Whether you’re looking for success in your relationships, business, parenting, health or any other area of life, the fact is, we all want success. So many people ask me “how do you do it”? How do you successfully single parent your children, run your own business, and still find time to write and do the things you enjoy? And you know what I tell them? “Less work and more self-communication”. I know what your thinking, “SELF-COMUNICATION?” Let me explain.

This journey has not been easy by any means and I still come across obstacles. But I have always been the kind of person that if I want something bad enough, I will find a way. If “life happens” in the process, well, I find it as a blessing to send me into a new direction. But the key is to always find a solution. But how? How do you find solutions when you feel like there is no options?

Okay, let’s be real, there are 5 myths of success:

1. Success means “comfort”. Never struggle and never unhappy. You’re always comfortable.  
2. Success in relationships means you’re with the person who is perfect for you and you’ll never fight because you have money.
3. Success means having lots of money, and lots of free time which allows you to go on vacations, sit on the beach with a laptop, and tell other people what to do while you sit and relax enjoying the fruits of your “non-labor”.
4. Successful parenting means I will be ”Super mom/dad” and my kids will be better then everyone else’s kids because they won’t want for nothing.
5. Success means a healthy lifestyle and I will always look like a “supermodel”.

Well I am here to tell you that if you think success looks like that, you have a LOT to learn. But, don’t worry because I am going to give you 3 tips that will get you on the road to your success today. The people who become “BOSSES” are the one’s who are willing to “do and dare”.  So if your still here, the question you have still lingers? How??? How did I become successful? Hang in thee because I am about to give you 3 tips to become successful in any areas of your life?

Some of you have heard me say, “SRA SRA SRA” and you still don’t get it! But this really is my key to success in all areas of life. When life knocks me on my ass, yes, I do get irritated, yes, I do get frustrated, and yes, I do hate hitting the floor and falling flat on my face! Who the hell doesn’t hate failing? But one thing I know for sure is that when I am beginning to feel comfortable, I know “shit is about to hit the fan! It is just the balance of life! “A Smooth Ride” is what we all want! It’s that comfort zone we all desire! But unfortunately, “comfort” doesn’t get our asses up off the coach! Does it? No! And it definitely doesn’t get us moving into the unknown or being excited about the unexpected and uncomfortable events in out life! Sometimes, we have to fall to get back up and be forced to move into a forward and up motion.

So, let’s get to it! Shall we? My method is super easy, and you can use these three stages to build success in any area of life. Wealth, health, success, relationships, with family, or even personal goals. I do this to get clarity of my circumstances and realign my thoughts and get refocused daily. So, what the hell is this “SRA SRA SRA” already?  And why is this the key to success in all areas of my life? Let me explain these three easy steps to success…

1. S stands for STOP – it’s the stage is a reminder STOP IN YOUR TRACKS
2. R is for REALIGN – this stage is a reminder to REALIGN YOUR THOUGHTS
3. A is for ASSESS – this stage is a reminder to Assess YOUR FOCUS

Okay let’s go into a little more detail of each.

STAGE 1 is S and stands for STOP! The “S” means you have to SSshhhhh “Stop in your tracks”. Stop and quiet yourself the second you realize you’re getting upset, depressed, angry, frustrated, scared, or any other negative emotion that comes across. You need to recognize this emotion before you react! and just sit in the moment and say this a few times until you bring your heart rate and mood back down to calm level. “SRA SRA SRA” This is where you actually realize “what you’re currently doing is not working and you acknowledge you want some change in your life”.

STAGE 2 is R and stands for REALIGN! You have to realign your thoughts. Once you’ve taken in the moment and the situation and allowed yourself to soak in the situation you can now get a handle on it! You acknowledged your current situation; you are able to make space to sit with yourself and your own thoughts and begin to gain clarity. This is by far the most important step and most people won’t do this! And do you know why? Because most people never spend 5 or 10 minutes alone in their own thoughts long enough to figure out what the hell they want. But they will spend hours of wasted time browsing social media and googling how other people think and strategies! That might even be how you found me. But see, I don’t sugar coat shit on this site, and I don’t do the work for you. That would be doing you a disservice! I want you to dig real deep into your own mind and make your own choices. Because by doing this you will begin to “RE- THINK” everything in your life. If you never take the time to sit with yourself and figure out what YOU want in your life, and I mean really think how you look at success? Yes, Happy people are Healthy people! Because they have CLARITY of their self, they live with intention, they know where they’ve been, where their going and where they never want to go again! They have complete awareness of the desires of their heart and the direction of their life. Thats why they are happy. They only focus on the things that bring them joy and happiness and eliminate the things that don’t. Start to realign your thoughts and learn as much as you can in stage two. Find a way to get to know yourself, your desires and your skills or you won’t be able to move forward. WRITE IT DOWN!!! Get your thoughts aligned with a new focus and in a new direction. Then you can move to step 3!

STAGE 3 is A and stands for Assess. This is the fun part! This is the ACTION stage. This is where you have to ASSESS your focus! You sit down and get a vision of everything you learned about yourself, your situation, and figure what thoughts in step two empowered you to want change. Where do you need change? How are you going to begin making change? This is where you focus all your energy on the actions that will move you into living life more intentionally. I have an entire series on this which you can find on my podcast. Look, here is the kicker! If you don’t begin taking actions to make a plan to do something different in your life, you’re going to be here next week, next month, or next year wondering the same dam thing. How do I become more successful? Why do all my relationships suck? Why does bad shit keep happening to me? WHY? WHY? WHY???? So, begin taking steps to learn how to have new thoughts, and begin taking actions that get you moving closer to success, happiness and abundance in all areas of life.

These three steps are my key ingredient to finding success! Please leave your questions or comments I love hearing from my readers. If you need more guidance in other areas of your life, please purchase “Hot Mess To Totally Blessed” today on Amazon or go to: ZEN LENZ MEDIA to listen to my latest podcast!

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“May you find your success by looking at your life through a new Lenz”

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