“Don’t allow others to tear your soul down”

Author Christina Ditzel

Accountability is not the same as intimidation! There have been many times when I felt so “on fire” for my life and for my purpose, to only end up having someone shut me right back down to a place of fear and doubt! This is the worst feeling ever! And it feels even worse when they justify their intimidating tactics, for “holding me accountable”! Umm, Excuse me!? NO! First, holding someone accountable, is holding them responsible when they slip up, or fail to deliver on something they said they were going to do. Accountability is holding each other responsible for the actions we need to take to benefit ourselves and our life or change our messy circumstances. Accountability should always be done with love, and compassion in our heart to support, and encourage someone to get back on track. Accountability does NOT give permission to break people down! Holding someone accountable does NOT mean intimidating them by using “scare tactics”! Accountability should help keep someone on a healthy path that “they’ve chosen” for themselves. A road that will better their circumstances and keep them moving forward into purpose. Did you hear what I said? I said, “their purpose”! Not your purpose, and not the rest of worlds purpose. But their individual drive and determination that keeps them persevering!

We have no right to interrupt another person’s life, unless they are harming themselves or harming others with their actions. And even then, “accountability” must be done with a gentleness and love. Not Intimidation! If someone is moving forward into their purpose, and they seem happy, on fire for transformation, and an inspired for an ever-changing world, who are we to disrupt that because we don’t agree with their analogy? That’s not fair! We have no say on how another person thinks, breaths, or lives their life. I know this is hard, I have done this! We want the best for everyone around us and because a certain idea feels right to us, we think everyone should live that same way. Well, we can share our experiences, but we should never intimidate others to get them to see our vision. When speaking to someone we love with intimidation it just doesn’t show them possibility but instead puts fear and doubt in their heart. How is knocking my entire being down, blocking me from experiencing life, and preventing me from learning something new going to helping me feel loved? How is it helping me grow or expand? How is it holding me accountable? And how is it pushing me toward my God given purpose? It’s not! In fact, it does the opposite.

Here is the thing, if we never sat down with the Maker and discussed the details of our personal life, we can’t pretend to know what the Creator’s plans are for someone else’s life. We can however, stay true to ourselves by being mindful or our words and actions, and help others find their way in the process. But what we should not be doing is, intimidating others or allowing others to intimidate us.

We are all individual souls that must find our own way through this life. No, of course we don’t have to do it alone! Genesis says, “it is not good for man to be alone”. So, we already know we were created to be in community with other souls. But it also says to “choose those who are equally yoked”. Throughout proverbs it discusses the importance of having mindfulness and says to “stay away from fools, for you won’t find knowledge on their lips”. I can go all day with bible verses, but I won’t do that. It’s up to you to read those words and interpret them how your sprit guides you. You should read it sometime, it’s a great foundation and guide that you can use through every season of your life. I hold the words in this Book with very high standards for the good of all mankind. We can choose to follow good morals and live in complete abundance, or we can choose to live through the eyes of everyone else, and live in fear, doubt, guilt and shame for all eternity. It really does come down to a CHOICE! Choose abundance or choose lack!

In closing, you never have to live with others intimidations making you doubt your own intuitions. We don’t have to let someone who uses intimidation to kill our dreams. And we never have to live a life that does not feel in alignment to the desires of our heart. You are a GEM in a world full of messes, and we ALL contribute to the chaos. It doesn’t matter how we contribute, but rather how we strive to thrive in the chaos. You will only reach your full potential by embracing the true desires on your own heart. Not the desires of everyone else’s heart! You have to trust your own intuition to find your voice, and you won’t find your voice if you keep speaking someone else’s truth.

“The Devine Will Catch You when you fall

 but

You must be the one to get up”

Author Christina Ditzel

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