Are you always looking to others for validation? Or do you declare yourself worthy? 

 Validation is just affirming that your ideas and emotions matter. But Matter to who? Did you ever notice when we are passionate about any one specific topic, the second someone else disagrees or speaks negatively about it, we ignore our own thought, ideas, and emotions? No matter how passionate we feel about something, women are more likely to still require input from others. And even though, we know, they can shut us down with one word it is still a daunting truth most of us deal with daily!

OPINIONS ARE LIKE ASSHOLES, AND EVERYONE HAS ONE!!! 

Today I’m asking you to join me on building intentional actions that create new goals for yourself! Shut those voices down and raise the volume on your ideas! The only validation you need is the one that comes deep within you. Trust in yourself because no matter what you say, no matter what you do, no matter how needy or successful you are, there will always be haters and people with opinions. 

People will always have something negative to say. Did you ever notice those same people who have a lot to say and talk you down are the same people who also “talk about it” but they are too lazy themselves to “be about it”? Thats why it’s okay to follow through with your own journey without validation from anyone!!!

So, today decide to stand firm in your own skin and become the best version of yourself that you possibly can. Trust the process without the voices in your head telling you that you’re not good enough or that you can’t do it on your own! 

A Message for You from Your Epic Muse

“My beautiful soul sisters, you are CAPABLE, MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH & YES YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS ALONE without a man, a partner, or the permission from others”.

There is this quote that has stuck with me the past 7 years in my singleness and in my loneliness. And of course, in my scarcity of being a single parent and feeling the need for validation or permission to do the “right thing”, I found peace in my own intuition and made my own choices. This quote helped me gain trust in my own decisions, know my own worth, and gave me the strength I needed when I felt lonely. It states… 

“If you’re a woman who wants a man to save her,

remember a man did save you on the cross 2000+ years ago” 

He said we can walk in full confidence and do all things through him, and he will not only be with us to give us strength, but he will open doors when we knock and close the doors that no longer serve us. All we have to do is trust in his words. His words have not only given me strength, but wisdom to know the difference and have the courage to do the right things. 

I can tell you this, even when I did get validation from others, I always felt off! I never really felt like I was being true to myself. Because lets face it, when we go seeking validation from others, we’re also twisting our truth slightly to favor the person we are asking. Now, I always trust the words that touch my soul and let go of the things that feel dark and harmful or make me feel “OFF”. Try to keep in mind, not all good is good and not all evil is evil. There is a balance only we have the power to sense for our lives and if we keep searching for validation from others, we miss out on so much of our own journey.

Remember Validation is Not equal to Mentorships

A mentor is someone you trust, who has already accomplished the things you want to achieve. A mentor will always have your best interests at heart and has compassion for where you were, where you are, and where you want to go. Validation is “the act of declaring or affirming something is acceptable. or worthwhile”. No one in this world can confirm or deny your dreams or desires. Our passions start from a place inside of us, that begins with our experience, then drives us into actions which make us who we are at the very core of our soul. It’s called OUR CHARACTER! We have heard it said, “we are the main character of our own story”, and we get to tell what ever story we want. So, what’s your story?

Because if you look to others for validation, it won’t just be your story, they will make themselves the main character in your story!