THE QUESTION IN MY INBOX THAT BROKE MY HEART

My 8-year-old son touched my 5-year-old daughter inappropriately. How should I address this?

See this is when we have to ask ourselves “What did my kid witness or what did my kid feel that they react in this way?” In other words, was your child touched or witness someone being touched?

Can I just say, some of you so called “parents” may think you’re being sneaky hiding under the blankets, but your kids know what is going on. They are not as stupid or naive as you may think. And they hear the noises in the bedroom or bathroom and know what that is too!

We have to be very careful as parents how we act, who we hang around, what we watch, what we say, how we speak, etc. When you are a parent, you can’t just act, speak, dress, and be any way you want. You have to have some standards and morals of your own. Lead by example.

With that said, have you ever talked to your kid about his personal space (aka “private parts”). It’s called the “NO NO ZONE” Unfortunately we have to have these conversations at a younger age. I was asking questions and teaching my girls as young as 3 & 4. When you are having play time, “tickle time” for example, is a perfect opportunity to introduce your child to areas that are “NOT to be tickled!”

Why this generation struggles to teach these concepts blows my mind. Especially with the internet in our faces! If you don’t start teaching your kids young (Like 3–5) they will become adults one day with serious issues. Which is the result of the world you live in right now. In fact, it will be worse because you will have AI teaching and preaching.

These machines learn from human behavior and if humans keep acting with no mindfulness these machines will eventually be controlled by psychopaths who will manipulate the children and the adults. It’s already happening! We live in a crazy world and if you are a parent, you must uphold yourself in a manner that displays qualities of a PARENT. “A very responsible adult that a child can trust, respect, lean on, learn from, and feel loved by”.

To flourish in this life a child needs proper guidance from an adult that has some common sense and wisdom. If they think love is “daddy getting a piece of ass every night”, (hearing that kind of language and seeing that kind of disrespectful behavior) then …well, you do the math! How do you think that kid is going to view love as an adult?

Can I also add, mothers who raise boys need to really be more mindful of how they raise boys into men. What kind of man/men are you creating for this world? Do you see the world we live in today? You have an opportunity to do it differently! To do it better! You have an opportunity to change the way men look at women and treat women in the next generation! Do you have the slightest understanding of the power a parent has?

I see people offer advice to parents to have a “sit downs” with their kids. You need to do more than have one sit down with you child. When you have a child (girl or boy) you need to be present every day until the day that child becomes an adult. And sometimes even then you will have to continue to pour wisdom into your offspring. I am 46 and I still go to my father and mother for wisdom. That’s called parenting! Thats called family! If you don’t have family morals and don’t want to spend your life raising kids, don’t have kids! They didn’t ask to be here! Their long life gives them the experiences I don’t have yet, and so I can learn from them before I make bad decisions. To “learn then live” rather than “live and learn”. as most of society tells us to do.

I could really go on and on, but I’m hoping I drove my point across today in this short article. Teach your sons to be the kind of men you would want for yourself. Teach them to be the kind of father or husband you would want for your daughter. Raise him to be a man with integrity. And raise your daughters to be the mother, wife, sister, friend you wish you had. And men will be good husbands, fathers, and friends too. That is how you avoid sexual harassment or abuse in the future, and how you avoid all the traumatic issues that we face today. Mindfulness and awareness in how you raise your children today, is how you create an amazing future for your children’s children tomorrow!