to get right, because it will never get right while you sit here doing the same shit you do, day in and day out! You have to GET UP, WASH YOUR DAM FACE, AND BRUSH YOUR STINKY ASS BREATH, AND GO OUT THERE! Go out there without any fear, with no doubt, and without any worry of failure or disappointment, because everything (good and bad) is moving you forward into your purpose! EVERYTHING! There would be no life without good and evil leveling the playing fields. So just embrace your shit and move past it!

BE MOTIVATED AND DO THIS ACTION TODAY

So, how can you get motivated today? Well first! You have to realize that words have no meaning with an action to follow. So, how can you use all the bad and good things in your life to get yourself not just motivated, but moving into action? It actually is simple, but not easy.

For example: I had to start getting up earlier in the morning every single day! That’s right even weekends! I always felt like I didn’t have enough time to do all the things I wanted to get done in a day, so what did I do? I started getting up earlier then everyone else. I woke up at 4am each morning instead 8am or 9am. That gave me 4-5 hours more in my day of productivity and accomplishments. This routine has not only helped me get more done, but I have time to take care of my own personal needs as well. Like taking care of my physical body so I have the energy I need to get through my day. I made time to actually sit down and eat a healthy breakfast, to work-out, and to do a little meditation to get my body, mind and spirit working together. And you know what I got?  A lot more clarity and focus during my entire day.

These are just a few things I adjusted in my morning routine that helped me be more productive daily. Furthermore, when I am more focused during the day, I am not stressed. It allows me to have clarity and a sense of “Zen” throughout my entire day because I am not feeling rushed or hurried. It is hard to feel motivated when you feel rushed, or too busy all the time. Not to mention the anxiety level that happens in a high stress, fast paced environment. This is partly how I made the decision to be an entrepreneur in the first place! I can’t handle the high stress in environments that I know could be managed in a much more productive way. Being mindful of the people and things that brought stress into my life, helped me make the decisions I needed to make to avoid the anxiety in my future.

It drove me ‘crazy’ that most businesses have so much drama, gossip, and stress in the workplace! It really shouldn’t be that way. It is so easy to come up with a plan to delegate everyone’s work and build people up for success personally and professionally! While moving the business itself to thrive.  “There is enough space in this world for everyone’s light to shine.” Most” businesses fail in customer service because the staff is so stressed from lack of communication and management productivity.

MY FINAL THOUGHTS

So, today, be motivated! BUT TAKE THE DAM ACTIONS! You have the capability to manifest any idea’s you have in your mind and the desires you have in your heart. The problems only persist when you are not taking your path towards those ideas and desires. The Divine wants to help you, but you have to help yourself by taking just one step. It really starts with just a decision! You choose and you do it! That’s it! You don’t let anyone talk you out of it, you don’t have any fear of failure and you never doubt your abilities. When you are “MINDFUL” you can bring your ideas, into actions. If it truly comes from your heart, you will find a way. The key is, you have to want it like you want the air in your lungs.

Seriously, blow all the air out of your lungs and watch how fast you breath for air! And, you don’t just want that air, you actually TAKE IT IN! And you appreciate it because you realize, well for one, “how dizzy you get without it” and for two, “how important it is for your survival”! Your path is important for your life and you must survive to go through your life. Your decisions are important for your life, and the actions you take are extremely important for your life. If you take in the choices, your paths can make you dizzy! You know what I mean? So, make good decisions, and Be motivated, YES! But take the actions to bring that inspiration inside of you to life! NOT MORE EXCUSES!!!!

“STOP TALKING ABOUT IT and BE ABOUT IT”

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How to Embrace Your Journey and Live the Life YOU Want!

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No one else can determine the kind of life you want for yourself, because we all experience life differently, and we are all unique in our own way. We each have gifts and talents, and those gifts and talents are used in a way that can only benefit you. So, today I hope this article helps you determine your uniqueness and so you can embrace your gifts!

First, acknowledgment! You must acknowledge all your gifts and all your talents. Good and bad. That’s right, even the ones you picked up along the way. The one’s you discovered in your pain. Acknowledge them so you can learn to Love them. This brings me to my second point…

You must learn to “Love your Uniqueness” and accept that you are different. Know that you are WONDERFULLY and perfectly made as you are right now!!! You are not your family, your friends, coworkers, or colleagues and that is okay. You may not have developed their gifts and talents, but you have your own attributes. You have qualities they don’t. Focus on yourself and learn to love yourself for how unique you truly are.

Third, you must forget the entire belief system that you have been living in. You must become NEW by rebirthing your true essence and embracing your true self. Your INNER BEING! By determining who that is, you can finally live the life you were meant to live! You inner being has ideas, emotions and an identity that is eager to thrive! It’s like, the real you inside is screaming because the life your living is not the life you know deep down to your core is the life your capable of having. There is more inside of you. That eagerness burning inside of you, can’t show up if you are too busy locking it in to everyone else’s philosophies. You must forget the dogma of those around you, and embrace your own principles, and live by those principles only.

When you open your heart to know yourself, you open yourself up to a whole new world. Here’s the thing, when you understand your pain and KNOW these three things, you step into an entirely different journey.  

  1. You Know how you got to “where you are”
  2. You Know “why you are” unique
  3. And You Know “who you are” meant to be

 When you are aware, you can finally discover a new meaning for life, and make peace with yourself, your family, your friends, and everyone else around you. By discovering a new person inside of “YOU” and loving that person with intention for life, you will be able to accept others for who they can become, and not who they are currently.

 You are not your circumstances and you are not limited to the world you see yourself in right now. You can have more! You can create a new life for yourself and for those around you. There is a light inside of you that is burning and yearning to come out! But the only way to really put it on display, is to recognize it for yourself. Reveal it to yourself first, than others will discover it too. Those close to you may not accept the new version of you in the beginning, and that is okay. If you are doing what feels good and right straight down to the very core of “your being”, you are safe to move forward without worry of judgment or discouragement!

You are safe to move forward without hesitation, without fear, without doubt and without the voices in your head telling you it is impossible or you are not qualified! Nothing is impossible for your unique journey, and you are qualified to be your unique self! Here are some steps to move you forward right now…

  1. Write down your options
  2. Ask your inner self (you don’t need permission or confirmation from others)
  3. Get grounded with your own intentions
  4. Eliminate distractions (anything that steers you in the opposite direction)
  5. Exercise and eat something that will provide energy to your body and stimulate your brain
  6. Get clarity and stay strong in your beliefs and keep the faith.

Listen, my faith gets me through every time! I may fall short, life might happen around me, and I may even stumble over a rock from time to time, but if I am connected to a higher source, (God, The Divine, the Universe, etc.) and that source will catch me every time! He will not forsake me, and he will always show me a better way. I know that deep down to my core, even when it is difficult to see for myself. I know sometimes it’s difficult to see over the mountain. But when we trust in the timing even though it is not NOW, better things come when you stop trying to control the universe. I “Believe” that I deserve success, therefore I will succeed. I Believe I will find true love therefore I will not settle for less, I believe I deserve all the things I desire in my heart. And even though I may not know exactly how I will acquire these things, I know I will receive all the blessings and more then I could imagine in my little mind.

You must believe, be grounded and have a strong foundation. And the only way to have all of that, is to determine your unique self and live the life you want, rather than the life everyone else wants.  When you are connected to a higher source, you know that source will catch you and guide you no matter what. This gives you the confidence you need to move you forward.

However, you must be constantly be grounded within your own uniqueness. KNOWKING that Divine things are constantly working “for you”, and not against you. Stop thinking things are bad and realize these bad things happen for you in order to put you on YOUR right path. Listen, you can make your choices, but your purpose will always be trying to rise above to move you toward the life you truly desire inside.

In other words, what you are seeing as “bad things happening”, is only viewed like that because you are so busy living a life that everyone else planned for you. You’ve made decisions that brought you to this vary point! No, it is not the life you want! And therefore, nothing is going your way and you see everything happening as “bad” because it is not happening from your true essence, but in fact is happening because you are following someone else’s path. When you realize, everything happens FOR you, and NOT to you, life begins to flow! When you stop listening to the voices around you and embrace your unique self and you trust in instincts, I promise, the things that begin to happen will shape the life you have always wanted, and then some!  

If you don’t determine your own gifts and talents now, and if you don’t embrace your uniqueness and weirdness, than you will always be living a life that is not yours and therefore you will always be living in lack and disapointment! You must begin living as if you KNOW everything is moving you forward. Good or Bad, you ARE moving forward!

You can make mistakes! It’s okay. Learn from them and move forward. Don’t sit in your mistakes letting it define you as a loser or failure. Get up, and you will persevere! Don’t be selfish and don’t take the easy route. Understand the process, grow within the Divine, and most important, Allow the Divine to grow IN and AROUND you. BELIEVE you deserve more! You are different and you are unique, but that is what makes you so special! Today is the day you discover greatness within!

So what! Yesterday was a bad day, it’s okay! Today you get to try again. Maybe that thing you wanted didn’t work last time! That’s okay! Today is a new day for new ideas! Today is the day you Embrace your unique spirit! Today is the day you stop listing to the voices in your head that say “you are not good enough”, “you’re not pretty enough”, “you’re not smart enough”, and “you’re not young enough”! Today is the day you say F That! Because you know “You ARE good enough”! “You ARE pretty enough”! “You ARE smart enough”! And yes “you ARE the perfect age today” to determine your unique self and live the life you want! Change comes when you decide to be changed! Change comes when you stop following the rest and you determine your unique self and take the chances today, to live the life you want tomorrow!

“YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DOING WHAT YOU WANT

YOU JUST HAVE TO BE WILLING TO BELIEVE IT

 AND THAN TAKE THE ACTIONS THAT PRODUCE IT” 

Christina Ditzel

Take this journey with me and with those who love your true essence, and together we will do great things! Great things for us, for our families, and for our communities! If you liked this article please comment and share your journey so you can get connected with like minded people! For more advice in other areas of your life, please join my channel on YouTube, or just grab my book “Hot mess to totally blessed” on Amazon Today. This is how you begin your journey into an abundant life. Choose YOU and Live in abundance knowing it starts with a choice…

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