So many people struggling in their dating life. And do you know why? Because they don’t even know how they want to be treated and yet they put expectations on someone else to meet their criteria. I think by now I have earned a gold star for “Top Performing single women”. It has been 7 long years and sometimes, yes, I feel like I might be single forever! But let’s be honest, once you’ve mastered the skill of being “single and happy” you definitely don’t want to waste time trying to get “hitched and miserable!” Dating in the 21^st century has proven to be “the most dysfunctional time to date” EVER! I have been on my fair share of dating apps which….

1. Sent me through a loop of facetime conversations that made me feel awkward as hell
2. Text messages that were way over the top and inappropriate
3. Phone calls that went great ……. until they didn’t!
4. Went on more “meetup dates” that were a total waste of time

GET CLEAR ON YOUR DATING INTENTIONS

The truth is, No one knows how to be clear on their dating intentions and as a result they place all these expectations on someone else to fulfill all their dating requirements. Dating in your late 30’s, 40s or 50s is miserable and it’s just not fun anymore. These are the years we are supposed to be alive, open minded, and know what the fuck we want! Unfortunately, I think the Trump, Biden, Covid juice has literally fried everyone’s brain cells! Basically, people have lost their marbles! I have grown up with strong, independent women who require strong courageous, independent men. Unfortunately, men today have allowed the women to take the reign and they just gave up completely!

Listen Men, just because women are rediscovering their masculine sides in the corporate world (or in all worlds), does not mean you get to eat the tranquilizer of self-doubt, depression, and weakness. This leads to your narcissistic insecurities, and we DON’T WANT IT! We want you to take the reins, but we must trust you enough to lead us into abundance. If you can’t do that, we will continue to resist. And we all know where that resistance has gotten us.

The strangest thing I have encountered in dating is this “divulging of medical records, political preferences”. These things don’t really hold any real value in a relationship. When and why do we get so involved in political matters, that we allow it to literally control all our relationships? In fact, it dons not only control our relationships, but it has also taken control of our minds, body and soul. In 2019 there was so much peace in this world! Going to store was exciting because I knew I was going to meet a new stranger who was guaranteed to enlighten me, and vice versa. Now, we are 6ft apart, wearing masks, and hiding from society so we don’t catch the VID. It is fucking redundant, and those politicians are sitting up in the White House watching each and everyone one of us scramble around like a bunch of scared monkeys! And do you know what monkeys do when they are scared? They attack!

There are two sides today. On the one side, people are walking around with this entitled attitude, and on the other side they walk around with a defensive attitude. It is so exhausting! I have witnessed kids running households because their adult parents can’t get a handle on their own life. It is ridiculous! Get your shit together! Stop worrying about who is a democrat, who is a republican, who is vaccinated and who isn’t! Like really? It’s not the plaque. I can tell you first hand, I live in Florida and we have been open through most of the pandemic and I don’t see pe3ople dropping dead on the side of the road, Accept for those that have blown their brains out from feeling lonely and depressed. Get your head screwed on properly. This is not end times! Trust me, I have had my fair share of “close to death” experiences, and if God wanted me dead, he would have done it already!  I mean I clean houses for a living! Do you know how many Covid people I met? I am not dead! Unless I am a literal “ghost writer”.

Truth is, so many people have a bad habit of losing themselves in other people. It’s ironic to me how fast our human nature adapts to new cultural belief systems. Even if it’s in total conflict with our own morality. So many of us easily allow others to influence, control, or manipulate us. If I have learned anything in my seven years of singleness, it is that I love “ME” just as I am! I love all the parts of me that is allowed to grow, learn, and change daily, without holding back and without the voices in my head telling me I can’t, won’t or shouldn’t!  I explore life! When I go to heaven and they ask me what I enjoyed most, I will have so many experiences to share. I don’t want to waste the journey! Do you? Do you really want to be laying in your death bed wishing you felt loved? Like, truly loved! Do you even know what it feels like to be “truly loved, cherished, and treasured”? I am guessing you NO! Or you would not still be reading this blog.

Don’t worry your no alone! More then half of society does not know how to love, nor do they know what it feels like to be loved. And do you know why? Because of all that shit I spoke about earlier! People allow politics, media, tv, and “other people” to determine their destiny. Most of us never get the chance to reach our full potential because we are held back by the philosophies, and ideas of the world we surround ourselves in. But what if I told you that you could create an entirely different world for yourself? What if I told you that you could have the love of your life, the job of your dreams, and the power to create a life of abundance in all areas?

No! I am not going to try to sell you an overpriced program filled with information that you can find on the internet. What I am going to do is give you actionable activities that will help you determine what kind of life you really want to live. I will help you determine where you need boundaries and how to set those boundaries, so you can begin applying new behaviors that will have you performing at your best! You will have a love for life and a desire inside your soul that will have everyone wanting to drink “YOUR JUICE”! See, I believe in transformation, not motivation. What I do not believe in  is “faking it until you make it”. I think that is all bullshit!

“Why would anyone want to fake a life they can’t actually enjoy when they can build a life that truly makes them happy?”

First, if you think for one second that you will be happy when you find “your person”, you are sorely mistaken! If you are not happy today, alone with you, why would anyone else be happy with you? Furthermore, if they are not happy with you, they will be miserable with you! Making you more miserable in the process. Do you see where I am going with this? So, before you find “your person” you must first, find you! You must know the kind of person you want in your life, and then you must become the kind of person that person would want in their life! Just as important as it is for you to be happy, it is just as important for the person you are with to be happy. And you will find this works in all areas of life. Your work life, your friends and social life, even with your family life. When you have boundaries, know what you want, discover the things you don’t want in your life, and you become clear on your expectations right out the gate. It becomes very clear who is for you and who is against you. And let’s face it, we want to lose all those individuals who want to knock us down, change us, or make us feel less then or awkward about our own beliefs.  

So if you are struggling in and out of relationships that only end with you starting over and having to rediscover yourself, my advice to you would be “discover who you want to be and become that person before you meet THAT PERSON”.

If you are in a place of confusion and want to learn how to discover yourself amidst your mess, check this out! You won’t be disappointed. I may still be single after 7 years, but it is for one, by choice, and two, I would much rather be single then settled! I don’t invest in people or things that make my life unhappy, boring, inadequate, or keep me from reaching my full potential and living my best life. And neither should you!