“Life is exciting when you are on a journey that is unpredictable and untold by others” 

Validation is just affirming that your ideas and emotions matter. But matter to who?  Did you ever notice that we can find passion in something, but the second someone else disagrees or speaks negatively about it, we ignore those thoughts, ideas, and emotions.  Why do we do this?! No matter how passionate we are about something we still require validation from other people. And we give them the power to shut us down! We share our ideas with these people even when we know they will speak over us with their negative input. Words cut at our soul like a sword that kills! Because we hold no standards for ourselves!

I think this year is calling for many of us to realize that words can influence or tear us down, and the people we allow into our life determine that influence. This year is not a year to look for validation from others. It’s a time to set new goals and standards for how we want to live our own life moving forward! Shut those voices down and raise the volume on your ideas! Don’t hear what I am not saying. When I say “RAISE THE VOLUME ON THOSE IDEAS” I am not saying to raise your voice and scream your ideas to the world. On the contrary, I am telling you to raise your own voice to yourself, so you can’t hear the voices of others. In other words, raise the volume in your mind so the spirit is louder than the people.

This year is a year to prosper. We don’t have to hurt people in the process, but we don’t have to allow them to hurt us with their personal opinions either. Their life is not your life. Stop trying to be like everyone else and be yourself! How do they know what you’re capable of when you don’t even know what you’re capable of until you try. So, just TRY! Just try being yourself for one week. Don’t ask anyone for advice just sit quietly by yourself with your own thoughts. Then just sit and wait for the answers.

But then, you can’t be afraid to do “the thing”! You know that thing that you feel deep inside, just do it! The only validation you need is the one that comes deep within you. Trust in yourself, because no matter what you say, no matter what you do, no matter how lost you feel, or confused you may seem, success is on the other side. And remember this, no matter how successful or unsuccessful you are, there will always be haters! People will always have opinions and they have a desire to be heard. But those few people who do succeed with peace and happiness, are the ones that shut out the negative voices. They don’t care about validation, because they are aware that we are all on a different journey. The only reason other people’s opinions hurt so much, is because they are not in alignment with you or your life’s purpose. They have their own purpose.

When we stop looking for validation from other people loneliness begins to kick in. I won’t lie! And that is why we panic, freak out and turn to people. We are not meant to be alone forever, but there is a time and place to be alone with yourself so the holy spirit inside you can move mountains. Don’t be afraid to begin climbing the mountain alone, you’ll find the right people in the journey, once you get on the path that is meant for you. 

People will always have something negative to say. Some things you must embrace! It’s true, we must take some advice as warnings and signs. But it is also true that we must be very careful who’s advice we take when we are on our own journey. If it is not encouraging, offering hope, and building you up with confidence, let it go!!! That is not good advice! Discernment, mindfulness, and self-awareness is so important at this time. Did you ever notice those same people who talk down to you are the same people who do a lot of talking and not a lot of doing for themselves? That is because they are NOT self-aware or mindful of their own words or actions. Their focused in on what everyone else is doing, unaware and too afraid to do anything to help themselves live happier. So, they throw smack at everyone else who is actually optimistic and exciting about trying new things.

So, yea, there will always be people who have something negative to say about the good things you are passionate about. Let them go! Most people in this world today “talk about it”, but they are too lazy to “be about it”! In fact, we should be mindful of ourselves when we speak to these folks. Truth is, they are most likely fighting their own demands and they are on their own journey. Maybe you were brought into their life to encourage them. Not the other way around.

Don’t underestimate yourself this year! Sometimes it is hard to leave behind the past of familiarity and start again with the unfamiliar. Sometimes it’s even more difficult to step into ‘OUR OWN TRUTH’ when we’ve been following everyone else’s ‘LIES’. I Know I have been struggling with this for years. That is why I write these articles. To be a witness to my readers, that you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable in the unfamiliar and the unknown. What is important, is that we embrace the unexpected experiences and be excited about what will be! Life is freaking exciting when you are on a journey that is unpredictable and untold by others. When you create your life’s journey. Why would anyone want to be the person in the room that is always predictable when you can be the one in the room that is mysterious? Don’t you want to be the one person in the room that people are curious about? That seems way more exciting! Not only for you, but for those who cross paths with you!

So, this year take a stand for yourself and affirm confidence in your own skin! This year become the best version of yourself that you possibly can so that others can experience your presence. Your presence alone could light up a room and offer hope to someone who needs it. The key is this, live your life not to prove anything or to impress people. Instead, this year choose to live your life for experiences not pleasures. Hold onto faith. Believe that you were created for something big! Something important! Trust the process without the voices in your head telling you that you’re not good enough or that you can’t do it on your own! But don’t be selfish, disrespectful, arrogant, greedy, or a pushover.

WE HAVE A POWER THAT LIVES INSIDE US ALL

Remember, when you feel lonely, there is a God that will never leave you where you are, and He is more than capable of handling the miracles you need this year. You know this, you’ve seen Him move in your life before. Remember that time…?  So, this year, have a little faith my friend! He did miracles for you before and He will do it again! I know sometimes it feels like your alone in the desert, but if you can just hold on a little longer, this year I believe great things are coming! But you must do those things you feel tugging at your soul. You are CAPABLE, MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH, & YES YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS WITH GOD. JUST HAVE FAITH THAT HE BELIEVES IN YOU! And then believe in yourself! Because if you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you?

In my loneliness and scarcity being a single parent, I thought I needed a man in my life to survive. I not only was afraid to be alone after 14 years with someone, but I thought I would never be able to afford to support two kids on my own. All the negative voices came like a flood at my doorstep! “You lack experience who will hire you? “You won’t make it without him!” “Your credit is crap how will you find a place to live?” “Who will be with you now? Your just another girl with baggage!” On, and on, and on!!!! The voices wouldn’t stop! But there was this one quote that stuck with me in my singleness and starting over alone. It was this…

“If you’re a woman who thinks you need a man to save her, remember a man did save you on the cross 2000+ years ago”

If I’m honest, I’ve never felt stronger as a single woman or as a mother, as I do today!  

I’ve been running my own business, I’ve wrote and self-published a book, I have overcome a multitude of problems! I’ve met so many people along the way and have been blessed with the most exciting experiences. Not to mention, my daughters and I are closer than most families that live together in mansions. I may not be rich as the world defines rich, but I am blessed beyond measure! The lies people (demons) told me to scare me from myself, only held me back from living my life. Don’t get me wrong, I struggled and still struggle season after season. Life freaking happens to everyone! But I have never felt safer and more blessed in all my life as I do today.

Jesus said, “we can walk in full confidence and do all things through Him, and He will not only be with us to give us strength, but he will also open doors when we knock, and close doors that do not serve us”. I believe that with all my being because I have witnessed it time and time again. All we have to do is trust in Him and follow His lead. You know that little nudge deep down inside of you that I mentioned earlier? Well, that is God calling you to purpose. Don’t ignore it! That still small voice calling out to you is offering you a key to a door that you’ve been knocking on. All those times you cried out thinking no one heard you, well He did! That still small voice and that nudge deep down inside you are the key to your answers! Just take the key, open the door, walk through it with faith, and then believe that God will take care of everything else. Do the things you can do and leave the rest to God. He has you, trust me! 

If you listen to His Words, they will give you strength and wisdom to know the difference between right and wrong, good, and evil. And His Words have the courage to break the ties that hold you back from living a fulfilled life of purpose. So LIVE!

HOW-TO LIVE-IN PURPOSE WITHOUT VALIDATION FROM SOCIETY

There is a lot of noise in society today. I know the struggle of stepping into faith when we don’t even know what that looks like. It’s not like we get to take a peek behind the curtain of truth! Our lens is so clouded with so much information we can’t even see the truth beyond all the lies. There is a lot going on in this world. The world continues to create more roads and it’s very difficult to determine which path is the right one for our personal journey. I get it! But we must start with awareness. Awareness for ourselves and awareness for our surroundings. What we allow in and out of our life, determines the paths we take. I started my true journey when I stopped watching and listening to all the fake influencers who buy likes and followers. Yes, most influencers are scammers! I don’t listen to the politicians who have ulterior motives. And I see passed the scams on social media that are planting seeds of fear. I know who they are! You know who they are! They show up in your feed every day! They are everywhere! In ads, sponsorships, tick Tok, YouTube, Instagram, Facebook! You can’t escape them! They are a complete distraction from your purpose driven life! We internally see through their scams but for some reason we keep allowing them to push their ideas and beliefs on us. And we continue to be distracted by them

It is becoming normal to live in fear of everything, and angry at everyone. And because they distracted us from Gods truth and Gods good and faithful Will for our life, we end up divided, blinded with lies, and chasing all the wrong things in this world. Living defensive, defenseless, and angry because we choose to follow the wrong paths. You have a choice! You can choose the righteous path, and shine your light into the world, or you can choose to chase validation and validate others who will never see you, your gifts, or your talents worthy. You can choose to see all the evil of this world and live there, or you can choose the door with light and resolution. Do you really want to die leaving the world dark and evil? Or would you like to leave this world knowing you left some light behind for those stuck in darkness?

You don’t need validation from other people. Those people are not going where you’re meant to go! You keep following them and that is why you’re not moving forward. If you take anything from this article, take this,

“There will always be a process when you’re choosing a path for your own journey.

What no one tells you about is that it will always involve a struggle and a lesson before you receive the blessing”.

If you’re not present and aware of yourself, you may miss the whole point of your journey. 

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So, don’t seek validation this year. You don’t need validation from people who won’t go through the struggle with you! The lessons learned on YOUR journey will lead you to blessings that are NOT meant for them but for YOU ONLY. The only way to move forward this year is to get wisdom for yourself. The way to wisdom is through humility, and the only way to have humility is to be teachable through self-perception. This will require obedience, self-discipline and self-control. (This is the storm, and it is all you have to understand).

“Do Not Forsake Wisdom, and she will protect you; Love her and she will watch over you.

The beginning of wisdom is this: ‘Get wisdom’. Though it cost all you have, get understanding”

Proverbs 4:6-7